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I am the “H” man in this Chapter and have posted my testimony of this situation:

https://theprivilegedshatlord.tumblr.com/post/185976519602/i-am-the-friend-known-as-h-from-cancerchaser

CancerChaser - Chapter 6

Chapter 6 ~ Using Another Phone for Manipulation

Trigger Warnings: Harassment, Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Manipulation, Narcissism, Suicide Mention, Suicidal Ideation

My first day of work at convention was good. We went into a room and managed it. Not many people were there. So we just stayed around and talked. 2 hours in I went to the break room. On my way back I started having minor pain in my injured ankle. I could still walk but had to walk slowly and carefully so I don’t reinjure myself. When I got back I told my supervisor that “my right foot was sore”. Not much happened after that really. I did not want to tell him that I was recovering from an injury. On the last 2 hours I was moved into another room, where some people where recording a podcast. I cannot remember the name of their show and I don’t think I can find out about their show unless I spend a day’s worth of researching and backtracking to find their name again. That is not even important right now.

I am mentioning all of this simply to show what was going through my head. Just to show how mentally prepared I was for what is coming next. I was very preoccupied with my work and my health so I had no idea to really process what would happen next.

{7} On 7:26 pm, I get a phone call from an number I don’t recognize. It was CancerChaser. This completely caught me off guard. The man weeks ago telling me that I “don’t deserve” his time is calling my number with a different one. I really never saw this coming. I lashed out at him and told him not to talk to me again and he still does it. He is that unpredictable!

He tells me to unblock his number and that he needed for me to send him some more stuff. He also tells me that he did not want our friendship to end this way and something else along the lines of how he loved me. I replied that I felt exploited by him. He asked why and I reiterated how he does not reciprocate the favors do for him. He talks about how he was there for me when I felt very sad (despite not being the only one). The entire phone call was him asking for favors and manipulating my feelings and loneliness that I felt.

After it was over I contemplated what to do. I thought about why he called with another number. Was it him being a creepy harasser and evading my block or him going out of his way to be nice to me despite our altercations as he hinted at? I seriously had no idea how to handle this situation and I was unprepared for something like this. I DID suspect he was manipulating me. I DID suspect that he was just saying anything just to get in my good graces.

However, before CC I am used to having mutual non speaking terms. If someone does not like me, I don’t speak to them and they don’t speak to me. And given that CC’s last communication with me was turbulent, I thought that he would never speak to me again. Especially with the “don’t deserve my time” quote. So, of course I would not expect him to evade my number block and call me with a different phone in these circumstances.

After 16 minutes of contemplating, I made one of the worst decisions I could possibly make it in this situation. I decided to give him one last chance. I really regret this decision deeply. I decided on trusting him despite everything he put me through. The best way I can describe why I made this horrendous decision is that I still had a small glimmer of friendly feelings. And I think he was able to tap into that. To add to that, he talked about a big game of valuing our friendship together and not wanting it to end that way. Doing this despite our falling out made me feel as if he was that tolerant of my negative feelings. It really seemed like CC was a real friend and I felt convinced of it. After all, I was lonely. I could not find people to play games with. And he knew that. So if it’s very apparent right now that he used me this way. He manipulated my feelings that way with his portrayal of a loyal ally and someone who would stick with me despite out fights. Fortunately it will not work anymore, given what he does later has destroyed all remaining positive and neutral feelings for him. He can no longer try to manipulate me anymore.

So I made one of the worst decisions I could possibly make in this situation. I called him back on 7:44 PM. I did not tell him it was his last chance because he has feelings with the durability of paper. I did tell him I was an emotional wreck and I that I was going unblock his number, also told him that I was unsure about it. So I went and shot myself in the foot by unblocking his number and letting him back because of his manipulation. On 10:38 PM (almost 3 hours later) he called me with same alternative number, while I was on the bus home, to confirm if I unblocked his main number and did his errand of sending him a picture he attached. I told him that I did unblock him and that I will send his picture when I get home. I sent the pic right before midnight. I was very wiped out by then so I barely got around it.

The next day I sent him another email with a picture he wanted me to send.

