Hey there. You don't have to answer this if it's personal but why the hashtag i am over stuff? I remember your blog used to be all things Obi but not anymore. What happened?

Oh no, it’s not personal at all! It’s really as simple as me being “over it” xD

I do understand how weird it must seem that there was a point where I was literally OBSESSED with everything this man does or had done or was going to do. Where every sentence he said/typed was the absolute wittiest/funniest in my head. Now that I think about it’s maybe because he was having such a grand time career wise. Part of a blockbuster drama, doing justice to an already popular character, getting all this fame not just for his acting but his off screen persona. It wasn’t hard to get smitten. Plus, he had this whole ‘educated about stuff’ and ‘woke AF’ vibe going on and that was just so rare in Pakistani celebrity circle for me that ghar ki daal hi murgi bann gayi!

Then things just started dwindling. The SM persona of his which was always such a plus point in his favor started becoming problematic cuz of some stuff that was said and done. I don’t even remember the exact details just the feeling of, “Huh? Did not expect this of him..” For a loooong time, we didn’t see him onscreen doing great stuff so the offscreen was all we had. And this offscreen really matters because that’s the only connection we have with these celebs. But the issues started from his SM activities itself. I remember back in DeD days, me and a fellow fan used to discuss how Obi really needs to learn how to better conduct himself on SM. It’s cool and all but his fandom was no longer the burger awaam who was okay with innuendo talks. But I was smitten in those days so I defended him more. Later I realized that he, whether consciously or unconsciously, wanted to choose who can talk about him. Which was okay on one hand cuz some of the comments he got were ridiculous but later on it became problematic cuz he was essentially going against the fandom who made him so popular in the first place. THAT did not sit well with me once the detachment period started..

I guess the point is that I finally realized that he was good, not great. And he only became great in certain conditions. Also what he does isn’t all that extraordinary. What made him “unique” was that he does it all in an industry where it’s not very common to be this multi-talented. That doesn’t mean he’s the best at everything. In this internet ka zamana when there are SO many people in various field that one can fangirl over, I really don’t have the time and energy to be a fan of someone who does more problematic things than quality ones.

(In comparison, look at Maya. I used to believe that I only liked her cuz she was associated with Obi. But oh, how the tables have turned. Now I like Obi because of his association with HER. Not only does she continue to do fab work in her career but she always, ALWAYS makes sure to never forget who made her this star in the first place)

Maybe I’ve been wrong. Maybe I totally misread the situations which put me off him in the first place. Maybe he was right in how he dealt with criticisms and fandom behavior. But I don’t care, what’s done is done. I don’t dislike him, I’m just no longer affected by what he does. At least not right NOW. Maybe when he’ll be back with a proper project and I’ll be in the mood of it, I’ll like him again. God knows I do like his face just not necessarily what comes out of his mouth. But I doubt that obsession wala pyaar will happen again. I changed, he changed, the frequencies don’t match anymore.