And the audacity of her to say that (more than likely as her allo-way to justify all this shit) to my fucking face!!!!!! She doesn't know I'm Aro but GOD, if that is how a "proper" romantic relationship is, I DON'T WANT IT!!!!!!!

Fuck romantic relationships 🖕

What kind-of fucking Alloromantic bullshit did I just fucking experience!!!!!!!!!!

Ugh, tell me it's a late April Fools, or anything else really.

I can't right now. I hope I forget about this overnight. Somebody save me 😭

I'm gonna lose my fucking mind!!!!!!!!!!

Just to say this on its own post:

A romantic relationship is not a necessity for physical or emotional intimacy

Not sure how common of an Aro experience this is, but how many times have I been told by my own mother that I don't understand how "romantic relationships work" because I've never "felt anything like it". 1. I don't need to feel "romantic love" to know it's an emotion that has to be kept in check by your fucking brain. 2. societies view of a "proper romantic relationship" is bullshit. Relationship Anarchy!!!!!!!!

People absolutely love going in circles over and over again over something as fickle as "love", and I fucking hate when people say things about themselves and then go back on those things.

Don't mind me I'm still screaming from the rooftops 🙃🙃🙃

What kind-of fucking Alloromantic bullshit did I just fucking experience!!!!!!!!!!

Ugh, tell me it's a late April Fools, or anything else really.

I can't right now. I hope I forget about this overnight. Somebody save me 😭

I'm gonna lose my fucking mind!!!!!!!!!!

I’ve seen a couple of posts and comics about the classic aspec experience of hearing “how can someone as attractive as you not have experience” or “the uncomfortable feeling when you realize a person you see as platonic has romantic/sexual feelings for you”

And as much as those shitty situations deserve to be talked about I never see anyone talk about the other side

Shoutouts to unconventionally attractive aspec people who never get mistaken for having experience

Shoutouts to everyone who has to see people not be surprised when they say they haven’t had their first kiss

Shoutouts to everyone who has never been approached or even complimented on their appearance even though sometimes it’s nice to want to look good even if not taken sexually

Shoutouts to everyone who has had to see the condescending look of “oh yeah I’m sure it’s ‘your choice’ to not be in a relationship”

Shoutouts to all of the alloromantic aces who want to have a relationship but have to put up with all of the bullshit of the dating scene that is forced upon people who don’t fit traditional beauty standards, especially if they want an actual relationship and aren’t an “easy lay”

Shoutout to all the aspecs who are considered “””ugly””” in a world run by “””sexy””” that they never wanted to be a part of in the first place.

What kind-of fucking Alloromantic bullshit did I just fucking experience!!!!!!!!!!

Ugh, tell me it's a late April Fools, or anything else really.

I can't right now. I hope I forget about this overnight. Somebody save me 😭

I'm gonna lose my fucking mind!!!!!!!!!!

MONKEY MAN (2024)

Not queer as in "queer is not a slur" but queer as in "I do not give a fuck if its a slur, you don't get to censor my identity regardless". Queer as in "I HOPE my identity upsets you". Queer as in "my identity is not only a slur but a threat"

♥️

nothing has been more important to my being queer than when i went to my first pride parade, got seperated from my group, had a panic attack about it and was sitting on the side of the road holding a tiny genderfluid flag and freaking out. then this six foot five drag queen in four inch heels appeared from literally nowhere and sat down next to me. i, this scared-shitless trans bi kid at pride for the first time, very nervously told her she looked pretty and i told her my name and that i got lost and didn't feel like i should be at pride and she held my hand and said "oh, honey, everybody deserves to be here, especially you. pride is for everybody who's ever gotten lost, who's been scared of who they are or where they are. you think we never been scared before? pride's for you, honey, because you're scared. you don't have to be proud right now, but you're gonna be one day, honey, i'm sure of it."

i found my group soon after that and i never saw that queen again but to this day i am convinced i met an angel.

so yeah. pride is for you. pride is for all of us.

Hmmm 🤔

☆ AROFUCKED/AROWEIRD

(Plain text : Arofucked/aroweird. End plain text.)

(ID : Two rectangular flags made up of six equally-sized stripes. The colors, from top to bottom, are : purple, light blue, cream, light green, forest green and dark grey. The flag on the right has a symbol in its center representing two dark grey intersecting arrows with a cream border.)

Arofucked/Aroweird : A term for when someone's aromantic identity and/or their relation to it is inherently so complex and transient that it feels unable to explain or comprehend. It can have ties to neurodivergency.

happy aro week ! here is my personal contribution, this has been spinning around in my head for weeks and it describes me perfectly. what if i was aro but what if i wasn't if you see me identify as aro yes i did because no i didn't

Good morning to aromantic kinksters, polyamorous aromantics, aromantic doms, aromantic subs, aromantics in long term sexual partnerships, aromantics who enjoy casual hookups, hypersexual aromantics, and all aromantics who have been stereotyped as manipulative or heartless for having sexual relationships

Annnnd we back on the bullshit!

Being Aspec makes you Queer. Full stop. Doesn't matter if you're Cis or Het, you being Aspec makes you Queer.

friendly reminder: excluding aces from "being ace" because they don't fit this arbitrary definition you've made of asexuality doesn't make you cool :)

all this shit does is cause unnecessary infighting in the Queer community when there are cishetallos that really need reality checks :))

this won't be the last time I say this but: I hate "actually asexual" people :)))

It's the opposite of feminism 😕

hot take but “kill all men” and similar proclamations that all men are evil and inherently bad is not feminist and is only making things worse, pushing men to become like Andrew Tate. it is also removing accountability from men who are actually bad; “you can’t get mad at me, it’s in my nature!”

you are not helping anyone. not yourself, not women, not men. you are just hurting actual good people while the people you are trying to hurt are enabled. you are not turning people away from misogyny, you are pushing them towards it.

hating all men is not cool. it is not feminist. no issue is solved by simply reversing who is being affected.

I am both.

"you're not aspec you're just confused" can't i be both

Every time someone talks about how it's our "purpose" or how we're "meant to" to reproduce, I want to tear my reproductive organs out and slam them down on the table.

me irl: no one can know im aroace, i will hide it from everyone, the only people that know was because of an accident

me on tumblr: AROMANTICISM!!!!! ASEXUALITY!!!!! LOVE LOSES!!!!! SEX SUCKS!!!! ROMANCE IS BORING!!!! I LOVE BEING AROACE!!!! FUCK AMANORMATIVITY!!!!!

Just like every other community, we do actively tear ourselves down unfortunately 🤷

Why is it that when I talk about a personal experience involving alloarophobia perpetuated by an asexual, people are very quick to go "No! That person wasn't ace! They were just lying to troll you! They just wanted their argument to seem more valid!"

Like... no. There's plenty of aces that fully, 100% think alloaros don't belong in the aspec community. There's aces that have some absolutely rancid takes about aros. There's aces who actively speak over aros about our issues and act like authorities on aromantic stuff despite not being aromantic themselves. There's aces who use us as scapegoats. There's aces that view aromantics as sad losers or psychopathic monsters. There's aces that believe romantic love is what redeems sexuality and makes someone a good person/human.

You wanna know why there are aces like this? Because they're not aromantic or they're not alloaro. Because society deems these views to be correct and they have no reason to unlearn it, especially because in some cases it benefits them.

Like, I get it. You wanna believe the aspec community is just acceptance, peace, and happiness for all, but people are still people. People can be cruel, people can be hateful, people can have cognitive dissonance so strong it burns away all their braincells and they just parrot their own oppression back to other even less acceptable identities because they want to feel better about themselves.

These people exist, stop saying they don't.