Dust settles, I don’t <3

Scam men and stop playing nice girl. You’re in your prime, don’t settle for the bare minimum <3

Date these SDs

I’ve never done ppm. I’ve never done “x allowance for y meets per month”. I wouldn’t do them now. If you really want a guys financial attention long term, make them care about you. Let them take care of you. Don’t let them know they’re paying for it. It doesn’t matter if he told you he loved you, that’s lust. Once it gets too expensive or the new shiny bauble comes by, you’re history.

If you want that to last, you need to make yourself indispensable to these men. You need them to think that you’re a one and only. You also need them to forget they’re paying you. Most men will quickly grow tired of their wallets being the only way to get his attention. Yes by then you might have gotten a lot of cash out of him, but think about how much more you could have gotten.

I’m not saying be clingy, i’m not saying be lovey dovey, i’m saying be special. become an integral part of their life, so those bank transfers feel normal, like paying bills, not like paying this girl to be nice to me. Don’t do nice things because they buy you stuff or give you cash. You might think that’s counter-intuitive but consider it. (Most of) These men aren’t stupid. they can tell that you only stay over when you get offered a gift. They can tell that you only responded to them when they said they’d send you a gift card. They can tell you only care about the money. And, unless he’s a financial submissive, he’s gonna drop a girl after a while if all she values in him is his cash.

That’s why I encourage you girls to get off these sugar sites. I’m not saying you can’t make money off them, i’m just saying the payoff to how much work you have to do is low. most SRs these days are just long term escort client relationships. Don’t be afraid to break the mold and actually date these dudes. You get so much more money when you actually mean something to them and aren’t just another piece of ass they have to pay for.

Dating these dudes is why I retired, its why I’m starting multiple businesses, it’s why I can comfortable stop working completely and not have my bank account go low. Spoiled GF gets you the most buck for your bang. 

“Easily impressed with the best”

Pics by serrabellum

Pro-tip: If a potential SD asks “what you’re willing to do,” as in sexually, instead of flying off the goddamn handle like some of you do, just say something like “What I will or won’t do depends on my comfort level with the person I’m with. There are things I like that I haven’t done with certain partners and things I’ve never tried that I enjoyed with certain partners and not others. Trust and respect are what shape what I’m willing to do, so I can’t give you a definite answer on that. I am very open minded if I truly enjoy the person I’m with.” It lets them know you won’t be easy (but that they have a chance), and gets you out of talking sexually. Answer any subsequent questions at your own discretion.

So many girls in their prime are obsessed with falling in “love”; not in this economy, sis.

WHORE!!!

I live by this tweet, I don’t think she knows how much she influenced my life philosophy

