"Every building is like a struggle between external and internal forces. Wind, weight, tremors… We have to take into account all external factors that may affect the building so the design has to be able to withstand all that. We usually design apartments to be able to withstand 300 kilograms. And as for places like lecture halls or schools, where many people gather, we design the buildings to be able to withstand much more weight. If it's just one floor or a food court, we have to take into account the areas where people will sit, as well as where more of the weight will be centered when we're planning them out.
We always have to make sure that the internal forces can withstand the external forces. And life, in a way, is a struggle between internal and external forces too."
나의 아저씨 / My Mister (2018), E08
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The Asian Drama Generational Trauma Challenge List
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As @waitmyturtles has been making her way through her OGMMTVC I have been continuing to watch way too many dramas and thinking about the ones I want her to watch when she’s done with that project. And because I know Turtles, it’s always the dramas that feature themes around intergenerational trauma, filial piety, and lots of emotionally fraught interactions between parents and children that ping my “Turtles needs to watch this” radar. As I was mentioning the shows I wanted her to watch, Turtles joked that maybe I should make her a new challenge list that is focused on intergenerational trauma.
And if y’all haven’t learned this about me yet, you should know that I have no chill and absolutely will embark on a whole project because you make a stray comment in my direction. So here we are!
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I wanted this list to be inclusive of a broad range of Asian dramas, exploring how it shows up in different Asian countries and through both het and queer lenses, so I consulted quite a few friends. Shoutout to @wen-kexing-apologist, @so-much-yet-to-learn, @bengiyo, @shortpplfedup, @ginnymoonbeam, and @emotionallychargedtowel for helping me refine this list. We landed on the following criteria:
Modern dramas only—not necessarily current but set in a time period recent enough that we don’t have a whole additional set of social mores to layer on top
The drama explores intergenerational trauma, not just intergenerational dynamics (so shows like Reply 1988 that are very much about family but not necessarily trauma are not on the list)
Intergenerational trauma is a primary focus and a major theme of the drama, not a background theme, a surprise reveal, or just part of a character’s backstory to engender sympathy (waves goodbye to most chaebol romcoms)
We are using the word trauma in a broad sense here–a lot of the complex trauma featured in these shows would not meet the formal DSM diagnostic criteria as a Traumatic Event
We did apply a quality filter–the execution of the story needs to be good enough that the intergenerational trauma themes stay intact, even if the drama overall is not a total slam dunk
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Note also that this list is not chronological and there is no suggested watch order. I also do not recommend binging all of these dramas one after the other. Some of these shows are heavy and you’ll want to space them out. This is a challenge to complete over time!
I decided to share this on tumblr in case others are similarly weird and wanted to undertake this challenge with us. If any of you see this and decide to watch some of these, please tag me with your progress and thoughts! I have also linked each show’s MDL page so you can see the synopsis and general warning tags, but if you want specific content warnings for any of these shows, feel free to comment or message me.
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So after a lot of preamble…
Generational Trauma Challenge List
10 Years Ticket (Thailand, YouTube)
180 Degrees Longitude Passes Through Us (Thailand, Gagaoolala)
About Youth (Taiwan, Gagaoolala)
Bad Buddy (Thailand, YouTube)
Come and Hug Me (S Korea, Viki)
Flower of Evil (S Korea, Netflix or Viki)
GAP (Thailand, YouTube)
Go Ahead (China, Viki)
It’s Okay to Not Be Okay (S Korea, Netflix)
Khun Chai (Thailand, YouTube)
My Mister (S Korea, Netflix)
Our Dining Table (Japan, Gagaoolala)
SKY Castle (S Korea, Netflix or Viki)
Something in the Rain (S Korea, Netflix or Viki)
Until We Meet Again (Thailand, Viki or YouTube)
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Good luck, happy crying, stay hydrated, and please pace yourselves!
(Tagging friends @neuroticbookworm, @kyr-kun-chan, and @chickenstrangers who I have already discussed this with.)
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If you haven't watched kdrama My Mister yet, do yourself a favour and start now. It's touching, superbly acted and filmed, and somehow manages to be both heart-wrenching and heart-warming. I cannot recommend it enough.
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