#< i personally don't give a fuck as long as she's queer. i'll respect your headcanon if you respect mine etc etc
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Do you mind doing where Crimson has a Imp husband who is also his sugar daddy? (Weird idea ik lol)
Oh my! XP Weird Idea indeed but oddly fitting considering Crimson was kinda struggling finacially, why the wedding plan happened and all. Sure thing! I like writing Crimson being humbled and all.
Crimson with an Imp Husband Sugar Daddy S/O
It just kinda happened after the wedding plan was a bust. He needed money, so he ran into you at some fancy club, noticed several details hinting you were rich (Also had his men to read up on you cause he didn't want to be a sucker again) He offers a deal, you add the condition of him being your sugar baby, which flusters him greatly btw.
He swallows his pride after you explain the situation, though a day later cause he doesn't want to seem too desperate and bam, Crimson has a sugar daddy XP
Your very respectful to him, never treating him like a toy or servant, only asking if he could come over like once a week or sometimes visiting him but you take the no if he refuses, which he rarely does, still trying to treat this like a basic business deal so he's trying his best to fulfill his end.
You find it adorable how he tries so hard to be stonefaced even though he blushes like crazy doing stuff like kisses and cuddles, grumbling a lot. You often politely ask him for affection and stuff, but when he does it unprompted, you get all blushy and tease him on it, having him yell it doesn't mean anything as you kiss him on the cheek.
He's very rigid at first, a lot like Blitz is with Stolas, but after you make it clear you actually want him, and not just a person to fuck, he cools off, for a while it's more friends with benefits then anything, you chat and sometimes kiss and fuck (Which he won't admit he enjoys a lot more then he expected) but neither really consider yourselves truly dating.
You don't want to push him, and He's takes a while with his multisexual awakening, realizing he actually likes you, confessing to you drunk which you find adorable before bringing him to bed so he can sleep before the hangover in the morning, and then you discuss and get on the same page. Him blushing at how happy you seem about it, never really having that really, for good reason but still.
And after that it's a nice domestic relationship for a good while, he's a lot more relaxed with his empire going smooth with your funds added, and going to you as the day winds down to relax, you two going on dates and experimenting with stuff as couples do. You usually just bringing up his sugar baby status to fluster him.
C:Y-Y/N! You know I don't like you calling me that in public...
Y/N: Okay! Hey everybody this is my sexy boyfriend Crimson!
C, pulling his hat down with a blush as you put arm around him:
Y/N: You cute little grump~
C:I hate you...
Eventually one time you casually call him your hubby or husband, and he kinda freezes. He really likes you and the last person who called him that... well she didn't have a great time. And for a while he kinda closes himself off as he rakes his mind over it.
A few weeks after that he treats you to a surprise fancy dinner and proposes. Coming clean his last marriage didn't go well and it was his fault entirely, but he wants to do better with you, more then anything and he'd love if you'd give him that chance.
The hug and kiss he takes as a yes as he slips the ring onto your finger. Hugging and kissing you back, holding you closer then any wealth he's gained through this relationship, loving you with all his heart.
Okay there you go! Know it was more meeting to fiancé then actual hcs on the husbands relationship but this is long enough I feel. I enjoyed this one, never wrote a relationship like this so sorry if it's off, though I'll never get tired of writing Crimson's Queer awakening tbh XP Hope you enjoyed and thanks for sharing!
#ask reply#helluva boss#helluva crimson#crimson knolastname#helluva crimson x reader#crimson knolastname x reader#helluva boss x reader#x reader#x male reader#x male y/n#my writing
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I have trouble understanding how you are bi yet you stubbornly insist Ethan and Tobias aren't bi. I saw you say you played as an f!mc so you didn't know it was an option, but why not change it once you did know. I can't understand your choice.
Babydoll... here's the beauty of it all... YOU DO NOT HAVE TO - AND I DON'T HAVE TO UNDERSTAND YOURS. YET WE CAN & SHOULD RESPECT ONE ANOTHER. Unfortunately, that seems to be a one-way street, and you are the one driving in the wrong direction; you should consider making a U-turn.
I've always tried to be polite and respectful when replying to these asks - even as I get screenshots of people in the fandom - people from the queer community of which I'm a part - saying fucked up shit about me because they seem to think tolerance and acceptance only apply when you agree with them. I know immaturity has a lot to do with it, but I'm over it. So I'm answering this, but I'm done being polite.
