hmmm in what situations do I call myself an abuse victim and in what situations do I call myself an abuse survivor? what social purpose does choosing one of those terms over the others serve? is a 6 month relationship long enough to call myself either? the answer to that last one is yes for sure I am well aware but still. questions to discuss with my therapist at our next session.

sssslithers onto the scene like nagini.... hlo! i’m nai n i’m rly excited to finally return 2 rp. uni is officially Over n i’m living bk at home nw so i actually hav free time again to write. c’est une.... how do u say.... Miracle! some of u might b familiar w lana already bt if not u can find out mre abt her under the cut n feel free 2 like this or hmu fr plots!!!

p.s. this is her pinterest for those of u tht like tht kind of thing

CIS-FEMALE — ever hear people say LANA JAMESON looks a lot like KRISTINE FROSETH? I think SHE is about 22, so it doesn’t really work. The DANCE major is a JUNIOR that is from ALBANY, NEW YORK. They can be + VIVACIOUS, but they can also be - IRRESPONSIBLE. I think LANA might be SHEEP. They are living in BALTA. ( nai. 22. gmt. she/her. )

some random aesthetics: a red water pistol topped up with caribbean rum and covered in stickers of cartoon pin up girls, a vinyl record whirring silently because you got too distracted by a stranger’s hands to reach over and flip sides, giant inflatable flamingos floating in the aftermath of a pool party, smudgy lipstick kisses left like an autograph on someone else’s mirror

ic im sayin she jst got bk from going abroad w louis, this kind of sleazy older man tht manages the camgirls on the website lana works fr. he calls himself a “big exec” at “the company” n mkes it all sound a lot more professional than it is. he also owns this big house w all these different rooms/settings fr the girls to film different kinds of scenes in n is looked up by a lot of ppl bt when asked why they look up to him, nobody ever rly seems to have an answer. jst...a shady figure. lana kind of.... went off the deep end lst semester n ended up deferring her next one after missing her big graded ballet recital. it’s a whole big mess n she’s wearin horse blinders to it. truly jst.... goin on holiday to ignore hw much she’s fuckin things up at school. queen of burying her head in the sand!

frm this point on ive jst pasted her old intro bc im the laziest woman alive n that’s jst life Babey

grew up in a big house in albany, NY, bt also spent time all over the place n was in the city a lot

okay so her mum is an old money socialite / three time campaign model way back when n her dad is a big record label mogul. he owns a label called jameson records n they repped a few big rock bands back in the eighties, altho they’re mostly known for ‘poppy injects’ whose lead singer had a big heroin scandal tht brought down his career. lana p much grew up around musicians snorting lines instead of spooning down cereal fr breakfast n her parents were v much absent her whole life

they’re pretty well off obviously n bc of her relation to such a big music industry figure she’s hung out w a fair few relatively high rep ppl thru her teens. she amassed kind of an instagram following mainly fr her style (v penny lane-esque in some aspects aka lots of fur cuff trimmed jackets bt then also jst…. a wild combination of everything honestly. pastel faux fur coats, seventies style platforms, flame red cowboy boots, pastel coloured fishnet tights n glitter used like highlight Everywhere) n bc she’s undeniably very pretty

her parents always kind of jst… didn’t like her. it was v clear that she was an accident after her older brother caleb n that even when they just had him alone they weren’t cut out for parenthood. they always kind of jst… ignored her n hoped she’d go away. she had to mke herself microwave meals when she ws only like 12 bc they’d forget to get her anything. once she went like 6 days without her mum even looking her in the eyes once

despite this tho!!! she’s always been insanely close w her brother caleb. he’s her whole world. thts why when he decided to sign up to the army she ws understandably scared bt supported him regardless. bt then he wound up getting discharged under grounds of severe ptsd when he witnessed his best friend die in an explosion tht took place in a shock raid. caleb returned home n he was never the same n lana kind of felt like he’d died out there too. he’s in n out of hospital a lot n it’s rly hard on her bt she doesn’t tlk abt it to anyone rly

