julien   has   this   …       claim   …       over   camille   .       and   it’s   wrong   .       god   ,   it’s   all   sorts   of   wrong   .       but   he   charmed   her   away   from   her   ex   once   ,   didn’t   he   ?       so   why   wouldn’t   he   think   he   could   do   it   again   ?       “   so   ,   i   hear   darius   has   emerged   from   his   …       comment   dit - on   ?       ah   ,   yes   ,   hiding   place   ,   ”       mumbles   ,   lips   ghosting   her   neck   ,   barely   touching   ,   breath   warm   on   her   skin   .       he’s   so   damn   confident   ,   so   very   sure   ,   as   fingers   tilt   her   chin   up   ,   up   to   meet   his   gaze   .       “   to   that   ,   i   propose   a   night   out   .       just   you   and   i   .       oh   ,   and   a   horde   of   paparazzi   ,   of   course   .       think   of   the   message   that’ll   send   ,   hmm   ?       it’ll   paint   such   a   vivid   picture   of   where   your   loyalties   truly   lie   .   ”       //       @salvateure

hey ! can u write a fic with frenkie and the reader at the beach please ? 🫶🏻

Lovers at the Beach - Frenkie De Jong

Summary: You and your husband have a fun day at the beach after his winning season

"Frenkie, babe!" You said as he dribbled past you and scored in your made up goal. He had taken the ball from you as you fell on the sand with a pout on your face, watching your three months husband cheer and pointed his left ring finger before kissing it.

As much as you tried to be mad at him for fouling you, you couldn't.

Once you got married he said that would be his celebration, kiss where his left ring finger, dedicating you each and every single one of his goals.

"I love the celebration but you fouled me!"

"I didn't! I took a nice and clean take"

"Nice and clean, my ass. I'm full of sand thanks to you!" He laughed as you stood up

"For starters, you ass is nice but it isn't clean now, it is full of sand"

"Oh shut up, De Jong" You crunched down and threw him a bit of sand as it hitted his toned chest "That's a clear penalty" You murmur once he gets closer to you

It wasn't but you two laughed. You were pretty far away from his goal and he indeed, took the ball nicely from you, you just aren't ussed to it so you quickly lost balance and fell.

You have been on the beach the whole day, he was having a well deserved break from the intense season they had and gladly ended up winning and you two thought coming into this relaxed and beautiful place for you both could be a good celebration. You have lunched, had some snacks, did a bit of everything, sunbathing, talked, played a bit of poker, walking, etc... And now the sun was setting meaning you in a few moments were about to go back home.

You wrapped your arms around his shoulders as his went to your lower waist pulling you into him, he leaned down and kissed your lips softly, you couldn't help but smile into the kiss making Frenkie smile too and break it

"Five years of relationship and you still don't know how to play" He tasked as you laughed burying your face into his cheek laughing "I must be doing something wrong"

"Absolutely nothing at all" You said "You're just a lot better than me" He pushed his lips out and nodded

"I am"

"You're also so full of yourself, can't believe I'm dating you"

"Married me actually"

"Yeah, that" You said as you lifted your left hand to show him your ring finger proudly "I can't believe it"

"What?"

"That I married my soulmate" Frenkie smiled and he pulled you into another kiss, this one longer

"Glad to know we feel the same way" He said before giving a few slaps to your ass, making you flinch

"DE JONG!!!" You exclaimed at his boldness as he laughed "We're in public"

"So...?"

"Who are you and what did you did to my PDA reserved husband?" He laughed hard

"Let's get into the water, mi amor" He said winking at you before slapping your ass once more making you run after him to slap his

"No, you come back here! I need to get my revenge!" You yelled once he was into the water and you couldn't achieve your goal

"We should definitely put you to do a bit more of cardio" He jokingly said as you threw some water at his face "It's on, Ms. De Jong" You smiled hearing your new last name but stepped back seeing him swim towards you

"No, that was my revenge! Frenkie!" You yelled before he pulled the two of you into the water and kissed you underneath it. You followed him before both of you came out for oxygen.

