if you are a trans boy, especially a teenage trans boy, i wanted to say that as a trans man in their 30's, you have my deepest respects and condolences for what you may be going through right now.
it has become socially acceptable and basically online custom to bully teenage trans boys & mascs, call them cringy, or excuse misgendering them for whatever reason. people put trans boys on this pedestal of "must perform masculinity and manhood to cartoonish degrees" even though they're still children.
people make trans boys fight for their manhood before they can even be boys. i am sorry people can be so judgmental and harsh on you. you are not wrong for wanting to be a boy. you are experiencing something wonderful. it's okay if you still want to be a boy even if people have treated you poorly, or tried to make you feel bad for being a boy. there is nothing wrong with being a boy.
it's okay if you never socially transition. it's okay if you're afraid to come out because it's not safe. it's okay if you never change your outward appearance. it's okay if you try very hard to pass but struggle to. it's okay if you wear "women's" clothing and shoes, bras, makeup, etc., it's okay if you're gay and love other men. it's okay if you're scared of hrt. it's okay if you don't want surgery. it's okay if you mainly occupy girl's spaces still. people will find every reason to pick these things apart and ridicule trans boys for, but they are all perfectly fine experiences that do not make you any less of a boy. you are the one who is in control of your transition, presentation, and state of being- you should be able to prioritize your safety over the comfort of random strangers who have no impact over how you live your life.
i've been put through this too, but later in life as i came out when i was an adult. people still try to make me feel bad for identifying as a trans man, for whatever reason they have in their head to justify hatred of a trans person. i've had enough. there will never be an excuse for how people try to excuse the infantilization and abuse that trans men and trans boys face.
take care of yourselves, no matter what age you are, if you are a trans boy, man, or masc you deserve to know that other trans men care about you, especially when people are scrambling to find ways to punch down on you. there are people who suck, but there are also a lot of people who care about you. keep your chin up. you know who you are
sometime when I'm making enemies for my friends to fight, sometimes I build someone with a deep backstory motivated by a life experience that unrrevocably impacted them in a way that is barely understandable, and sometimes I make a weird little snake guy
I’ve come up with a clue for my next campaign that I know logically is cool but does involve me having to sing for them over zoom. Do I kill myself or what
our next campaign at my first table is the one I wrote about my profound grief but like, dressed up in a fun theme. what’s the over/under on me crying 100% of the time
I wrote a poem that half of my poetry group thought was a cry for help and the other half was a sex poem; I think that was closest I’ve been to religious in years.
so much of who I am is taking care of other people. it's what I'm best at. it's the only way I know how to love people. and I like that about myself. I like knowing that I've become someone who will show up for people. I want people to call me when they need me. I'll do whatever is needed to be done, and I'll do it one hundred times over, because that, to me, is what it means to love someone.
new paragraph. how do I learn how to walk away? how do I learn how to keep the tooth in my mouth? how do I learn how to let people feel their feelings? how do I learn how to stop apologizing when I'm not working? why does it always feel like this? will they still love me when I'm not useful?
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