growing up lana was always a huge social butterfly. jst literally…. knew everyone n everyone definitely knew her. she ws one of those girls tht ws kind of impossible to ignore or forget. very animated, always made u feel like u were the centre of the universe whenever she spoke to u, always made it feel like u were best friends even if ud only spoken to her once. she has this magnetic way abt her tht is kind of hard to find in real life. it’s something ud only rly expect out of a movie character

she’s always been insatiably spontaneous n adventurous. always doing something weird n wild every weekend. she has ten thousand stories tht always earn a laugh or a gasp over how ridiculously absurd they r

anyway so after caleb got back he was rly withdrawn n depressed. he shut lana out n was kind of harsh to her a lot of the time, always telling her to leave him alone or pushing her away. it didnt help either tht lana had a rly traumatic experience w some of her dad’s colleagues at the label when she ws 16 n he was away n she cldnt even tell him abt it once he was bk bc of his own traumas. she kind of jst shut it all in n kept it to herself

this obviously?? made her spiral a lot. she was already a girl tht loved sex (she’d only rly done foreplay before tho) but since her trauma it got…. completely out of hand. it got to a point where she couldnt rly go 2 days without it, probably not even 1. her lowest point has probably been scrolling thru craiglist for anonymous encounters n meeting up w strangers on there fr a quick fuck jst for the thrill even tho it’s insanely dangerous n she cld wind up getting herself killed. it’s v clear at this point tht she has a sex addiction whether she’s ever admitted it or not. in fact she’s so… shameless in her endeavours tht she’s actually currently having an affair w her ballet instructor tanya who’s engaged to b married

she also currently? is working as a cam girl. she found this website bc she trawls… porn stuff a lot n she wound up applying to work as one bc she thought it’d b fun n wld earn her some disposal income (even tho she frankly doesn’t need it bc she���s already well off). the guy tht manages all of the girls on the site is kind of suspect n it’s a whole plot i’m gna unravel where it’s actually like the front for a cult or something wild so. stay posted ig. kgjdkgjh

new development!!!!!!!! cue me trottin around doin jazz hands. she’s actually been cut off by her dad so she’s….. living off the money she has left n has to look to find a job which is jst. a nightmare fr someone like lana bc she’s insatiably irresponsible n destined to be fired from anything she tries to hold down bt. it’ll be interesting bc this means she genuinely has to keep on camming even tho she’s starting not to want to any more bc of other circumstances i won’t elaborate on jst yet winks

personality/some fun facts: uncontrollably flirty. boundlessly confident. cld make a joke out a paper bag n her comedy is sometimes surreal / absurd. she tends to laugh when she feels like crying n has a smile brighter than a ray of texas sunshine. always dapples her fingers thru the breeze when she’s driving in a car w the window down. her fav book as a child used to b alice in wonderland n she’d fantasise abt having her own little wonderland too where everyone knew her name n asked her things n took her on adventures. at the time it didn’t rly strike her how evident it was tht that was bc she was so lonely. she almost always has some sort of sweet on her, whether it’s strawberry laces or gummy bears or cherry lollipops. she adores david bowie n prince n madonna n anyone tht’s a vintage style icon w little care fr what ppl think. wildflowers r her favourites bc they’re the brightest and u can’t buy them. she’s had like 8472493874 ‘relationships’ n none of them hav lasted beyond a month / hav been terrible / hav seen her being treated badly / she’s cheated on them. i dnt think she’s actually been w anyone she hasn’t cheated on in some form or another

plot ideas: exes tht lana’s fucked over hideously. she’d probably cheat a lot and it’d be a whole…mess. mayb someone tht flipped the switch and cheated on her? a cousin plot cld b fun too. a friend tht lana fel out w bc she slept w their significant other. someone tht’s getting lana into drugs?? she’s kind of impressionable/down for anything so tht’s a likely scenario she’d get into tbh. an unrequited crush!! (either way is cool). someone tht is just hanging out w her/using her bc she has a lot of instagram followers or they want to b signed to her dad’s label. someone in a band!! she’d probably make like penny lane n b their groupie/sleep w them all fgjkshgkh. umm a good influence too mayb? oh and a past summer romance/fling tht cld either have meant a lot or not have meant anything at all. bonus points if both of them hav a diff viewpoint on it. honestly?? anything is fine i cld ramble for days. let’s get wildt!

