holly is nb not in the “oh being intersex means youre nonbinary or trans by default (which is objectively false)” way but in the “was the firstborn child of two parents with expectations that ranged wildly on either end of an extreme spectrum and didn’t take it well when their child didn’t go through puberty the way they expected lending to the development of an intense loathing both for said parents and for the idea of being gendered by other people entirely” way