Inmediately, your legs were around his waist and his arms around yours pulling you into him

"I love you so much" You said, he smiled and kissed you once again before pulling away and whispering against your lips

"Ik hou meer van jou, schat" (I love you more, baby)

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Taglist: @gaviypedrisbride @stuckinaf4nfiction @elijahslover @azzpenswrld

so on saturday i had a kinda eventful day like to start i saw my good old friend at barnes and nobles during my break and we were catching up and talking about our lives 

during out talk she was telling me stories abt her awful AP physics teacher and me and her were cracking up omg it was so funny and thats what imma talk about rn

like this guy- for starters i just assumed hes like very awkward and shit like that bc the way my friend was wording this made him sound so awkward 

okay to start this physics teacher literally does not have a teaching NOR a physics degree- he was hired because my friends catholic school was desperate

his degree is w mechanical science ? and he just graduated from college a year from when he started to teach my friends class LOL

1. some stories she told me: one time he was reading this long physics thing, and he was trying to simplify what was being told in the packet by saying the word ‘bitch-slapped’. then a kid literally snitched on him (who snitches at this age like fr) so the higher ups of the school literally made him say an apology in front of the class- and when he did it was so monotone and awkward like the kids obviously didnt care but yeah-

2. context;my friend is the president of the creative writing club, so her physics teacher asked her to confirm if she was the president. my friend then said yes, so then the physics teacher randomly just handed my friend a packet of some fantasy story of his (without asking) so she can give advice that she never agreed on giving—

3. then my friend read it (and told me it was okay) but the NEXT day he hands her a packet of his writing (still without asking) for her to read. this one was a ‘non fictional’ story which was literally about his terrible love life and his breakup with his ex girlfriend and how he thinks he will never find love and wasnt meant to be loved—

ok but bro ik this is sad and all but when my friend told me this me and her were DYINGGG in the barnes and nobles because literally what teacher reveals this amount of his personal life to some random student he doesnt know LOLL

so yeah my friend finally gave him his packets back (not because she finished with them, but because its unprofessional and awkward)

4. there was a time that a boy in the class (indian, and this is for context) told another girl (also indian) to go back to India. of course i know theyre both indian but i think it was rude in that moment because i dont think they were friends yknow- so yeah the physics teachers overheres and, respectively, was like “hey dont say stuff like that blah blah blah”.

5. so the next day comes to which he announces to the class that he has something to say about the incident.. mind you, the girl yesterday literally says, “no its okay, we already made up he apologized,” but the teacher was like “no i already had this speech prepared the day before,”. and so he had said his whole speech thing which was rlly awkward or something

6. then he started to tie it in with his own life and starting to talk about himself saying he was asexual because he hadnt been in a relationship (or because he thought no one would be in a relationship...? idkidk)... but like thats not even what asexual means so i couldnt even imagine how all the kids were reacting LOL

7. “i may not know physics but i want you guys to at least leave here with life advice” 

8. there was a time where he literally didnt show up to class for a good 15 minutes. the students were waiting for this man for that whole period of time wondering where the hell he is.... then when a student was like “im going to go to the office to tell them thats there no teacher,” this guy literally sppears from UNDER THE DESK and was like “no im here haha dont worry” ??????

9. no one knew if he was trying to make the class laugh or something but everyone was like ‘yo why did u do that’. like no one was laughing at all it was just awkward. he then proceeded to act like nothing happened after

10. end of the year and he ended getting fired

bestie you’ve done it again with Sincerely Not, posting bangers after bangers and i’m so excited for what this has in store even if i’m kinda recovered from Wastelands lol

for starters, I wanna fight Satoru, acting like a true undeveloped sagittarius when it comes to relationships and idk if it’s because ik damn well he a fire sign and i’m a water sign and they’re not compatible at all (i know from experience sigh) or if it’s just my fight or flight responding whenever he acts like an ass to MC but my 5’2 ass wants to personally throw hands with this man soooo badly because of this shit, lIKE HOMEBOY YOU SAID WHAT YOU SAID, MC LEFT TO THE COMFORT OF HER HOME AND YOURE GETTING ANGRY FOR WHAT????

When Yuuta got barley mentioned i deadass started rooting for Yuuta to come through and be a better person for MC and then i gave myself flashbacks from Wastelands when Haru got introduced and i had a moment and reflected on what i did. It’s only chapter 2 and i’m like 90% sure these two have never had any prior interactions let alone a possible relationship. Whatever happens in the near future, i’ll just be here and vibe out with the heavy angst and unrequited love tags like always and cry about it once shit starts really going down. #JusticeForMC

And for Sera, i can’t really pin point it but home girl here gives me both Mina from Love, Always and Lara from Remember Forever vibes and i’m hoping it’s not gonna end up like Lara because i remember vividly how much i wanted to curb stomp her , idk but deadass i’m hoping that she’s not a bad person and we see more of a character actually interact with both MC and Satoru because ik she got some baggage that’ll cause some drama or not. Not to antagonize homie here after giving the benefit of the doubt, because i’m hoping that she’s understanding like Mina from L.A. but i started thinking about how ironic it would be if Sera was lowkey having an affair with Satoru’s Dad on the side without Satoru knowing lmao.

