I have a related theory that the most relevant dichotomy imposed on trans people is not amab vs afab or passing vs non-passing, but fuckable vs unfuckable. You see this all the way back in Ray Blanchard's theories, the attractive Homosexual Transsexual vs the ugly Autogynephile, and then to the terfs' cute butch lesbian vs fat hairy balding fujoshi.

The people trans folks are expected to be sexually appealing and available to are the ones at the top of the gender hierarchy, mostly but not exclusively cishet white men. This is because trans people are subjugate as a class and the value of their life is determined by their usefulness to those at the top. There is a strong correlation with perceived threat level that goes both ways: being seen as strong makes one harder to control, and therefore less useful as a sexual object. But also, being unattractive as a trans person is itself perceived as a sexual threat. To a transphobe, "dangerous" and "unattractive" might as well be the same word when describing trans people.

Crucially, the fuckable trans person is not in a position of privilege. They are the Gilead's handmaids, used and exploited with no choice in the matter, under constant threat of violence. And once they outlive their usefulness, they are discarded.

Of course, fuckability is a fairly subjective metric. Every person has different things theyre attracted to. But there is a societal concept of attractiveness, a general idea of what "attractive" is supposed to look like. Exerting control over sexual objects that fit this standard raises one's status, while relations with unattractive ones lowers it. So people whose personal tastes conflict with the societal standard are driven to hide it in shame, and may lash out at the objects of their affection as a result.

Here's the edgiest part of this already edgy theory: to transphobes, children are by default categorised as fuckable. They use "protection" as a euphemism for "control". Specifically, control over children's sexual development. Their reproductive capacity. That's always what it comes down to. Look at Matt Walsh extolling the fertility of sixteen year old girls, look at child sport genital checks, look at the mumsnet users lamenting the loss of their children's good looks through transition.

All of this generalises into other axes of oppression, eg the personal attraction vs societal standards thing is a frequent issue in relationships with fat women, and i know there's lots of parallels with the fetishization of people of color. But yeah, that's my two cents.

Can we talk about the weird misogyny that’s in the idea that T makes trans men ugly.

The T making trans guys ugly idea always is joined with ‘women are destroying their beautiful feminine bodies to become men.’ Shit.

It’s just ‘a women’s (or people that society deems as women.) worth is connected to how pleasing/attractive they are to cishet men.’ idea.

Trans guys becoming masculine is seen as us losing value and worth as a person because we are no longer attractive to cishet men.

remember, the only transphobia is acknowledging transphobia. if a trans man tells you he's been misgendered, he is being transphobic and it is your duty as an ally to make sure he doesn't hurt trans people by talking about being affected by transphobia ever again

This is standard issue anti transmasc rhetoric here ok, step one pretend to be concerned about some transmisogynist implication you made up, step two ignore anything said to the contrary, step three declare that hating trans men is gender affirming actually, very typical and i am already asleep. But they fucked up in kind of a funny way by specifying "passing" which lowkey implies that trans men who don't pass are okay to call women? Nice going. What they probably actually meant to express was that passing trans men are "socially seen as men" and therefore have male privilege, but by trying to make it into a You're The Real Transphobe Actually style gotcha they fucked up their own point. Which is still wrong, because passing is arbitrary and we've all seen transphobes "clock" the cissest motherfuckers on the planet as secretly trans. There's no degree of passing that can save you from discrimination once people know you're trans, and having to hide it for your while life isn't a privilege. That's called being in the closet.

Many people in the community really insist on conflating gender identity and gender class to present transmascs as privileged and part of the oppressor male class. This male positioning is then used to further distort, minimize our experiences and often even deny the misogyny we continue to face after transition. They say that trans men are men, not only in terms of gender identity, but also in terms of gender class, essentially they say that society perceives trans men as men, which is an insane thing to believe.

They advance the logic that identifying as a male places you in the male class, which gives you access to male privilege and power. Of course, the patriarchal class system doesn't work that way; patriarchy doesn't respect the gender identities of trans people. But unfortunately, many trans men fall for this and start to believe that they belong to the male class and have power over women, which isn't true at all and it's a harmful narrative.. That's why it's so important to distinguish between being a male in terms of gender identity and being a male in terms of gender class.

Trans men are men in terms of the former (gender identity) but not in terms of latter (gender class); in the latter case they are either women ("women who want to be men") or a third gender class.

it kills me how much people love to speculate on the trans male experience. transphobes and even other trans people will conjure up ideas of what it must be like for us to live, how hormones affect us, and especially what society treats us like. they love to tell us how we live our lives; strawman after strawman about fictional trans men who started hormones and became "evil and ugly", completely fabricated stories about about how every trans man they know suddenly "gained male privilege" and never deal with misogyny or transandrophobia.

people who tell you how your transmasculine experience will go have no idea what they are talking about. even if they sound confident, they are not correct- each and every transmasculine person has a different experience in life- we do not automatically gain the societal privilege of cishet white men once we decide to socially transition. they cannot see what your future holds. you don't deserve to have someone telling you how you will experience your own life, it is yours, you are allowed to live your truth, pave your own way and prove that we have varied lives that transcend what transphobes think the trans male experience is.

ok this is fucking wild are you seeing this. i don't even need to say anything I don't think. the absolute state of zionist propaganda

This weekend, the mother of 19-year-old hostage Liri Albag received a funeral wreath from an anonymous donor.It read "May her memory be blessed, we all know that country is above all." Shin Bet now believes the wreath came from Iran.Hamas and its allies continue to psychologically torture the families of the hostages. When will the world stand up against Hamas's crimes?We must bring Liri home now, along with all the other hostages!

is the nonbinary person "playing up their agab" or do they just have tits

I'm being serious right now, I know preaching to the wasps is useless, but if you're a bystander and you take this shit at face value then you are the most gullible sap in the universe and you aren't my ally.