As of today I will never unblock people anymore after I blocked unless there is an exceptional reason for it. And if it’s because the other person is “sorry” then that will never be valid. And CC’s intrusive actions are why I am being more adamant. He literally made me have to bear more security like that.

The rest of the con went smoothly. I made a few connections there. I also played video games with others after my shifts were done. It was very fun experience (Super Smash Bros. for Wii U and Super Mario Maker if you are wondering). On Sunday (Memorial Day), I did not go to the con because my shifts on Sunday got cancelled and my family had a barbeque so I stayed home. Sometime during the afternoon, CC passed my home suddenly. I noticed him and went up to him. I asked if he could join me in the barbeque and he refused. He asked if we are still friends and I replied yes. The rest of the day was good.

I went back to the con for the final day (Monday). I did aggravate my injured ankle. I went around the dealer’s room and did a challenge for a prize. I decided to do the jumping challenge to jump as high as I can. I forgot how I was still in recover y and went through with it. I landed fine with both feet touching the floor but the weight and impact of the landing hurt my injured ankle. I started grabbing it and the people at the booth asked if I was okay. I replied yes and went on my way. After some rounds of playing Mario Maker and Smash, my ankle started hurting again. I got worried. I thought about going to the hospital again, but decided against it. After I left the con, I bought Aleeve for the pain.

On my way home I got some stupid text message from CC about what I did was projecting my anger onto him. As if he did not do that himself to me {2}. The irony is just amazing here. And it does not end here.

{&}A friend of mine suggested if I wanted CC to play with me, to pick a simple game with very little interaction needed. I will note this friend as H. Like WarioWare Twisted! for example. I had that on my 3DS. H suggested that I go with that. So the next I saw CC in his home, I suggested we played that. He refused me just like before, saying that he did not want to do it right now, maybe another day. He knew I desperately wanted someone to play games with yet he hardly ever carries through with what I want. He had stated many times (like when we first met to even the time he called with another phone) that he would but when it came time for it, he would always did and only once was I successful. At that point, I just gave up on him ever playing games with me ever gain. I still kept CC as a friend, thinking it would eventually get better. It never did.

{$} CC’s birthday came to pass again. I asked what is his favorite cake. He told me it was Funfetti. I made 2 loaves of it. One for me to eat and the other for him. I went to his home to give it to him. He accepted. Never knew what he did with it. I am assuming he ate it. Making a note of it right now for future reference.

After that, not much happened between us. I did not do much with him moving forward. In fact, my mind was much more occupied with Pokemon Go, as legendary Pokemon started to appear in Gym Raids. And before than I participated in a Charity Livestream, too. I won a prize during that livestream. I even started having some panels in future conventions, too. Panels I came up with based on a few I have been in. Interaction between me and CC was just me sending CC more pics throughout this time. Any time I did see him, I was distant to him and just let him walk away. A few times he did see me and greeted me, I greeted back. My ankle did heal several weeks after the con I was working. I say healed as in I can still walk, the pain is absent for most circumstances, and there is no swelling. Both ankles start hurting when I stand for very long periods of time (5 hours) or when seasonal climate changes to or from cold.

The rest of the summer the internet interactions happened at these dates as follows (all 2017, that are relatively irrelevant): June 14, June 17, July 3rd, July 7th, July 28th, August 10th, and August 24th.

Note: I did sent CC a pic of how I used to look like, maybe related to weight loss or something. I was around 500 pounds in the pic I used to look like.

Mid-August I ran my first of 2 panels. The panel is about Super Mario Maker and I would use an audience to create a level. I was inspired by several other panels I have attended. This is to set up context.

Fast forward to September. I had another crisis within the family involving me. Luckily it was not as bad as last time, but it did involve an argument between me and some family members. I felt very depressed after the arguments ended. I felt like wanting to end my life again. I sent several of my friends some pictures of how I was feeling. One was a bottle pill and another arm with a certain eating utensil next to it. CC was one of the recipients of the picture. Another was H. H went to my home to see me because of it. He checked up on me to see if I was alright. I told him about what happened and he told me that I needed more time to spend with friends. So he bonded with me that day. We played video games together co-op, the very thing I wanted from CC; H did willingly and fully. CC did half of a 10 minute game. H did full hours of gaming. We played Kirby’s Super Star, Brawl Brothers, and finished it with Super Smash Bros. for Wii U. Afterwards, we went to eat.

