Every time I see someone use Purple Haze Feedback for 'UwU FuGio real!!' or paint Giorno as a coldhearted sadistic master manipulator I feel myself coming closer and closer to snapping

FuGio anon asking for advice:

I forgot to mention that I'll show my headcanons to others who ship FuGio and they usually love them. Granted, I'm friends with the people I share them with and I think they only say positive shit because we're friends. I did talk to someone else about the "what if they're just saying positive things because we're friends?" And their response was "That's probably just an insecurity thing." It totally is an insecurity thing and I don't know what to do 😭😭😭😭

i get this as well HFJKDSLG i'm a chronic "omg they're just being nice"-er, it's like my brain won't allow me to acknowledge praise as legitimate sometimes 😩 which is a Very hard thing to overcome!

i just try to tell myself that people aren't going to waste their time saying something if they don't mean it, which is probably not helpful advice bc tbh it often doesn't work for me LOL... i play the whole 'fake it til you make it' act bc i think people are more drawn to others who can confidently and openly share what they make, if that makes sense? and if the fugio enjoyers in your life are enjoying your content then you're definitely doing something right!!

ultimately i'd say just keep doing what you're doing and be proud of what you make and share with other people! insecurity won't go away overnight but surrounding yourself with supportive people is always super helpful! 💜

How did you get started on writing your Risotto things and being confident enough to share them to Tumblr? I have a shit ton of FuGio headcanons and I've considered posting them to Tumblr but I'm scared of being judged.

I'll show my headcanons to others who ship FuGio and they usually love them. Granted, I'm friends with the people I share them with and I think they only say positive shit because we're friends. I don't know what to do 😭😭😭😭

I started writing back in 2008 on LiveJournal I think? And I was writing on and off on Tumblr and Ao3 a little while after that. Really my sole motivation was just wanting to share fun ideas and stories with my friends. Goddamn I'm fandom old. Or maybe fandom middle aged I guess is more accurate LOL.

I might be a bad person to come to for advice on this because I really did jump into it all not really thinking about the reactions strangers would have to my stuff and was more focused on having fun with my friends. I still really hold onto the belief that this is all for fun, and you should be first and foremost be writing for yourself. If you're not enjoying what you're doing in fandom then it's time to take a step back and reassess your priorities.

Risotto is actually the character that actually brought me out of a years long writing slump and jjba made me want to participate in fandom and not just watch it from the sidelines for the first time in probably even longer then that. I can't explain why other then I read lots of good fics and was inspired but all the kind people I saw in fandom, especially on the self ship side of it all. I did what I did when I first started out and jumped into it not too nervous about if people would think of my interpretations of characters.

Because that's the thing, this is all for fun, and these are fictional characters. Sure there will be people that will disagree with you or try to send you hate but I've found that: 1.) The haters can always be blocked and also ridiculed right back (imagine harassing someone over fictional characters, yikes) and 2.) The people who love and enjoy your writing will always be more vocal and will be there to support you.

As for your thoughts about your friends: I think this is a case of low self esteem that's trying to make you feel like shit and sabotage you. It's a very dangerous mindset to have, and you need to put a stop to it ASAP. I know I sound over dramatic about it but that's because it will only get worse with time and prevent you from doing the things you truly want to do not just within fandom but in life in general as well.

I think a very good rule of thumb to go by in life is: Take people's actions and words at face value. Anything your friends might not like or have a problems with is going to remain their problems until they can tell it to you in words like an adult.

So I bet you're head canons are great anon and that you're friends genuinely love them. In the end it can only be your decision to share them or not with the rest of tumblr.