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DURING COVID, WHEN THE CLUBS CLOSED, IT FORCED MANY STRIPPERS INTO PRIVATE UNDERGROUND CLUBS. AND, EVENTUALLY, MANY OF THEM ENDED UP PROSTITUTING THEMSELVES WITHOUT ANY OTHER OPTIONS. I KNOW SO MANY GIRLS THIS HAPPENED TO. THE UNDERGROUND CLUBS HAVE NO SECURITY. YOU ARE JUST THERE, VULNERABLE, IN FRONT OF MANY MEN WITH NO ONE TO CALL FOR HELP. I KNOW HORRIFYING STORIES FROM THIS. NO ONE ADVOCATED FOR US. NO ONE HELPED US. THEY JUST FORCED US ALL UNDERGROUND INTO MORE DANGEROUS SITUATIONS. IF ANYONE KNOWS MORE ABOUT THIS PLEASE MESSAGE ME BECAUSE I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR.

I HAVE MADE A VERSION WITH ARMOR AS WELL. I HAVE LEFT ALL VERSIONS UP ON MY BLOG FOR YOU TO USE. PICK WHICHEVER ONES YOU LIKE.

"And here we arrive at the core of prostitution: the buyer’s paradox. He both wants and doesn’t want prostitution to be work. He wants to be able to buy sex, but he doesn’t want the woman to behave as if she is being paid to perform the act. The buyer wants prostitution to exist, but he doesn’t want it to resemble prostitution. The more it resembles a routine chore—the more the woman acts like a cashier at a grocery store—the more displeased he becomes. No matter how much he wants her, he knows that she is doing it for the money. He therefore constantly demands something more, something genuine, something real. He wants to possess her whole body, her whole person, her whole Self. The buyer finds himself in a constant state of self-deception, which continually leads him to desire possession of what cannot be bought." Being and Being Bought by Kajsa Ekis-Ekman

Rules of Misogyny in action:

1, 11, 14, 16

I would even argue maybe 3 and 7 a little bit as well.

Women are kept in cages, starved, beaten, molested, and raped, but that’s just not as bad as men exploiting other men’s perversion and objectification of women!

I HAVE BEEN TAKEN TO BEACHES WHERE WOMEN GO TOPLESS AND ARE NOT GAWKED AT. I WISH FOR NUDITY TO BE SEEN WITHOUT BEING OBJECTIFIED LIKE THIS. I KNOW IT IS UNREALISTIC. ON THE OPPOSITE SIDE. I AM A PROSTITUTE. I AM FORCED TO BE NAKED. I DRAW NAKEDNESS BECAUSE IT IS WHAT I KNOW. I DRAW NAKEDNESS BECAUSE I WANT TO RECLAIM THE PAIN OF MY OWN.

i don't know if this is being talked about outside of australia, but recently there was a mass stabbing event in my city. six people are dead and eight more badly injured.

the media coverage and public conversation around the stabbing has been really awful. it started with frenzied theorising- without any evidence- that the perpetrator was a muslim extremist, a palestinian hamas agent, including spreading false information about the victims to create a narrative of islamic violence. when it resulted that the perpetrator was a white man from queensland, the coverage instantly shifted- instead of a terror attack, it was now a lone wolf, a non-ideological result of an individual's mental health issues. this is typical of the framing when it comes to perpetrators: a white person is an individual, a brown person is a faceless member of an ideology. but, crucially, the attack was not non-ideological. the perpetrator specifically targeted women, specifically avoiding men except where they were preventing him from getting to women. six out of seven of the deceased victims were women, and in interviews with the perpetrators parents, they talked about his anger at not having a girlfriend. misogyny is ideological, and men are trained to harbour deep resentment towards women that regularly manifests in violence. this event was a targeted act of femicide. while it is unclear if the perpetrator was involved in any specific right-wing groups, that the attack was driven by hatred of women is not in doubt.

the new narrative is one of demonising mental illness, because the perpetrator was diagnosed with schizophrenia and there is no avenue to blame his race. there are now open calls in the media for stricter use of sectioning and more oppressive tracking, forced medication and indefinite institutionalisation of the mentally ill. it is the mentally ill who will suffer from this narrative, while the fostering of violent misogyny goes unchecked. this country never stops letting us down

WHICH COLOR WOULD YOU WANT MOST?

