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Alright, just wanted to type out my thoughts on the first half of Dear.M before I start watching episode 7 in a bit. Overall, I don't find the romances enticing enough for them to be the main plot, except for Mok-jin and Young's possible romance. I do think Cha Min-ho makes for a good main character, and I enjoy watching the roommate dynamics, but there isn't enough time put into the leading characters to see them all as individuals.

Cha Min-ho is a sweetheart. There was that sense of, Huh? These girls are dumping this dude? when his unfortunate dating history is shown. But, really, anyone can be treated like a pushover, so I don't mind it. Seeing Min-ho already having a wedding fund for his sister truly made me tear up. That is incredibly considerate and thoughtful of him, and I think it showed off the core of his character the best. Min-ho is loyal. He is a good friend and a good brother. He’s good at what he does, and he’s overall a nice guy who is focused on getting his work done.

I wish there were more time dedicated to Mok-jin and Young, because I think they're the most likable characters. I’m excited to see their romance unfold. I just love couples in which the guy is a bit out of his element. Mok-jin calling Young scary. Yes. This is exactly what I want. Mok-jin witnessing Young dumping someone and him trying to leave unnoticed with literally nothing to hide behind was so funny to me. Anyway, love them dearly <3.

Let me talk about the love square. Now, I must premise this with the fact that I am a big fan of CLC, and Eunbin is one of my favorite members, so I obviously have a bias toward her and would have liked to see her more in the drama, but I don’t really care for Yang-hee.

I can't tell if Min-ho is meant to be in love with Joo-ah already, but it seemed to me like he considered her truly just a friend until she started becoming interested in Joon. For one, I'm not one to like when romantic feelings begin with jealousy, but it's not super overdone here. Min-ho and Yang-hee going to the exhibit at the same time is a bit off-putting, but Min-ho isn't overly rude or jealous to the point of being obvious. My primary annoyance with romances stemming out of an initial jealousy is feeling like the romance should have begun on its own, not just because of a third party disrupting the dynamic, but with longtime childhood-to-adult friendships, I can understand why this could happen. Still, it’s just not my favorite way to see a friends-to-lovers story play out. Regardless of this, it bothers me that Joo-ah and Joon clearly have better romantic chemistry than Joo-ah and Min-ho. Joo-ah and Min-ho are incredibly comfortable with each other, but there isn’t really an underlying tension of potential romance in their interactions beforehand. There isn’t a sense of longing and yearning on either of their parts, or at least not enough to be convincing.

Joon and Yang-hee’s characters are really not fleshed out enough for them to feel important. I do like Joon and Joo-ah’s chemistry, but the attempt at giving him this backstory of failing as a CEO’s son and having to settle for a lower-ranking school was, again, not convincing to me. Yang-hee doesn’t really have any nuance. She’s a rich, pretty girl who isn’t too worried about her future. Her indirect comment about Joo-ah being out of Min-ho's league was rude and unnecessary and honestly felt out of character. Even when she speaks about the “disadvantages” of having low-income students at their university, she doesn’t say it out of spite. She speaks objectively, even if her opinion is inherently hurtful toward Joo-ah and comes from her privileged socioeconomic level. All this goes to say that the set-up for what I assume will end in Min-ho and Joo-ah dating is not well-written in my opinion. There are moments that truly make me enjoy their friendship, like Joo-ah coming back to comfort him, and Min-ho standing between her and some guys from their dorm building who were glancing over at her in her bathrobe. However, this romance just falls short.

The love triangle between Ji-min, Ha-neul, and Ro-sa is just so terribly annoying, and I felt like it consumed so much of the story. Ha-neul is worried about himself and his girlfriend. He's not peaking over at Ro-sa romantically at all. So, why is Ro-sa so dead set on going out with him? It has be her envy. Now, granted, Ha-neul is a nice and attractive guy, but Ro-sa's out here fighting with Ji-min like he's the creme of the crop, which he isn't. This comes down to Ro-sa trying to win one over Ji-min, which is so stupid. Ji-min is a genuine friend and truly celebrates Ro-sa’s wins, but Ro-sa can’t celebrate Ji-min’s wins because she trying to be the better of the two. What bothers me most about Ro-sa is that she’s throwing away the chance at a really great friendship with Ji-min. Who cares if you don’t have a boyfriend right now? You don’t need a boyfriend! In regards also to the older student harassing Ro-sa, it doesn’t excuse her behavior, but he needs to step away and leave her alone.

I have not watched Love Playlist, so I don’t know Ji-min and Ha-neul’s story, but their relationship does not feel secure in Dear.M. The scene in which Ha-neul not knowing what he likes about Ji-min was uncomfortable to watch. They don’t seem to trust each other, and this only gets worse once Ji-min starts recognizing Ro-sa’s feelings for Ha-neul. I don’t understand why they’re not more transparent with one another. Ha-neul, I think, is just naive, and Ji-min feels like she shouldn’t be a burden to Ha-neul because of his father passing and him switching majors. They could be a great couple if they were more open about their issues. When Ji-min breaks up with Ha-neul, initially I thought, oh, it’s great that she recognizes her lack of trust and sees this as something she needs to work on to make this relationship work. Now, I think she should have given him a reason for breaking up with him. He deserved that much, because she made him feel like he was at fault, even if she said otherwise. Then, when she got to the dorm and started crying about him not trying to stop her ... I had to pause for a moment. Because why in the world did you say you wanted to break up if what you really wanted was to feel assured that he likes you, that he’d choose you over everyone else? Talk to him about this! Don’t leave him guessing what went wrong! Maybe I’m the naive one. Who knows? What I do know is that I don’t think people should be playing mind games with their partners. A genuine relationship should not crumble this easily.

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