Any how, it’s only chapter 2 and i know shit will soon pick up even quicker and i’ll be crying to drake, under blue led lights, and into a bottle of sangria or rosé over yet another of your fics because even if i claim that i’m numb, i’m really not because of how emotionally weak i get whenever you write anything angsty bc your writing is deadass one of my favorite things

As always Ai, i’ll be here when you post chapter 3 & i hope you’re taking care of yourself and you’re staying hydrated and sleeping properly!

undeveloped sagittarius 😭 but yesss satoru is the most sag man i’ve ever seen. yuuta will not be a love interest thoooo he’s just there as a step-bro and i agree that sera has a bit of mina in her. but we’ll see more of her soon 👁👁 thanks so much for supporting my fics bestie i’m cryin !! i hope u are doing fine <33

AND THE MEMES HELPJSNJ !!! from ufc til now they still make me laugh every single time i see them. they’re always so smart and funny ?? the ijichi one is particularly sending me 💀 thank u for doing god’s work ‼️

hi, i have pisces mars, how can i develop it? i suck

don’t do the whole “i suck” thing for starters. It’s hard ik especially for those of us who are mentally ill and/or went through trauma and have conditioned thoughts like these, but also it can be helpful to remind yourself that your thoughts do not define you and to redirect your thoughts rather than bully them away or blame yourself for them (let me know if you want resources on this!) so as to diminish later blowups/ guilt-tripping behaviours. a lot of Pisces mars people very much are willing to change their ways/ listen to other perspectives like you! telling people you suck doesn’t really come across as taking responsibility though, a lot of people will take offense to that - rightfully so - and think you’re being manipulative or simply looking for validation, acceptance or forgiveness. probably wasn’t your intention, it’s just important to think about how others would interpret our behavior. 

accept that feeling bad isn’t an excuse to avoid preemptively thinking about how your actions impact others, it takes practice but make a conscious effort and you’ll be surprised how much good you can do despite overwhelming emotions! in a similar vein though, do NOT ignore or repress or minimize your emotions for the sake of others. if anything that will lead to more uncontrolled anger, manipulative behavior, and self-pitying feelings/thoughts which further reinforce the unhealthy behaviours you’re trying to rid yourself of

BEWARE OF WHO YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH

if you can, avoid fixating on what you did wrong and feeling shame + guilt for it. focus on how you can improve or eliminate the behaviours you don’t like & more importantly how you can make it up to anyone you hurt - especially if that person is yourself. easier said than done, especially for the obsessive types, but again i find that redirecting thoughts makes this easier than blaming yourself for fixating on your guilt. it can be an endless cycle really. how do you apologise to others + how do you apologise to yourself? if you don’t do either of those much, start working from there

get feedback from others where appropriate but take the feedback with a grain of salt until you have multiple perspectives

watch self regulation skills vids or read about it or... cant believe i’m saying this.. listen to a p*dcast. whatever helps you absorb information the fastest. ideally you would learn about this through written/ spoken word of both your own and others, through audio, visually, artistically etc to master self-regulation but that’s obviously not realistic or convenient for everyone so start small with what seems most realistic to you!!! I know especially Pisces mars can get quickly lose interest or motivation when it comes to things involving thorough detail lol. the next point expands on this but what works for me is pretending I’m my own parent. in a way we all are our own parents, but emotionally investing myself in that fantasy helped me apply my energy to things I’d rather not do (like doing assignments is still very hard for me, and to avoid discouraging myself from doing them, i kind of have a conversation with myself about it and kind of take on the role of child + parent. this is just an example - sometimes it just helps to use your traits to your own advantage, like Pisces mars being more interested in fantasies/emotionally engaging things than boring menial tasks; i used an emotionally engaging fantasy to motivate myself to do work, be creative <3). avoid relying on others for regulation & discipline. this can be very difficult for some of us + i understand and empathize with this. the point here is to be as independent as you can be.  also something going wrong does not necessarily mean it’s a sign from the universe to stop trying i promise

