i would also like it on the record that I'm not just trying to get my dad fired for vengeance or shit like that, I'd really like to just move on with my life and forget he exists. I mean all my therapy from 15-18 was all about him and how I will never have a relationship with him. so by the time I was 18 I was already emotionally checked out and just over everything to do with him. I cut him off, wasn't angry/sad at all. I didn't wish karma would get him or anything like that because I literally just didn't care about him enough to actively hate him, he didn't even cross my mind most days. but recently he's making it very difficult for me to forget he exists, so I'm just getting him fired so he can't afford his favorite hobby, which is giving my mom/sibling insane amounts of anxiety by throwing money away to drag them back to family court repeatedly. for no fucking reason.

well, at least no logical reason. my mom's bf has an attorney he's been best friends with since they were kids and said the friend would represent my mom for free if push came to shove because she won't be able to afford one, but after hearing the details he literally just started laughing and said my mom definitely won't need him because my dad has literally no case. my dad is also trying to sue my mom for contempt of court for dEnYiNg HiM vIsItAtIon, because his moronic brain is fixated on this fantasy that since he's the Good Christian Man so my mom will be found guilty of contempt and go to prison so he'll get custody of my sibling by default and obviously I'll be forced to move in with him too or I'll be homeless since I don't have a job and he doesn't seem to comprehend the fact that I actually do have friends who would help me if that happened. (and also I would literally live on the streets before living with him 🙃) and anyways his own attorney is encouraging him to drop the contempt thing because

a) he has no case for being denied visitation because he only asks to have my sibling once in a blue moon less than 12 hours in advance, which the court won't see as reasonable

b) my mom has lowkey threatened that if he does go through with it she'll sue him for contempt of court, and both my mom's bf's lawyer friend and my dad's attorney both said that my mom would have a much stronger contempt case than his 💀 the custody agreement made when I was 15 and he tried this shit the first time had something stating both parents must listen to what therapists say regarding visitation, and he has tried to actively go against their recommendations so many fucking times. not just my sibling, but with me before I was 18 too. sleeping anywhere aside from home so my therapist said no overnights indefinitely. he could still have me almost his whole visitation time, he just had to drop me off at night to sleep and pick me back up in the morning. he was totally fine with this for like a month, but despite my therapist not saying anything about changing it he just kinda decided that it no longer applied and started demanding I sleep there. and more recently a lot of the times he's claiming he was denied visitation in the contempt case were times when he was tryna drag my sibling over to Ohio to hang with his shit family, despite their therapist saying it was an extremely bad idea.

but back on track to me wanting to get him fired; even though all the legal stuff is an easy win for us, it still takes a lot of time and is incredibly stressful so we really don't even care about beating him or anything. my mom really doesn't want to sue him for contempt of court because that's another time consuming stressful thing, she just feels like she's going to have to. literally our ideal scenario is that he just realizes he's throwing away money and drops everything and fucks off, then I would move on with my life and not get him fired because I would just be beyond caring. but he’s an absolute fucking moron, so he's not ever going to willingly drop all the shit (I think he might drop the contempt on his own, but once again he's enough of a moron that he very well may not)

so unfortunately I do have to invest more of my time/energy/emotions in him because getting him fired is really the only realistic scenario in which he just drops everything and leaves us alone. until that happens, he'll keep buzzing around us like a fly. not an actual threat/danger, but still extremely annoying.