hm. reacted viscerally to hearing secondhand potential toxic behavior with pointing out the pattern i recognize from unfortunate personal experience and when he didn’t seem to validate my opinion i immediately internally shut down and im now realizing part of my reaction to his reaction is def impacted by the shame and horror of my recent and ongoing unpacking of a long term relationship’s end and toxicity that i hadn’t been able to fully see like hm. the healing and reflecting and learning never ends does it