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svtskneecaps · 4 years

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ok so i dreamed

so there was this kid right and i guess he was one of the kids that lives in the houses behind mine, but i'm just chilling in my seat by the windows and suddenly he's next to me like hey guys :) and i was like bro wtf??? bc i mean I WAS ON THE SECOND FLOOR, turns out my brain thought there was a ladder (i didn't see a ladder, but i guess he had one) and he'd busted a hole in the window screen (if he wasn't cute i'd be mad)

there were also adults fighting in my yard, like throwing shit, and also a guy in red on the patio who i was sure was a minecraft creeper and i was like "this dumbass with the sword is gonna blow up part of my house!" but he didn't explode and i guess turned into stone so he's probably some form of batman villain

anyway then my mom was like "alright we're gonna have dinner" so i went into the kitchen (and idek where the kid is he's just gone) and apparently they were having problems with the fridge and also wonwoo was there, so then i had to go into the other room and climb a wall video game style and i guess go through a window to fix it so that was weird, also i made a tumblr post about it

but i never got dinner cause instead i ended up driving to somebody's mansion or something like i was in my little red chevy but with me was this heiress girl who was related to the people who owned the mansion and lived there, some blond curly haired guy who was lowkey cute and had a name that started with a B, probably wonwoo still (although he said 'seeya' p quick and dipped out of the dream), and a wild and random assortment of adults related to the heiress (it was like a clown car in there)

i guess B had been involved in the fighting in my yard? he was there with some other like man (B was like 16 or 17 while the other guy was like grizzled warrior style, like a mentor-mentee situation) and the heiress and her family went into the mansion dining room and he and the other dude went to talk to a couple people in the house, by order of the heiress's family. grizzled man was not happy. B just looked kinda scared

i kinda watched this bit almost like a movie? they split them up and i sorta stuck with B as kind of half-present, half-camera, and this like police officer / therapist woman talked to him for a minute and did a stat check, and there was a laugh track after certain things she said (but none of it was funny and she didn't know when to pause for the laugh track she always waited too long, i was annoyed. she also almost found my tumblr somehow, so i was like panic scrolling through it to make sure it couldn't be traced back to me; while i was doing that i found out i'd boight wonwoo like six black sweatshirts, not sure why but i think he liked them so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ )

and then eventually, the heiress, B and i decided it was time to skip town, so we booked it across their giant parking lot of a driveway (it was in front of their mansion but it was just a straight up parking lot) to get to my car, and B's not very good at running but he's doing his best! (at one point here i said his name bc he was like almost caught but i still don't remember what it was)

and by the time we finally get to my car, the heiress had to split off i guess to buy us time, so i peel out of the parking space and take out a white picket fence or two on my way and we go back around the parking lot to find her, but she's not there. instead we get flagged down by two workers who point us to a U-Haul trailer or some crap, where two of the heiress's relatives are standing (think the aunts from james and the giant peach). they're wearing wigs but we can still see their natural hair and we're like well. she's here somewhere

and then i never found her cause i woke up

although it wasn't for lack of trying. i tried to go back. i swear.

#not kpop #shut up vic #dumb dream

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Forget screen time rules: Lean in to parenting your wired child, author says

The overuse of technology has overtaken drugs, sex and bullying as the biggest parental worry, according to the annual Brigham Young and Deseret News American Family Survey.

But what are we actually supposed to be doing about it?

Jordan Shapiro, a Temple University professor whose background is in philosophy and psychology, has a prescription that might surprise you. In his new book, The New Childhood, his argument is that we’re not spending enough screen time with our kids.

“One of the things I suggest in the book is that kids should be starting on social media much younger,” he says. And, play more video games with your kids, too.

After Shapiro’s divorce, he found himself solo parenting two little boys (now 11 and 13) who were obsessed with video games. He started playing the games simply as a way to connect with them. Then he discovered connections between the emotional catharsis and interactive storytelling on the screen, and thinkers like Carl Jung and Plato. He came to realize that part of his job as a parent was to help his children make sense of their online experiences and teach them how to uphold enduring values in the new world they are living in.

Now, he thinks about the intersection of child development and digital media as a senior fellow for the Joan Ganz Cooney Center at Sesame Workshop and nonresident fellow in the Center for Universal Education at the Brookings Institution.

Shapiro spoke to NPR about his new book and approach. The following interview has been shortened and edited for clarity.

You teach the core curriculum at Temple University and helped adapt it to an online version. How do your studies inform your thinking about YouTube and Facebook?

My background is ancient philosophy. I think we have very few new values. I love the old stuff — Plato and Homer. All the world’s great religions have tons of wisdom to offer us in a changing world. We need to figure out how to apply how they lived to a very different time and place. If you look historically — let’s say every hundred years, there’s these huge transitions that require giant adaptations so [the old ways] are still meaningful.

You talk in the book about how a lot of expert advice focuses on simply limiting the screens, but that doesn’t help us teach our kids how to make that kind of transition or that adaptation, to interact ethically in the digital world.