I told him I sent the same pics to others and he told me that it was a huge mistake on my part and that anyone can call the hospital to transfer me to a mental facility. He told me about an incident where a cousin of felt depressed and told one person that she felt suicidal. Said person who heard called 911 and the one who felt suicidal stayed in a mental hospital for 2 weeks. H then suggested that I tell everyone else who got the pictures that I am doing it for attention to save face, so if they all the hospital on me, I can save myself from being committed. Given that the next week, I had to do a panel for another convention, I did that. I told them I did for attention to everyone who received the picture (including CC). CC was the only person who responded and it was something along the lines of “yeah that is what I thought”.

In hindsight, this was really stupid for me to do this. Just because I felt horrible does not mean I should have acted in this manner. Why did I include this situation here? Because I need to be as transparent as I can here. If I left it out, it might be used against me, so I needed to have it included in. Reading through the emails and the evidence I have, I would have no excuse to exclude this.

I reached out about the situation to the others parties involve to provide context. Only 2 other people (besides H and CC) even remember and I sent to 7 people. One person got both the pictures and coverup together. He thought it was incredibly stupid for me to be doing this at the time. After telling him the entire context and background, he replied with everything about what did with the pics was unnecessary and poorly thought out; to never even think about pulling something like that again. The other person saw at the time and was interested in the outcome. When he received the message, he sighed and did not really care, nothing changed after I told him the background and context.

After that, I was preparing for the panel. I was going back and forth with a panel organizer. His first name is the same as CC’s first name so some confusion happened. CC asked me to send his pictures to his email and I apparently thought I sent it to the panel organizer instead of CC because they shared the same name. Then, I sent them to CC and apologized to both of them. I had an extensive back and forth with the panel organizer and the same time I got messages from CC (about what would be needed and alternative programming), so I thought I missed up.

I recently contacted said panel organizer and he claimed he never received pics from me. After checking the email confirms I never actually sent any pictures to such organizer who had the same name as I guess for some reason I thought I sent it to him because of name matching. And now as I am writing this mistake did not exist and I sent CC’s pictures to him and nobody else.

The con was a success. It was a 2 day con. First day was the panel and it went well. Some of my family was in attendance and so was H. The second day, I played retro video games, some with H and another friend.

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I am the friend known as “H” from CancerChaser blog in Chapter 6

I am here to corroborate what my friend said and provide my side of the story of this situation. Walhartonsclub (WC) told me about CancerChaser (CC) back in 2016 after the first incident where CC was wiling out on WC because of what seemed to a misunderstanding of affording a phone. I initially told WC to ignore him because he was not worth shit or at least is what I initially thought. From there he kept me informed about what CC did throughout.Now to go into when i was first referenced in the chronicles about CancerChaser. From what I knew at the time, CC asked WC to send emails over and over from phone to his email. Have no idea why would he need WC to do that. He could have used something like Imgur. Given that CC had a phone that was not a smartphone based on what I was told, it would probably be impossible. Of course trying to make simple suggestions to him like this is enough to make CC go into a hair-triggering temper tantrum, so there is no use to try to convince him to upgrade. It was 2016, being up to date shouldn’t be too hard, you can even get refurbished smartphones for a fraction of full retail price. My parents have the latest phones and they are older than CC by decades. Why did CC chose WC instead of other friends for these favors is beyond me. So he asked and asked and asked WC to send him these pics over and over. WC complied with generosity. WC likes to please his friends. He has pleased me multiple times. He also tries to be the best person he can be. Needless to say CC took advantage of him.So when it came time for CC return the favor, he was resistant initially. When he finally did start playing, he did until after half of the game was over. The game was Spring Breeze from Kirby’s Super Star on Super NIntendo. Did you know that Spring Breeze is a remake of the original Kirby’s Dream Land on Game Boy with a missing level and boss? So CC did not even bother finishing such a short abridged game. That betrayal was just foul play on CC’s end.