Here's what you got right. I played as an F!MC for a long time before I was ever involved in this crazy ass fandom (I may refer to that time as the good ol' days going forward). My HC was already created, and I was happy with it. So let me understand. I needed to change it to satisfy... you? Will you change your HC for me? If so, please, stop hiding behind anon like a little coward. Let me know who you are, and I'll submit my requests for what I'd like you to change in your HC. OK? I'm sure you'll rush to do it, right? Yeah, I didn't think so.
As a bisexual woman, who has been in relationships with bisexual and straight men, and bi and lesbian women within my life, I find there are different personality types within each group. Truth be told, when it comes to men, I prefer dating those who are bi, but I had a different vision for MY FUCKING INTERPRETATION OF THESE FICTIONAL CHARACTERS.
Why is this so upsetting to you? Do you know how unsettling that is? As a queer person living in the real fucking world, are you REALLY telling me this is what keeps you up at night? Because if so, you must have a charmed fucking existence that neither I nor any other queer person I know has had the luxury of living.
And another thing - I DON'T HAVE TO HAND IN MY QUEER CARD because I have a straight Tobias in my HC. I know what I do for our community in real life - what I've done for our community since most people here were still sperm. STOP IT! Go do something PRODUCTIVE to help... our community's rights are going backward worldwide, and this is the shit motherfuckers are triggered over. Really? Do you do anything outside of performative bullshit on Tumblr? Because I'm going to give you a clue if you don't have one - this helps no one!!!! I volunteer with young adults who were thrown out by their families for being queer - and not one is impacted by Tobias Fucking Carrick or Ethan Fucking Ramsey NOT being bi in my fucking headcanon. I'm cracking up as I type this because it is SO ridiculous. Like you should be ashamed of yourself! DO SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE!
Someone asked me why I haven't addressed my MCs bisexuality more. Why? Because of fuckers in OUR COMMUNITY who behave like immature assholes. Who sit perched, waiting for the one thing they don't agree with and attack. Because of assholes who say, "Bi isn't queer enough," or "Your character isn't bi because she's in a relationship with a man." Because of assholes who are offensive as fuck on the daily, yet poor babies are offended by everything. Bruh, at least the straight people here who don't want to read about my MC's bisexuality simply skip those fics and move on with their day - I'm not getting screenshots of them saying fucked up shit about me because they don't like my HC. Do you know how unhinged this is?
This is the very last anon I will ever answer about this topic. I'm happy to discuss it if you want to send me a DM - but this is the end here.
I'm also done with self-censoring what I choose to write FOR MY CHARACTERS. Is my MC not queer enough for the queer crowd? I don't give a fuck. Is she too queer for the straight crowd? I don't give a fuck. I sat pride out in the fandom last year precisely to avoid this shit. This year I said, no, I'm joining in - I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO - and sadly, this is the result. But you know what? I'm not letting it stop me from doing what I want to do.
Babydoll... if this is triggering you this much - get help.
#last time#fandom bullshit#don't worry i'm pissed but i'm ok#i'm from jersey we eat shit like this for breakfast#but fuck out of here already#grow up#ethan ramsey#tobias carrick#and eff off
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I know you got my ask rude motherfucker! You abusive fucks use boundaries to make autistic people feel excluded you don’t care about autistic people unless we are passing. You are ableist.
Rude? I have to laugh. Pot, Kettle, my dear. Bold of you to just march into someone’s inbox swearing and demanding an immediate response regardless of timezones and personal schedules. Unfortunately, we can’t all live on tumblr.
Also, I regret to inform you that words mean things, these days. You can’t just take any word and apply it to people you don’t like. Sorry to break the news. Anyway.
CW: abuse, manipulation, death threats, suicide ideation, ableism
In the interest of transparency, here is the thing I said that ruffled this poor fellow’s feathers:
I usually don't give dickheads like you the time of day. You’re probably some troll who thinks they’re extremely clever, but you know what? I've had a very long and draining few days. I'm tired, I'm pissy, and you remind me a lot of my abusive mother. What the hell. Sure. I'll bite. The question may not be in good faith but maybe some good will come of it anyway.
What Are Boundaries (And Why They Are Good)
Having boundaries means, "These are my triggers, do not set them off please" or "I am not in the headspace to do that with you" or "This makes me uncomfortable / I don't have the energy to do that / I don't want to do that".
Respecting someone's boundaries looks like: not barging into someone's private space, or rifling through their personal belongings, or forcing them to do things when you want, how you want, regardless of how they feel.
Exhibit A:
Exhibit B:
Ahem.
