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merrybrides · 3 months

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Who Absolutely Needs a Plus-One, and Who Doesn't?

No one understands better than we do the stress and nuances of planning a beautiful, personal wedding day within your budget. One of the first steps in creating that budget is putting together a guest list that works for your venue—plus-ones included. So how do you tackle this hot topic? Start by going back to the basics: Each head count costs money, and venues hold only a certain number of people. You'll need to tread carefully and follow these plus-one rules so everyone will have a wonderful time on your big day.

What Is a Plus-One?

A plus-one is an additional guest or date brought to a wedding, typically by an unmarried guest. At some weddings, single friends and family members are given permission to bring a plus-one, while at other weddings with more limited space, only certain or no guests are allowed to bring a plus-one. While plus-one usually refers to a date or a romantic interest, it could also include a family member escorting an older guest who may need assistance or a close friend attending with a single person. The topic of plus-ones is a frequently discussed invitation etiquette debate—should couples allow guests to bring plus-ones to their wedding, and if so, which ones?

Does Everyone Get a Plus-One to a Wedding?

It depends. If you have an unlimited budget and your wedding venue has ample space, you could offer every unattached guest a plus-one. However, for most couples, budget and space are limited, so giving every guest a plus-one is just not an option.

Who Should Get a Plus-One?

Anyone Who's Married

Although we love to break some traditional rules, it's always best to invite both parties in a married couple, even if you're closer with one person than the other, or if you've never even met someone's spouse. Think about it—would you want to attend a wedding without your spouse? It's polite to acknowledge that even though you've never met your aunt's new husband or your future father-in-law's boss's wife, you respect their union

Any couples who are engaged, live together or who have been dating over a year should get a plus-one. In this day and age, lots of couples live together before they get married—or never get married at all—so acknowledging their commitment is the right thing to do. While you can use your judgment with couples who've been dating over a year—say, your 16-year-old cousin and his girlfriend—you and your partner should be able to tell if it's a serious relationship. If not, err on the side of caution and give them a plus-one.

Your Wedding Party

Extending a plus-one to everyone in your wedding party is a courteous move they'll definitely appreciate. This doesn't mean you have to force each bridesmaid and groomsman to bring a date to your wedding if they don't want to (there's a chance they'll decline anyway), but it's important to make the offer because they've been there for you from the start. It's important to remember they've not only given you their time, love and energy, but they've also spent a lot of money on attire, lodging and transportation, maybe for multiple events. Trust us on this one—they deserve a plus-one.

A VIP Guest Who Won't Know Anyone

Say one of your very best friends from childhood who lives across the country is a VIP guest, and single. While she knows you and maybe your parents and partner, none of you are likely to have much time to spend with her. Give important guests who fit this description a plus-one so they can feel comfortable and have fun too.

Who Doesn't Need a Plus-One?

Guests Who Are Casually Dating

If the invited guest in question seems to have a new significant other every few months or hasn't been dating the same person for more than a year, giving them a plus-one isn't a priority, although it is thoughtful if you have the budget to do so.

Coworkers

Coworkers can be a tricky guest list category altogether, even without the issue of plus-ones, so let's back up for a moment. The easiest way to avoid any drama is to not invite any coworkers at all. That way nobody feels left out. But if you're close to some of your coworkers (you socialize outside the office and text or call their cell phone) and everyone knows it, it's fine to invite them. Just don't hand them their invites at work or make a big deal out of it. Keeping wedding talk to a minimum at the office is smart anyway. However, if you work on a smaller team and are considering inviting a handful of coworkers (that you aren't friends with outside of work), invite the entire team or skip them altogether. This goes for plus-ones too. Whether you invite your work besties or your team, if one person gets a plus-one, then everyone else should too.

#wedding guest list #plus one at wedding #wedding invitations #guest lists

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france-unofficial · 17 days

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OFFICIAL WEDDING GUEST LIST/ROLES

getting married: @the-official-italy & @france-unofficial

wedding planner: @100percent-shell-oil

ringbearer: moxxie

maid of honor: @totally-italy

bridesmaid(s): @non-tyrannical-usa

best man/woman: @totally-france

proud parent:

wait... who's that-? : @snakeboxed

flower person(s): @im-the-real-roblox-i-swear @queenofdumbfuckery

not a flower person but tosses flowers at everybody: @definitely-waste-managmement

