Can't stand a "they're gonna cancel me for this one" ass bitch like NO THEY WON'T JUST SAY WHAT YOU WERE GONNA SAY NOBODY CARES! YOU AIN'T NOBODY WORTH "CANCELING" I PROMISE YOU

The comments about Bronny’s yt prom date are embarrassing as hell. Nowadays I’m more shocked when a blck guy is with a blck woman than him being with a non-blck one. Hell, I’m more shocked when a blck guy is not anti-black (more specifically anti-blck women) than when he is not, not anti-blck if that made any sense. Blck woman just need to let these men be bc it’s undeservingly gassing them up. Grown ass blck women whining about who a 17 year old child chooses to date is, all be it weird, but the racist ass Daily Fail decided to write an article about how blck people are being racist towards that yt girl and I scoffed. I feel like “they” so desperately want to make us seem like we are the racist ones to justify their own racism. They do the same thing with antis*mitism. I had to read a book in my anthropology course and it stated that blck ppl are the most antis*mitic group of people and I rolled my eyes to the back of my head, but honestly, this is a conversation for another day.

i feel like there’s a disturbing pattern that needs to be addressed and maybe people can be kinder with their words but i’m sorry much has to be discussed. this isn’t the page for it anymore but those who know, know

A story + some advice

Once upon a time, back in 2009, I was “cancelled”.

We didn’t call it that, back then, but basically, after making a shitty, sanctimonious post, nearly every online friend I had made told me to go fuck myself and stopped talking to me. [below the cut - the story, plus some advice to the TDP fandom about toxic fans, consequences, and bad fan behavior from someone who has both been both accuser and defendant. This isn’t a Pity Me post, btw, just me trying to neutrally describe a Bad Time and draw comparisons to an ongoing situation to express both sympathy and clearly state that sometimes consequences are deserved.]

Oh, I had my reasons for the post I made. I was living with my parents, and they had discovered my secret livejournal. After several hours of screaming matches I was given the ultimatum - quit livejournal and LJRP forever, or move out with nothing but my car, my clothes, and the $60 I had in the bank. I chose not being homeless.

As part of this, I was allowed to make one final LJ post - a goodbye, telling people where I was, a (heavily edited) version of what happened and a plea to all my LJ friends to consider that they too might be “addicted to the internet” and they should “save themselves”. It was self-righteous and unwelcome, and my mother had no compunctions showing me the comments telling me to kill myself, get fucked, etc. It was devastating, and I spent the end of 2009 and the beginning of 2010 completely socially isolated, with no one but my parents for friendship. Needless to say, it blew.  Some of those friendships came back, either because those friends had the patience and kindness to understand my situation/hadn’t taken it so personally, or because after years (and I do mean literal years, like... 5+ years), mutual forgiveness happened. But not all of them. There are people who I spoke with daily who i haven’t spoken to in 12 years and I wonder what they’re up to now. Good things, I hope. I wish them nothing but success and happiness. But I had been an asshole and made a post that hurt people, and promptly been shown the door. And I don’t expect anyone to forgive me for being an asshole, even if my own circumstances were pretty dire. I made the choices that I did, and live with the consequences of those choices. That’s... just being an adult. Now. Lets talk about TDP and a certain she who will not be named. Miss thing has said and done some things that are high on my bad-fan-behavior list. She’s tagged the official account in a plea to have them mediate her fandom drama. She posted a suicide threat in the main fandom hashtag, without any warnings or tw tags, just right there for any and everyone to see. She’s made some pretty harsh accusations of other fans of bullying, harassment and death threats, but has produced no receipts or proof, which - in this day and age - is pretty important when making such a serious allegation - meaning I have to assume she’s making it up. She’s defended JKR and said that calling ol’ Joanne a TERF is unwarranted, claimed that “biological gender” can’t be ignored, whined about “liberal privilege,” and claimed that white people experience racism too because there isn’t enough “Tuscan rep.” (girl, what? Tuscany? I guarandamntee you more white people know what Tuscan culture looks like than Fillipino or Indigenous culture, what the hell.) She asks her followers to brigade and harass other fans as well as the people she’s accused, and blows things out of proportion... and then has had repeated histrionic meltdowns in the main fandom  hashtag, the public square of fandom, over one of these big name fans allegedly getting other fans to block her (still, no receipts).  I feel like I shouldn’t have to say this, but the claims she’s making are not true. If you know the ppl in question and follow them for any length of time, that is not the people who they are and they would never. Furthermore, trying to get Wonderstorm involved like they’re the fan police is, as i have said in my most popular post this week, bad. It’s bad. It’s bad fan behavior and being called out for it is deserved. So why am I telling you my sob story and then whipping around to talk about a similar story? Because I deserved being cancelled. I said something shitty - even if my circumstances were understandable and sympathetic! But what I did with that is attacked and harmed other people.  Attacking and harming others and making your drama and mental health public is toxic. People have a right to call you out, block you, and stop interacting with you if your behavior is harmful to them and the people they care about. It’s not harassment, its not bullying. It’s fucking consequences for being someone people don’t want to be around. I get it, I really do. It SUCKS. But sometimes you have to grow up and realize that when you hurt people, they might hurt you back. Nobody in fandom wants to be around someone who is constantly making drama their problem. And nobody in fandom should have to deal with that. 

