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mintyeels · 10 days

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Cluster b culture is going thru the

Oh yeah I'm awesome -> [minor inconvenience in relation of FP/exception/equal] -> do they hate me?? I'm horrible. I should have never spoke. -> [they apologize] -> oh yeah we are back

Pipeline CONSTANTLY

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mintyeels · 10 days

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there was a tiktok I made a while ago basically saying "your abusive ex boyfriend is more likely a misogynist than a narcissist" and while most people agreed some said I was victim blaming(?) and that I couldn't know what their ex is like, and while obviously I don't, every fucking person describing their narcissistic ex is describing a typical misogynist. ask yourself, is this behavior you associate with narcissism directed at women or does he treat his male friends the same way? is his general functioning in life impaired?

many people don't seem to know this, but a mental disorder is NOT based on symptoms alone, it's based on how much the symptoms actually impair you in daily life. most people could look at a list of mental disorder symptoms and identify either themselves or someone else with them. as far as a narcissistic personality, we all know people who appear more self absorbed than others, but this is typically subclinical narcissism (presence of narcissistic traits without significant impairment of functioning) which is not a disorder. there is also a misunderstanding of what npd is. a narcissist is not a supervillain invincible to emotion. npd is a defensive reaction to trauma that lead to deep insecurity and fear of being seen as weak or vulnerable. so narcissists aren't actually "in love with themselves" at all and often are diagnosed when seeking help for other issues such as substance abuse resulting from their struggles.

this focus a lot of abused women in online pop psychology have on narcissism is particularly concerning because it completely glosses over misogyny which is literally a huge factor in violence against women. people really only know misogyny as a surface level thing. they don't know it can lead to family annihilation, for example, and is one reason most family annihilations are committed by the husband. it's always "this man is a sociopath" "this man is a narcissist" when the man's behavior is driven by ideology. I am so fucking tired of everything being tied to mental illness and left at that. you know what this leads to? courts "fixing" abusive men by...giving them anger management therapy. guess what? it doesn't fucking do anything because the problem isn't mental instability leading to anger, it's targeted, purposeful abuse. we are getting nowhere

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mintyeels · 18 days

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Histrionic Splitting and What It Means

Histrionic personality disorder is characterized by attention seeking and excessive emotionality. There are 8 dsm-5 symptoms-all of which can be viewed here.

I want to focus mainly on symptoms one, three, five, and eight-but don’t get me wrong, all of these are a factor in HPD splitting.

Let’s talk about splits that are histrio highs first. If a histrionic splits, it may induce a histrio high or a histrio crash. If one has a split that becomes a histrio high, it may look like:

Extreme euphoric behavior, causing one to act out

Very very easily suggestible

Hyper sexual behavior

Extravagant appearances

Not internally feeling anything at all, not even happiness

Extremely impressionistic and/or vague speech, may manifest as lying

Believing everyone is a friend

Sometimes, however, histrionic splits are histrio crashes. This can look like:

Erratic and unusual behavior and expression of emotions (to draw attention)

Will harm themselves or others in some way to achieve attention

Either hypo sexual or allowing of objectification

More time spent on appearances

Internally only feeling dysphoria with no other emotions whatsoever

Very vague speech

Believing even those unknown are betraying at the moment

I don’t really have anything else to add onto this, since this is an awareness post. But yeah, thank you all for reading.

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mintyeels · 18 days

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"people with (disorder) not bad cause not feel empathy, can still feel compassion/sympathy/etc.!" but what about people who not feel those? i dunno, am just think, maybe not bad because choose not be bad people. even if bad, still deserve understanding, yknow ? to get better.