on the note of independence, take steps to becoming your own cheerleader. motivate & encourage yourself through positive self talk. in times where you feel demotivated, helpless or worthless, and say encouraging things to yourself. be aware that this will often seem silly and a waste of energy and u know how much Pisces mars like to save their energy at all costs lmao so this is definitely a common, normal reaction but every time this discourages you, remind yourself that IT IS worth trying and YOU are worth trying for yourself. sometimes I literally have to say cheesy shit like “you can do this” out loud repeatedly until I convince myself. it’s tiring & maybe embarrassing but recovering from chronic self-pity is even more tiring and embarrassing. avoid relying on others to uplift you & make you feel better. not to say that people shouldn’t help people, but just so you’re able to have your own back as much as possible

be more intellectually present oh my god 🤡 I beg of you. this can be very difficult especially for people who deal with adhd/mental illness(es)/trauma/learning disorders/developmental disorders etc. I don’t have all the answers for that but one thing most of us can do is engage in activities that nurture our intellectual health more frequently ; whether that’s reading (nonfiction preferrably), doing newspaper puzzles, crosswords/sudoku apps, problem-solving activities that don’t involve emotional appeal, etc just do it often. we all know how emotionally attentive Pisces mars can be but engage your intellectual side gamers (i.e. don’t game). I say this as a Pisces mars myself lolz please this is literally self-care

ik this is a snooze point but physical stimulation especially exercise can be really good for emotional wellbeing/ release. otherwise find literally any form of release - healthy forms I cannot stress this enough

wrt anger, bitterness, feelings of defeat: Pisces placements often have an external locus of control and thrive when they consider/have faith in something bigger than them. could be astrology, spirituality, religion, art, community, culture, all of the above, whatever makes u feel connected.

question your own intentions (but don’t overdo this); why am i acting this way or feeling this way? am I fishing for attention? if so, is there anything I can do to give myself the same warm feeling attention/validation from others would give me? am I acting like this because I feel hurt or taken advantage of? if so, is it possible for me to have a safe, healthy conversation about this with the source of the problem? WHAT is the source of the problem? what can i do about it? write this down if you can somewhere private and read it back to yourself later, notice any cognitive distortions in your thinking and make adjustments. this will help you practice using your intellectual side in distressing moments but there’s less point in using your thinking if it’s warped if you feel that’s the case for you. so google cognitive distortions & how to deal with them to get examples! try to make the adjustments next time you feel overwhelmed or have heightened emotions/senses

be firmer with your boundaries. with others AND yourself. the less you resist against boundaries the more your life will know peace because you are more careful with the people and/or behaviours you allow into YOUR life. do *not* ease up on your boundaries for the sake of other people. betraying yourself for others or immediate gratification is rarely a good idea in the long run. I’ve done the mistake of betraying my values for others many times and it’s caused unnecessary conflict which we are notorious for avoiding. that is until the evil puppeteer living in our brains snaps their fingers and commands us to go ham

@vorhersage​​ said:    @youthblamed​ / @lightborrowcd​​    ( also sent by @treppenwitzz​​​​ )   ›   send me a url and i'll tell you the following ( accepting )

my opinion on:

character in general: sTOP i’m getting emotional even thinking about them. of course levi, who when i first followed over on roger was like okay neat this seems like a well developed oc nice vibe going on will put a pin in that... ( also side note even back then when i was still in the early development stages of my multi one of my main thoughts when reading the bio was ‘ hm levi and marty could get along.... ’ paul rudd vc: look at us.... ) ..... then we actually started plotting and i... was invested in 0.2 seconds i kid you not. levi is such a sweet but layered character, not overly ‘ main character special ’ ( uknow.... my absolute jam ik i don’t seem it but that’s my no. 1 fav oc type ) but still complex and fascinating and ?? i’m not kidding when i say i wanna know every detail about him .. i would high key risk it all for levi ... and then there’s bruce who is so fascinating to me because idk gotham or batman very well but for all i know this character now belongs to tara, i don’t make the rules that’s just how it is. i think he’s handled amazingly well with all these heavy topics while staying tasteful and respectful, you love to see it. 10/10 wanna know more about him. how they play them: nothing compares babey ! i mean they’re both © tara’s mind so there’s nothing to decide the ‘ accuracy ’ so... i’ll just keep rambling abt how much i love them ! bc i do! and the fact that tara knows every single little thing and has every vibe exactly Down and will put so much effort into mapping out every last little corner of their psyches and backgrounds ! and i know it doesn’t seem like people care but i care ! so much!! you put so much into these boys and it shows, they’re overflowing with it! they’re so vibrant! idk how else to put it and i’m lowkey crying writing this bc DAMN you do SUCH an amazing job. all the verses, all the headcanons, all the playlists and aesthetics, i’m so in awe with your mind. AND YOUR WRITING don’t get me started pls it’s immaculate and i WILL quote you at you with particularly spicy lines. the mun: not to be sappy or anything but i’m.... SO happy we started talking... if u couldn’t tell by me spamming u nonstop in a million different chats and servers...... you’re So kind and funny but also smart and talented NOT TO MENTION have great taste... i feel like we are on the same page on a lot of ( to me ) important things and i love that. it’s been not even a month? and i’m so comfortable around u ahh thank u for coming into my life i hope u have a great stay !!

