Happy Holidays my lovelies! ❤️🎄🕎

We All Fall Apart

Personally, I think we all fall apart in the beginning. Regardless of whether or not you were used to moving around every 3 years and making new friends when you were a Military Brat. It's different as an adult. The place you called home prior to moving you had already established friendships and when you move you cling to those friendships because you need someone to talk to. Even if you've made friends where you are now you still want to make sure you're keeping up with your friends back home. Those are the people you can tell everything to and they'll relate and be able to give you advice because they've known you for a while already. At some point we end up falling apart. We're away from family, friends, and home. All things that make us comfortable and relaxed you're away from. You get to your FDS and you're excited at first. You get to explore a new place, decorate your home, enjoy your SO's company and get to be a family unit again. What people don't tell you is that wears off. You don't always explore new places right off the bat, sometimes you don't ever leave the house, you've already decorated, and now you're just suspended. You have time to notice flaws and annoyances that you never noticed before and that's when you turn to someone else to talk to them about it. Nine times out of ten you'll want to talk to your best friend(s). Then somewhere along the line you realize you're not even connected anymore. You don't know what's going on in their life, they don't know what's going on in yours. Eventually they fade away. Not in the "you never interact with them" kind of way, but the "you see their social media posts and that's how you keep up with them" kind of way. Make a plan. Create a schedule, pick up a hobby, get a job, make more friends, establish a foundation for your new life. Without these things, if you are falling apart, nothing is going to glue you back together. Don't worry about your old life, don't worry about your friendships, don't worry about what was. Focus on the present and the future. Every new place is what you make of it. You start over everywhere you go. The only thing that is semi-guaranteed is your belongings and sometimes those break or come up missing. Get out there, there's a whole new environment just waiting for you. -CM

The Beginning!

Two mommies one year deep in the Army wife life! Being a mom is hard but being the wife or husband of a soldier is harder. With kids, they’re so predictable. Not in the sense that you know everything that they could possibly do because they never cease to amaze you. Children will always find something to get into and new ways to get into those same things. However, our spouses. You never know. You don’t know if they had a good day until they get home from work, unless they were able to give you a heads up text. You never know if they have training on the opposite side of the country until they’ve practically got one foot out the door, you don't know when they deploy until they tell you. Even then you don’t really know when they come back for certain. When both of us got married our men left for basic not too long afterwards. For Destinee’ it was a little over a month and me it was 2 weeks. For the first year of my marriage, my hubby was in training. For Nay it may have only been a few months but it may as well be the same amount of time. Every month her hubby goes to training, it adds up. Sometimes the things that keep us sane are such small gestures a normal person would find it miniscule and demand a little more. This is the beginning of being ok with the guys placing their clothes next to the basket instead of in it. It’s the beginning of allowing your heart to grow fonder with each CQ that passes by. Within that 24 hours while you’re taking care of the house or kids or both, you’re able to reflect on all the reasons you love them and why you can deal with the super late nights, field trainings, off-site trainings, deployments, and all kinds of shit details that to you, just don’t make sense. This is the beginning of one enlistment or the beginning of one long career path. It’s the beginning of forever. Welcome to Fort2Fort! <3

Charice