Literally just romanticize your own life. What’s stopping you. Who will care. Commit to enjoying things. 

self care is also being honest with yourself about your negative habits and mistakes. it’s also taking ownership of your faults and growing from them. self care is diverting from a negative space to a positive one. creating light and balance. blooming. watering your own flowers. being gentle but honest with yourself.

so take care.

Things we don’t do in 2019

Cry over trash friends

Beg anyone

Not see our worth

Chase

Measure mental health progress on a linear scale

Hate ourselves

Put our lives on hold out of fear

Shy away from doing things alone

Flexible Time Blocking: A More Breathable Way to Get Things Done

I’ve met a lot of people who struggle with sticking to a schedule - myself included - so here’s one way you can get things done without restricting your spontaneity.

Linked: The ABCDE Method: Accomplish Tasks More Efficiently

Hope this helps!

Lorde’s new album is so relatable and I 100% get what she means when she says it’s about being alone… Like once again her music has left me with this deep mixture of melancholy and nostalgia that I usually only experience when I’m at a party and standing alone in the bathroom while the music blares in the distance and I’m staring at myself in the mirror and feel raw and exposed.

atlas by keshi (live version) playing from another room / next door.

be of low birth and act in a manner insolently above your rank

“CREON. Listen to me. ANTIGONE. If I want to. I don’t have to listen to you if I don’t want to. There is nothing more you can tell me that I don’t know. Whereas there are a thousand things I can tell you that you don’t know. You stand there, drinking in my words. Why is it that you don’t call your guards? I’ll tell you why. You want to hear me out to the end; that’s why. CREON. You amuse me. ANTIGONE. Oh, no, I don’t. I frighten you. That is why you talk about saving me. Everything would be so much easier if you had a docile, tongue-tied little Antigone living in the palace. But you are going to have to put me to death today, and you know it. And that’s what frightens you. GOD! IS THERE ANYTHING UGLIER THAN A FRIGHTENED MAN!”

— Antigone, Jean Anouilh

“Why interesting and important? Because women are interesting and important in real life. They are not an afterthought of nature, they are not secondary players in human destiny, and every society has always known that. Without women capable of giving birth, human populations would die out. That is why the mass rape and murder of women, girls and children has long been a feature of genocidal wars, and of other campaigns meant to subdue and exploit a population. Kill their babies and replace their babies with yours, as cats do; make women have babies they can’t afford to raise, or babies you will then remove from them for your own purposes, steal babies — it’s been a widespread, age-old motif. The control of women and babies has been a feature of every repressive regime on the planet. Napoleon and his “cannon fodder,” slavery and its ever-renewed human merchandise — they both fit in here. Of those promoting enforced childbirth, it should be asked: Cui bono? Who profits by it? Sometimes this sector, sometimes that. Never no one.”

— Margaret Atwood on What ‘The Handmaid’s Tale’ Means in the Age of Trump

“Morning is cutting open its blue eyes. Time is a road. Time to go:”

— Anne Carson, from Plainwater: Essays and Poetry; The Anthropology of Water. (via xshayarsha)

unfortunately for everybody i will keep doing whatever i want

when mary oliver said “so this is the world. i’m not in it. it is beautiful” and “i wanted to know, whoever i was, i was alive for a little while” and “mostly, i want to be kind” and “i want to say all my life i was a bride married to amazement” and “you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves” and “someday we’ll live in the sky” and “i want to love this world as thought it’s the last chance I’m ever going to get to be alive” and “have you too finally figured out what beauty is for? and have you changed your life?”

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

the light is different every morning

Hozier's Angel of Small Death and the Codeine Scene // Gail Potocki's Heartflowers