do i:

follow them: of course best decision i ever made rp with them: yes !!!!! honestly mad and upset i didn’t sooner want to rp with them: just the fact that i’m writing up the millionth starter is a definite yes from me. ship their character with mine: no <3 jkjk marty and levi are the SOFTEST and even tho their dynamic is so uncomplicated ( at least in relation to regular tumblr brand ships oop— ) i can’t get enough of it .... also i love that it’s not angst-free but it’s the normal non-consequential teen angst of finding your way and longing for something you can’t even picture. plus the fact that they’re both so dramatic makes it just so supremely entertaining and light to write and i... need that tbh. otHERWISE um i’m open for anything! i have a LOT of muses and always willing to add more babey! and once u join the prophecies multi brand...... we could be unstoppable .........

what is my:

overall opinion: i have rambled sm already but overall tara is SUCH an amazing person and writer and i’m SO lucky we talk.... thank u sm..... my stay on this blog wouldn’t be the same without her

note: mun’s answer are all to be completely honest. don’t send url if you don’t want brutal honesty.

🥝🥝🥝🥝🥝

This was like the hardest list i ever had to make. i want everyone to know they’re all my faves, but i was asked for five and I esp gave some love to peeps I notice y’all are sleeping on? So I’m bringing them to the light :D

@vancuxer​: lmfao i don’t even know where to start. how long as it been? 2?? 3 years??? damn we’re crazy. but that’s why i love you! lizzy is number one and y’all aren’t even listed in order. she’s just number one and the rest fall into the same category. the greatest writer and probably the closest friend i have ever made on here. i can’t even express how grateful i am in just the rp world? like my muses have grown so much and it is 60% due to writing opposite to you. guys, you have no idea how wonderful this bitch can write and like discover things about your muses you didn’t even know you have. i trust her so much, she can get away with god modding if she wanted bc ik that’s how much she loves and respects my muses. I could keep going on how much ily but just thank you for being in ma life, both online and irl. also i’d probably have had like six-hundred mental breakdowns with you, so the fact you haven’t run for the hills, also adds in a bonus. bc i am crazy. 

@ciphvr​: my teenie, tiny bby!! the little sister i never thought i’d gain on here, but somehow did! But boy can this wonderful little munchkin write! And give advice! And just listen and be such a great friend. Tiny has the biggest heart and I think that’s what I admire most. Past her phenomenal writing skills, once you’re enclosed in her arms, you’ll never want to let go. Plus our threads are some of the greatest I’ve ever written? Like you bring out a side of my muses I never thought possible and it is simply because of how engaging your muses are? And you write so eloquently but still in a fashion that is understandable and legible? It’s a wonderful skill to have. And for you to have it so young still boggles my mind. I still cannot believe you were ever nervous to message me because you are on my level! A Beyonce for a Meghan! You’re the peanut butter to my jelly; the Canada to my Mexico, the Lucy to my Peter. ALSO SHE LIVES FOR DIVERSITY Y’ALL!!! CAN’T FIND THAT EVERYDAY! And yes, my girl Tiny is white, so the point is no one has excuses. Because if this woke baby  can give me some diversity in religion, race, and sexuality?? All y’all can too. The point is Tiny is better in every conceivable way than like 60% of you and you should be ashamed because you’re all at least 5 years older. 