I DO NOT KNOW THE POST BUT I HAVE TWO QUOTES

"This is why I’m not so interested in what people think of prostitution: It doesn’t really exist anymore. The person we call “the prostitute,” contrary to her honorific as a member of “the world’s oldest profession,” hasn’t actually been around very long. The word is young, and at first it didn’t confer identity. When prostitute entered into English in the sixteenth century it was as a verb—to prostitute, to set something up for sale. The word whore is older, old English or old German, possibly derived from a root that’s no longer known, and dates back as early as the twelfth century BCE. There were countless people whose lives prior to the word’s invention were later reduced by historians to the word whore, though their activities certainly varied. Contrary to King James, there was no whore of Babylon. There were no prostitutes in Pompeii. No one, not in old or new Amsterdam, worked in a red-light district until they were named as such toward the end of the nineteenth century. It’s the nineteenth century that brings us the person of the prostitute, who we are to understand was a product of the institution that came to be known as prostitution but was actually born of something much broader. Prior to this period, anthropologist Laura Agustín explains in Sex at the Margins, there was no word or concept which signified exclusively the sale of sexual services … “Whoring” referred to sexual relations outside of marriage and connoted immorality or promiscuity without the involvement of money, and the word “whore” was used to brand any woman who stepped out of current boundaries of respectability." - Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work by Melissa Grant THIS IS ALSO ANOTHER QUOTE THAT IS ASSOCIATED WITH THE POPULARIZATION OF THE PHRASE "WORLD'S OLDEST PROFESSION" "Lalun is a member of the most ancient profession in the world. Lilith was her very-great-grandmamma, and that was before the days of Eve as every one knows. In the West, people say rude things about Lalun's profession, and write lectures about it, and distribute the lectures to young persons in order that Morality may be preserved. In the East where the profession is hereditary, descending from mother to daughter, nobody writes lectures or takes any notice; and that is a distinct proof of the inability of the East to manage its own affairs." - On the City Wall by Rudyard Kipling 1889

Where's that post debunking the "oldest profession was prostitution" argument?

Handbooks for ‘sex workers’ from The Australian Scarlet Alliance warned: “Don’t relax after the job is done—this could be when he attacks you. Relax when he is gone!” (Victor Malarek, The Johns : Sex For Sale And The Men Who Buy It)

ARE YOU ANTI SEX INDUSTRY? I WANT TO LEARN MORE PLEASE TELL ME AND RECOMMEND BOOKS.

THIS REMINDS ME OF THIS BOOK QUOTE "‘Whore’ is more than just a pejorative; it is a cultural fantasy. With the word ‘whore’, a male desire is transformed into a female characteristic. When we say that a man ‘goes to see a whore’, it sounds as if he does so on impulse, stopping by in all innocence. In spite of the fact that it is the man who creates the demand for prostitution, no label adheres to him. The woman, on the other hand, is labeled something: a ‘whore’. The entire sex trade rests on this fantasy: that women can be whores, and that the whore is a particular type of woman who is perpetually available to men. The word ‘whore’ is a male invention transferred onto the woman and transformed into an attribute that adheres to her." - Being and Being Bought by Kajsa Ekis-Ekman

Profanity and Misogyny

"Motherfucker", "cunt" , "bitch", "Whore" etc. are words that are so commonly used in colloquial language that one almost forgets the nuance attached to them. In almost every language there exist a myriad of swear words that refer to the degradation of the female vagina. A woman's sex is seen as her badge of shame and if she has control over her it then she has become astray from the path of the virtue.

"To insult a man, you insult his woman". I remember awkwardly shuffling in my seat, getting very uncomfortable when male peers would call each other "motherfucker" or "cunts" so casually. A woman much older than them was reduced to her sex, a tool to insult their friends. My sex- the organ that I was born with- was a sign of weakness. If you are meek or a coward you are a "pussy". In my language, I could never find the word equivalent of vagina, for it was too sexualised to use in society. Before I was even old enough to understand the workings of my body, a organ that I had been born with was left redundant to its function to please a man-villified by porn.

"Fuck" is seen as an insult because men consider sex a defiling act that takes away the dignity of the woman. Another misogynistic implication is the term "deflowering"; having sex takes away her innocence. After sex, the woman is not a human to them but a "cunt". The sexual paraphernalia of a woman is associated with purity. There is such a huge emphasis that is put on the concept of virginity, because it brings control to the patriarchal society over a woman's autonomy.

The sexual liberation of 70s was brought as a rebellion to these norms- young women were groomed into thinking that sex is empowering. Hookup culture also emerged as an aftereffect of the sexual liberation. The politics of a woman's sex is argued all day while the male penis remains as a neutral organ despite having been a tool to oppress women.

Sex is a completely neutral act of pleasure that is neither degrading nor empowering. However, this statement would only exist in a vacuum. Men use sex as a form of violence upon women-rape is a political tool. For women to take back control of their sexual autonomy, they must acknowledge the politics of sex-or lack thereof. Selectively choosing whom you are having sex with is the first step.

I implore everyone to stop using degrading profanities that have misogynistic connotations. When others around me --especially men-- use these swear words, I ask them why their insults always involve a woman to be degraded and humiliated. Not acting as an accompalice to patriarchy, not keeping quiet against the patriarchal violence and spreading word against misogyny is the best silent mutiny.

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I AM IN THE CORNER OF THE VIP LOUNGE CHOKING AND YOU ARE NO WHERE TO BE FOUND

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I DON’T KNOW WHY I LET IT HAPPEN

i reach into my throat and rip out every word of yours i let slip in

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slower muddied heavy weights upon my legs

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YOU TELL THEM NOT TO RUN BECAUSE YOU KNOW FEAR IS TO BE HUNTED DOWN AND PUNISHED