Black women and white women are both trans phobic but I have noticed there are unique specificities in the ways in which both groups are trans phobic that relate directly to how each group experiences womanhood. 

Some gay men have also described being praised by people who know that they are gay fathers, as they react with astonishment over their capacity to take well care of a child without a woman in the household. Likewise, the participants in the present study described how they were recurrently praised, simply for taking care of their children. Such praise was given in situations where they had been read as fathers, i.e., presumably passing as cisgender men. One participant described a huge difference in how he was treated by people who presumed him to be a cisgender man, compared to when he was known to be a transgender man. As soon as people knew that he was transgender, and that he was the gestational parent, he was expected to be the main caregiver, and no one would praise him for his daily duties. Thus, caretaking engagements, which is often taken for granted when performed by women, seem to be similarly expected to be performed by transgender men who are gestational parents. The gender assigned at birth and/or the role as the gestational parent seem to trump the present gender identity when it comes to others’ expectations of a person’s parenting role.

from the study Transgender Men Forming Two-Father Families with Their Cisgender Male Partners: Negotiating Gendered Expectations and Self-Perceptions by Anna Malmquist

it is certainly a move to do absurdly evil shit, get called out, and then go "you can't possibly believe this, it would be absurdly evil to do something like that" yeah lol. it is

gosh yeah it's not like they've bombed hospitals killed paramedics and journalists or bomb struck civilian buildings they knew for a fact had children inside. it's not like we've been watching a nonstop stream of senseless atrocity for seven months now. anyway the dead children were hamas, the paramedics were hamas, the israeli soldiers livestreaming their crimes were hamas, the icj is hamas, antizionist jews are hamas, and then i died and became a skeleton and my ghost is hamas too

most trans people who people like to call "non transitioning" actually do transition, but people don't want to acknowledge that not all transition is medical

changing your hair is transition

deciding to shave or grow your body hair is transition

doing something different with make up is transition

changing your new wardrobe is transition

changing your name is transition

changing your pronouns is transition

coming out to people is transition

even just accepting your own transness without telling anyone else is transition, as it changes how you see yourself

it's almost impossible to be trans and truly non transitioning, even if that transition might be non medical, non visible or entirely self contained

all kinds of transition are valid.

there are also things that aren't necessarily associated with transition that an individual may consider to be part of their transition, like working out to make their body look different, getting piercings and tattoos and so much more

there are so many ways of transitioning besides surgery and hormones

"non transitioning nonbinary/trans person" is just code for "i don't consider your transition to be real because it doesn't fully fit into what cis people expect"

"some parents would rather have a non transitioning trans child than one who does" like yeah no shit. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who doesn't come out, doesn't change anything about themself. not their name, not their pronouns, not their hair or wardrobe. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who never talks about being trans so their parents can pass them off as cis. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child that is in the closet. of course a lot of parents would rather have a trans child who stays in the closet so they don't have to deal with their transness. but you all mean "non transitioning" as in "not medically transitioning" and that's not true either. trans people get kicked out of their house for doing as little as changing their pronouns. and if you say you're doing literally anything as part of your transition/because you're trans, people will absolutely give you shit for it, while a cis person can do the same thing and it's no biggie. social transition is not accepted at all.

there are some weird trans people out there who will completely dismiss people's life saving transition steps as "non transitioning" because they don't fit cis ideas of transness, it's disgusting

when i say "transition" i'm always including medical transition and social transition, as well as anything else an individual may consider part of their transition that doesn't necessarily fit into the two boxes

also can we stop acting like social transition isn't also constantly under attack

it really is so uncomfortable being a trans man in cis centric conversations of feminism. I just wonder. do they know about people like me? do they care? if I brought it up to them, how would they react? Do they expect me to be their human shield?

This seems to be a common thread between many strains of radical feminism, and other forms of reductionism for that matter, where solidarity is viewed as appropriation. To think of your specific marginalisation as The One from which all others derive means no one outside of that group can relate their experiences to yours without cheapening what you've gone through. It's a very isolating perspective.

I'm going to have to be very careful about articulating this, but I believe this is an expression of extreme transphobia disguised as an accusation of racism against a 'white queer.' and I want everyone to take note of it.

Like, she is working overtime to give the impression that she is lambasting white queerness, when if you read between the lines, that simply isn't what's happening. There are assumptions baked into this post that are harmful to trans people of all kinds, even if you set aside my white feelings for a second, just look at that 3rd paragraph. "Their identity is a performance" doesn't just implicate me, it implicates my trans black friends who, under this worldview, cannot have any intersecting experiences between their queerness and their race. They are oppressed *only* because of their race, and it follows that any white person speaking about their own experience is just making stuff up from nothing. It's really slick, inserting virulent and unapologetic trans-misogynoir directly into what looks and feels like an epic dunk on an ignorant white.

Please do not misconstrue, I'm not upset on behalf of "white queers," I learned to shut up about ~reverse racism~ when I was 15. describing queer identity as a "performance" is simply far bigger of a claim than you believe it to be.

huh i wonder why a trans guy would be emotionally unavailable 🤔 what reason could a trans man have to suppress his emotions and refuse to express vulnerability hm it's such a mystery why someone who is TRANS and a MAN may not be super eager to share his inner feelings like what coyld he possibly have experienced to lead him to be like that i sure can't think of anyth

Anyone else kind of uncomfortable with this post?

breaking news: trans man is a trans man. the police have been alerted

If you’re gonna send me a callout and then a callout ‘debunking’ post uh : idgaf I don’t know these people and I don’t reblog callouts