Respecting people’s boundaries also includes being mindful of others' triggers: their right to privacy, autonomy, and consent. You can absolutely go to a close friend or family member to ask them for help. That is an okay thing to do. What is not okay is to treat friends and family as NPC’s who Provide Services For You. You can’t just help yourself to your friend’s favourite sweets, or rifle through their journal, or demand for them to have sex with you because you want it.
And if you’re in a bad headspace and need someone to talk to, it’s okay to want to talk about it to a friend. It is not ok to just launch into your deepest suicidal ideations with a friend who is also struggling with suicidal thoughts. When it comes to sensitive topics, particularly the triggering ones, you need to ask first if the person you’re talking to is able to discuss the topic. This is Basic Human Decency. It is not "walking on eggshells" and it is not abuse to know one’s own boundaries. I am at least mildly alarmed in regards to the safety of those around anyone who truly feels so entitled to other people.
My mother is much like you, anon. That spiel about boundaries being toxic and abusive? It happened when I asked her to take down the CCTV in my room. And to stop yelling at me for locking my own bedroom door. And to tell her that I also would rather she and my father didn't have unlimited access to my phone and laptop. Also, if she could be not-homophobic/transphobic, and stop trying to meddle in my relationships.
“I’m 21,” I told her. “This can’t keep happening. We need to set some boundaries.” Her response was typical: tears, and accusations, and lots of "Don't you love me?" and "What are you hiding?” and of course, “You are asking for too many boundaries".
If she’s to be believed, I had caused her great emotional distress by not allowing her to run my life. Disagreeing with her bigoted Christian views and then coming out as queer was “abusing her”. Asking that my boundaries be respected made me “too distant” from her. Much like you, she told me her blood would be on my head if she died of grief. (She was much disappointed when I did not shed even a single tear over this declaration). As it turns out, the opinion of someone who has paid to traumatise me in cruel and unusual ways is not an opinion I value all that dearly.
So you'll forgive me (sarcasm) if I don't take too kindly to your objections about boundaries, anon. Perhaps controlling my life, poisoning my friendships, and silencing me made my mother happy. Perhaps, in denying her that happiness, and telling her no, I am toxic and abusive. if that is so, then so be it. I will lose no sleep over it.
You’re right about one thing, though. RSD is no joke. I know this may come as a shock to you, but you're not the only person in the world who struggles with this. I know this because I have to deal with it too, and it's miserable.
But you know what I do when it strikes? Talk it over with my mentor. Have a good cry. Work with my therapist on accepting "no" and managing the feelings of perceived rejection.
Know what I don't do? Demand for everyone to revolve their lives around me and ignore their own needs for my sake. Accuse people of being abusive for not bowing to my will. Send death wishes and suicide threats to random people on Tumblr.
If people on that post have been mocking your RSD, I am sorry that has happened. Ableism is not funny. I have nothing to do with that, however. Take it up with them, not me. All I did was to point out that what you said is almost a word for word match with something my mother said. And then I logged off Tumblr to live life in the real world for a few hours. If you think that makes me ableist, well. I won't lose any sleep over that, either. You couldn’t even confront me to my face, so what is your judgment to me at the end of the day?
Let me be perfectly clear. Austistic people are valid. RSD is valid. Neurodivergent people are valid. All people are worthy of human decency regardless of whether or not they "pass" as neurodivergent. I'm sure you're sulking somewhere in this wide world, telling yourself that people dislike you for being autistic, for being an autistic person with RSD. I'm quite pleased to tell you that I, at least, am not amongst that number. Being autistic, having RSD, it's all just a way of being, and has no influence in your worth as a person.
Your actions, however. That's a different story.
No, I don't habour any dislike or ill-will towards you for having RSD. I dislike you because you're every inch the manipulative, toxic piece of shit my parents are. I dislike you because you've come into my inbox making demands of me like some petulant child- and when they were not met when you wanted, you switched back and forth between playing the victim and making accusations, and then threatened suicide as if that's an okay thing to do. Your actions are despicable. That is why I, personally, dislike you.
You do what you want with your life, anon. I cannot stop you from doing whatever stupid thing you may or may not be planning to do, and frankly I’m too tired to bother with the social niceties of telling you that there’s a “light at the end of the tunnel” or. whatever sappy bullshit people tell depressed folks nowadays. What is it that people say? “When the blind lead the blind....”
You have a nice life. or don’t. Fuck on off either way.
