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lazylittledragon · 1 month

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what do you mean youre technically a detransitioner cause of terf bullshit?

it's a v long story but i detransitioned for a couple of years when i was 16/17, for multiple reasons but mostly because i fell into the blaire white/kalvin garrah chamber of "you have to be This way to be trans otherwise you're not real".

i was already Deeply insecure about myself and my 'passing' and i was led to believe that i couldn't want to wear makeup or skirts, and i couldn't choose not to have bottom surgery, and i couldn't do anything but bind for 12+ hours a day to the point that my ribcage is still misshapen. basically i thought that if i wasn't suffering enough doing 'feminine' things, i couldn't really be trans, so i should just go back to being a girl and suck it up.

the terf bullshit is because i'd seen a lot of terfs/detransitioners talking about the 'dangers' of testosterone and how it would turn me into a horrible ugly evil monster and how there was nothing worse than wanting to be a man. which combined with 'you need to fully medically transition to be valid at all' creates some very dangerous and upsetting feelings to cope with.

it also came from trying really hard to put myself in a little box before i realised that my sexuality/gender are very fluid and it's FINE for me not to have a label and just do whatever i want. when i was 19 or so i went back to using they/them (and eventually he/him) and changed my name again because even though i like doing 'feminine' things, i don't want to be seen as a woman.

tldr: i was conditioned by transphobic/terf rhetorics to think that i was being trans the 'wrong' way so i couldn't be trans at all, so i believed i must actually be a girl if i still wanted to do 'feminine' things. nowadays i am a transmasc who does feminine things because i don't give two shits about what any transmed prick thinks of me anymore.

#ramble #ok to reblog btw i'm fine with this being shared #this was meant to be a short version but this is just the whole story whoops #sorry i realised the way i phrased it sounded like i'm the detrans you see in the news #i'm Technically a detransitioner because a lot of detrans stats are people who go on to RETRANSITION #because detransition is often because of social stigma and not because you realised you weren't trans #so anyway. terfs are cancer and if you don't think their bs is harming children you're wrong #i know it's easy to say 'you should've used your brain and realised those people were wrong'#but like. when you're 16 you're SO impressionable. even if you think you aren't #especially when you're watching people who have been transitioning longer than you and you assume they know everything #i was in my mid-late teens when 'transtrender' videos were MASSIVE and i believed it!!! and i was Not nice about those people #all they made me believe was that being trans couldn't be colourful and comfy and fun. it just had to be Pain #i hope everyone who contributed to the 'you need to be this way to be trans' mindset knows how much hurt they've caused #nowadays i don't care. go and be stargender. we have actual problems to deal with not debates about neopronouns #anyway this was long. that's the story

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kyra45 · 1 year

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Scam asks v3 (Pt. 2)

Long list is long but here goes. Lists includes newer asks + older asks and some aren’t used anymore but are still related. Feel free to tip me for my efforts or use my Ko-Fi. This will come in parts due to many asks. This is part 2 and the final part for now.

Part 1

Under readmore due to length

Hi 👋, just hoping if you could possibly help me boost/share the post I pinned. I would truly appreciate it and im sorry if you if you find it weird to come across your inbox with this favor. (Pls answer this ask privately)

Hello there, would you mind reblogging the pinned post about my dog on my blog? It would be greatly appreciated if you could boost or share this! We require funding as soon as possible. Ignore if not allowed xoxo

hello can you pls share the post about my cat? thanks a bunch! ♡

Hello ツ can you help me get reblogs for my furbaby? need financial help ty xx

Hello, I'd like to ask you for a small favor. Is it possible for you to reblog my post about my cat ? I'm in desperate need of financial help as well as prayers. Thank you for your time, and please keep yourself safe!

Heeeeey! Just wondering if it would be fine for you to check the post i pinned and reblog/boost it? Im in desperate need of help for my kitty, really sorry for coming across your inbox like this because I know you might find it weird (pls answer this privately) only if its ok, thank you and have a good day. 🙏

Hiiiii 😊 how are you? can you do me a favor pls, me and my dog needs financial support and the post is on my blog, if you could reblog or donate that'll be very helpful! THANK UU

Hi! I hope you’re well and safe, just wanted to ask for some help if you could possibly help me spread the word for my cat’s current situation please? Pls help by boosting it or by reblogging, im really sorry cause I know this is kinda strange, pls send me a msg to reply :(( or answer the ask privately if its okay, I hope you’d consider. 😭🙏

