Awknon again, uhm, so this is my friends Kin Matchup request... Here we go- So, My friend is very smart, Maths and all. She's funny, but kind of nervous at all times? She's a huge lesbian, she spends all day talking about girls. She loves reading and playing video games, and she's actually really innocent when it comes to dirty jokes! if you need more info, just ask.

your friend sounds really cool, awknon ><!! i was more than happy to do this for you, thank you so much for requesting!! tell your friend i said hi :), oh and um... the request being written by you specifically might make this matchup sort of short... just a warning! don’t feel bad about it at all!

first off, i match your friend with...

chiaki nanami!

chiaki was one of the first ones that came to my head, reading the description of your friend! though your friend seems more like the one shown in dr3, the one from dr2 fits her, in my eyes- i think that chiaki is rather smart, as she has a lot of good reasoning skills and is very observant ingame. both of them do seem pretty funny, especially with their specific senses of humour(like, the type that isn’t seen a lot, but is enjoyed universally!). chiaki, though it might not be very obvious at first, does have varying levels of doubt in herself. i wouldn’t be surprised if your friend shares that with her, just from your description of her, but i don’t really know her too well- so that might just be me assuming! also, this is more of a headcanon of mine, but i headcanon chiaki as being really into girls. that’s just me, though! plus, the two of them both really like playing video games- it’s her ultimate talent, after all! finally, though it’s a little more specific to the dr2 version of her, the two both seem a bit more innocent to things like love and more... as you say, dirty topics. while your friend might be a little more energetic, like the dr3 chiaki is, i think that there are a lot of things that the two have in common! oh, and, your friend might also be a little less calm than the dr2 chiaki, but still!

second off, i match your friend with...

chihiro fujisaki!

to start off, both your friend and chihiro are very smart- even if they don’t exactly have that vibe at first, chihiro does have a lot of technical knowledge even if they sometimes lack the confidence to properly use it. after all, they became the ultimate programmer for a reason, haha... they are relatively nervous and not the best at voicing their thoughts, but your friend and them are trying their best! chihiro seems a little more on the wholesome and genuine end of things, rather than funny or joking like how your friend seems, but i think they have their moments of silliness too! plus, while it’s not really gone into that much, chihiro does spend a lot of time on computers and i wouldn’t doubt that they enjoy video games! once again, not gone into much, but they also state in school mode that they enjoy reading. chihiro, well, i... would say that they’re fairly innocent to dirty jokes. that’s also a big of a headcanon, but being one of the kindest and softest characters in the whole series would make them fairly oblivious to topics like those.

and lastly, i match your friend with...

monomi / usami!

okay hear me out it is NOT shameful to kin monomi. both her and your friend do seem genuinely smart, at least technically. i will admit that monomi is more gullible and a little less intelligent/mature than how your friend seems, but monomi does have her own skills like her literal magic(although it is... in a simulation.), as well as the strange variety of things she can make in island mode? while monomi can be a bit overbearing at times, i honestly found a lot of her antics to be... so-good-they-were-bad, you know? and that’s not exactly what i call funny, but i mean, on a technical level i *did* smile at some of her and monokuma’s antics. monomi is also sort of nervous, as she wants everyone to get along, but her naivety and lack of proper leadership definitely get in the way of this. i’m not calling your friend naive, of course, just explaining the thought process behind this-! also, haha, ch5 reference, but i’d say monomi can enjoy just about anything. she’s also sort of childish and her personality seems very young, so i wouldn’t doubt her being more innocent when it comes to eigh-teen-plus-topics.

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it’s time for minor matchups! your friend also reminds me pretty strongly of sonia nevermind! she also reminds me somewhat of ibuki mioda, mikan tsumiki, gundham tanaka, and a little bit of kiyotaka ishimaru! oh, and an extra little note... for whenever she plays v3, your friend reminded me of tenko chabashira! 

i hope this was helpful for your friend, awknon!!! thank you again for requesting,, if you think this is inaccurate and you’d like anything added, please tell me! i’m more than happy to change this for you! i hope you all have a good day ,,

-mod tsu(mikan shift)

Why You Shouldn't Headcanon Tenko as Bi (or as Anything Other than Lesbian)

This is gonna be a long post, mostly just to archive all the reasons so I don't have to keep explaining it over and over and over again and can instead just send them this post.

This covers all the reasons I've seen for why people think it's fine, from the 'yeah, I get why you might think that, but' to the 'holy shit are you even slightly thinking about what you're saying?'