How to be a kept woman

Any woman who dares to suggest that it’s OK to live off a rich man is likely to be dismissed as a traitor by feminists. Yet this is exactly the lifestyle promoted in a new book by Abigail Bosanko. Though the novel is fictional, the author was ‘kept’ by her husband, an investment fund manager, in an elegant Edinburgh mews house while she wrote it. Here, we present Abigail’s guide to becoming a kept woman… KNOW WHAT YOU WANT BEFORE you even contemplate being a kept woman, know what kind of man you want. If you want an art historian or collector who works for Sotheby’s, don’t settle for a picture framer, even if he has a string of shops. Be confident - an intriguing 21st century woman with her own independent pursuits and talents. You want this man to fall in love with your beautiful mind. HAVE A SKILL Choose an unusual skill - this is intriguing and sexy. Play polo, or golf (not football - men see women who like football as spies in the camp); have an intimate knowledge of 18th and 19th century courtesans; play an instrument; learn about wine or speak an unusual language. Knowledge of food is always sensual. SPEND TIME ON YOURSELF This is something puritans disapprove of, but spending time on yourself - doing your nails, having a massage or a facial, or even just wearing your favourite perfume - is all good for your self-image and self esteem. UNDERWEAR Lingerie is psychologically revealing. If a woman is in a happy relationship she has all sorts of fabulous lingerie, but when she’s unhappy she’s got her 90-denier winter warmers, and fleecy vests, because she’s not particularly interested in sharing that part of herself. Even if you feel like 90-denier, wear something silky that makes you feel good. CLOTHES Nurture your curves like actresses Kate Winslet, Catherine Zeta Jones and Marilyn Monroe. There is nothing wrong with being a size 14 - look at Nigella Lawson. Think Forties Domestic Goddess. Wear elegant, simple, well-cut clothes, such as shawl-collared suits which hug your curves, in neutral tones. And don’t forget your heels. WHERE TO MEET The first-class lounge at the airport is perfect. Save up all your air miles and buy a club class seat to somewhere such as Paris or New York. Hope for a delay, then you will all get to know each other playing Scrabble, with endless free drinks. Fine art, furniture and jewellery auctions at the top auction houses are also perfect. WHAT KIND OF MAN? Obviously he’s got to be wealthy, but he’s also got to be discreet. Showy wealth is a definite no-no. Lots of gold jewellery shows someone who needs to be in a credit card club to feel financially confident. All a man needs is a beautiful watch, or a signet ring with the family crest. Find out where he has been on holiday. There are two types: if he has been scuba diving in the Maldives or white-water rafting in the Amazon, this shows he has money and a sense of adventure. Alternatively, cushy stays in sumptuous hotels are perfect. If he hasn’t had time for a holiday, he’s too busy to appreciate you. HIS PERSONALITY He should have an active hobby - one that shows stamina, which is vital. He should be generous, of course, and protective of you. He should be well-read and informed, reading at least one newspaper in addition to the FT. Books could be things such as Martin Amis’s Experience, or J. M. Coetzee’s Waiting For The Barbarians. DROPPING HINTS In our modern world where women are career- queens, men find this concept odd. One male friend of Abigail asked: ‘Why would an intellectual woman want to be bank-rolled?’ But when it was explained that it would allow her to follow her vocation, the concept became quite appealing. Start by saying that you would love to be able to pursue your passion as a rare book restorer/ cartoonist/script writer, but can’t afford to. He’ll be impressed and will offer to pay. HOW DO YOU KNOW HE WILL KEEP YOU? The first sign is when he offers to pay off your overdraft, then credit card bills, then suggests you don’t go in to work but spend time with him. While he’s at a business lunch he would love it if you went shopping - he will pick up the tab, of course. When it comes to this sort of arrangement, you have got to be honest, clever and sophisticated. TERMS Be bold, be daring, be honest. You need a joint bank account - you set the limit - plus your own personal savings account. He can buy you a chic mews house, a penthouse flat - or, of course, you can move into his mansion. Ask for accounts at your favourite shops. You also need treats such as manicures, pedicures, chocolates and flowers. Exotic holidays and weekend breaks are essential. SEX This is sensual, loving, tantalising sex, not you fulfilling his fantasy - not unless the fantasy is mutual. When it comes to sex, remember, curiosity comes first. With all the money you now have access to, you can change the venue as often as you like. Instead of going home, book into a five-star hotel. It will never get boring. GIFTS You should ask for gifts that are original: ‘A friend received an embroidered silk cheongsam (Mandarin gown) from her lover who was travelling in China.’ Expect a single, beautiful pearl, elegant jewellery, a race-horse, £1,000 worth of Lottery tickets or rare books such as the original Les Liaisons Dangereuses. HOLIDAYS At least four times a year, not counting short breaks. Abigail’s husband often takes her to a romantic hotel near the Sorbonne in Paris. Think skiing in Aspen, scuba diving on the Barrier Reef, a trip to the Galapagos or Madagascar, sunbathing in St Lucia. He might have his own private yacht, so cruise the Caribbean or the islands in the Mediterranean. WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR TIME Write that novel that’s said to lurk inside us all - Abigail wrote hers; finish your art history degree. Get to know the best restaurants and cafes so you can lunch at length with your friends. Afternoons-should be reserved for shopping or pampering, and evenings with him. WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR (HIS) MONEY It goes without saying that you will revamp your wardrobe. Keep champagne, chablis, caviar, organic bread, bacon and quails’ eggs in your fridge. A bit of philanthropy is essential, too, so set up covenants to your favourite charities and feel charitable towards bone fide beggars - give more to buskers and pavement artists, because they are at least trying. Send your family on their dream holiday, and treat your man to a surprise trip on Concorde or the best seats at a major international sporting event. WHAT TO SAY TO CRITICS Always keep a bottle of champagne in the fridge for your disapproving female friends. They will be extremely envious, so kill them with kindness. Never apologise about your chosen lifestyle. Don’t brag about it either - it’s not dignified. END IT You can insist on an expiry date - a year and a day maybe - but you decide when. Do not return your gifts. When it ends, put all your overflow cash into an ISA and go on holiday for a month. Go somewhere romantic and beautiful, and take time to think. You never know, he might follow you there and beg to keep you in a permanent arrangement. Lazy Ways To Make A Living by Abigail Bosanko, Time Warner Books, £5.99.