@simplyamplex​: Wonderful starters, dynamic muses, and interesting plots: I cannot believe you have blessed me with your presence time and time again. Also that you keep giving me muses to write with. I never feel overwhelmed when I am replying to you because I have so much love and appreciation for our threads? Plus A, you’re like awesome to talk to. Old as a dinosaur (she didn’t know what drag me meant) but I love her anyways. If you guys need some big sister guidance in your life, this bitch is the one to go to. Also it is so hard to find someone who gives the same amount of attention to my females as they do my males???? You’re amazing sweetie, keep going. 

@regiiium: when i say y’all are sleeping on peeps I MEAN YOU ARE SLEEPING ON MAH BITCH RIGHT. HERE! An entire blog filled with mainly woc and all of their bios intersect? As in the majority of your interactions could overlap and create a broader storyline than you could’ve imagined? Idk what more y’all want. I can HC with Esme for DAYSSSS!! Like we could have two replies out and yet here I am, gabbing with you about everything that can be done. She is also such a great writer? I know I’m saying that about everyone about this list, but her specialty is interacting with your muse. Like whether they’re enemies, friends or romantic - her muses somehow make you explore yours in ways you never thought?? like I am so grateful her blog exists and??? sometimes the shit gets supernatural??? LIKE?? SLEEPING FOR WHAT? FOR WHAT! GO APPRECIATE MY BAE AND GIVE HER THE LOVE I KNOW ESME DESERVES THANK YOU!

@sapphickwrites​: idk what else to say other than she drives me nuts! jk. No she does, but in the best possible way. What is wrong with us??? We keep picking up plots like we’re insane and yet somehow are able to keep up with the plots we have now? Ugh. Anyways!!!! Another bae y’all need to get to know. I just- your muses? Are so different? And it shows so well??? Like even mine overlap sometimes, but not yours. You also write so that everyone can interact with you and not feel intimidated which is so rare in the RPC. Like you do this for complete fun and you make it such a relaxing activity for everyone. Idk if anyone has said it recently, but people like you are vital for the RPC to continue or we’d all be bitter scrubs yelling at each other. AND!! DIVERSITY TO THE MAX AGAIN? I haven’t seen like anyone have a John mofo Boyega which just goes to show you!!! Clearly I have a type (*cough* u use more than white fc’s *cough*). So again, this RPC would crumble without your dedication, compassion, and willingness to accept everyone into your blog??? I just feel so at home with you, whether it’s writing our threads or messaging you through IM. Plus we’re both nasty ;) with our muses so that’s a win/win in my opinion. 

@xleialevinex: PHEWWWWW ANOTHER ONE Y’ALL KEEP SLEEPING ON!! HONESTLY Y’ALL NEED TO JUST WRITE WHO I WRITE WITH OR ELSE YOU’LL BE MISSING OUT ON SOME GREAT PEOPLE?? Like my girl Bri! With one muse, she’s able to make plots that are appealing and will absorb your soul? Dragan is soft with no one but... here we are??? How talented is that? I honestly will read her threads just to get some inspiration because how you are able to mold your muse to fit any dynamic without losing your muse to another person is beyond me. I can only hope to have as much skill as you do. If you’re not writing with her, you’re missing out!! I promise you!!

do you think cis muns can play trans/nb chars? i know this opinion varies but i remember coming across a post that said cis muns shouldn't and now i see a lot of that happening

boy, oh boy… this question …………………….. is like 110% up for debate ?? hell, im not 100% on where i personally stand bc there are legit SO MANY FACTORS ??? pls don’t read this thinking it’s gospel bc it’s truly not and ik this gon turn into some long ass semi-rant, so scroll for a tl;dr, but … [ cracks knuckles ] let’s gO !

i’ll be 100% real n say that i am always, always going to be uber picky when i come across cis muns playing trans/nb muses. i instinctively raise my hackles and put everything they do under the microscope, mainly bc they ( obviously ) don’t have first-hand experience of the pressures / prejudices / issues / feelings etc. that are exclusive to our community, so they have a tendency to fall into all the harmful tropes when it comes to trans characters—and, without that innate understanding of our struggles, they don’t see how these things can be damaging. there’s also the whole issue of the media perpetuating this bs, so really, while research can do wonders, it’s never gonna be a catch-all solution.

that’s not to say i don’t think that cis people can write solid, unproblematic trans characters. i have most definitely met people who are cis who’ve played wonderful trans and/or non binary charries, whom i adored and would educate themselves and readily listen to any tips that i or other trans people gave them. i actually haven’t met a cis person who has played a non binary muse in a way i have an issue with so far. ik that there’s a general issue in the rpc with people changing their charrie from cis to nb to fill a ratio, which is a Mess and a Half, and ofc the assumption that the character’s assigned sex at birth matches that of the face claim. but, other than that nasty business, the majority of cis ppl playing nb charries are #tight and willing to learn, at least as far as i’ve experienced.