the one that falls into the cake: @very-real-australia

the one that ALSO falls into the cake (but elegantly): @actually-danish-denmark

absolutely killing it with random dance moves: @quebec-official

why am i here again-? : @ruhrpott-i-guess

steals all the food and runs off: @the-real-illinois

only came for the free food: @ye-olde-ace @the-lovely-planet-earth

catches the flowers: @hyperfixationsgobrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

dj: @mmvrkussx @totally-france

makes a speech and throws a pie at newly weds (only to hit the most important guest in the face): @guatemala-official

important guest: @denmark-official

makes a speech only to have one of the kids trip them so that they fall into a bowl of fruit punch: @actually-ao3

runs after the little kids(s) with a shrek costume: @i-like-pandas5

little kid(s): @the-principality-of-sealand @the-geggvolution-continues

babysitter that didn't even ask to be a babysitter : @its-target-official

tries (and fails) to crash the wedding: bb

steals food and wedding decorations: @official-denmark @decafcatfeen

shows up three hours late: @newjersey-official

starts a food fight (and wins): @antiquitian-empire

throws people into mud:

live musician: @gimmick-thief-thief

pet of the guest that didn't show up (why would you leave a penguin behind?!) : @an-penguin

the (cruel) person who left the penguin behind: atarcitica

fabulous person lurking in a corner, sipping on the most expensive wine in the room. wait did we invite you? : @the-gimmick-simp

*sobs* : @chocxy-prince

wait....why are they here? : @orange-oracy

brings the mamma mia cast: @the-actual-reliance

pulls people out of the mud and cake: @definitely-canada

☁ other roles to be added.

current guest list:

@totally-italy @totally-france @the-geggvolution-continues @actually-ao3 @literally-just-a-fish

@antarcitica-official @unexian1296 @the-one-and-only-ginger @hyperfixationsgobrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

@deceitfulmelvinator @flncat @very-real-australia @forever-scotland

#please reblog if you wish to be added to the guest list/want a role #oh wait we need the wedding officiacater person #the uh #...#i'll deal with that later #abgu gerthufhgs

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luxaofhesperides · 6 months

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For the ghostlights drabbles!! Slow dancing + aged up? Maybe it’s their wedding, maybe they’re just having a slow night, maybe it’s an all-Wayne’s-must-show-up gala event and Danny tagged along but I’m just thinkin like. Older Danny and Duke so in love with each other everything else just. Fades away

Danny’s been fidgeting all day.

He can’t help it, being so full of restless energy that he has to keep moving somehow. It’s enough to be noticeable, and though Duke gave him a curious look, he didn’t push when Danny insisted he was fine.

It’s just that he’s hyper-aware of the small box tucked away in his pocket. And judging by the excited, gleeful looks on the other Bats faces when he had lunch with them, they are also aware of his plans to propose. He just hopes Duke doesn’t have his suspicions so he can surprise his boyfriend properly.

Throughout their walk through Robinson Park, as Duke had wanted for their weekly date, Danny keeps brushing his hand against his pocket, thoughts drifting as he wonders when he should ask, how everyone would react, how difficult wedding planning would be…

“Seriously, are you okay?” Duke asks, pulling Danny to the side where a few trees hide them from view. “You’ve been distracted all day.”

“Yeah! Yeah, I’m fine. Really.”

“Sweetheart, you know you can tell me anything.”

Danny looks at him, takes in the sincerity of his words, the softness in his gaze, and smiles. He can’t help but pull Duke closer by his collar, leaning down a bit to kiss him. “I know,” he whispers against Duke’s lips. “I promise everything’s fine.”

“What’s on your mind?”

“It’s a secret,” Danny says, a giddy grin spreading across his face. “But I’ll tell you soon. Very, very soon.”

Duke looks into his eyes, gauging how honest he’s being, then nods. “Alright. Take all the time you need, honey. I can wait forever for you.” He presses a kiss to the corner of Danny’s mouth, then pulls away, taking hold of Danny’s hand. “Ready to head back home?”

“Yeah. Let’s go.” Danny squeezes Duke’s hand and follows after him as he begins walking, wondering how he got so lucky with the sweetest, bravest, most considerate person to be his boyfriend. And more, hopefully. He really wants to keep Duke forever. He wants Duke to keep him, too.

He considers proposing right then and there, too full of nerves to survive keeping it secret for another few hours, but the park isn’t empty and he knows Duke wants something more private. So he lets Duke lead them home, their steps falling in sync as they make their way to the streets.