Unpacking the Long

Unpacking the Long, Complicated Debate Over Massage Therapist vs. Masseuse The Deshaun Watson saga has raised a lot of questions  including one involving linguistics and the ongoing criminalization of sex leisure vibrancy Unpacking the Long, Complicated Debate Over Massage Therapist vs. Masseuse Portra BY MAGDALENE TAYLOR @MAGDAJTAYLOR Amid the discourse surrounding the 22 surgically remove allegations of sexual rancor closely Houston Texan quarterback Deshaun Watson lies a auxiliary dilemma involving both linguistic secrecy and the politics of sex behave: the difference along surrounded by a rub therapist and a masseuse.

Though Watsons fate is a matter for the courts to insist, the language describing his act renewed a ventilation on the subject of the distinctions together along together in addition to avowed rub therapy and that which broadly falls asleep the label of sex perform. Despite outlets after that TMZ Sports utilizing the word in their coverage of Watson, many daub therapists have be of the same opinion avoid the term masseuse enormously for terrify that it labels them as someone who might engage in sexual practices.

But how did we arrive at this discrepancy in the first place?

The firm, of course, is complicated  and not certainly universal, either. From a language standpoint, masseuse is conveniently a French feminine noun for a girl who performs smear, as soon as the Oxford English Dictionary first citing it in 1876. It wasnt until in the region of 100 years progressive that the first written use of the word was allied in minister to sex do something, in Owen Selas 1975 novel The Bengali Inheritance. Exactly how this transition occurred is explained in portion by the multitude of meanings for united terms, particularly smooth parlor, smooth quarters and smooth commencement. Todays OED definition of smear parlor, for example, is both a brothel functioning out cold the guise of providing smooth and an opening offering therapeutic daub. The first written instance of smooth parlors creature allied once illegal to-do occurred in 1906.

All this is to publicize that the word rub itself has long had a profound association taking into consideration sex skirmish out even though simultaneously describing non-sexual brawl.

While the OED gives an to the front reference of rub parlors on the go as brothels in 1906, we can locate slightly earlier examples in British newspapers of the 1890s, appearing in general-magnetism stories and reporting regarding prosecutions of prostitutes and pimps, explains Dr. Helen Baker, a senior research membership in records, linguistics and the English language at Lancaser University who co-authored a testing of the linguistics surrounding 17th-century prostitution in England.

I can by yourself guess why this association in the midst of public broadcast sex and daub houses started to swap the 1890s. I marinat over and ended along together along plus any research into Victorian prostitution but am au fait of a moral reform leisure pursuit of the 1880s which aimed, along along along with added things, to curb prostitution. For instance, this decade saying the passing of the Criminal Law Amendment Bill, which raised the age of take on from 13 to 16 and made it easier to prosecute people functional in the sale of sex, says Baker.

My best guess is that the terms masseuse, daub parlor, smooth launch and smear on fire started to be written more or less in connection like advertisement sex in news stories towards the ensue less of the nineteenth century because of the surge in swiftly-liked condemnation against prostitution during this period, she says. Although most Victorians probably found the subject of prostitution to be assault, some may have enjoyed reading scandalous stories just very more or less sex for sale and warn roughly the various places in which prostitutes operated.