when it comes to binary trans muses tho … lmfa o ….. where do i even begin ?? like idk what it is about cis ppl but a lot of them are just absolutely OBSESSED with what’s goin on in a trans person’s pants ?? i mentioned this in another ask, but bruh… if i had a pound for every time some1 has fuckcin offhandedly brought up / alluded to my charrie’s downstairs configuration when we’re plotting, i’d have enough money to buy this blue hellsite and shut it tf down like i goddamn want to, but anyway !! the reason i bring this up is bc i see so many ppl who have this approach with their own characters—i.e. fetishising them. i mean if ur trans, u do u man, sexualising ur charrie is ur prerogative ?? but fuc k n cis ppl doing this…………………….. mmm hooo my go dd … do u realise how disgusting and nasty this shit is ??????? i mean trans ppl have enough shit w/ ppl sexualising us irl ( esp. trans women !! they literally have it so fuckn rough w/ tht i cant even begin 2 describe ) so like, leave it out of rp thx ???

but nope !!! y’all can’t do that !!!!!!!! (((((((((: tbh in the rpc, most of the bs seems to affect trans male muses, as far as i’ve seen. i think it’s partly bc trans female muses are so few and far between, which is an issue in and of itself, but also bc a lot of the rpc is so fuckin guilty of the nasty obsession with m/m ships. it’s usually cishet girls who pull this shit and they pull it w/ all males tbh, like they legit use gay guys as a fuckn object like “OMG !!!! GAYSZ !!! SO CUT E I LOVE THEM !!! COME SHIP W/ ME I LOVE GAY BOYZ !!! :’)” lmfaooo miss me w/ this shit !!! u wanna chat about lesbians being fetishised by cishet men and yet u only give a fuck about mlm when they’re being a cutesy lil otps or banging it out so u can flick ur bean hmm ?? i see u. but yeah, it’s not exclusively cishet girls who do this shit… like, cis ppl in general are pretty shit at playing trans males, specifically. like you’re lucky to find a single starter that isn’t tagged as “indie smut rp” or “indie gay rp” or if their threads aren’t laced with sexualised scenarios or worse… the dreaded C-Word. like bruh if ur not a trans male u literally have no business using that word regarding ur muse. ever.

tbh 99% of the time they don’t even realise just how gross they’re being, bc, as i mentioned before, they don’t have any concept of what it’s like to be trans and how gross and intrusive ppl can be towards us. they think that it’s just the same as writing any character and that they can sexualise them if they want to, without realising that .. it’s very different when you’re outside that community. you’re not exploring an aspect of your identity, so much as reducing someone else’s to a very, very small sector of theirs and then using it for entertainment.

tl;dr: it’s literally a clusterfuck of nope tbh and, on a personal lvl, i’m almost at the point of thinking it would be better if cis ppl don’t play trans charries, bc the bad far outweighs the good in terms of how harmful it can be. that said, i do not think that telling cis ppl not to play trans characters is the right thing to do, bc of the following:

the people who do the disgusting things i’ve mentioned above or anything else that’s nasty don’t listen to us anyway, so it’s not gonna solve that problem.

it reinforces the “write what you know” mantra, which i think we can all agree is so old n outdated in 2k17.

sometimes writing characters is how people manage to learn new things about themselves. i’ve actually met people who, through their character research, have realised that they identify as non binary or trans. having an outlet for feelings they may be having really helps some ppl along.

lastly, and what i personally believe to be the crux of this issue, is that by trying to police something like this you are essentially forcing disclosure of ooc gender. not everyone is comfortable or ready to say they are trans or they may not be sure about their gender identity at all, so forcing them to make it known for the sake of playing a character is not okay. and, ofc, we have the obvious addition that ppl lie, so you’re relying on good faith to carry it out.

so yeah, that’s my v. long-winded two cents on the matter. i have a feeling i’ve missed some details, but it’s 3am and i need to be up by like 9:30 so that’s all for now !! feel free to drop me another question if i’ve fuckt anything up or u would like clarification on anything !

BASIC .