Right. People are trying to do things like device-free dinner because they are scared of the way work and home have enmeshed.

Home was safe, and now these devices bring the entire world inside. Are your kids home or are they in Fortnite? They’re here and somewhere else — in the ugly agora and within the beautiful picket fence.

But it’s good to have some respite from the outside world and the digital world, right?

Sure. We have family dinner in our house. It’s mostly device-free. No one should be watching YouTube videos the whole time. But most of the time we have conversations that necessitate pulling up a YouTube video or Googling something to make a point.

They’re not going to learn good date behavior if they’ve never had a phone before.

How are we going to maintain those positive things, the compassion, ethics, good social skills and intimate relationships, if we’re teaching them to live in a world that doesn’t look like the world they’re living in?

Can you give some more concrete examples of how you teach kids to maintain positive values in the digital world?

Let’s take violent video games. All tools should be facilitating our ability to create a more meaningful, more just world. Sometimes our children are going to seek out violent games.

And we teach them violence is bad, but playing violent make-believe isn’t necessarily bad.

Do you still play video games with your kids? What do you do if you’re just not a gamer? I’m not.

Not as much, because they’re much better than me now. But I still talk to them about it; I ask them to show me what they’re playing; I’ll watch them. I’ll tease them and say, this looks stupid, explain to me why you’re interested. You can tell them the reasons you don’t like it, as long as it’s a conversation and not a scolding.

We teach them how to make sense of the narratives they construct. Whether you’re talking about video games or social media or YouTube, how do you enable them to construct a meaningful narrative in relationship to these artifacts?

And your approach seems to be kind of like the Socratic method — you ask questions.

That’s part of it, yes. So my sons are into these YouTube videos where kids open toys. It’s the most disgusting representation of consumerism I can imagine. Just a terrible kind of video.

It’s incredibly popular too — in fact an 8-year-old with a toy channel was the top moneymaker on YouTube last year.

Right. I don’t think, ‘Oh it shouldn’t exist.’ I’m in favor of free speech. But then if my kids watch it, I want to have the conversation about why I find this attitude so weird and problematic, and I want to teach them to think about it that way. So now after having lots of these conversations, the first thing they do with every YouTube video they watch is ask, who paid for it, what are they trying to sell me?

So the idea is that they internalize your ethical voice?

We spend their entire lives teaching them how to share, how to get along. The alternative is throwing 20 kids into a room, locking the door, and saying don’t worry, they’ll end up hugging. That’s kind of what we do when we put a hormonal prepubescent on social media for the first time.

And this is why you say kids should be starting on social media much younger than they are?

If we want to get rid of the horrible stuff happening on Twitter right now, then we need to model it for kids when they’re 7 and all they want to do is be like their parents. I think we should have church groups and sports teams, small social media groups, so adults can model what to do. Or large families can have a family social network. You can share pictures and maybe you do gently tease someone, so they see the difference between kind and mean teasing.

This came up recently in one of my conversations with a 16-year-old girl and her mother. She was exasperated that all her aunts were following her on Instagram, using her childhood nickname, leaving embarrassing comments, but her mother was happy to have so many people looking out for her.

I learned to be able to have a civil argument at holiday dinners. I watched my parents, uncles and aunts have political arguments, with love and kindness, also sarcasm and also teasing. That’s how I know how to do it at a dinner table.

The American Academy of Pediatrics supports this idea of joint media engagement, basically engaging alongside your kids, as you suggest, whether with games, videos or social media. But isn’t there such a thing as too much screen time?

When people talk about addiction, I think it’s weird we want to blame the digital media because you can form unhealthy relationships with lots of things — food, sex, work, money.

And what we do is we try to teach people how to not develop those relationships.

We don’t blame the eating, sex, work or money itself.

And what I’m often trying to explain is that we’re seeing unhealthy relationships because we’re leaving our kids to figure it out on their own.

We’re using screens as a babysitter.

There’s an interesting study that recently came out that looked at how parents and young children were interacting around devices. It showed that this joint media engagement is not happening.

Most interactions are negotiations about how much to use, or tech support kinds of things. And almost no discussion of what they’re actually doing on the screen, and when it is discussed it’s usually initiated by the kids.

I feel like part of the problem is that parents are getting essentially abstinence-only education, like in sex education. The research on that says, if all you hear is, “Just say no,” it has no positive effects.

Nobody actually thinks we’re going to have a world without [tech]. They’re aiming for that healthy relationship. A healthy relationship is you being able to have the autonomy to make good decisions. That’s what we’re trying to teach our kids — to make those decisions. If we make it all about here’s the restrictions, the on/off switch mentality, that doesn’t teach them to make smart, autonomous decisions.

NPR is partnering with Sesame on a new podcast called Life Kit. Much like Jordan Shapiro’s new book, it will provide overviews of problems or questions in areas where NPR has deep expertise — starting with personal finance, health and wellness, and parenting.

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