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tnxgodimginger · 1 year

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Hello! Just wandered over to your Twitter and saw your tweets re:friends suggesting you should consider therapy.

1) Sweetie, you’re doing great!! (Seriously, you’re doing your best and that’s a huge ask sometimes. As a stranger, I'm proud of you and inspired by your honesty and your drive to be a better you.)

2) I know this sounds woo-woo but a good therapist won’t consider a returning client a failure. Maybe you just decided you’d like to practice your coping skills a bit more. Maybe you’ve been feeling adrift in the rapids of life and want someone to paddle with for a while. Maybe you’ve got things all figured out and just want to go back for mindfulness. If you do decide that returning to therapy would be helpful for you, do it with the knowledge that you’re not a failure and never will be. We all need a kind, nonjudgmental ear sometimes.

3) It’s so amazing to me that you have time in between working full time to share your incredible art with us. The fact that you’re here, that you’re allowing people to partake in your creations, that you continue to hone your skills is unfathomably impressive. Thank you for all you do!!

I hope you’re doing okay, and just know that in all your pursuits you have untold amounts of support behind you. Thanks for being a part of these fandoms and thanks for inviting us in. ❤️

Hey, who are you and why you are so great???

I returned to this message not once but several times since I saw it, just to get this nice feeling of being validated 😂😂 thank you! Like really really, I appreciate your words and kind compliments SO MUCH.

I am impressed how much attention you pay to small details, like me working full time, I don’t think I mention it very frequently.

Anyway, back to the topic. I am still weighting if I am ready to get back or too avoid the problem till it bites me in the ass (I am one of those who are sure all their struggles are stupid and if to talk to therapist will be all: ohh enough about me, how are YOU??).

But hearing what you and other said makes my thoughts lighter and easier. I thank you again for this 🤍

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thatlittlemouse · 6 months

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I was thinking about Xiao Hua and had some quotes saved so here are some words under the cut

I love Xiao Hua a lot, Wu Xie is my favorite character from DMBJ, but if I were to try and rank faves Xiao Hua might come in second. They're super similar so it checks out

Xiao Hua comes across, on a surface level, as a pretty self-centered character, someone that has his interests in mind first and foremost. He's outwardly affable and easy-going, but can get very calculating and ruthless when he's going after something he wants

When Wu Xie gets to know him a little better in vol 7, he presents himself this way

As someone who is fine with leaving allies behind to die if they're between him and his goal, someone who doesn't really have friends because it's very hard to have them in this business

He adds that he's already a bit past that way of thinking (re:friends) but still leaves Wu Xie with a warning

(not gonna get into how some NPSS quotes make me think that he changes his way of thinking and became more easygoing after becoming acquainted, or one might say befriending, Hei Xiazi)

He then proceeds to be the exact opposite of what he was saying here to Wu Xie in literally all of his appearances in the story

Not once can I remember him putting himself above Wu Xie and betraying or abandoning him, he always steps up to help and has on multiple occasions gotten himself injured or almost killed

See: Sha Hai in particular, Restart, the new books

His friendship with Wu Xie is a bit special, I guess, but the rules apply to all those he considers friends. This is what Wu Xie was thinking in Restart

Hei Xiazi is his own separate category. They're "business partners" and you don't get a lot of their interactions directly in the story, but even if you look at just Flowery Night there's a lot of evidence of Xiao Hua not leaving Xiazi behind even when being told to do so (and it's mutual).

He's definitely still ruthless to his enemies or people that don't mean anything to him. It's not a case of misreading him, he's not that nice, he's going to hurt people. He's basically in the mafia 🤷‍♀️. But when it's about his friends he is an extremely loyal person.

The seven fingers extra puts it nicely:

In fact loyalty and duty are a central aspect of his character, and that becomes more and more clear as the story goes on. Duty to his family and mentor(s), loyalty to his friends.

And everything he does in Sea of Lights to Queen Mother's Banquet is coming from this. We don't know his exact motivation and thought process, but connecting the dots leads to this: he was left with a plan from Ba Ye and Jiu Ye and when the time came he didn't hesitate to take it up, even though the plan looked very suicidal

I somehow remembered he said something like this himself, but I could only find XiuXiu saying it to Wu Xie:

(they all wanted to keep Wu Xie out of it, sigh, never gonna work)

And it makes me feel kind of crazy and sad, that Xiao Hua just took this responsibility upon himself and went on a stupid suicidal mission, and wanted to involve as few people as possible (definitely not Wu Xie and gang, XiuXiu was just a back-up, Hei Xiazi is really the only one that he took with him and that probably knows the whole plan - not going into how he deviates from said plan and what tf his thought process is lmao; the heihua bran damage is a separate post)

I love Xiao Hua a lot because he's so contradictory, but his mix of traits is like catnip to me ❤️

#dmbj #xie yuchen #reading dmbj

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moonchild1 · 3 years

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hello, i rly love reading ur fic recs!! can u pls suggest me some fwb/college aus (seokjin ones) ty <33

hi anonie thank you so much i'm so very happy that you enjoy the recs and here you go as requested some of my fave seokjin fwb/college au's :)

seokjin friends with benefits au's

if by chance by @sublimebangtan s (dilf jin friends with benefits au neighbours au)

platonically horny by @joheunsaram f s a (friends au friends with benefits au)

Little Black Book: The One You Hate by @bluewhale52 s (strangers to lovers au friends with benefits au)

memoirs of mistakes by @floralseokjin f s a (college au fuck boy jin friends with benefits au)

college au's

wash 'n dry by @seokoloqy f (college au RA jin)

voice mail by @joonary f (college au friends to lovers au)

slow. dirty. wet by @clouditae f s (college au friends to lovers au fratboy jin)

small tuna fish by @floralseokjin s (college au friends to lovers au)

#kiki!fic!rec #answer ♡#seokjin #seokjin:smut #seokjin:fluff #seokjin:angst #re:college!ksj #re:friends!with!benefits!ksj

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