I'm so glad I'm not the only one who gets embarrassed saying tummy or stomach or anything like that irl... 😭

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legit i sometimes get so flustered. i also have a thing with the word “sick.” if anyone uses that word around me i want to FLEE i get so flustered

Hopping in on the ace discussion - I'm a heteroromantic sex-repulsed ace, I would like to hold hands with a nice man but not much more :D

-🌸 Anon

hi hi!! you guys are teaching me new things!! i usually just describe myself as asexual, but i really like heteroromantic sex-repulsed!! i will probably start using this turn of phrase to describe myself!!

Everytime I get a notification from you I smile 🥹

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always happy to hear this!! 🫶🏻🥹💗

Hearing about all of y'alls stories of men whining about their tummies makes me so jealous but also if it actually happened to me I'd probably quarantine myself for eternity 💀

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i literally have to take off for 5-7 business days when it happens. sometimes my roommate will be with me when it happens and i’ll be like “was that real? did that really happen??” and she’ll be like “yup.”

(🍰) Ok so fantasy thoughts + a little response to ☂️

I don't have much advice to offer but I wanted to say I so get you on the vulnerability part ahhh. Its very hard for me to be vulnerable, especially when it comes to kinks. I'm very lucky to have friends n partners who are open to (or enjoy) this kinda stuff, I think the more you start to talk about it with people the easier it starts to get! It also helps that I seem to have a switch in my brain where my need to be an affectionate lovey dovey bastard overrides my embaressment a bit lmao.

Speaking of which: ahhh, the need to make someone a big nice dinner and then feed them all of it. People talk a lot about stuffing on fast food and stuff like that. Which I do enjoy a lot, but there's a certain allure to getting a tummy ache on home cooked food. Like a big pot of stew or alfredo pasta, something nice and heavy. With bread and dessert of course 😉, its not a meal without cake at the end. And in the end he's so stuffed and dazed all he can do his moan and whine while I rub his belly. It'd be a perfect night 💗

well said, 🍰 anon. i second that talking with friends and partners makes things a ton easier. i literally used to get embarrassed even saying words like “tummy,” “belly,” “stomach,” or “stomach ache,” but because i talk to my roommate so heavily, i am able to say these words without feeling weird about it.

i also REALLY love stuffings with home cooked meals. i sometimes fantasize about preparing a feast for one with all the fixings: gravy, turkey, stuffing, green bean casserole, black forest cake. you put so much effort into it that your boyfriend just goes wild and eats himself into a stupor.

oh, his poor belly 💗

Would like to join in on the ace convo and say that I’m a sex-neutral asexual in that I don’t have sexual attraction to anyone but I wouldn’t mind partaking in sexual acts if it was with someone I liked as a person. I’m also arospec (I have had exactly one (1) romantic interest in my entire life and that was my best friend which was as convenient as you can imagine). Aspecs unite 💪

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yes 💪 thank you for sharing!! :)

I found this cute piece on deviantart and it just got me thinking about a man who knows what you're into and is happy to indulge for you (even if he's not really into it himself)

Lke letting you lie on his stomach while he chugs milk, knowing it's going to make him miserable later on but happy to give you something nice to listen to for now?? GOD I need to find me a lactose intolerant man RIGHT NOW or I'm gonna go insane sufdhfisunfleihf

-🌸 Anon

ok but your loving boyfriend not being into this fetish but leaning into it to please you because he knows how much it gets you going. wanting to do things to make you squirm?? wanting to do things that make you want to kiss him ravenously?? knowing how excited you get when he licks chocolate syrup from his fingers or takes an extra big scoop of ice cream? teasing you relentlessly when his stomach starts aching? fishing for your physical touch?

“god, my stomach hurts so bad. i just need someone to rub it for me and kiss it better…” *wink wink*

meanwhile you want to tackle him and bite him. your excitement becomes his excitement 💝

thought y’all might appreciate the fact that today I had lunch with my friend and this other guy and the guy leant back after eating and went “oof. I feel a bit sick now. I ate way too much, that was a lot of food…”

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i probably would have swooned, ☂️ anon. that’s so cute. a guy admitting he ate too much? delicious. a guy using the word “sick” to describe his overstuffed stomach? even better yet 💕💗💕💗 what a sweet tease!!

I’m the anon who wrote about the guy in Maccies. And I completely forgot to mention that for like an hour or so afterwards, he had his top pulled up over his belly and he was periodically rubbing his tummy or even just resting his hand on it. The urge I had to fight back to not rub it for him 😭

ughhhhh when men are casually bloated 💕 it makes my heart flutter 💗💗💗

I'm also sex repulsed ace! I'm asexual panromantic which means I would love to date anyone regardless of gender, but I don't want to have sex with ANYONE, also regardless of gender.

Some people are attracted romantically to both women and men, but only sexually attracted (as in wanting to have sex) to men. That would be heterosexual biromantic.

The ace spectrum is a fascinating place, I recommend research! Super cool place to be :)

Hugs not fucks 👍

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yes!! there are a lot of us in this community from all different ends of the ace spectrum. if anyone has any asexual feedist/sickfic accounts to recommend, please do share. i’d like to make a comprehensive list someday.