Gotham is as busy as ever, full of noise and people as everyone goes about their day, trying to get from this place to that. But with Duke, everything feels quiet, as if the rest of the world can’t touch them when they’re together. He rarely ever feels so comfortable in silence, but like in most matters, Duke is the exception.

Danny swings their hands between them as they walk the few blocks to their apartment, heart filled with so much love he doesn’t know what to do with himself. So much has changed over the years; Danny is barely recognizable as the fourteen year old who just had a lab accident and took on the responsibility of protecting Amity Park. He was smaller, then, and struggling to figure out a way forward when everything seemed determined to ruin him.

At some points, he didn’t think he had much a future at all. His parents had found out that he was Phantom, and rather than attacking him, they were heartbroken to know that he had died so young and they never noticed. His parents have never stopped seeing him as a dead kid since, always grieving him and too guilty to really see who he is now. He hopes inviting them to the wedding won’t be a mistake, because he does want them there so they can see how happy he is.

He can hardly believe that it’s been nearly eight years since he met Duke. They had gotten together after being friends for a year, working together to handle any ghosts who needed help or were causing trouble in Gotham, and helped each other through college and getting their first jobs.

Duke has been with him for most of his happiest memories. He had been by his side through so many milestones and and quiet moments.

If there’s a life for him without Duke, he doesn’t want to live it.

So overwhelmed by his feelings, Danny can’t help but cling to Duke, wrapping him up in a hug as soon as they step into the elevator of their apartment building. Duke doesn’t ask any questions, just holds him gently and helps walk him to their door, making sure he doesn’t trip.

Danny hears the key slide into the lock. The door opens a moment later, and then Duke is slipping out of his arms, kneeling to help Danny out of his shoes at the entryway.

It’s little things like this that make Danny feel like his heart is going to burst. Duke loves in such quiet, gentle actions.

“I’m going to go change real quick,” Duke says as he takes off his own shoes. “What do you want for dinner?”

“We have garlic soy sauce pasta in the freezer.”

“Sounds good. I’ll be back in a minute.”

He heads off to their bedroom, already stripping out of his shirt to change into more comfortable clothing, which tends to be either sweatpants or pajamas. Danny goes to the kitchen, pulling the pasta bag out of the freeze and setting it on the counter to thaw a bit.

He bites his lip, thinking, then pulls out his phone and texts Barbara.

caspar: hey babs, are there any cameras in our apartment that you can hack?

big brother: Only at the front door and windows. Why?

caspar: can you hack my phone and record a video for me? i’m going to propose to duke tonight

big brother: Danny! Yes of course I can!!

caspar: thanks babs :) pls also send it out to everyone else tomorrow so we can have a quiet night in

big brother: You got it Danny. Can’t wait to share the news!! Go ahead and get your phone in a good place and I’ll be ready to start recording.

Danny sends her a quick thumbs up emoji, then glances around to find the perfect spot that wouldn’t look too suspicious. He settles on the dining table, which looks into the kitchen. The island isn’t in the way, thankfully, so as long as Danny stays in front of the counters that are in the camera’s sight, he should be able to get a good video of the proposal to send to everyone.

Besides, he knows Duke loves collecting memories like these in every way he can. And while Danny considered asking Tim to stalk them with his camera to get good proposal photos, that would have meant proposing outside to ensure he got a good shot and Duke has never been into public proposals.

He’s just set his phone up when Duke reappears, wearing gray sweatpants and a large dark blue sweater, knit by Jason a few years ago.

He looks so soft and comfortable that Danny can’t be blamed for falling onto Duke for another hug, burying his face in his shoulder.

“Hey, there, honey,” Duke laughs. “You sure you’re feeling alright? You’ve been really clingy today. Not that I mind, or anything.”

Danny nods. “I just really love you.”

Duke kisses his temple, and Danny can feel his smile against his skin. “I love you too, sweetheart.”

“Dance with me?”

“Alright.”

They start to sway softly together, just moving side to side, then Duke brings out his phone to play a few quiet songs from one of their many playlists. He recognizes the song as coming from their ‘heart to heart’ playlist, because they very much are that cheesy couple that make playlists for each other and for every occasion. This one is for quiet nights together, full of soft love songs and ballads.

With music to guide them, they start moving more, pulling apart to properly dance. They twirl in small circles, still swaying slowly as they dance, just happy to be together.

Danny sinks into the comfort of this quiet joy, slow dancing in the kitchen with Duke for a few songs. He’s already looking forward to dancing together at their wedding.

Duke pulls up his hand to lead Danny in a spin, and Danny returns the favor.

