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I'll walk down the lane, with a happy refrain
Abby. 30. Feral Gremlin most days.
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Hangman x reader aesthetic
She don’t believe in shootin’ stars
But she believes in shoes and cars
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I often think I could be such a good writer if I were better at writing
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MATTJEN being back together again
She-Hulk S01E09, 'Whose Show Is This?'
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i just want a sweet, nerdy, touch starved boy to get so hard for me that he cries when i jerk him off okay?
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It was a simple trip, go back into the city and get supplie's. Stay quiet to keep the monsters at bay, and get what they needed, both of them had stuck together since day one of the new world, swearing to not leave each other till the end. Those who dare to mess with either of them will learn the hard way.
So im a dumbass and deleted the original post, so i reposted and this is the last time i talk about this story
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Many have suggested that Mr. Benedict Bridgerton, might desire to join the mart this season. This author suspects what the second son truly seeks is a sense of purpose. I do encourage you to say yes to society for once, Mr. Bridgerton. You never know where it may lead you.
Benedict Bridgerton for Season 3 Promo
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Abby, as someone whose first fandom experiences happened outside of Tumblr, I really appreciate this ❤️❤️❤️
All you said was absolutely valid, especially with two things can be right at the same time.
Thank you for posting this ❤️
Within the past 72 hours the TGM fandom got a fire put under it's ass, for lack of a better term/phrase. Even though I'm not as active in the fandom anymore, it did make me want to talk about a few things. This isn't the first time that I've had to make a post similar to this, usually speaking about reblogs and keeping your fanfic writers feeling wanted within the fandom spaces, but today I'm going to talk more about fandom etiquette and my experiences in fandom spaces. So, if you want to hear my opinion on fandom etiquette, how I learned fandom etiquette, and my thoughts about the doxing situation that has happened, keep on reading.
My Fandom Experience.
The first fandom that I was ever a part of was The Hunger Games fandom in the 8th grade (if you don't include my anime fandoms). I was 12-13 at the time. This was when I was first introduced to Tumblr and being involved within a fandom online. At the time I was super young, barely even knew who I was as a person, let alone in a fandom space. All I did was reblog little gifsets and fawn over Josh Hutcherson. I remember getting my first hate anon, even though I didn't do anything that would generate that to even happen. Even when I was 12-13, I couldn't understand why anyone would send a hate anon. That was when I found out a friend of mine found my Tumblr and actually secretly hated me, so she sent me hate anons. Still, before I knew it was her I didn't understand.
Fandoms were a formative part of my childhood. I think that main one that helped form me though was the Supernatural (yeah, I know, eye roll), Naruto, and The Hobbit fandoms. I had made friends on Tumblr and Instagram through these fandoms. During these times was when I had first started consuming fanfiction. Specifically, destiel and thilbo fanfiction. This is how I started to find the things in fanfiction that I loved, and the things that I hated. Instead of sending hate to the writers for their thoughts and stories that I didn't agree with, I would back out of the story or just scroll past. Not only that, I also started to use the filters on AO3 constantly, ensuring that I was only reading the fics that I knew I'd enjoy. Also, I was careful to read warnings and tags prior to reading the fic. Never once did I blame the writer for something that I knew I didn't like and accidentally read or read for see what it was about.
After high school was when I started getting into fanfiction writing. I've written for a lot of fandoms during this time. The IT movies, Total Drama, Haikyuu, Attack on Titan, Marvel, Bridgerton, Top Gun: Maverick, and currently ASOIAF. As a writer I've never gotten hate, thankfully, but I have had a lot of friends that have. It's sad to see so many people who take the time to write, whether it's enjoyable or not, receive hate. As writers we are simply expressing our creativity for the things that we love. Since posting fanfiction on tumblr, I have experienced a lot of people pestering for new updates and when the next fic is, and so have a lot of other writers on here. Even though people only know us as a little icon and username, fanfiction writers are people. We have lives outside of writing fanfiction. Everyone also isn't the same type writer. One person may easily write multiple fics every week, some of us take longer, and some of us are even just passion writers (me lol).
The TGM fandom has been one of the most negative fandom experiences I've ever seen/had. It is full of some of the meanest people/anons I've ever seen. From writers being attacked for fic ideas, people being sent hate for something that the anon has full control over, and people constantly expecting new stories to read on the daily. Yes, I do know that other fandoms have these issues, but it seems to be almost a weekly, hell, even daily thing within this fandom. A lot of the issues that I see happen in this fandom are from people who don't understand fandom etiquette.
Fandom Etiquette.
If you had noticed there was a few things I put in bold above. These are key things that I learned during my time that attribute to fandom etiquette. So without further a do, I'll list out some fandom etiquette rules that I follow all the time.
Don't send hate anons to people
Block/unfollow people you don't like
If you don't like an idea or fic, don't read it
Read through all warnings and tags that the writer provided
Use AO3 filters
Don't blame the writer/creator for reading things they created that you actively know you don't like
Writers/Creators aren't "content farms"
There are people behind these blogs/usernames, treat them like someone you'd see on the street
Writers/Creators are expressing love/passion for something, don't hate them for doing that
If you see something fandom related that you don't like, scroll past it or ignore it
YOU CURATE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE (ESPECIALLY ON TUMBLR)
The Doxing Situation.
