men love to brag about how much they spend on their woman đ
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this is part 2 of my previous post: a manâs biggest flex is providingÂ
Girlies,
no sane man
masculine man,
is sitting around a table with his buddies flexing about how many hours his woman spends in the kitchen, or how fast she can clean the entire house, or how she can find the best deals and coupons
wealthy provider men brag about how much ease they add into their womanâs life
not how much they take from her and drain herÂ
theyâre out here talking about how they sent their wife on a trip to dubai,Â
or how they gave their wife their credit card to do some damage because sheâs sad about her dog dying
they brag about how bratty and materialistic their wives are âshe can never have too many shoesâ
but they donât say this in a malicious way, itâs actually an endearing compliment
this is a flex among men
this is saying âmy wife has a taste for the finer things in life and i can always deliver for herâ
no man aspires to having a well trained maid for a wife
those who do just canât afford the woman they actually want
so the next time youâre on a date and someone asks if youâre good at cooking or cleaning
if they make remarks about how bougie your wardrobe is and how your instagram is filled with fine cuisine
thatâs your cue to pack up and leave
men with money are actively looking for the woman who will have them spending đ
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Discipline 101
So you have the ambition. You have all the answers. All you lack is the discipline.
Unsurprisingly, this is a problem most people have, so donât worry, youâre not alone.
Tell me, do you have a concrete goal? Or is it something vague like, âRule the worldâ, or âget richâ or âbecome famousâ?
Usually those who lack discipline have a habit of getting ahead of themselves and they end up having all these fantastic goals without any knowledge of how to achieve them. They have big ambitions, but no clear plans, no visible steps, and no foundation to start their life on. Itâs the equivalent of standing on one side of the river and being able to see the other side, but having no method of making it across.
Itâs good to have a starting point, and know what you want in the end. But the path to earning what you desire isnât pre-made for you. Itâs up to you to lay every brick and measure everything out. In your life, youâre the architect, youâre the engineer, youâre the investor, youâre everything.
So the how do you get some discipline? Â Itâs simple: You need to know how youâre going to do something, before you set out to do it.
Step 1: Get Motivated
Make a list. And make sure you handwrite it. Two columns. Think about everything you have a problem with, all your interests and passions, and everything you have ever wanted in one column. In the other column, spend as much time as you need to come up with solutions to each issue/goal. Donât write one side, without the other.
Spend a couple days looking at that list. Make it into a poster, use it as your phone background, it doesnât matter as long as you make sure you see it every day until you feel something. Iâm saying that incredibly vaguely because people are fueled by different emotions. For me, it was rage.
Every morning, I stared at that list of everything Iâd ever wanted, every little problem that made my life miserable and I got furious. To see what my life revolved around so callously written on paper, and feeling so close yet so far, that drove me insane. My anger made my passion double, and nothing fuels discipline more than passion.
Step 2: Plan
Once youâve gotten yourself suitably motivated to take charge of your life, donât waste any time. Start by creating a plan. Now that you know what you want to do, figure out how to do it.
Create a timeline for the next year and then a looser version for the next ten years. It can sound daunting, but when you fall off track at some point (and I can guarantee, you will) youâre going to need something to point you in the right direction.
For your detailed, one year plan, make sure your goals are distributed into two categories: Short term and Long term. Â
For your short term goals, list everything you want to achieve in that year and how exactly youâre going to do it.
For example, Â if you want to lose weight, I donât just want to see you write down âlose weightâ. Tell me how. Tell me how much. Tell me by when. âLose five pounds by October by going to the gym 4 days a weekâ, or âCut down on eating X food so I can lose 5 pounds by Octoberâ, etc. Be specific.
For your long term goals, pick 3 things you want in general. The first thing should be something you can achieve in that year, and it should be the focus of your entire year. The second thing is something you donât necessarily need, but it makes you happy anyways (like spending more time on a hobby, or saving money for a new designer bag, etc.). The third thing should be something that stays fairly consistent in every single âyear-planâ you have. Ultimately, itâs either your most important desire, or very close to it.
