LADIES: you should NEVER have to change yourself for a man. if he can't support you and your hobbies as-is, don't even bother with him because he is NOT going to improve and suddenly appreciate you more once he "fixes" you and makes you "nicer" or "more polite" according to his own personal moral code. he's just gonna keep narrowing that box he wants you to fit into until you've totally lost your sense of self to accommodate his needs. you deserve someone who will LISTEN to you when you talk about your day, ENCOURAGE your kleptomania, and SUPPORT you by hiding the evidence and lying to the police about where those diamonds went