Everything is as it should be. You always end up where you’re meant to be - even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place.

Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it.

It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember that pain, just like everything else in life, is meant to be learned from and then released.

One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself against someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. It’s okay if the plan changes, or if you even have to create a new one.

You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, you can balance the world around you.

One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval outside yourself, can you own yourself.

You may need to be single for a while before you realize that the issues that came up in the relationship were half your fault as well. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? 

The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life.

Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term.

If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away.

Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up - to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.

Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possible go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again.

Am I the only one who thinks someone should do another series like friends? Six best friends living in new york, just living their daily lives, nothing else really. I don’t know why I love friends so much, I just do and every time I watch “The Last One-Part Two” I can’t help but tear up because it’s over. Except this time they would actually have to work and not have these great apartments that are somehow in the price range of a waitress, actor, and a Phoebe, who sometimes gives massages but sometimes is an extra on tv or a telemarketer turned therapist to that suicidal man. All I ask.

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life. -- Bob Marley

32 Of Life’s Most Underrated Activities

1. Going to the movies solo. Seriously – you can eat all of the snacks and it’s just you, the film and your own thoughts.

2. Receiving and opening packages in the mail.

3. A long, hot shower. Getting the water to a point of steaming, hotness and standing/squatting/sitting in it until you’re relaxed or doze off is awesome. Everybody should indulge in closing their eyes and being pelted by drops of hot water.

4. Staring at the sky. It’s so massive and far away — to just lie on your back and admire its beauty is something we don’t do often enough. If there are clouds to watch float by – even better.

5. Eating foods that you get to dip. I think this derives from the magical tastiness that was Dunkaroos, but now it extends to various things from chips and queso, to chicken nuggets and dipping sauces.

6. Being completely lazy with a significant other. Just hours upon hours of nothing but conquering multiple seasons of television shows, and mastering the art of sluggishness.

7. Using a brand new toothbrush for the first time.

8. Hitting the bakes, slowing down and timing the red light changing to green perfectly, thus avoiding ever having to come to a complete stop.

9. Rock, paper, scissors. Sometimes I try to find “not-it” situations just so I can suggest they be settled by a game of rock, paper, scissors.

10. Stepping on and hearing the crunch of piles of leaves.

11. Waking up and saying “screw it,” to productivity or obligations for the day. That means calling in sick, going back to sleep and spending the day doing — or not doing, whatever you please.

12. Building and lounging under a pillow or blanket fort.

13. Listening. Not only because you’re likely allowing someone to blow off steam and release their bottled up stress, but because sometimes it’s pleasant to play silent therapist.

14. Flicking through an entire rack of posters at Spencer’s, Hot Topic or some other dimly lit mall store.

15. Coloring. It’s like nobody does it once we get to a double-digit age, but it still possesses the relaxation equivalent of a cup of hot tea and a book.

16. Nighttime drives with the windows down and the music blaring through your speakers while you’re alone with your own thoughts and tunes.

17. Grabbing a plate at a buffet and having at the unlimited amounts of grub you can pile onto your plate.

18. The drive back on a road trip. Sure there’s excitement, anticipation and mystery on the way there – but the way back is when the entire experience is discussed and reflected upon from all of the participants perspectives.

19. Watching great performers perform. For example: LeBron James playing basketball. The fact that he’s scheduled for 82 games every season, plus the playoffs might make us forget that (like it or not) he’s the best player in the world, and we’re actually able to watch a man in the process of creating his legacy.

20. Peeling protective sheets of plastic off of our brand new electronics.

21. Random, lucid dreaming moments in which you know it’s just a dream, yet you’re still in there with full control of yourself.

22. Living like a slob in your hotel room. It’s a short-term mess that we’d never allow in our actual home, but since this is temporary we leave clothes, food, papers and garbage everywhere. Also, we don’t have to make beds or be neat with towels and junk – room service neatens things up for us.

23. Being underrated. Yes, it’d be fun for people to hype up and support you all the time, but as an underdog you’re given you the opportunity to prove doubters and naysayers wrong.

24. Saying “yes” to somebody – doesn’t matter what they’re asking of you, something about being able to say “yes” is pleasant.

25. Partaking in a hug that began with a running start and sometimes is met with one or both parties in midair.

26. Going through loud, wet, sudsy carwashes that feel like a poor man’s Universal Studios, special effects experience.

27. Throwing on clothes that came straight from the dryer.

28. Making someone who’s having a bad day or isn’t in the best mood genuinely smile or laugh.

29. Sharing high-fives with complete strangers over something you can both appreciate… Usually sports related.

30. Removing your shoes by kicking them off with your feet, and never having to bend or kneel down.

31. Getting out a string of 3 or 4 rapid fire sneezes in a row to clear the nasal area out.

32. Verbally taking advantage of being able to tell your loved ones you love them while they’re around to hear it, and you’re around to say it.

My Dearest Allie,

I couldn’t sleep last night because I know that it’s over between us. I’m not bitter anymore, because I know that what we had was real. And if in some distant place in the future we see each other in our new lives, I’ll smile at you with joy and remember how we spent the summer beneath the trees, learning from each other and growing in love. The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds, and that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I hope to give to you forever. I love you. I’ll be seeing you.

-Noah

23 DEEP ASS Questions.

1. What is more difficult for you, looking into someones eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someones eyes when they are telling you how they feel?

2. Think of the last time you were REALLY angry. WHY were you angry? Do you still feel the same way?

3. You are on a flight from Honolulu to Chicago non-stop. There is a fire in the back of the plane. You have enough time to make ONE phone call. Who do you call? What do you tell them?

4. You are at the doctor’s office and he has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? What do you do with your remaining days? Would you be afraid?

5. You can have one of the following two things. Which do you choose? Why? Love and Trust.

6. You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late even once more, you are fired. Do you take the time to save the dogs life? Why or Why not?

7. Would you rather be hurt by the one you trust the most or the one you love the most?

8. Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say?

9. Think of the last person who you know that died. You have the chance to give them 1 hour of life back, but you have to give up one year of yours. Do you do it? Why or Why not?

10. Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

11. Does love = sex?

12.Your boss tells your coworker that they have to let them go because of work shortage, and they are the newest employee. You have been there much longer. Your coworker has a family to support and no other means of income. Do you go to your boss and offer to leave the company? Why or Why not?

13.When was the last time you told someone HONESTLY how you felt regardless of how difficult it was for you to say? Who was it? What did you have to tell the person?

14. What would be (or what was) harder for you to tell a member of the opposite/same sex, you love them or that you do not love them back?

15. What do you think would be the hardest thing for you to give up? Why would it be hard to lose?

16. Excluding romantic love, when was the last time you told someone you loved them. Who were they to you?

17. If there was one moment and one time in the last month what would you change and why?

18. Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying? Why or Why not?

19.You are holding onto your grandmother’s hand and the hand of a newborn that you do not know as they hang over the edge of a cliff. You have to let one go to save the other. Who do you let fall to their death? What was your rationale for making the decision?

20. Are you old fashioned?

21. When was the last time you were nice to someone and did NOT expect anything in return for it?

22.Which would you choose, true love with a guarantee of a broken heart, or never loved at all? Why?

23.If you could do anything or wish anything, what would it be?

Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

--Dalai Lama

"I know a life without love is no life at all."