For those who are unaware but decided to read this anyways, recently there was a writer (Mama Mayhem) on here who got doxed from another writer in the fandom. Mayhem has since lost her job due to the doxing. This was apparently from her breaking HIPAA by posting a picture into a private groupchat/discord. This picture was posted almost a half year ago. Meaning that the person who reported/doxed Mayhem had known about this picture for months and only recently decided to do something about it.
I'll start by saying that I also work in healthcare, and know many other people here who do. I understand that a HIPAA violation is 100% an offense that gets you fired. I'm not excusing the HIPAA violation if one did occur.
Some people have brought up the idea that maybe the person that reported the picture, and doxed Mayhem, was doing it out of the goodness of their heart. Due to the timeline of it all, that doesn't seem likely. I had a previous coworker get fired for HIPAA violations and it took a total of a week from the initial report for her to be gone.
The biggest thing I want to convey is that TWO WRONGS CAN HAPPEN AT THE SAME TIME. Yes, if Mayhem violated HIPAA, it is wrong. But at the same time, the person held onto this information for months only to use it out of spite, pettiness, and cruelty, is wrong.
My Thoughts.
Due to Mayhem being doxed, a lot of people have decided to leave this platform, take indefinite hiatuses, stop writing, or move to AO3 exclusively., and I don't blame them. I'll be honest, I'm thinking about moving to AO3 exclusively now. AO3 feels a lot more rewarding in my experience. I already only post my fics for ships to AO3, so why not just post everything on AO3 (which I usually do).
I think a lot of people have forgot what it feels like to feel shame in something they say or do. When I say this, it's directed towards people who send hate or do other malicious things in fandom spaces. Fandoms were never this clique-ish and mean. I think it has to do with the pandemic, meaning that a lot of people who would have never joined a fandom did because they weren't allowed to do anything outside of their house. So, those mean girls that made fun of fandom girlies (g/n) previously, joined the fandoms and decided started bullying the people within them.
This situation is super shitty and people are now scared. It makes complete sense, especially after seeing someone, that many of you were close to, be doxed. A lot of people are scared of it happening to them now. I don't think this fandom will be the same after this situation, but who knows, maybe everyone will just forget and move on. Either way, I think I'll be taking a step back from the TGM fandom. I'll still be here, but until further notice, I won't be posting any TGM fanfiction. Maybe a gifset/picture here and there, but I don't think this is a fandom I feel comfortable writing for anymore.
If you've read all of this, thank you.
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"I have a dream,” he said slowly. “I persist in dreaming it, although it has often seemed to me that it could never come true. I dream of a home with a hearth-fire in it, a cat and dog, the footsteps of friends – and you!" - Anne of the Island, L.M. Montgomery ❤️ ✨ | (part two, apparently, in my Bob Floyd as Gilbert Blythe agenda)
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Abby, that last little Bob though had me all 😭😭😭😭. I hope you're ok with me sharing this because this month has been really rough.
Bob is determined to be there for the births of all his babies no matter what. He was there when Auggie and Patrick were born and he's especially determined when his beloved wifey is having a little girl.
You guys do your best with the nursery. It's soft yellows and pinks with scene's from "Sleeping Beauty" painted on the walls. Bob's Meemaw made it a point to come over and help you tie the fake roses on the crib-posts, the bed already looking fir for your little princess. However, you're a little confused when Auggie suddenly comes in when he's supposed to be playing outside.
"Mommy I think Daddy's gone cuckoo for coco-puffs" he chirps.
Bob comes barreling into the house laughing, cheering and hollering like a madman and smiling like an idiot, his father's muffled voice calling from the other room and asking if Bob's lost his damn mind. When Bob passes you the papers, you are in complete disbelief. It's his honorable discharge papers.
No more deployments.
No more counting down the days until he comes home.
No more worrying.
You both hug each other tightly, but Bob's scared he'll hurt the baby, the both of you sobbing with happiness and relief. Even Meemaw's relieved that her precious grandson won't have to go on those lengthy missions anymore.
And you're especially happy when your baby girl enters the world and Bob gets to hold her for the first time. You're almost in tears when you hear him singing "Edelweiss", a song you've taught both to your children and your students for when spring comes.
Abby I'm sorry, it's been a really rough month and I've been soft lately.
BOB BEING A DEVOTED HUSBAND AND DAD NAME A BETTER DUO
God him being Able to hold his child right after they're born!!!!! He cries, he's so happy he can be there for you, be there for her as she enters this world. He's so relieved he doesn't have to wait, doesnt have to rely on pictures and descriptions. He can see her, when she is so tiny and vulnerable. He can support wife in her hour in need, not over the phone but in person. Can actually hold her hand!
It's the best day of Bob's life.
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My husband and I just started Puss and Boots the Lash Wish how much are we about to cry?
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