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mintyeels · 18 days

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can we talk about the darker parts of attention seeking in hpd? not just dressing up and being flirty.

let's talk about compulsively lying

let's talk about compulsively lying so much that you're not even sure if what you say is true or not

let's talk about wishing you were injured or ill for the attention

let's talk about faking injuries or illness

let's talk about purposefully injuring yourself

let's talk about putting yourself in dangerous situations by talking to sketchy people

let's talk about not knowing how to say no to those people

let's talk about involuntary trauma dumping

let's talk about socially ostracizing yourself by acting in an inappropriate way for the temporary rush of attention it gives you

let's talk about questioning your own personality, values, and morals because they get so easily shaped by whoever you're around

let's talk about how easily manipulated people with hpd are

let's talk about how easily abused people with hpd are

let's talk about vulnerable people with hpd are

let's stop this dichotomy of demonizing or romanticizing/fetishizing hpd

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mintyeels · 18 days

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Reminder for people with Personality Disorders:

You can be in therapy for years to be able to cope.

You can mask the difficulties you have.

You can cope well with your disorders.

You can function in daily life.

But the day you have a bad day, the day you're so overwhelmed that the mask slips and you simply say one thing, the neurotypicals will use it against you and use it to abuse you.

Abuse is a choice. Abusers make the choice to abuse someone. Not every abuser has a personality disorder. There are plenty of abusers that are Neurotypical. Plenty of neurotypicals will abuse those with PDs due to the stigma and misinformation around them.

Quit using terms like "Narcissistic/Histrionic/Borderline/Anti-Social Abuse"

Quit using "Narcissist" and "Anti-Social" as insults.

Quit justifying abuse towards people with PDs.

Quit armchair diagnosing abusers and assholes with Personality Disorders when you don't know the lived experience of people with them.

Stop fucking appealing to Neurotypicals.

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mintyeels · 18 days

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"We need more mental health acceptance and awareness!" Y'all still call ppl with cluster b disorders evil 💀

"We need more weird people!" Y'all COMBUST when someone is xenic 💀

"Healthy coping mechanisms are important!" When someone age regresses, you call them creepy 😭

"More people need to be proud of who they are!" When you see a furry, you cry 😭

(U should totes follow me if ur a supporter of these so I can b on the good side of tumblr XD /nf!)

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mintyeels · 23 days

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people have got to get normaler about systems

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mintyeels · 2 months

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unhealthy npd culture is ditching self compassion and self care even though you know it's going to bring you more damage in the long run bc having limits feels like a weakness and confronts you with the fact that after all, you're still a mortal

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mintyeels · 2 months

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As a late diagnosed autist I will say one of the most damaging but transformative experiences I've ever had was being misdiagnosed with BPD.

Everyday my heart goes out to people with BPD.

The amount of stigma and silencing they face is astonishing and sickening.

I took DBT for years. Therapists use to turn me away because of my diagnosis.

I would be having full blown autistic meltdowns, crying for help literally - but because I was labeled as BPD ANY time I cried I was treated as manipulative and unstable.

As if the only reason I could be crying was if I was out to trick someone.

95% of the books out there with Borderline in the title are named shit like 'How to get away from a person with Borderline', 'How to stop walking on eggshells (with a person who has BPD)'

I was never allowed to feel true pain or panic or need.

That was 'attention seeking behavior', not me asking for help when a disability was literally inhibiting my ability to process emotions.

There were dozens of times where I had a full meltdown and was either threatened with institutionalization or told I was doing it for attention.

My failing relationships weren't due to a communication issue, or the inability to read social cues. No, because I was labeled borderline, my unstable relationships were my fault. Me beggong nuerotypicals to just be honest and blunt with what they meant was me pestering them for validation.

Borderline patients can't win.

And the funny thing is - I asked my therapist about autism. I told her I thought I was on the spectrum.

BPD is WILDLY misdiagnosed with those with autism and I had many clear signs.

Instead - she told me 'If you were autistic we wouldn't be able to have this conversation'. She made me go through a list of autistic traits made clearly for children, citing how I didn't fit each one.

And then she told me that me identifying with the autism community was the BPD making me search for identity to be accepted - and that I wasn't autistic, just desperate to fit in somewhere.

I didn't get diagnosed for another ten years. For ten years I avoided the autism community - feeling as if I were just a broken person who wanted to steal from people who 'really needed it'.