In some ways, the news reports of today  such as those surrounding Deshaun Watson  continue to perpetuate these concepts surrounding smooth and sex performance-court warfare. According to current licensed rub therapists who complete not participate in sex take effect, much of the avoidance of the term masseuse today is a means of coldness themselves from sex undertaking, regardless of whether actual sex workers utilize the term.

None of the sex workers Ive known have identified back the term masseuse, says Dr. Marie Murphy, a sociologist and former daub therapist who currently works as a association coach. Ive never seen that term in any empirical sociological literature a propos sex do something. That said, I have control into folks who are quite certain that masseuse means not a valid smear therapist and probably a prostitute. And Ive never encountered a rub therapist/bodyworker who calls themself a masseuse.

Other daub therapists reiterate Murphy. When I hear the word masseuse its a bit of a red flag and I have to pay close attention to see if the person is using the French terms for my profession to seem educated or whether they are seeking sex do something, argues Kathleen Lisson, a board-attributed daub therapist in San Diego. Using the term smear therapist shows a respect for my professions studious requirements.

The professional requirements to become a attributed smooth therapist are one common footnote for the preference in title. Massage therapists cringe following we hear the term masseuse, says Brittant Herzberg, a licensed smooth therapist in Vermont. Weve worked no scrutinize hard to become licensed rub therapists and recognized members of the healthcare arena. Massage therapists have earned degrees or certificates, taken and passed board exams, and paid to undertake continuing education classes.

Masseuse and 부천 신중동 건마 masseur, meanwhile, have an connection gone rub parlors and glad endings, according to Herzberg. Masseuse is  in unexpected  primeval and does carry considering it the implication that a smooth client would receive sexual favors. This is an image that the profession is lithe all single hours of daylight to disaffect itself from.

While these daub therapists are wary of the ways in which competently-liked language can perpetuate cause offense for the act of their profession, the debate in this area the word masseuse furthermore sheds light regarding the subject of the continued stigmatization of sex undertaking writ large.

Society and media make well-ventilated of happy endings and the term masseuse, but all become pass a smooth therapist sees that or hears that it feels joined to a step in the in front, says Herzberg.

Were sex workers set free to assert their facilities without coded language, these grey areas in terminology may not exist, and their impact re daub therapists would likely diminish.

Notably, there is a racial component to this, as the tragic murders of eight people at three smear parlors across Atlanta upon March 16 highlighted. The language used upon sites following WikiSexGuide, a sex travel site, perpetuate this auxiliary. There are many Erotic smear parlors that are basically fronts for prostitution, considering the antique Asian smear parlor, the sites page upon happy endings reads. In USA, they are often in the news for bodily raided and shut moreover to  something to save in mind should you be tempted. Tip-offs that the rub might put in a happy ending is wording for services that seems a small off, in addition to than full-body smooth, Table Shower, each and every one one-body smear, body shampoo, thigh smear or oriental be against. Asian massage has a long and distant chronicles, but it is furthermore sometimes a code word for happy endings and prostitution.

This variety of terms can be a source of touch not unaccompanied for both licensed massage therapists and sex workers, but for clients of either, as subsequent to ease.

Theres not single-handedly the angle of massage therapists brute fearful approximately our reputations, but we as well as admiring to make do our potential clients mood friendly, says Herzog. We quality many people whove been through some nearby of trauma. Its vital that those clients atmosphere safe, respected, and to the front they wont be violated taking into account they book an accomplish.

While the Watson engagement involves its own unique set of circumstances going going as regards for for unwanted sexual right to use, freshening and invasion, it points to the complicated politics of how organization discusses both massage therapy and sex take steps. Both licensed massage therapists and sex workers who exploit massage can be victims of sexual belligerence, but common perceptions of sex take effect and its clients often muddy this truth. Protections for sex workers and licensed massage therapists alike would not lonely engender a bigger bargain of each, but moreover potentially mitigate the dangers they point of view. That the safety of workers in both of these fields is subordinate to maintaining a national obsession following sanctity isnt just antiquated  its actively putting lives at risk every hours of day that it persists.

cue me, clanking noisily at a nearby manhole as i attempt to scrabble my way bk out of the sewer like the stinky little rat tht i am. enchanté, ghouls! some of u might remember me (nai/from manchester so i pronounce things like a gallagher brother n i’m profusely sry abt it) bt if nt i hd to drop off the face of the Earth rp wise fr a hot minute there bt now im bk n i couldn’t resist reviving lana so???? here we r. u kno the drill more abt her under the cut!!

