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So a few months ago there was the discourse about would you rather meet a man or a bear in the woods. I didn't want to touch it while the discourse was hot and everyone dug in hard because those are not good conditions for nuance, but I waited until today, June 1st, for a specific reason.
I'm not going to take a position in the bear vs man debate because I don't think it matters. What is really being asked here is how afraid are you of men? Specifically, unexpected men who are, perhaps, strange.
People have a lot of very real fear of men that comes from a lot of very real places. Back when I was first transitioning in 2015 and 2016, I decided to start presenting as a woman in public even though I did not pass in the slightest.
I live in a red state. I knew other trans women who had been attacked by men, raped by men. I knew I was taking a risk by putting myself out there. I was the only visibly trans person in the area of campus I frequented, and people made sure I never forgot that. Most were harmless enough and the worst I got from them was curious stares. Others were more aggressive, even the occasional threat. I had to avoid public bathrooms, of course, and always be aware of my surroundings.
I know how frightening it is to be alone at night while a pair of men are following behind you and not knowing if they are just going in the same direction or if they want to start something - made all the worse for the constant low level threat I had been living under for over a year by just being visibly trans in a place where many are openly hostile to queer people. You have to remember, this was at the height of the first wave of bathroom law discussions, a lot of people were very angry about trans women in particular. My daily life was terrifying at times. I was never the subject of direct violence, but I knew trans women who had been.
I want you to keep all that in mind.
So man or bear is really the question "how afraid of men are you?", and the question that logically follows is "What if there was a strange man at night in a deserted parking lot?" or "What if you were alone in an elevator with a man?" or "What if you met a strange man in the woman's bathroom?"
My state recently passed an anti trans bathroom bill. The rhetoric they used was about protecting women and children from "strange men", aka trans women.
Conservatives hijack fear for their bigoted agenda.
When I first started presenting as a woman the campus apartment complex was designed for young families. The buildings were in a large square with playgrounds in the center, and there were often children playing. I quickly noticed that when I took my daughter out to play, often several children would immediately stop what they were doing and run back inside. It didn't take me long to confirm that the parents were so afraid of "the strange man who wears skirts" that their children were under strict instructions to literally run away as soon as they saw me.
"How afraid are you of a strange man being near your children?"
I mentioned above that I had to avoid public bathrooms. This was not because of men. It was because of women who were so afraid of random men that they might get violent or call someone like the police to be violent for them if I ever accidentally presented myself in a way that could be interpreted as threatening, when my mere presence could be seen as a threat. If I was in the library studying and I realized that it was just me and one other woman I would get up and leave because she might decide that stranger danger was happening.
Your fear is real. Your fear might even come from lived experiences. None of that prevents the fact that your fear can be violent. Women's fear of men is one of the driving forces of transmisogyny because it is so easy to hijack. And it isn't just trans women. Other trans people experience this, and other queer people too. Racial minorities, homeless people, neurodivergent people, disabled people.
When you uncritically engage with questions like man or bear, when you uncritically validate a culture of reactive fear, you are paving the way for conservatives and bigots to push their agenda. And that is why I waited until pride month. You cannot engage and contribute to the culture of reactive fear without contributing to queerphobia of all varieties. The sensationalist culture of reactive fear is a serious queer issue, and everyone just forgot that for a week as they argued over man or bear. I'm not saying that "man" is the right answer. I am saying that uncritically engaging with such obvious click bait trading on reactive fear is a problem. Everyone fucked up.
It is not a moral failing to experience fear, but it is a moral responsibility to keep a handle on that fear and know how it might harm others.
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weird cat outside
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No one can tell me that Grim wouldn't look creepy when he's out of control cause when you see this
You don't see a cute, annoying cat that would do everything to keep you in Wonderland as his only family.
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I like Grim‘s eyes very much, they are VERY VERY pretty…
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And a disaster for the discussion of non-anime TV shows in fandom.
"Cool-down episodes" aren't filler.
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Reverse AU? Or something like that.
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💔HEART SHATTER💔
The Divorce Horse, the Alimony Pony
Was wondering what a “nightmare moon”-ified Cadence would look like so
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An extremely underrated aspect of the conclusion of Vil's arc in the latest main story update is how it shut down the usual "Vil's issues are that he tries too much to be pretty he should chill more" fandom takes so. HARD. Vil needed to be less vain? No, said Twst, Vil being a fabulous GNC queen vain is good, he needed to let go off of his hatred towards Neige and his obsession with how others perceive him and then he's good to go and ready to take on Malleus himself.
Vil as he's most comfortable with himself vs Vil in his shallow dreamworld where he forced himself to be masc in order to chase that ~popularity~, it's pretty obvious which is the wrong presentation for him and it's not the High Femme one lmao.
#twisted wonderland#vil schoenheit#twst spoilers#vil my queen bless u for going against the usual Men Will ALWAYS Be Happier Being Masc Instead Of Fem trope#masc dreamworld vil is so rancid and i love it so much because of that#hes clearly attempting to mimic his very masc and very beloved actor dad but Thats Not Who Vil Is.#what use is being the fairest of all if youre not true to yourself etc etc
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Twilight Sparkle if she was awesome
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Seeing in the same Jamil tag some person complaining about adult x minor ships and another doing a promo for a leojami week truly encapsulates the difference between desperately wanting fandom to be a morality play and just relaxing and enjoying making your favourite pixel dolls kiss each other lol
#;wonder talks.#the first person also complained about jamikali and vilneige to which i must ask: why are you so boring.#why do you want ships to be about people who like each other instead of the most toxic nuclear meltdown combinations for dark pleasure lol.#vil murdering neige is top romance and jamil scheming against kalim is what reignited my shipper brain lmfao.
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Nightmare Pinkie Pie 🌙✨
The Great Pinkiacci
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♦️🌹 REVERSE GHOST MARRIAGE
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lost sisters
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