Once again wishing that there was an identity based around the lived experience of hardline indefinite romantic and sexual refusal that was not also based around trying to police other people's personal choices in regards to sexual/romantic activity

All the people who want what I want in terms of community tend to be like. We're The True™ Aces/Aros type people (which I'm not, as much as I do not understand why a person who experiences partial/occasional attraction or interest would want to identify as ace/aro, I accept that many do because I don't have to understand another's lived experience to accept it) or like. Antisexuals, who genuinely fucking terrify me.

I would really like for an indefinite refusal community to exist without quibbling over who's a Valid (I hate that fucking word) Ace/Aro or trying to make sex illegal but I guess I'm shit out of luck and have to sit here pretending to have things in common with sex-favorable kinky cupiosexuals and romo aros if I want to have anything resembling community