Bottom line of this is that any reason you have for doing so is inherently lesbophobic, and I will explain why. People can feel free to add more reasons, and people can ask for clarification on certain points (since, me being autistic, I know the way I phrase things can be confusing sometimes). Don't try to tell me something I list here isn't lesbophobic if you aren't a lesbian, because that's an immediate block, buddy. I know what I'm talking about. If you are a lesbian, I will consider your stance on it, though be aware you will not change my overall stance on this topic.

One more thing before I start: there is a difference between accidentally doing something lesbophobic and purposefully doing something lesbophobic. Because of how our society is, everybody is a bit lesbophobic, and the difference lies in whether it's purposeful or not. You headcanoned her as bi-or-otherwise before knowing why it's bad, and you decide to stop after this list? Congrats! You're listening to lesbians when we say things are lesbophobic and taking us seriously, so it was likely accidental before, and you're not someone we'd typically refer to as lesbophobic! You read this list and continue doing so? Guess what buddy! You're now being unabashedly, purposefully lesbophobic! Piece of shit!

All that said, let's get started (please let the read more work).

'Her Love Hotel scene is with a man' - for starters, the LH scenes are not canon. This scene in particular plays on three lesbophic ideas; 'deep down, all women want to be dominated by a man' (which is also incredibly sexist), 'lesbians just haven't found the right man', and 'lesbians can be turned' (note: those last two go hand in hand most of the time). There is absolutely nothing in canon to indicate she likes men and everything to indicate she isn't, so - particularly considering events like Rantaro's show that the LH scenes don't have to be romantic or sexual - the fact that she suddenly likes men in a non canon fanservice scene in a game directed towards men with the reasons for it being incredibly lesbophobic, using this scene as proof that she can like men is showing you agree with these ideas and see absolutely no problem with it.

'Her Salmon Mode events' - again, it's non canon and plays on the 'lesbians just haven't found the right man' thing, which is an example of lesbophobia. This was basically explained in the last point, so I'll move on.

'The only reason she doesn't like men is because of what her master said/her reason is ridiculous' - believe it or not, this is another example of lesbophobic writing! Her FTEs push the idea that lesbians must have a *reason* for disliking men (aka 'being a lesbian is unnatural'), and that their reasons are always ridiculous and irrational (aka 'lesbians are ridiculous and irrational (for not liking men)'. I'm kind of finding this one difficult to phrase properly, if anyone can think of a better way to say it lmk). Also, using this as a defence implies that you think lesbians that *do* have reasons are really just bi, which is. Bad. You don't dictate what does and doesn't make someone a 'valid lesbian'.

'She gets along with Shuichi at the end of her FTEs' - never understood this one, honestly. Only explanation I can think of is that you think lesbians are women who absolutely hate all men rather than just women who aren't attracted to them, which, guess what, is a lesbophobic stereotype! But honestly like. You realise lesbians can have male friends right? Isn't saying that a boy and girl who get along must have romantic chemistry Bad and Heteronormative? Or does it only apply when justifying lesbophobia? Lol sorry this one got a bit ruder but this is one of the 'holy shit are you even slightly thinking about what you're saying?' points I mentioned earlier.

'I relate to her as a bi woman with a preference' - not liking boys isn't having a preference it's being a lesbian, being bi doesn't give you an excuse to have lesbophobic headcanons, you can headcanon LITERALLY ANY OTHER FEMALE CHARACTER IN THE *ENTIRE SERIES* AS BI WITHOUT TAKING AWAY THE *ONE* BIT OF REPRESENTATION WE HAVE. Like, how would you feel I started insisting Mikan is a lesbian even though she's canon bi because ~I relate to her uwu~? I relate to Mikan, I'm a lesbian, Mikan's clearly bi, so I... don't hc her as a lesbian. And it's that simple. I promise that not having a lesbophobic hc won't kill you.

Kind of related to the last point, headcanoning and arguing that the *only* lesbian rep we have in the *entire series* CAN be attracted to boys, actually, is lesbophobic in and of itself. Why do you want her to be attracted to boys so badly? The answer is fairly obvious, of course, but I'll say it anyway - it's because of your lesbophobia. If you can't help trying to reason why this one, singular girl is actually attracted to boys, that's lesbophobic. We can have one.

'But she's not a *canon* lesbian' - basically her entire character while she was alive, in canon, was about her liking girls and not liking boys. She was every bit a man hating lesbian stereotype. She was every bit a predatory lesbian stereotype. The writers couldn't have not known this. They wrote a lesbian. The way they wrote her is extremely lesbophobic in canon. Then they also wrote lesbophobic, non canon scenes, that are lesbophobic in entirely different ways. Because sometimes... writers..... are lesbophobic. There's no reason they'd do any of that if she wasn't written as a lesbian.

