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The Himalayas, Aniruddh Sheth

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Somewhere in Oregon by Cody Smith

Thinking of Not Me...so OffGun is coming

長谷寺 Hase-dera / 壺阪寺 Tsubosaka-dera

I’m trans masc but also identify as butch. It was always a big part of who I am pre transition and now. Am I valid?

I just don't like the word valid. It feels like it requires outside input and approval. You don't. You don't need it.

You are resonating with butch for a reason. You are deciding to transition for a reason. These reasons are personal even if you share your experiences with others. You only need to justify butch with yourself and that requires honesty with yourself.

All of us struggle with telling ourselves the truth when it is often way easier to ignore or lie to our heart and brain in order to not have to really think about our actions and emotions.

At the end of each day you are with yourself and you are responsible for your own health, comfort and happiness. Don't give that power to others.

I strongly believe butches and Trans mascs share a common history and many experiences. If people want you to pretend you don't feel a connection or tell you that the connection is not real find other people in your life. You are listening to yourself and I encourage you to continue to do that. Push out the noise coming from the outside, especially when those voices have either no attachment to butch OR have a personal reason (ie need the reactions of others to the word butch to reflect or support their own) for others to think exactly as they think.

Listen to your own feeling and thoughts. Really liste,n and when you alone with yourself, you will feel comfortable in your own company.

Hello Cowboy Jen! I was wondering if you had any advice for me

Here’s the situation- I’m a young lesbian (I’ll be 17 going into college) and I’m going to study geology. I’m assuming my classes and later on my work environments are going to be mostly men since geology is a male-dominated field. Any advice for being in spaces without very many women? And picking a different field’s not a very good option either, geology’s been my obsession since I was five and I doubt I could give any other field as much attention and focus.

When I was DEAD SET on being in the DNR or a Forest Ranger or some kind of Park worker I was in my tweens and early teens. I loved the idea of working with people and animals and outside and getting to use my hands and my knowledge of land and history. Then some Jack Ass at the Corps of Engineers station I volunteered at told me women couldn't really do the job right and it was too dangerous and I lost confidence. I stopped going and didn't reapply for the Mayor's Youth Parks program I had worked at for two years. I just left the idea behind. I see now all the older women park rangers that are around and read stories of women like my current boss who was a naturalist for years in our county. I work at a nature center almost entirely staffed by strong women with the exception of the CEO, the marketing guy and one outreach guy. If I had seen any of these women in my teens i would have said "heck yeah women can do this".

You are going to be that leader, that beacon. That is a thought to keep in your pocket on hard days.

The truth about working with men is, in general, they don't really care and they kinda just feel awkward. They lack social skills around women so they end up saying the dumbest stuff. I am not saying men can't be total pains in the ass or feel threatened by you being around, they absolutely can. At the end of the day we are all human and women are 50% of the population so at some point they have dealt with women in class or at a job.

Mostly just start off with giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. Saying stupid stuff to try and be funny is not the same as harassment or hate. If you don't feel offended or insulted or threatened don't try feel like you are because you think you are supposed to be.

Look them in the eye, do listen to those who have good things to share, teach or discuss. Don't dismiss men for being men. Just as many humans, they want to share what they know and tell you what they have learned. I have been taught so much by the men I work with at the farm but I had to tell myself to listen and not just paint them in my brain as being bossy or mansplaining.

Don't shy away from questions when you need help. Ask when you need to ask and thank them for helping when they do. If you are interrupted by them say "I am not finished, please wait your turn" or something similar. Stand up for your right to share what you know or to get more information when you require it.

Basically, think of men as neutrally as possible until one proves he is to be avoided or ignored. Listen to your gut if you feel unsafe or degraded and keep notes on that behavior. If you must, tell your professor or a dept head if you feel like the bad actor will continue or possible endanger you.

Once you learn your trade you can recruit other women and share your love of your job/degree and some day it will not be more men than women around you!

Since we are talking about Mafia, why not throw in FirstKhao for some undercover drama (Yes I’m thinking about the Departed (movie)

Can a mafia story have GL…? Of course let’s give MilkLove a storyline! Intern lawyer V.S. Mafia princess

Speaking of mature story from GMMTV, I’ve been thinking of a mafia V.S. prosecutor story for SingtoKrist:

Krist has an accountant office on the surface but is a hidden mafia boss, in charge of a lot of legal or illegal businesses, protecting people the police were trying to prosecute.

Singto is the prosecutor, smart, cares about justice, but not above using tricks just to catch the bad guys. He seems to be obsessed with investigating the mafia Krist is involved in.

Congrats SingtoKrist on the new show! Hope to see more mature stories from the Ex-Morning😁

Hope TaeTee could do another collab!

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the Heart Killers: Congrats Jojo on getting the Thai BL Shakespeare adaptation:)

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