AITA for not telling my fianc茅 I know he鈥檚 queer?聽
I 20s (F) have a 20s (M) fianc茅, V, and he鈥檚 been talking about this terrible secret he cannot tell me and he keeps almost starting to come out and then backing out. The issue is V and I were raised together by his parents, and my surrogate 40s (M) father and (now deceased) surrogate mother arranged for our marriage back when we were both children. They thought it was the best for us and at the time we were too young to realize the implications and had no reason to reject to the match. When we were teenagers our mother was on her deathbed and she told us again that she wished for us to marry, and of course we both agreed. However, V is also best friends with a 20s (M) guy called H, and they were nearly inseparable as boys and teens. They also went to university together and shared an apartment but V had to come home due to family reasons. Lately he鈥檚 been going out all day and coming home at night hours later. He insists that he鈥檚 fine and that we all leave him alone and not worry for him, but I think he and H have been sneaking around. He even delayed our wedding day by arranging a trip to go to England alone with H. It鈥檚 exhausting for all of us and I think I should just tell V I know and support him and that we can call off the marriage, but I鈥檓 not sure that鈥檚 the best course of action? I鈥檓 completely fine with not marrying him - he always felt more like a brother to me anyway - but I worry it might come off wrong. The worst part is he鈥檚 really beating himself up about it. He鈥檚 so guilty it鈥檚 beginning to take a toll on his health. I don鈥檛 care if he has a boyfriend I just want him to be happy.
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