These long term goals will help you put together your 10 year plan, and create a better sense of direction in your life.
Step 3: Prioritize
Learn to prioritize these tasks and goals. Donât go to sleep until youâve felt like youâve completed all your tasks for the day. Donât give in to distractions and the illusion of âwell-deserved funâ. Sure, going clubbing may seem fun on  Saturday, but it wonât be fun on Sunday night when youâre frantically writing a paper thatâs due in two hours. Thereâs always time for fun later, thereâs always another concert and another football game and another party. But some things have a greater impact on your life than just one night of âfunâ.
Iâm not saying become some kind of a workaholic. Thereâs always a time and a place for everything. If you try to follow your plan without any distractions or any fun, youâre going to get bored and then youâre start to hate your plan and your life and then it gets messy. Avoid all that by knowing when youâve earned a break. Itâs very important to discern when you can afford to step away from work to have fun with your friends and when going out is just going to distract you from an important deadline.Â
Step 4: Act
Now, donât just write these goals down and shove them in a dusty file on your desk. Keep them within arms reach. Look at them frequently. What I like to do is every morning, I write down a short term goal I have for that week/day/month and one of my long-term goals in my planner. Itâs just a little reminder and keeps me focused throughout the day. I donât feel like my day is complete or productive until Iâve had some progress on either the long term or short term goal.
Also, keep in mind that while planning is a great thing to do, donât expect yourself to stick to every single detail of the plan. Life happens, and there are certain things you cannot control (although it wouldnât hurt to try). Donât be too hard on yourself if you find yourself unable to complete one of your goals for the day/week/month. It happens to everyone, weâre all human. What you need to focus on is the big picture and move on. Donât waste precious time wallowing in past mistakes. Time doesnât wait for anyone, least of all for you.
Step 5: Commit
Discipline doesnât come from just being motivated or having a plan. It comes from consistency. Form productive habits, start efficient routines, and stick to them. For example, if you want to become a writer, make sure you write something, however small it is, everyday. One sentence, one paragraph, one page, the amount doesnât matter. Itâs important to understand that something, however small, is better than nothing. This constant dedication to your work will help you move one step closer to your goals.
The more you force yourself to stay in line when faced with temptation, the easier it will be every other time you are faced with the same challenge further down the line. Everyone forms habits. Just make sure theyâre the right ones and youâd be shocked at how much your life could change.
Everything you need to become disciplined is inside of you. Everyone has the willpower and motivation. Itâs just some people know what to do with it.
Just remember: Get motivated. Plan. Prioritize. Act. Commit
And the world is yours.
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Do you think its possible to change your body shape? Im over weight and have no idea what my actual body shape is. I would love to go for the slim thick look but is it achievable to shape certain body parts like the hips and waist or no?? Just wanted your opinion queen! đ
Hi love!
As someone who was overweight for half my life, I'll tell you that you don't really know what your body shape or bone structure truly looks like until you get to your ideal weight (not thinnest, but a healthy weight that you can maintain with healthy habits and allows you to feel your best energetically/mentally). Eating the right foods, moving your body, and doing certain workouts can change or enhance your body shape.
However, it is important to differentiate between body shape and bone structure/your natural proportions. Most people can build a butt or achieve a flatter stomach with consistent time and effort. With that said, you can't change having a small or larger frame, having straight or wide hips, short or long legs, a proportionally balanced vs. small waist, a flat chest vs. a more well-endowed chest, etc. Unless you get certain surgeries, fillers, or engage in serious restriction/heavy lifting (I don't recommend these options at all!), it is best to accept your bone structure/proportions and enhance what you're naturally blessed with.
Take it slow. See how your body looks once you remain consistent with healthy, balanced eating and daily movement/weekly workouts to discover your natural shape. Accept your unique features, and then be honest with yourself if there are certain features you want to tone/enhance with certain workouts or eating more protein. It is a highly personal journey with highs, lows, and lasting results that will be unique to you.
Hope this helps xx
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