Because of my providers - I began to doubt my identity MORE, not less.

Ten years of thinking I was borderline and being emotionally neglected and demonized by a system meant to help me.

To this day, I still don't trust neurotypicals. Not fully.

I know I'm not borderline now - but my heart aches for them. Not for the usual stuff. But for the stigma. And the asshole doctors. And the dismissiveness and threatening and the idea of institutionalization hanging over their head.

I love Borderline people. I always will. I'm not Borderline but if you are I love you and I'm sorry.

You're not a bad person. You're not a therapists worst nightmare, you are a human with valid feelings and fears.

Borderline people I'm sorry.

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mintyeels · 2 months

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its the gang...

(planning to also make the avpd creature, the "gtg")

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mintyeels · 2 months

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Idk where that post is that said “anybody who tells you other trans people are the enemy is a Fed” but yeah, can we bring back that energy please?

Trans woman are not trans men’s oppressors, trans men are not trans women’s oppressors, nonbinary people are not responsible for transphobes not taking trans people seriously.

Talking about transmysogyny is not oppressive to trans men. Using the word transandrophobia is not inherently transmysogynistic. Talking about exorsexism is not erasing binary trans peoples struggles.

Like comon guys this is really basic stuff can we all agree on these things before moving on?

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mintyeels · 3 months

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This a Geminitay Build appreciation post!

I feel like lots of the time, especially when combined with the life series, female content creators get 'badassified', and while Gem is definitely a badass (Geminislay!) I feel like this means people often forget that she's a builder, and her PVP skills often overlook her incredible builds (her gradients!! her organics!!) on this site.

Like! Her use of colour! And her ability to create such flawless gradients stuns me every time!! And don't even get me started on her organics because wow

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mintyeels · 3 months

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how the world feels about cluster b

bpd: need me a bpd girl ahah mood swings hahaha crazy girls with daddy issues

npd: a narcissist is anyone who is mean to me ever and i sense them with my Empath Eyes

aspd: exclusively serial killers and psychopaths, they are so evil and terrible

hpd: what the fuck is that

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mintyeels · 3 months

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Fuck my life. Stupid fucking favorite person literally never talks to me anymore and only joins group calls which i cant stand and if I say “hey youre making me feel like shit by clearly favoring them over me” theyll either deny it or say something like “oh but im clingy” or “this isnt how you fix our friendship” BOTH OF WHICH THEYVE ALREADY SAID. Ive been close friend with you for fucking four years. I dont want to lose you but I cant keep fucking watching you leave me in the goddamn dust while im literally completely isolated from the ENTIRE FUCKING FRIEND GROUP for shit I cant control! Theyre continuing on games that are fucking linear without me! Bitch? “Oh we dont hate you, were trying to include you!” NOT REALLY. You dont even fucking talk to me unless I force myself in there. You dont call with me to talk to ME. And any time I join call everyone fucking talks over me anyways. How the FUCK am I NOT supposed to feel isolated and ignored here? Jesus fucking christ.

#splat.txt

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mintyeels · 3 months

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"He had no empathy or remorse and didn't understand right from wrong. In my book, that's a recipe for a killer."

I hate to break it to you, but there's no "recipe". It's proven every time a murderer comes in that had a good childhood, wasn't beaten or abused in any way, was popular, had friends, etc.

I know that we want to believe that we can detect these things, but the truth is, we can't. I mean - I saw someone try to blame a murderer's actions on the fact that they were emo and suffered from suicidal ideations and depression. How fucking stupid is that.

Stop demonizing entire communities because several people from that background turned out to be pieces of shits.

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mintyeels · 4 months

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npd culture is having a small lil breakdown because your consult/ep? friend(s) arent responding to anything you send in your shared server (despite posting art there and proposing the idea of an art stream for a thing youve been making) so CLEARLY theyre SICK OF ME and what the fuck is the POINT of doing ANYTHING if i cant talk about it with the ONLY PEOPLE who i think are even NEAR equal to me. FUCK

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