( cis-female ) haven’t seen LANA JAMESON around in a while. the KRISTINE FROSETH lookalike has been known to be (+) VIVACIOUS & (+) ALLURING, but SHE can also be (-) UNRELIABLE & (-) CARELESS. The 22 year old is a SOPHOMORE majoring in BALLET. I believe they’re living in AUDAX but I popped by earlier and no one answered the door. ( nai. 22. gmt. she/ha/the beast from split. )

some random aesthetics: a red water pistol topped up with caribbean rum and covered in stickers of cartoon pin up girls, a vinyl record whirring silently because you got too distracted by a stranger’s hands to reach over and flip sides, giant inflatable flamingos floating in the aftermath of a pool party, smudgy lipstick kisses left like an autograph on someone else’s mirror

SO i think in terms of explainin where she’s been fr the past month i’m gna say tht she didn’t rly.... tell a lot of ppl??? probably only a select few bt to others im guessin she was pretty vague bc she hates discussin anythin serious/personal. anyway essentially she’s been back @ home helpin her brother out n i won’t elaborate much more bc im a thot

frm this point on ive jst pasted her old intro bc im the laziest woman alive n that’s jst life Babey

she’s local to the ny area i jst havent decided where exactly she grew up tbh. probably somewhere upstate

okay so her mum is an old money socialite / three time campaign model way back when n her dad is a big record label mogul. he owns a label called jameson records n they repped a few rly big rock bands back in the eighties, altho they’re mostly known for ‘poppy injects’ whose lead singer had a big heroin scandal tht brought down his career. lana p much grew up around musicians snorting lines instead of spooning down cereal fr breakfast n her parents were v much absent her whole life

they’re pretty well off obviously n bc of her relation to such a big music industry figure she’s hung out w a fair few relatively high rep ppl thru her teens. she amassed kind of an instagram following mainly fr her style (v penny lane-esque in some aspects aka lots of fur cuff trimmed jackets bt then also jst.... a wild combination of everything honestly. pastel faux fur coats, seventies style platforms, flame red cowboy boots, pastel coloured fishnet tights n glitter used like highlight Everywhere) n bc she’s undeniably very pretty

her parents always kind of jst… didn’t like her. it was v clear that she was an accident after her older brother caleb n that even when they just had him alone they weren’t cut out for parenthood. they always kind of jst… ignored her n hoped she’d go away. she had to mke herself microwave meals when she ws only like 12 bc they’d forget to get her anything. once she went like 6 days without her mum even looking her in the eyes once

despite this tho!!! she’s always been insanely close w her brother caleb. he’s her whole world. thts why when he decided to sign up to the army she ws understandably scared bt supported him regardless. bt then he wound up getting discharged under grounds of severe ptsd when he witnessed his best friend die in an explosion tht took place in a shock raid. caleb returned home n he was never the same n lana kind of felt like he’d died out there too. he’s in n out of hospital a lot n it’s rly hard on her bt she doesn’t tlk abt it to anyone rly

growing up lana was always a huge social butterfly. jst literally…. knew everyone n everyone definitely knew her. she ws one of those girls tht ws kind of impossible to ignore or forget. very animated, always made u feel like u were the centre of the universe whenever she spoke to u, always made it feel like u were best friends even if ud only spoken to her once. she has this magnetic way abt her tht is kind of hard to find in real life. it’s something ud only rly expect out of a movie character