Then CC would later use WC’s insecurities to gain him back and asked for more favors. WC then approached me on rethinking the situation. I initially thought that he probably did not like the game and was bored. I made the suggestion to pick a game that has much less interaction. Like some touch screen DS or 3DS game. WC brought up Warioware Twisted Touched!, so I thought would be a good choice there. My reasoning is that CC probably has no real interest in video games. I have heard that he has play Super Mario Bros. 3 growing up. Which makes me realize that CC is a very casual non-gamer person.

Reading the situation in question at Chapter 5 reveals that CC had been simply holding the controller where the direction pad in the upper right corner and seemingly pressed no buttons which means he was faking interest and had no intention at all to return the favor. He really should have said that he had no interest in playing video games. He was lying to manipulate WC. Which comes to no surprise that CC refused to play Warioware Twisted Touched! when asked. He cannot play easy games. He cannot play very simple games. But he would lie about having an interest only for him to evade that with excuses. With friends like these who needs bullies?

The next time I was involved was when WC was having his panic attack resulting from personal issues that are stated in Chapter 6. I have received certain pictures that hinted that he was contemplating suicide. Being under vacation time from my job, I decided to actually come see WC to check up on him myself. When I saw him, he was sitting on a couch. When he saw me he was excited to see me I asked if he took any of the pills or hurt himself, he told me that he gave himself more time to think about it. Perhaps to think about the people that love him.

He told me about the situation that led up to the panic attack. Best way to describe what was happening without revealing confidential information is that someone was very sick and emotions erupted. I had told him that he needs more time to hang out with friends. We not only did Spring Breeze in full, but also Meta Knight’s Revenge, Dyna Blade, and Great Cave Offensive as well. Games in that collection that are larger than Spring Breeze. We did not get to do Milky Way Wishes that day, but we did eventually got to do it at another time. We also played Brawl Brothers, all I remember is that there was a code to play the Japanese version and we did that and completed the game. It was short at 5 levels long. We also played Events in Super Smash Bros. for Wii U. We did not clear all of the event, only some but we did have fun.

At Applebees we discussed the situation further. There I learned that he had sent the same pics to other friends as well which made me concerned. I thought that WC was going to get a wellness check on him or worse be committed to a mental ward for days. I only knew one recipient among the 7 besides myself (I never met CC in person). The person I knew is a mutual friend. The mutual friend never really got to see the messages, so he was unaware (it reached an old phone and when he got a new one, the messages were deleted). The mutual was relieved to know that WC was okay and felt better. And yes the mutual is informed of CC and his bullshit antics; I can confirm that he heavily resents CC, as I do.

So I had to get WC to do damage control to avoid being institutionalized. As information like this can scare people and be irrational. We needed for cooler heads to prevail. So WC told everyone that it was for attention. So WC can still run his panel at a upcoming convention and not be stuck that weekend in a mental hospital. He really needed to avoid the ruining of plans like that.

After all, my cousin once told me about the one time she told exactly one person that she felt suicidal because an aunt of hers being diagnosed of cancer (from her dad’ side, I’m related through our moms being sisters). Telling her best friend was enough for the BF to call the ambulance and my cousin had to stay in a mental ward for 16 days!

CC’s response was very callous. As far as I know, he never asked what was going on around that time. He just stayed silent and only responded with that shitty “I knew it” bullshit when he received a fucking coverup. WC was crying for help and I answered the call. I live 2 hours away and this asshat lives minutes away in walking speed, yet gives radio silence to someone he calls himself a friend to, is mere blocks away, while I invest in gas and mileage to make sure WC is okay. Some friend CC is. For someone who claims to be “a good friend” in his hate mail; he sure shows no effort in even trying to check up on him. Real piece of scum CC is.

I later go to see the panel and I liked it. Which comes to no surprise in my perspective. The next day I played Streets of Rage 1 with WC. The only other thing I remember is that there was some dude I met who was in a wheelchair because he broke his foot days before.

