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woke up this morning, rolled over, and very confidently tried to blow out my alarm clock like a candle. absolutely no precedent for that.
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when amy winehouse said “you have to be able to see through people’s shit, you have to be able to see through the world, you have to be able to be withdrawn and you have to be able to be your own best friend as well”
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Guy whose prophetic dreams have repeatedly proven true but he has imposter syndrome so he thinks it's just a coincidence
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Frozen winter woods
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“Whether in daytime or in nighttime I always carry inside a light. In the middle of noise and turmoil I carry silence. Always I carry light and silence.”
— from Talking to My Body, by Anna Swir / Translated by Czeslaw Milosz
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Hari Alluri, from “Ancestral Memory”, After Kwame Dawes
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moss light; kings river, california
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Wale Ayinla, from “Portrait of a Boy with Grief”
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Victoria MacKenzie, For Thy Great Pain Have Mercy On My Little Pain
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Control your thoughts, not your feelings
Trying to control your feelings is a recipe for chronic stress and frustration because, fundamentally, you can’t.
You don’t have direct control over any of your emotions:
You can’t just crank up the happiness dial any time you feel sad.
You can’t adjust the anxiety knob a little lower at then magically feel more confident.
You can’t pull the anger emergency brake and instantly feel tranquil and calm.
But it’s worse… Not only is it not possible to directly control how you feel, but trying to control your feelings usually leads to feeling worse:
Trying to make yourself feel happy (and failing) leads to more disappointment and unhappiness.
Trying to make yourself feel less anxious often leads to dealing anxious about feeling anxious.
Trying to will your way out of feeling angry (and failing) usually just leads to more frustration and self-directed anger.
Trying to control the uncontrollable — including your emotions — will always lead to a more stressful mind, not a calmer one.
If you want to change how you feel emotionally, you can only do it indirectly by changing how you think:
When you’re feeling sad, you can validate your sadness by reminding yourself that everybody feels sad sometimes. And that just because it feels bad to be sad doesn’t mean it is bad to be sad.
When you’re feeling anxious, you can shift your attention out of worrying more about the future and redirect your thoughts to something productive.
When you’re feeling angry, you can tell yourself that it’s okay to feel angry so long as you control how you respond to that anger.
If you want a calmer mind, you need a better relationship with your emotions.
And a major part of cultivating a healthy relationship with your emotions is not trying to control them directly. The best you can do is manage your thoughts and behaviors and allow your feelings to be what they are however uncomfortable.
Nick Wignall
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"All healing is essentially a release from fear."
– Helen Schucman, "A Course in Miracles"
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