#honestly all i got for u is that romance is a socially described category of emotion
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Aro-culture is trying to understand why society created the most ridiculous rituals and signs for romance and not finding a single answer/or that makes sense.
(No seriously, all the explanations I find are dumb. Send help)
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#aro culture is#aro#aromantic#actually aro#actually aromantic#ask#mod axel#honestly all i got for u is that romance is a socially described category of emotion#and social categories are notoriously full of all sorts of cultural biases and assumptions and history that got lost to common knowledge#not to mention the human tendencies to create lil rituals that sometimes become big (ie knock on wood / slug bug)#so u end up with like. 'yeah u gotta not directly tell ppl that ur in romo with them immediately because...'#culturally it signals like. moving too fast or it's seen as embarrassing or you gotta do xyz things first#my sister advised me as a teen that in her experience and opinion - delivered like the words of a sage - if someone is bad at kissing#then they are bad at sex#(me [a kissing repulsed aro person who enjoys sex]: uhhh)#and honestly like. especially when viewed from the outside those things are fuckin wild#like... my mom came from a tiny backwoods type of place in [redacted]#and when i moved to [redacted] and one of the biggest cities in my state (though tbh not that big actually lol)#it caused all sorts of fun. she thinks it's exceptionally rude that not every single person on the street smiles and says hi#if there's not a crowd#she also gets really upset that service workers are less likely to make small talk#and both of those come from City Etiquette being more about like... not taking up ppl's time and attention and that being respectful#like smiling and saying hi to every stranger on the street is... honestly gonna be seen as a Huge Danger thing#and service workers do not have the *time* at most locations to chat with you - especially if it's busy - and it's seen as disrespectful to#both the workers and the people in line behind you to insist on it#but from her POV with Country Etiquette#this is equivalent to like. getting slapped in the face and told that you are specifically mad at her#and she gets legit anxious about it in a very 'this means i fucked up' way
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ALL THE #'S YOU DIDN'T DO YET
HOLY HECK BRO!
alright alright alright I’m doing this.. under a cut lmao. I’m pasting others’ too, so they’re all in one spot. (this is actually ridiculous lmao ?? thanks)also, sidenote: pasting? pasteing? pasting looks so... strange.. what..
Questions from the Identity Ask post
> 1. if someone wanted to really understand you, what would they read, watch, and listen to?
Read: The Raven Cycle series by Maggie StiefvaterWatch: The Iron Giant? lmao, i mean it was my childhood soListen To: my “U Kno” playlist on Spotify, probably
> 2. have you ever found a writer who thinks just like you? if so, who?
Alright so I love the style of Maggie Stiefvater’s The Raven Cycle, but a book/writer that I really vibed with a couple years ago was It’s Kind of a Funny Story by Ned Vizzini
> 3. list your fandoms and one character from each that you identify with.
I mean, top three:The Raven Cycle - GanseyPercy Jackson and the Olympians - PercyBoku No Hero Academia - Deku
> 4. do you like your name? is there another name you think would fit you better?
Yea, I’m cool with it!
> 5. do you think of yourself as a human being or a human doing? do you identify yourself by the things you do?
I mean, I am both human and doing things. I try to play an active role in my social/personal/etc environment, tho. If that.. clarifies
> 6. are you religious/spiritual?
Not by like, a standard definition? I guess not
> 7. do you care about your ethnicity?
I care about my ethnicity in that I know I have a lot to learn, you know? - I’m white, and I care about that because it means I’ve got to keep myself and my privileges in mind and in perspective.
> 8. what musical artists have you most felt connected to over your lifetime?
A bit back I really liked Watsky and The Killers. Also had a big ole My Chemical Romance, Bring Me the Horizon, and Sleeping with Sirens phase a couple years ago if you wanna count those haha. But right now its not really a set of artists, just whatever friends/Spotify shows me that I end up liking.> 9. are you an artist?
Yeah! Got an art blog and everything> 10. do you have a creed?
I used this in question no. 30 earlier but honestly? It sums up things pretty well:“I’m gonna sleep and I’m gonna wake up and I swear by everything in this deadly horrible universe i’m gonna make someone happy.”> 11. describe your ideal day.
Personal or social ideal day? I mean, probably just chilling n hanging with friends you know? Maybe going out to a park or movie or bookstore n screwing around with terrible book recommendations or “hey I dare you to down that entire smoothie in one go” “$5 and consider it Done.” Dumb stuff.A game of like, smash bros or mario cart. Or an intense monopoly showdown - movie w popcorn or whatever other snacks, possible blanket fort shenanigans or just this giant mess of covers on the ground everyone’s sitting on. Lying down n sharing cool ideas about space. Or earth. Or that weird looking bug you saw that one time and it _might_ have been a leaf, but who really cares? It looked cool and makes for a neat story. You know?I dunno
> 12. dog person or cat person?
CAT i’m cool with dogs for shorter periods of time but i could live three-hundred years with a cat
> 13. inside or outdoors?
Summer? indoors. Winter? outdoors. Florida? Indoors 24/7
> 14. are you a musician?
Man i Wish! I’ve tried guitar, drums and piano but to no avail. I’ve got a hand-me-down guitar tho, so I do wanna pick it back up at some point.
> 15. five most influential books over your lifetime.
1. It’s Kind of a Funny Story by Ned Vizzini2. The Raven Cycle series by Maggie Stiefvater3. Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy by Adam Douglas4. Percy Jackson and the Olympians by Rick Riordan5. The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
> 16. if you’d grown up in a different environment, do you think you’d have turned out the same?
I would have a much, much lower heat tolerance. Like, jeez.
> 17. would you say your tumblr is a fair representation of the “real you”?
To some extent, yea
> 18. what’s your patronus?
A lizard, probably
> 19. which Harry Potter house would you be in? or are you a muggle?
Slyherin
> 20. would you rather be in Middle Earth, Narnia, Hogwarts, or somewhere else?
Probably Camp Half-Blood! Or Henrietta
> 21. do you love easily?
Platonically? Definitely.
> 22. list the top five things you spend the most time doing, in order.
1. Sleeping2. Social Media3. Art4. Watching/Reading things5. Drinking espresso to stay up lmao
> 23. how often would you want to see your family every year?
Dunno, haven’t been away for a long time before
> 24. have you ever felt like you had a “mind-meld” with someone?
oh HECK yea. Totally drift compatible
> 25. could you live as a hermit?
At one point I probably could’ve? But heck nah probably not today.
> 26. how would you describe your gender/sexuality?
Gender: Male. Sexuality: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
> 27. do you feel like your outside appearance is a fair representation of the “real you”?
Yea! I’d say so
> 28. on a scale from 1 to 10, how hard is it for someone to get under your skin?
7? There are a few things I go from 0 to 60 (which i need to chill with, honestly.) but the majority of things don’t fall into that category. So normally, pretty hard. But when you do end up hitting a nerve, it’ll probably show
> 29. three songs that you connect with right now.
The Moss by Cosmo SheldrakePilot by Amber RunEarth by Sleeping At Last
> 30. pick one of your favorite quotes.
I used it in no. 10 so here’s another:
“If you can’t be unafraid, Henry said, be afraid and happy.” ― Maggie Stiefvater, The Raven King
#rebelholt#bRUH JEEZ#THAT TOOK ACTUAL HOURS ISTG ???#i mean we hd terrible internet but STILL#TYSMM LMAO#!!!#STAR GIFTS#about me
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