I want miss missy to take it out of the fandom. She keeps threatening to leave tumblr and honestly I wish she would? At least until she’s grown, matured and learned how to handle her mental health in a productive way that doesn’t drag everyone, of all ages, into the fray. As it is right now she’s just making herself and everyone else miserable. Redemption isn’t something magically granted because one has apologized - it must be earned by a good faith demonstration of change. Not a performative change, but TRUE change. Until then, well... Sometimes you gotta cut your losses and leave. If you’re young and riled and feeling like the big mean fandom BNFs are harassing this poor poor mentally ill queer woman? Consider, perhaps, that she isn’t the only mentally ill queer woman in the fandom (hi!), and that when people call her out for toxic behavior it’s not bullying, but consequences. (BTW, madam, if you’re reading this: I didn’t block you because anyone told me to - in fact, i was told by certain parties NOT to block you. I blocked you because I don’t want you looking at my posts and thinking you can use my platform to give your self-aggrandizing pity party legitimacy like you absolutely did whenever I blogged about forgiveness, fan culture or positivity. These posts are not for you. Nice to see you didn’t respect my boundaries and are looking at this logged out, too.)

Men getting worked up over kids entertainment will never not be funny to me. I remember when the new Space Jam came out and men (and some women too I think) started whining about Lola Bunny's redesign because apparently they had removed her breasts. There was this image that compared the "old" and "new" design that started circulating where the old depicted Lola with very big breasts and the new depicted her with a flat chest. These men obviously started whining about SJW and political correctness and so on.

Well, turns out that the "old" image actually came from some coomerish fan art where Lola was drawn with far bigger breasts that her original design. Like these men probably hadn't watched nor cared about Space Jam since they were kids, forgot what Lola actually looked like and were basing their image of her on pornified fan art that they saw when older.

Not to mention that Lola Bunny wasn't designed to cater to horny males, she was in fact designed with little girls in mind. In fact, her old conceptual art depicted her as more tomboyish that the final design from the original movie (you can look it up btw). The idea was that little girls would become more interested in seeing the movie and would want to buy merch that depicted Lola Bunny in them.

Also, why would anybody be interested in seeing rabbit boobies? In a childrens movie at that?! Literally madness.

TELL THEM, ANON🍵🔥🔥🔥

It's honestly sooooo pathetic to see these grown dude being so worked up over entertainment aimed at CHILDREN/PRE TEENS but the worst is seeing ppl defend this mess as if they were victim of political correctness for...being clowned for the immature cringefest that they are. And I thought wokesters were the weak/sensitive ones..🥴

I'm in my 30s and there's no way in hell I'm gonna ever write a full on column to whine about I feel excluded from Steven Universe or whatever show is popular with kids

White men are sooo desperate to act like they're oppressed when they're the same ones mocking PC/SJW culture and how minorities have to stop complaining about medias & "performative representation" BUT WATCH THEM TURN AROUND AND DO THE EXACT SAME THING WHENEVER NON WHITE CHARACTERS ARE GETTING SHOVED INTO ENTERTAINMENT PIECES AND SCREAM ABOUT THE ERASURE OF WHITENESS🤡🤡 why so salty about Black hobbits/little mermaid/Ann Boleyn? I thought representation & Whitewhashing didn't matter and they are just TV shows and that we should just get over it? 🤡