Lesbophobic writing is not bisexual representation

I hope you all understand. Apologies again for being a bit rude at times, but this is a subject people have been arguing for over two years since the game came out in Japan, and its like nobody cares when lesbians say something is lesbophobic. It feels like everyone who would understand should understand by this point... but I realise that may not be the case. Nevertheless, rewriting certain parts to be less angry would be dishonest of me, and dishonesty helps nobody in situations like this.

If you've read this far, thank you for your time. This is a subject important to me and many other people, so I hope I've helped some people understand. Again, if you wish to add something or ask for clarification, go right ahead.

I honestly don't know how you, as a bi woman, can enjoy DR 100% with the way its gay characters are treated. Komaeda, gay, has a super gruesome death meant as a suicide; Mikan, bi, is the most sexualized character ever; Tenko, lesbian, is killed by an incest freak; Teruteru, bi, is a literal rapist; Ouma, gay, is crushed alive (also meant as suicide); Chihiro is a transphobic charicature and is murdered by a gay-coded man; meanwhile kaito, hetty, dies in piece before he can actually be executed.

First, I don’t enjoy DR 100%, which I assumed would be obvious given my constant bitching.

Second, the only 100% confirmed queer characters in the series are Sakakura and Nanamura (from DRK). Like it or not, everyone else is arguable in the same way that any of the “straight” characters’ sexualities are arguable. There’s certainly hints you could take from canon one way or another–for instance, there’s a lot of evidence that Komeada is romantically interested in Hinata, or that Chabashira is romantically interested in Yumeno, but I wouldn’t call their sexuality canon in the same way I wouldn’t call Momota being straight canon. re: Fujisaki, I don’t particularly like the way his storyline was handled, but as both myself and other people have mentioned before, there’s a strong possibility that his arc wasn’t attempting to talk about trans people to begin with anyway. Tsumiki’s treatment makes me pretty uncomfortable, even despite how blase I tend to be regarding fanservice, but that would be the case regardless of gender or sexuality.

Also, what about all the characters who are hinted to be queer who are awesome, and conveniently are left out of this ask? Sakakura was one of the few characters designed to have an arc in DR3, and a sympathetic one at that. I consider Junko pan, and not everyone has to, but if you’re gonna call Tsumiki bi, then that makes Junko bi or pan, and she’s one of the flagship characters and a goddamn BAMF. Momota, one of the Good Guys in V3, gets ship-teased with Saihara the entire game, and Saihara himself, main character of V3, is “proven” bi by nature of the love hotel and post-game dating sim. Kiibo is textually nonbinary and is portrayed as honorable and good by the narrative. Ishimaru is like a fucking gay icon here in Japan and his worst trait is considered to be that he dies too early. Sakura! Komaru is the hero of DR:AE and you could read that entire game as being about her and Fukawa falling in love and becoming better people for it. Sakura!!!

Third, characters dying is exactly what I like in DR, so having queer characters die has never bothered me. It will never bother me. I am a queer woman who likes tragedy, and so I’m more invested if my favorites die in horrible, pathos-riddled ways. If being queer gave a character plot armor, I’d be pretty bored and kind of insulted, actually.

Fourth, queer people are people. We aren’t some magical unicorns that have to be held to a higher standard–we’re fucking shitty ass people like everyone else on the planet, and therefore some of us are, in reality, rapists or murderers or tax evaders. I see nothing wrong with that being reflected in fiction. I realize that there is a segment of the population that disagrees, but hey, that’s their business and I won’t belittle them for not wanting to partake in fiction like that. However, I won’t stand by and be told that I’m not allowed to like it either or I’m a Bad Gay.

Finally, I’m fucking old. Back in my day, having your gay ship canonized was a dream of a dream, finding fic or fanart for what you liked was a terrible, constant scavenger hunt, and if you created your own fanwork, you got hounded by people furious that you’d deviate from the canon het pairing and dirty their precious faves with your filthy, gay feels.

So I guess like, it bothers me less? When it comes to queer rep I don’t really expect much, especially in Japanese media that isn’t part of niche stuff specifically aimed at queer people. I grew up having to fill in what I wanted from canon myself rather than realistically expect that I’d get it from the creators. So when it comes to questionable queer rep in media from a society that’s still coming around to accepting queer people, my reaction is less outrage and more “well no shit.”

I don’t want to say you kids are spoiled these days, but basically, you kids are spoiled these days.