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quierd-kitten · 1 year

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It’s really fascinating to me how intricate “being in/out of the closet” can get when your identity is more complicated than “just gay or trans”.

Like, everybody knows that I’m a trans guy. Some people know that I’m actually transmasculine non-binary, if it comes up. My closer peers, friends, and family know that I’m actually genderfluid and shift between guy, non-binary, and very occationally girl. Only my best friends are aware that I also shift between xenogenders.

Even more complicated : I’m out to my mom as gay and asexual, but not bi or aro-spec. One of my sisters I’m out to as gay, the other I’m out to as bi and ace. Most people catch on pretty quick that I’m bi even if I don’t say it. My friends know that I’m bi and ace. My really close friends know that I’m bi, ace, and aro-spec.

#the closet really isn’t this dichotomy of in/out all of the time #especially depending on how queer someone reads to strangers #like most people who see me on the street would assume I’m a lesbian / bi woman #like. short dyed hair. soft punk/masc outfits. flat chest. anybody with an ounce of knowledge about queer people can clock me as queer #I do have a trans flag and pronoun pin on my backpack when I walk around campus which changes things a little #but the difference between assumed identity vs identity with strangers vs identity with close friends #can be so interesting and nuanced #and I’d say that compared to other people I’m quite open about being queer #if somebody asks me about my identity I tell as much as they’re interested in hearing #the only things I really keep close to my chest are having xenogenders and being aro-spec #mostly bc they take longer to explain tbh

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