What you're saying about Lola Bunny is so interesting bc it's a glaring example of how men feel entitled to be the standard in everything. And when they don't, they consider it a personal offense and take up their pen and whine about how "eXhaUsTinG" it is lmao. That dude from that cringe article whining about "Seeing Red" would have NEVER went out of his way to say how some shows are too masculine and not catering enough to female or children. It was 100% "i hate when it's not about me" word salad, and I can't believe that anyone would whiteknight this mess.

Lola Bunny is literally from a cartoon show which mostly cater to CHILDREN yet they cried like pissy babies bc she wasn't sexy enough. Their scrotism is showing. There's no wonder masculinity is dying. But MuH aTtacK aGaInsT sTRaiGht WhitE mEN right? They are self suiciding themselves. Grown Western men be more bothered about anthropomorphic bunny than having kids and building their future. Pathetic and weak.

lmao sorry to be that bitch but let me put tumblr ableism this way. autistic people annoying you by being cringe or uptight, <<<<<<<<<<<< Centuries of abuse, Murder, eugenics, violence, exploitation, and ongoing systemic oppression. the r word was written on our medical records as a legal excuse to lock us up in torturous abusive hospitals for the rest of our lives. the murder of us has been encouraged and normalized in many different aspects of society as a ‘putting them out of their misery’ solution. ive had people tell me they feel bad that my parents ‘let me live’. we’ve been sterilized and left to die and after all that we’re still here. so idk like. lmao you’re gonna listen and not make jokes when we tell you you fucked up even if you think its ‘too much’ bc you’re gonna live through it! not all of us have lived through allistic ‘’’fuck ups’’’ before, tbh!! and sit down for this one but yall u r grown you can seriously fucking handle being a decent person and letting that rando talk about how supernatural is their special interest as a completely harmless attempt at positive Social interaction on your entirely public not personal Social media post you made for Socializing with people ! like dude sd;l;sosdfk im so sorry an autistic came and ruined your post how awful for you ig but idk why that makes oyu all feel so fucking Oppressed when that shit happens lmao like. stop WHINING abt such meaningless social awkwardness to actual oppressed people you fake activist cringe bitches, you are not oppressed by autistic people talking. you’re not oppressed by us Existing. we’re not ‘’‘rude'’’ and its not hurting you, ur just rly that sensitive to divergence frankly and obsessed with being conformist to ur own standards that you built in society while intentionally oppressing and rejecting us and think your comfortable existence trumps making ours less miserable. i mean for gods sake. you can ignore us. like how is your behavior not telling when as an oppressed person i have to say, please, just fucking ignore us if you hate our interactions with you that much instead of harassing us publicly about it.

autistic people are not oppressing you, your social ideals are a prison, and well if you’re allistic uh, you sure do have some oppressive history towards others (aka blood on your hands) that you should take the fuck into account and recognize before you start letting yourself develop even an Ounce of disdain towards us. including the fucking ‘’’annoying’’’ ones. like. oh my god activism isnt abt picking and choosing whos relatable and fun enough to have in ur cool minority gang tm fuck you hollow ass club mentality people to Hell, but have you really not considered you might just be boring and restrictive if the mere sight of someone elses passion that you cant wholly resonate with makes you like Intolerably uncomfortable. have yall considered that Your idea of annoying could have inherently ignorant/bigoted concepts ingrained in it bc you benefit from privilege in an ableist allistic centric society. also have you considered gargle my dick and balls if you think autistic ppl owe you the regulation of our harmless behaviors for your nowmal people comfowt like. oh my Goddd you guys thats not a real problem and at the very least ur cringe is not Comparable to what we go thru everyday just shut up like it is so funny when you all act like we are Forcing you into Emotional Labor bc we try to talk to you and also experience autism symptoms at the same time or try to tell you that u did smth bigoted to us like sjdfsjdfs bite me bitch you’re oppressing me not the other way around. ‘wah wah the cringe autism tumblr kinnie wants to talk abt su’ mam autistic ppl are actually oppressed can u please get over this attitude ur embarassing urself