#boundaries#anon#hall of shame#cw anon hate#cw ableism#cw suicidal ideation#cw death threat#cw manipulation#cw abuse
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some trans Jeff thoughts:
he realized he was trans in elementary school and just went fuck it I'll just start introducing myself as Jeffery and see if anyone decides to stop me (as we know, jeff winger can get away with almost anything)
he got top surgery the second he could afford it (around the same time he started at his law firm), and probably bribed someone to keep it a secret
"I'm jeff winger and i would rather look at myself naked than the women I sleep with" are the words of a man proud of his transition
he's really insecure about his fashion sense, which is why he mostly dresses like the douchey guys at his firm in the start of the show, he thought you can't go wrong with the sleazy lawyer look
he will never admit it but he feels super good about the dean hitting on him, because the dean is a (cis) guy, acknowledging that Jeff is more manly than him
i think he starts out stealth and comes out to everyone one by one, probably starting with abed because he knows abed won't judge him and will probably just see it as an interesting backstory.
abed just says it's cool and maybe worth a prequel exploring Jeff's transition, and jeff asks him to predict how all of the members of the group will react to him coming out.
abed's predictions:
britta will be over-the-top supportive and do a ton of research about trans history, probably put together a slideshow just to prove how progressive she is, and jeff will be a little bit weirded out, but also touched that she did all that for him, though he would never let her know that
shirley will be confused, because she doesn't know how someone she trusts and knows so well could be part of a group she was raised to hate, but ultimately realizes that there's nothing actually against the lgbtq people in the bible, and, as a cool character development arch, starts to advocate against use of the bible to justify bigotry
troy will just think it over and decide that Jeff's physique and coolness are even awesomer knowing how much work he'd had to put in to be like that, and respects Jeff's manliness even more
annie will give him a hug, say something sweet about how she'll always love him, and worry about his health, because even she read somewhere that taking testosterone makes you more likely to have a heart attack, jeff will explain that the risk is still only as high a cis guy, and she'll be the one to always remind him to take his shots
peirce will say at best say "jeff winger used to be a chick?" and at worst call him a slur, either way there's sure to be a lot of misgendering from him, and pestering to know Jeff's deadname (needless to say, Jeff just doesn't tell peirce)
the whole group goes out of their way to keep their beach trips a secret from pierce (the girls don't want him there anyways, he's too liable to be creepy) even though jeff knows that even if pierce saw his scars, all he would have to do is make up a story about some childhood accident and pierce would never question it
sorry this ended up being super long. can I hear some of your headcanons for him?
YES ALL THIS!!! yes yes i’m fully accepting this as canon oh my god
i’m about to type a whole ass ESSAY at midnight because i have been DYING to talk about this for months ajfdksljk,,, this is going to be obscenely long and i might end up adding even more to it as i continue to rewatch the show because there is truly no shortage of trans jeff content (especially when you’re trans and see transness in every little thing ajdkslfkjs)
spoiler warning for literally everything about this show under the cut <3
i 100% agree, i feel like he realized he was trans super young, especially since in the show we see him as a little kid a couple of times.
like look at little jeff with the oversized sweatshirt and little ponytail!! that’s childhood trans fashion. not to be dramatic but part of me thinks that jeff’s dad left before he fully came out to his family (which gives him even more angst about it, because until that one Thanksgiving episode, he’s never able to prove to his dad that he’s a better man), but part of me thinks that his dad left after he came out (which adds that spicy i-should-have-stayed-in-the-closet guilt that he has to work through).
either way, because his dad wasn’t there, he had to base his concept of masculinity on something else, which was becoming a lawyer!! there’s some line that’s like “after the dust and divorce papers were settled the only man i looked up to was [the lawyer guy]”. like, replacing your father figure in your mind with the concept of “a job where you can talk your way in and out of anything and distort other people’s concept of reality”? that’s trans.
and the fucking THANKSGIVING EPISODE... i struggle to watch it without crying hehe <3 yeowch! the dichotomy of willy jr. being the “wrong” kind of man because he’s “too soft” but jeff also not being enough despite adhering to all the social standards of masculinity... fuck!! this whole scene of him telling his dad “i am Not well adjusted” and talking about how he gave himself an “appendix surgery scar” when he was a kid and he still keeps the get-well-soon letters from his classmates under his bed? oh my god. the implication of people loving him not despite his scars but because of them?? trans. i can’t think about this episode for too long or i’ll start yelling.
