There's something to be said for girlhood being lost and taken so young (the manuscript) and boyhood being clung to until the end of forever (Peter)
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In another universe, me and you are still wearing the same uniform and eating lunch together.
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You finally open tumblr after ages because it’s your reward system for productivity and it attacks you back to kys
one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have.
no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation.
no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying.
no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.
no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.
a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age.
Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse.
I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships.
The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery.
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Hey! I think I am falling in love...uh oh...I am falling in love againnnn
You learning to use tumblr is honestly so cute
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So dead poets society?
All’s fair in love and poetry… New album THE TORTURED POETS DEPARTMENT. Out April 19 🤍
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📷: Beth Garrabrant
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petition to shorten "classic literature" to "clit"
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"I Loved You", Alexander Pushkin (translated by Antony Wood)
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The quote “well behaved women seldom make history” is etched in my brain so hard I shiver each time I come by it
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no one can slut-shame you better than your own mother.
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I am sorry but deepika in om shaanti om didn’t turn me gay. It was veronica from cocktail. All hail the queen
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