For me, as a severely emetophobic girl, being emetophobic but loving sickfics also comes from comfort.

If someone puked or even just said their stomach hurt in reality, I'd be so scared. I'd panic, I'd be shaking, I'd run away, I'd be uncontrollable.

So reading sickfics kind of gives me a place to be where I want to be: helping people when they're sick instead of running.

I would love to rub someone's upset stomach until they feel better. I would love to shower a sicky in kisses and make them soup and hold them and wash them when they're weak and just be there for them.

But right now I can't.

So I go to my sickfics.

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this is so valid!!! in fantasy we can do the things we wish we could do in reality, or separate both entirely and never want to engage with what we fantasize about irl. both are good and valid :)

thank you so much for the advice, i really appreciate it <3

also I was in the library late last night doing my essay which got me thinking about a guy forcing himself to stay up and work in the library even though he’s got a tummyache. Like, typing with one hand so he can rub his stomach under the table, making little moans and complaints under his breath. Maybe the library is almost empty and the last person in there has headphones on but he still wants to be polite and so he holds it all in and keeps going, until he submits his work and stumbles back to his room where can lie down and take care of his tummy. Maybe you’re there, too, half-asleep, waiting for him to come back. When you see the state he’s in you quickly get him to lie down and put on the kettle for some ginger tea. While that’s brewing, you can sit down next to him for some nice cuddles and tummy rubs :)

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of course, ☂️ anon, anytime!!

at my college we are only a couple weeks away from finals, and the library is already filling up with people studying. i can imagine a guy in a packed, quiet library, absolutely FIGHTING for his life with a loud stomach ache. he keeps his head low and clenches his stomach muscles to keep the organs inside from burbling loudly, but when he least expects it his stomach starts acting up, and people start looking over or turning their music up to drown it out.

with his face heated and red, he can’t even focus on studying. he starts frantically texting you about how embarrassed he is, and what his stomach is doing to him. you tell him to come back and he reports home and collapses face down on the bed.

“god it was awful,” he bleats. “it just wouldn’t stop growling.”

you tell him to lie down and pull up his shirt, and you start rubbing the knots out of his stomach 💝

Okay can I ask a genuine question? Ignore this if it’s uncomfortable.

What does it mean to be asexual but romantically and physically attracted to someone, per your pinned post.

I thought being sexually attracted to someone was a combination of romantic and physical attraction. Is there another component?

I’m starting to wonder if I’m asexual now because I only feel romantic and physical attraction. But I thought those were the only types?

I’m not trying to be mean or anything I’m just genuinely curious.

no worries, i can explain my perspective.

asexuality is spectrum, so i can’t speak for everyone, but i am a sex repulsed asexual. there are asexuals who are indifferent to sex, and asexuals that are more sex favorable.

growing up i never had any interest in sex. i found myself physically attracted to men and men’s bodies, but had no desire to have sex with men. i also do not experience romantic attraction or physical attraction to women, or anyone else.

for me “physical attraction” means enjoying the sight and feel of men’s bodies. i have always loved plus size men and their bellies, chests, legs, etc. i like to engage in fantasy and role play. i want to kiss and cuddle with men, i want to date and marry a man—but sex is completely off the table. i have no interest.

hope that clears somethings up!

Usually when guys wear shirts they fold and wrinkle with movement.

But when a little bit of the front of a guy's shirt is beautiful smooth thanks to his perfect little belly... oh that takes me somewhere.

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ughhh and when the lower buttons make those little crevices where you can see peeks of skin…a surprise for the eyes to be certain.

I was once with a guy and we had just got back from McDonalds where he’d eaten a fair bit. And we get to our hotel room and he turned to me and said “god I feel really bloated. Do you feel bloated?” And I nearly melted. Hearing him say those words? 🥵🥵

GODDDD they are always teasing us, aren’t they? what a delicious word choice, bloated. all that fat and salt and carbs left his tummy a little puffy…tee hee.

I adore the term "cradle" for when someone's stomach is hurting...

Please tell me all about how you clutched the lower bloated pouch of your tummy and everytime you rubbed it it gurgled angrily and you had to hold it with both hands.

Talk to me forever about it

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ugh, clutch, cradle, grope, pat, hold, cling to, etc. all fantastic.

i think my favorite will always be “hold.”

“i saw him groaning and holding his stomach”

“he held his stomach”

i love this one because to me, hold is very limp and sleepy. he’s so tired of his tummy acting up that he just limply has a hand on it and is moving slowly.

to respond to your pinned post, I’m the same about being super emetophobic but loveeee reading sickfics or seeing my fave characters sick. do you think there’s any explanation for this??

certainly!! i have theories!!

i think it has to do with safety. vomiting is an uncontrollable and uncomfortable act, so fantasy can be a safe place to process that anxiety.

as for why some emetophobes don’t develop fetishes—i think it’s just two different branches of coping. most emetophobes are avoidant. vomiting evokes anxiety and fear, so they avoid it. we are a little more complicated. we typically avoid it in reality, but find fantasies and role play exciting. i think there is an overlapping layer of taboo. emetophilia is extremely stigmatized and not very accepted, and often “socially unacceptable” things are fetishized for their taboo nature.

anyway, that’s what i think!! 🦢