Just as Duke begins to turn back around, Danny takes out the ring box from his pocket with his free hand and drops to one knee.

Duke completes his spin, smiling softly, then freezes when he sees Danny kneeling.

“Duke,” Danny begins, and then Duke lets out a startled laugh, grinning wildly.

“Wait!” he says, “Wait, I can’t believe this. Do not move, Danny, I swear—” And then he’s turning and rushing away. Danny watches him, confused and just a little hurt, wondering what’s going on as he watches Duke move a few knick knacks on their shelf aside. He hides something in his hands, then returns to Danny and also drops to one knee.

He opens his hands to reveal a ring box. “I was going to propose later tonight,” he says, laughter in his voice, “But you beat me to it!”

Danny grins, elated, all but tackles Duke in a hug. “Oh my God,” he laughs, “I love you so much. More than anything.”

“I love you so, so much. Give me my ring, I can’t wait to marry you.”

Smiling so hard it hurts, Danny slips the ring onto Duke’s finger. Duke does the same for him, then lifts Danny’s hand to place a kiss against his knuckles. “I’ll love you for the rest of my life.”

“And I’ll love you beyond the rest of mine.”

He cups the back of Duke’s neck and kisses him sweetly. It doesn’t last long when neither of them can stop smiling, laughing together breathlessly.

“Come on,” Duke says, pulling Danny up to his feet. “I want to practice for our wedding dance.”

And Danny follows his lead, falling back into step with him, twirling slowly through the kitchen. He already can’t wait to be married to Duke.

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[send me ghostlights prompts!]

#ghostlights #dc x dp #dp x dc #dcxdp #dpxdc #dc x dp fic #prompt fill #my writing #they are so in love here!! as they should be :)#the slow dancing doesnt take up much of this fic but hopefully the cuteness of them makes up for it #the bats and dannys friends + jazz are absolutely going to lose their minds once babs sends the video out #and then it spreads around and by the time they get to wedding planning the entire justice league and the titans and a bunch of ghosts #want to be invited and are doing all they can to be on the guest list. bribes are involved. people are going ALL OUT #there is indeed a few physical fights over who gets to be best man/woman and in the wedding party

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francesderwent · 17 days

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to carry on cheerfully talking about media in my own lane, or to take a hard turn and start digging in on the popular ideas of liberal tolerance and Christian hypocrisy? decisions decisions

#I would never be considering this if I didn’t have wedding planning brainrot lol #thinking about anything sounds fun if it’s not guest list and budget and decor

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nuclearnyx · 3 months

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planning a full american-traditional-whatever wedding in 2.5 months, I am not okay ✌️🥰

#if you wanna talk about wedding industrial complexes youve come to the wrong person because a) i know and b) in many ways i dont care #i want to have my whole extended family in a climate-controlled venue and give them dinner and have a pretty dress #before i move 2000 miles away and maybe see these people once a year at most and tbh itll probably be funerals soo id like to have happy pls #im honestly having fun with it but the guest list is much smaller than i had pictured because stuff is SO expensive and i have a big family

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fruitydiaz · 9 months

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i do not ❌ have daddy issues. i met my dad’s childhood friends as an adult and realized we have similar issues with him due to who he is as a person and went. are you my dads now 👉🏼👈🏼 which is a completely normal and healthy thing to think

#al talks #they both looked at me separately and said ‘huh. you remind me of my daughter.’#and then talked about their daughters with such love and kindness and pride #that i had no choice but to go ohhh haha i see YOURE my dad now #this was brought on by the fact that i’m trying to work on my wedding guest list and i’m like #well if i must invite my dad i might as well invite father figures one two three and four as well #should i just throw in the professors i imprinted on in college and make the night one horrible psychological nightmare?#and to think i thought it was weird when my brother started referring to his father in law as his new dad…….#we are both Fucked #i was gonna share this thought elsewhere but i thought no #this most join the horrible embarrassing catalogue of daddy issues posts i’ve made on my blog over the years #the people need to know…i am not getting better

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sweetmorn · 7 months

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i have less than a year now to finish wedding planning and i'm stressed and not at the same time. venue, food, and cake have kind of fallen into place (perks of working at a bakery owned by a nice restaurant with a rooftop venue). my mom texted me the other day that she got us a photographer for cheap. so what's left

#kenzing #dj? easy i think #clothes? i'm going cheap non-traditional #decorations will be easy bc the rooftop is so pretty already #i'm kinda stressed about the size of the rooftop bc i have a big family #need to work on the guest list and stuff #has anyone planned a cheap wedding before and has tips :)

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vonlipvig · 8 months

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hate when you finish a book that's really mid and you're like 'well that was certainly a book that i just read. i will never think about it again'.