Hi! I hope you’re doing well and safe! Just wanted to ask if you dont mind, can I ask help for my dog’s current situation please? We really need an urgent help, reblogging/boosting it would definitely us a ton! I pinned the post on my blog, hope you’d consider even though I know this might come really strange, im sorry for being so desperate 😭😭 pls send me a msg to reply or answer the ask privately 🙏🙏

Hi i hope you’re having an amazing day! I know I might sound strange or desperate but can i ask for some help with the post I pinned for my cat, please? Just need some emergency help, mind sharing the word around by boosting/sharing it please? 🙏 pls send msg to reply, or answer the ask privately. 😿😿

Hey i hope you’re having an amazing day! Im sorry cause I know I might sound strange or desperate but can i ask for some help with the post I pinned for my cat, please? Just need some emergency help, mind sharing the word around by boosting/reblogging it, please? 🙏 pls send me a msg to reply

Hello there, Im so sorry for coming across your inbox like this, I know this might come strange and you might hate for this but I just wanna ask for some help if you can maybe possibly take a look the post I pinned for my lil cat, we’re in desperate need of help so a reblog/boost might definitely help us a ton! I hope you’d consider but if not, its okay and I do understand! Wishing you good health and stay safe! Pls send me a msg for a response or answer the ask privately if you could. Please?? 😭🙏

Good day! 🙏 I know that this might come inappropriate to ask for a favor like this but I just wanted to ask if you could possibly share or boost the post I pinned for my cat. We're in desperate need of help right now. I hope youd consider, if not I understand dont worry. Be safe always! Btw, happy late valentines to you! Pls consider sending me a msg instead of replying the ask publicly, if its fine or maybe answer it privately 🙏

Hi there! I know that this might come inappropriate to ask for a favor like this but I just wanted to ask if you could possibly share or boost the post I pinned for my cat. We're in desperate need of help right now. I hope youd consider, if not I understand dont worry. Be safe always! Btw, belated happy valentines! Pls consider sending me a msg instead of replying the ask publicly, if its fine or maybe answer it privately 🙏

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snoreyua · 7 months

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ー GUIDELINES

PART ONE › REQUESTS

requests are OPEN! i will be ok to write most of them but topics that i will NOT write about are...

001. GROUPS OTHER THAN ENHYPEN - enha is my ult group and i feel most comfortable writing about them. however i may allow some requests for other boy groups in my stan list (located in my navigation)

002. NSFW TOPICS OR REQUESTS - i am a minor and there are minors who read my work. any requests, mentions and topics of nsfw or hard thoughts will not be condoned here

003. GROUP SHIPS - ships within the group like sunki or jaywon. i won't write about them if you send a request

004. MALE READER POV - i'm not a male and it's just something i'm not very comfortable writing with. i mainly write from a female pov but gender neutral pov is fine to request

005. DARK THEMES - murder, stalking, mafia au etc are not things i'm comfortable with writing about. not very heavy yandere themes are ok!

006. STEPDAD/(STEP)SIBLING INCEST - i'm against this in general and this makes me very uncomfortable to even read this

if i haven't mentioned or specified a topic above, feel free to ask!!

PART TWO › BLOG RULES

general points so that this blog has the right community so that everyone can have a good time here!!

001. HAVE BASIC MANNERS - please treat me and everyone with respect and kindness. if you have something to say, please state it in a polite manner even if you're critiquing my work (which im 100% fine with btw!)

002. WRITE/READ SMUT ABOUT UNDERAGED IDOLS - i think it's self explanatory, you're just disgusting if you do that

003. NO PLAGIARISING/RESHARING WITHOUT MY PERMISSION - the work i share is all mine unless i say otherwise and i do not appreciate anyone who tries to steal it. taking inspo from my work is fine but please credit me!! in addition, reblogs are welcome but please dont repost my work on different platforms without asking me first

004. USE SOME COMMON SENSE - if i haven't mentioned a rule here, it does NOT mean you can do it. i hope discrimination, hate speech etc are given and that you should not being doing it in general

#ー guidelines !#ー requests !#ー navigation !

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crtter · 3 years

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Hey, sorry if this is intrusive, if you don't want to answer it's fine. But I saw you reblogging some posts about adhd and I wanted to know If you are diagnosed, and If so, how was your process. Because I relate to like 80% of the simptoms, rsd and inattentiveness hit me especially hard, but I have no idea how to get a diagnose. I'm from Brazil too btw, and I see basically no one talking about this, and they mostly spot young restless boys.