01.     don’t  steal  my  stuff .  that  includes  icons ,  my  writing ,  edits ,  etc . 02.     the  only  tags  i  have  blacklisted  are :  sydrian ,  sydney  x  adrian ,  adrian  x  sydney  (  from  the  vampire  academy  /  bloodlines  series  ) .  zervis ,  zeref  x  mavis ,  mavis  x  zeref ,  gajevy  /  gale ,  gajeel  x  levy ,  levy  x  gajeel  (  from  the  fairy  tail  fandom  ) .  i  would  also  very  much  appreciate  if  u  could  tag  ur  self  harm  images  or  mentions  as  well ,  thank  u     ! 03.     to  add  onto  the  triggers ,  i  tag  mine  like :  trigger name / 04.     feel  free  to  ask  me  for  my  discord  or  snapchat .

THREADS  /  INTERACTIONS .

01.     i  only  interact  with  mutuals ,  so  any  asks  &  likes  on  a  starter  call  from  someone  who  i  don’t  follow  will  probs  be  ignored  &  deleted . 02.     between  a  job  &  uni ,  i’m  p  busy  most  the  time  so  it’ll  take  me  a  while  to  get  to  asks  /  threads  &  even  then  i’m  slow  af  sorry . 03.     i  do  format  my  posts  &  edit  my  icons ,  but  that  doesn’t  mean  i  expect  everyone  else  to .  u  don’t  need  any  of  that  to  impress  me     !     i’m  happy  as  long  as  ur  charactersation  is  good  i  couldn’t  care  less .  &  if  u  have  a  problem  with  how  i  format  my  posts  then  pls  tell  me . 04.     as  both  asra  &  i  are  over  18 ,  nsfw  themes  will  b  on  this  blog ,  ranging  from  gore  to  sexual  content ,  but  will  be  tagged  approprietly . 

FOLLOWS  /  MAINS .

01.     i’m picky abt who i follow     !     as long as u tag ur stuff & have a blog i can easily get around / easily get to a rules & about then ya’ll should be fine . 02.     even tho i’m selective i still encourage anyone from any fandom to follow me     !     this includes duplicates. i will not follow duplicates, however, if they have not stated how they feel abt duplicates / have said in their rules they don’t follow duplicates . 03.     i’m a-okay with mains. in fact, i encourage them. however i’m not into exclusives. they just seem to really limit the possibility of interacting with other blogs & tbh     ?     that’s what i’m here to do, inteact with people & make new friends. so pls don’t ask to be exclusive with me bc i will say no, but hmu to be mains     !

SHIPPING .

01.     i’m  multi  ship .  tho  it  is  nowhere  near  a  focus  on  this  blog  i  still  love  shipping  a  lot ,  platonic  or  romantic . 02.     obviously ,  there  needs  to  be  development  between  our  muse’s  first .  chemistry  is  a  must  too  bc  i  just  can’t  match  asra  with  anyone  y'know      ?     it’s  a  lot  like  normal  relationships  u  just  can’t  date  anyone ,  there  needs  to  be  attraction  between  the  two . 03.     i  don’t  have  any  favourite  ships  for  asra  in  particular  so  if  u  wanna  discuss  a  ship  feel  free  to  hmu ,  but  i  will  most  likely  not  romantically  ship  w/  a  nadia  or  a  muriel . 04.     i’m  only  going  to  ship  with  one  said  character  at  a  time     !     that  means  that  if  i’m  shipping  with  muse  then  that  means  i’m  not  going  to  ship  with  another  muse .  but  i  can  bend  that  rule  slightly  if  the  muse  is  an  au  version  of  said  muse .  this  does  not  include  fan  apprentices  ! 05.     if  u  wanna  ship  with  me  then  pls  remember  that  i  will  probs  devote  myself  to  that  ship     !     i  will  make  edits  &  send  asks  &  just  write  headcanons  abt  our  muse’s  relationships  etc . 06.     don’t force a ship on me or asra bc i will not hesitate to block u .

OTHER .

01.     credits  are  here . 02.     hi ,  i’m  salem     !     i’m  a  20  year  old  female ,  w/  she  &  her  pronouns ,  who  is  studying  fashion  at  uni .  ik  these  rules  are  pretty  long  but  i’m  actually  really  easy  to  get  along  w/ ,  so  pls  feel  free  to  msg  me . i’m  a  huge  nerd  who  loves  cats  &  playing  the  piano . 03.     last  but  not  least ,  thank  u  for  reading     !