Hypergamy rules

A man’s words mean nothing. His actions mean everything.

Don’t nag, find another better man to do the job, competition breeds perfection.

You’re not competing with other women, your competing with yourself.

No man will live in your head rent free, have a roster of at least 3 guys.

Never give up your hobbies, plans or ambitions for a man. Ever.

Never stop improving-physically (gym, procedures, surgery) mentally (school, tutors, learning languages, reading), emotionally (reading, therapy, medication), and financially (paying down debt, investments, real estate, savings, stocks, bonds, etc)

A stingy men are just as bad as broke men.

Closed mouths don’t get fed.

Restaurant first dates only.

You’re single until married.

Goes without saying but

No sex until a relationship and commitment has been established.

(No broke men. Duh.)

F*ck Seeking Arrangement and Sugar Daddies

Ever since this whole COVID-19 outbreak, I’ve been really skeptical of older men, especially on websites and dating apps. As you may or may not have known, I’ve had a Seeking account on and off for a while now. This incident was the last straw. This is a warning to anyone on any vanilla or sugar dating app. This man was clearly trying to manipulate me.

Block this man. Doesn’t matter if he’s messaged you or not. If you come across him, BLOCK HIM.

Wanting an online-only arrangement is against Seeking’s policies, yet again that wasn’t my intent. I never planned on sleeping with this man, never agreed to going to his home. I mean, just by how creepy he sounds in his messages, I wasn’t planning on meeting him either. For him to respond with “I already suffered through COVID” really hit me. He doesn’t give a shit about me being virus free or anything, he just wants to fuck (+ possibly some other crazy shit, he sounds like a stalker and could possibly rape or be violent). He claims that he wants a “more mature lady, who is older and wiser” but messaged me first 🤡 AND spelt too wrong. Lame. Anywhooo…

My advice is, if possible, try to get a online sugar daddy, for now at least. I personally am laying low from sugaring, but still considering sex work. I’m not prowling for daddies anymore. If a man really wants to spend money on me, he will approach me and make his intentions clear. I’d rather facetime pussy then have anyone fuck mine.

Money may not buy happiness but poverty doesn’t buy anything.

Listen Ladies!

“ A man with money will give you everything but 𝓨𝓞𝓤 will pay for it”

This is a gem 💎that many will miss

To have the upperhand in the relationship, the men in your life must love you more than you love them. The only way that this can work for you is if you love yourself more than you love any man.  - Celeste Mgboli

Daily reminder: SEEK

You are useful to men only for 4 purposes:

sex

ego boost

emotional support- that same support they deny the value when they think about what you bring to the table or when they complain about their life to women thinking it’s normal to listen to them-

to carry his kids if you’re in his long term-personal and financial investment

To men, you are only what you provide to them- never what you are as a person and all of its complexity

Fake phone numbers

There are 3 FREE apps that you can download, that way you don’t have to give out your real phone number. I have all 3 of the apps and use different area codes for them all. 1) Send hub- doesn’t have pic msg 2) Text free: Real phone number(my favorite)- has pic msg 3) Text now: very limited area code selection

Okay so in chat, a VERY IMPORTANT topic was discussed. Safety. At the end of the day YOU are looking out for YOU. So if you are meeting at your date’s house for the first time please be aware of your surroundings.

don’t ever assume you are safe, dangerous people always want you vulnerable so saying “I feel so safe with you” is a telling sign for a dangerous person that they’ve got you.

have a nearby contact who knows your plans to meet. And if you properly researched your date, send your contact all the information you have

Send your contact a photo of what you are wearing and a most recent selfie.

Send your contact a photo of your date too.

Send them the address you are going to

Share your location with them, so if your date turns bad and your location is randomly shut off, your friend will see and can report it.

Snap a photo of his car and plate. And send to your friend.

Make a plan to call when you are home at a certain time. Not text, CALL. Anyone can send a text pretending to be okay.

Stick to that time. so if you don’t call they will have the tracking on your phone and your last known location.

Pepper spray only does so much. Store bought can be washed off and does not render your date completely defenseless. But still carry it.

If you find yourself without pepper spray, while he is out of the room, locate Raid bug Spray, (most people have this under a kitchen or bathroom sink. That shit sprays like 20ft and requires medical attention Help to flush it out. (Thank you @sadestville for letting me know some states require proof of self defense because using it could be illegal)

Please be safe. I sincerely never want any of you to become a trafficking or missing person statistic. Stay safe.