Oh, it’s not intrusive at all! I’ll be happy to share how it went with me. You see, I was only diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, but I had been diagnosed with NVLD first in my teens.

During my entire childhood, I had trouble with socializing, couldn’t read social cues very well, and, despite being a “good student” in general, I’ve always been disproportionately bad at anything involving numbers. My parents have always been averse to the idea that I had anything “wrong with me” because I had learned to read and write at a young age, and school psychologists have always told then I was smart, I was just immature for my age and “didn’t try hard enough”. They left it at that and my dad, who has always been very good with numbers, used to go over the entire coursework with me so I would at least get good enough grades at math to not flunk my classes.

When I was 15, I changed schools and started to really feel the pressure to “fit in”, which I was really bad at. That was when an artist I admired on DeviantArt once described her experience with being on the autism spectrum and I could relate to a lot of aspects of it. I started to suspect I could be on the autism spectrum myself. I asked my mom a lot if I could see a psychiatrist about it, and she eventually agreed to let me attend this study made by a teaching hospital to diagnose young people who might have different kinds of mental disorders.

I took a lot of different tests and, after some months, I was diagnosed with Nonverbal Learning Disorder, which isn’t in the autism spectrum per se, but shares a few characteristics with it, mainly the whole thing with socializing. What differentiated it from an autism diagnosis was mostly difficulties with visual-spatial awareness and numbers, which in of itself would be called dyscalculia. So I was like “OK, this is what’s up with me, then.” and I started seeing a therapist to help me with it. I was 17 and in high school, then.

Despite knowing about my shortcomings, though, my therapist often told me that my problem was that I was “too lazy” when I related my issues with things like paying attention in class and not being able to just “get up and do things” sometimes she also body shamed me a lot but that’s not really relevant. Anyway, I stayed with her for a while but eventually it got too expensive to continue, so I left.

That was when I left high school and got into university for the first time. I got into vet school, which was the first time in my life I couldn’t ask my dad to help me with certain subjects I did badly in, because, unlike with math and physics and the like, he couldn’t really help with things like anatomy. Long story short, I did well for a while, then started doing really badly and eventually, I had to drop out. I attributed that to my bad visual-spatial perception and started attending another university, this time to learn animation, a subject I’ve always been passionate about. The same thing happened: I did well until a certain point, then I got in trouble with a single subject (this time it was 3D modeling) and eventually did so bad I had to drop out again.

This all took a big emotional toll on me and everything, but that was when I realized I had pretty much always followed a certain... pattern when it came to my academic life: I just couldn’t pay attention to certain subjects at all and had to try my hardest to learn them, often needing outside help, while others were naturally interesting to me so I didn’t really need to study. That was also when I first learned about executive dysfunction, which is very often a trait of ADHD, and I could relate to it a lot. The more I read about ADHD, the more I could relate to it. I started to suspect I didn’t only have NVLD, but I could have ADHD as well.

Also I kinda rushed things up for the sake of brevity but just to situate the story better, between graduating high school, getting into an university, studying for a few years, dropping out, getting into another university, studying for another few years and dropping out again, a lot of time passed. I was now 26 years old.

Anyway, I decided that I wanted to see another psychiatrist about possibly having ADHD, and I eventually got around to it. She asked me a few questions about my academic life, how I paid attention to things, whether or not I experienced “brain fog” (I did, and I described it as TV static in my brain) and about executive dysfunction, she told me “Well, you look like a pretty textbook case of Inattentive Type ADHD, alright” and decided to start me on a low dosage of Ritalin. And! Everything changed! My chores didn’t take the whole day long to complete anymore and eventually, I decided to give animation school a try again, and I did way better at it! I also started seeing a behavioral therapist, which also helped me much more than my “regular” therapist had ever done.

So... if I learned anything from all this, is that, in the end, we know ourselves better than we give ourselves credit for. If you read about a certain disorder and start to heavily suspect you might have it, there’s a good change that you do or that you have something pretty similar. The older you are (and the furthest you are from the “hyperactive little child” stereotype people usually have about ADHD) the harder it might be to get a formal diagnosis and medication, but it’s definitely not impossible! It might take seeing quite a few different psychiatrists -which is not going to be cheap, I admit- but with some trial and error, you might be able to find someone that’s willing to test you for ADHD.

That’s about it, I guess! Sorry for the length, and I wish you the best of luck!!!

#answers #anonymous #ADHD #long post

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