#finished the guest list and meh a very Nothing book tbh #it definitely sells itself like ooh! a whodunnit in a wedding ooh! but it's not a whodunnit at all #or like...it's only a whodunnit in the last 10 pages the rest is boring as all hell #mind you at least it was a bit more interesting for the twist in the end but still SO forgettable #according to jules #books

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bildaddyanduziraphale-aremarried · 6 months

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hello!! may i get an invite to the wedding? and may i bring a +1?

Sure. We've put you on the guest list. And you can bring a +1 of your choice.

#@bil-daddy and @mrazfellco's wedding #wedding guest list

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merrybrides · 1 year

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How Many People Should I Invite to My Wedding?

When it comes to wedding planning, there are certain tasks that are just more fun than others. Cake tasting? Fun. Choosing a gorgeous venue? So much fun. But figuring out how many people to invite? This can be a struggle. Whether your natural instinct is to invite everyone you’ve ever met, to make it an intimate event, or just something in between, it’s definitely not an easy task. Often, parents and in-laws will have opinions, too, which can complicate the process.

To help you figure out what your final guest count should be, we break down a few things to think about when it comes to creating your list.

Things to Consider

If you need help figuring out where to even begin, consider the following factors when deciding on a number.

Think About Your Budget

The golden rule when it comes to weddings? The more people you invite, the more it will cost you. A sliding scale exists based on the guest count for food, beverage, rentals, linens, flowers, stationery, and transportation, just to name a few. It’s just an extra 20 people, right? Wrong. The trickle effect is real, and it is something to consider when you’re down to those last few people you’re on the fence about!

Consider the Overall Vibe

Think about the various weddings you’ve been to in the past. When there are weddings with over 300 people, doesn’t the vibe feel different from a 50-person wedding? If lots of dreamy details or personal touches are what you love most about weddings, then perhaps scaling the guest count back to accommodate being able to do more would be worth it for the big day.

Don't Assume People Will—or Won't—Attend

Throughout your planning process, you’ve probably heard someone say, “Oh I know they won’t come, so just invite them to be polite.” This kind of attitude can get you into trouble. Especially in the post-pandemic era. Guests are more excited than ever to celebrate love and happiness. If you invite them, they will come…so do not rely on the typical 75 to 80 percent return on RSVP rules, as they may not apply.

The Process

Chances are, you’ve probably never invited this many people to a party before. Here's where to start.

Determine Your Budget

Yes, we already touched on this, but it really is one of the most critical components in figuring out what size your guest list should be. I encourage you to have an honest conversation with the key players about their budget. Establishing your overall budget range will help you determine the price per head you're projecting.

Make Your List

All great writers are told to write first, edit later. Take this same approach when making your guest list. Write down everyone you’d like to be present on your wedding day. It might feel very middle school-esque, but it’s an important step. If there are some people you’re on the fence about while making your list, put them in a separate column. You can decide later in your editing phase if you really want them there or not. When you look at the numbers, it can help make prioritizing easier. For instance, if you know that your projected cost per head is $100, you might reconsider inviting someone who is an acquaintance to save a little money.

Think About Your Venue

No matter where you’re getting married, chances are your venue has a capacity limit. In rare cases when they don’t (like you’re getting hitched on private property), then you have a little more wiggle room. Another capacity factor could be if there is lodging on-property that cannot accommodate your entire group as you had hoped. This could be directly relative to adjusting your list to fit in the box of your dream venue.

Who Gets the Final Say?

This is a tough one. Unfortunately, there’s no correct answer. As far as wedding etiquette goes, if a family member is contributing financially to the wedding in some way, they’re entitled to an opinion. However, if they’re only contributing to a portion of the wedding (like the catering or your attire), then their jurisdiction for decision-making falls in line with those specific elements. But that’s easier said than done right? I do believe being collaborative amongst families, hosts, and between partners is the best way. While the decision of the hosts is very important, I also feel the couple’s vision of their big day should be reflected with equal weight.

At the end of the day, everyone is going to have their opinion (about pretty much everything), but it’s you and your partner who are going to think back and care about who was and wasn’t there. So when the guest list going gets tough, think about who matters most to you and go with your gut.

#wedding guest list #wedding budget #wedding guests #wedding size #wedding planning

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