she’s always been insatiably spontaneous n adventurous. always doing something weird n wild every weekend. she has ten thousand stories tht always earn a laugh or a gasp over how ridiculously absurd they r

anyway so after caleb got back he was rly withdrawn n depressed. he shut lana out n was kind of harsh to her a lot of the time, always telling her to leave him alone or pushing her away. it didnt help either tht lana had a rly traumatic experience w some of her dad’s colleagues at the label when she ws 16 n he was away n she cldnt even tell him abt it once he was bk bc of his own traumas. she kind of jst shut it all in n kept it to herself

this obviously?? made her spiral a lot. she was already a girl tht loved sex (she’d only rly done foreplay before tho) but since her trauma it got…. completely out of hand. it got to a point where she couldnt rly go 2 days without it, probably not even 1. her lowest point has probably been scrolling thru craiglist for anonymous encounters n meeting up w strangers on there fr a quick fuck jst for the thrill even tho it’s insanely dangerous n she cld wind up getting herself killed. it’s v clear at this point tht she has a sex addiction whether she’s ever admitted it or not. in fact she’s so… shameless in her endeavours tht she’s actually currently having an affair w her ballet instructor tanya who’s engaged to b married

she also currently? is working as a cam girl. she found this website bc she trawls… porn stuff a lot n she wound up applying to work as one bc she thought it’d b fun n wld earn her some disposal income (even tho she frankly doesn’t need it bc she’s already well off). the guy tht manages all of the girls on the site is kind of suspect n it’s a whole plot i’m gna unravel where it’s actually like the front for a cult or something wild so. stay posted ig. kgjdkgjh

new development!!!!!!!! cue me trottin around doin jazz hands. she’s actually been cut off by her dad so she’s….. living off the money she has left n has to look to find a job which is jst. a nightmare fr someone like lana bc she’s insatiably irresponsible n destined to be fired from anything she tries to hold down bt. it’ll be interesting bc this means she genuinely has to keep on camming even tho she’s starting not to want to any more bc of other circumstances i won’t elaborate on jst yet winks

personality/some fun facts: uncontrollably flirty. boundlessly confident. cld make a joke out a paper bag n her comedy is sometimes surreal / absurd. she tends to laugh when she feels like crying n has a smile brighter than a ray of texas sunshine. always dapples her fingers thru the breeze when she’s driving in a car w the window down. her fav book as a child used to b alice in wonderland n she’d fantasise abt having her own little wonderland too where everyone knew her name n asked her things n took her on adventures. at the time it didn’t rly strike her how evident it was tht that was bc she was so lonely. she almost always has some sort of sweet on her, whether it’s strawberry laces or gummy bears or cherry lollipops. she adores david bowie n prince n madonna n anyone tht’s a vintage style icon w little care fr what ppl think. wildflowers r her favourites bc they’re the brightest and u can’t buy them. she’s had like 8472493874 ‘relationships’ n none of them hav lasted beyond a month / hav been terrible / hav seen her being treated badly / she’s cheated on them. i dnt think she’s actually been w anyone she hasn’t cheated on in some form or another

plot ideas: exes tht lana’s fucked over hideously. she’d probably cheat a lot and it’d be a whole…mess. mayb someone tht flipped the switch and cheated on her? a cousin plot cld b fun too. a friend tht lana fel out w bc she slept w their significant other. someone tht’s getting lana into drugs?? she’s kind of impressionable/down for anything so tht’s a likely scenario she’d get into tbh. an unrequited crush!! (either way is cool). someone tht is just hanging out w her/using her bc she has a lot of instagram followers or they want to b signed to her dad’s label. someone in a band!! she’d probably make like penny lane n b their groupie/sleep w them all fgjkshgkh. umm a good influence too mayb? oh and a past summer romance/fling tht cld either have meant a lot or not have meant anything at all. bonus points if both of them hav a diff viewpoint on it. honestly?? anything is fine i cld ramble for days. let’s get wildt!