OH and this scene? where he talks about how his mom got him a girl costume for halloween?? and everyone said “what a cute little girl” and after a few houses he stopped correcting them?? and “once the shame and the fear wore off, i was just glad they thought i was pretty”?? THAT’S TRANS... the man needs validation oh my god... and then in all the halloween episodes we see he has these ultra-masculine costumes (a cowboy, David Beckham, one of the fast and furious guys even though he never watched the movies, a boxer with his DAD’S boxing gloves... god) costumes are about becoming something else and he always chooses to be hypermasculine and that is trans.
THE PHYSICAL EDUCATION EPISODE!!!!!!! being uncomfortable during P.E. is a queer experience. period. but him being specifically uncomfortable in the clothes someone else is assigning to him? trans. “are we gonna talk about clothes like a girl? or use tapered sticks to hit balls around a cushioned mat like a man?” TRANS. and him eventually stripping in public? celebration of transness. and the fact that he eventually becomes comfortable in both the uniform and his own style!! trans!! god i love this episode.
AND AND AND!!! the gay dean coming out episode!!! where it’s the three of them discussing the best way for the dean to come out as gay despite not entirely identifying with that label!! so we have both frankie and the dean who are sort of ambiguously queer, and jeff who’s a stealth trans man who’s probably only out to only the study group at this point. this scene where the dean and jeff have this like eyebrow communication while frankie is talking is just so cute. queer-to-queer communication. “I am so curious” “oh?” “intellectually.” “oh...” ajfdksljfk this scene just screams high school GSA to me and i love it so much.
and SPEAKING of the dean!! i totally see you on that. i feel like jeff has some internalized homophobia/biphobia (like he’d throw punches over someone else, but when it comes to himself he has a lot of shame). and also seeing the dean so confident in all his different outfits/costumes has a weird affect on him bc it’s like “okay, the dean, a cis guy, can do that, but i as a trans guy could Not because that’s Breaking the Rules”. which, like, throwback to the halloween thing. of course there’s no right way to be masculine, but mr. winger does not know that.
another thing!! the episode where their emails get leaked? that includes his emails with his therapist. fuck!! he was outed to the whole world in that episode!! no wonder he was so fucking angry!! this whole episode (and really any time he mentions his therapist) is so interesting when you think about them as a person he talks to about his transition. OH which adds to the thing with the dean!! “and you told your therapist you wanted to be alone this weekend” and “not you jeff, i know you’ll be visiting your dad” ”I told you to stop reading my emails”. luckily his study group has his back and just makes fun of him for emailing astronauts lmao
and WHO can forget “they’re giving out an award for most handsome young man!!!!” what else is there to say about this line besides: he’s trans. you know he didn’t get awarded enough for being a handsome young man when he was a kid, and no amount of compliments when he’s fully-grown can really make up for that. some people crash a kid’s bar mitzvah to cope with the fact that they struggled to be seen as themselves when they were a teenager <3
also his weird relationship with pierce? where he kind of hates him (understandably lmao) but at times has this almost-friends-almost-father-son relationship with him? especially in this episode where he’s forced to bond with him and ends up having a good time by accident (at a barber shop no less, the perfect place to Be A Man with your Man Friend). idk what to say about him besides the fact that pierce says his mom wanted a girl when he was born and made him dress like a girl (and his middle name is anastasia!) so if they’re gonna do any bonding over transness it’s gonna be that.
okay one last thing and then i’ll shut up for the night. this episode kills me (and almost kills jeff hahahahelpi’mcrying). it’s a very Trans thing to not be able to visualize your future self, it just is. growing up trans at the time he did? i don’t know what kind of future he saw for himself, but i’m so happy that he ended up with a group of friends who became his family and love him the way they all do. i’m so emotional over this asshole it’s ridiculous.
in conclusion:
they’re trans, your honor <3
#community#jeff winger#trans jeff winger#GOD i'm gonna make a video essay about it if nobody stops me#yall know that youtube channel AreTheyGay? i want to be that but AreTheyTrans#the videos would just b like... jeff community. neo the matrix. bill and ted bill and ted. audrey little shop of horrors. jo little women.#maybe i should start that youtube channel sjdfklsj#thank you for prompting me to talk about this because i think about it twice a day#i might end up reblogging this and just adding different responses jeff has had to casually homophobic/transphobic things that happen#in the show#like the episode that last photo is from when the dean is like#'spring transfer student dance isn't rolling off the tongue so we're calling it The Tr@nny Dance!' 'much more greendale.'#OH AND ACCIDENTALLY KILLING PIERCE'S DAD!!! HOW DID I NOT MENTION THAT EARLIER SJFKLSJ#'you LITERALLY killed a father!' 'well not MINE dummy!!'#alright i need to do my homework now ajfklsdjfl
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