Now for my thoughts about CancerChaser and his narcissism.

Walhartonsclub would later work for New York Comic-Con and buy the Super NES Classic. Which meant for the later part of September and early October he would be very busy. He also was seeking for connections, so there would not be any room for free time. CancerChaser did not give a shit about the adult responsibilities WC had to do. And despite CC being older than WC, CC would not take no for an answer and start guilt tripping WC. Having enough of CC’s scummy actions, WC finally cut ties. This was met with harassment and hatemail. Which truly shows CC’s irredeemable character in full form.

CC is a fucking disgrace to everything it means to being gay. If I was gay, I would rather live in a fucking fraternity of homophobic bullies that to ever have anything to do with CC. This old man never seemed to learn a single thing about accountability or responsibility. How dare does he interfere with a job? What gives him the right to call his target for the simple reason to give expletives to him? And his emails? Disgusting does not come close. Making empty threats to for law enforcement for intimidation and truly showing his true colors on how he uses people only to claim they are useless after the fact. And his latest unprovoked email where he makes more empty threats and more shitty insults is fucked up. I have heard that CC passed by a block away from WC’s home twice after 2017. That is obvious projection. CC’s knows WC’s location. Clearly CC is the stalker. Stalking close to his target’s home and then acts like he is the victim and being harassed is scummy behavior. I have never seen such a scummy person ever as far as stalkers and harassers go.

I honestly have no consideration for him as a human being. If he receives anything terrible short of death, it is karma. He deserves nothing but negativity and hate. This man is among the lowest of monsters. I have had to deal with people with psychosis several years ago, but this man is worse by the power of 10. There is bad people and there is EXTREME SCUM. CancerChaser is the latter. The only people worse than CancerChaser are child rapists, pedophiles, murderers, terrorists, abusive parents, and human traffickers. All those aside, CancerChaser is the worst kind of person out there. Fuck this man. Fuck him HARD!

And finally I got one thing to announce. I get the feeling that people do not really want to read long as fuck posts like this on tumblr. I am going to fix that. I am going to working on readings of the CancerChaser blog and post them on YouTube so people who don’t really care about reading essays can listen to the situation as well. Because we really to expose CancerChaser and let tons of people know who much inhumane scumbag CC truly is.

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CancerChaser - Chapter 7

Chapter 7 ~ The Last Straw

Trigger Warnings: Harassment, Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Manipulation, Narcissism, Suicide Mention, Suicidal Ideation

Before I continue, I must address a minor mix up. Last Chapter I introduced a friend who helped me out who I dubbed H. However, back in Chapter 3, I introduced 2 people involved in a internet drama against each other and one of the was [H]. H is not [H]. They are not the same person. H is someone I knew for many years. [H] is someone I never met. Also [H] passed away a year ago and I can confirm that H still is alive. I also must note that [H] passed away weeks before H came to my home to console me for my mental breakdown. I dubbed my friend H and simply forgot that I used the same letter before with [] brackets around it.

The first 6 chapters was the greater context of my telling of what happened between me and CancerChaser and it has been building up to this. Initially, he invaded my life by reaching out to me and making me feel special with positive affection. I accepted his flattery not knowing I was being deceived by him. I was on and off with CC. I gave him many additional chances. I tried being nice to him, hoping he would reciprocate, but that never came through. And here I will reveal what finally drove me to finally end my connections with CancerChaser for good.

I will be getting into more of the circumstances around the issue, but it is important to understand the context around it, so I need to give the full picture of the entire issue.

First, I will bring attention to a small part of Chapter 5, where CC was in my home (second instance) and I was upstairs filling out an work application for a convention. 2 months later, I received an email where I got accepted to work there. It was New York Comic-Con 2017 and what I applied for was to be part of the Crew. It was a paid job and I had to submit documentation. I will elaborate on that soon. Being part of working NYCC meant being able to attend all days of the convention. Since 2014, New York Comic-Con tickets (except for Thursday) have sold out in hours. They even stopped having 3 and 4 day passes in 2017. And tickets were very expensive for single day (around $60 per day). I was only able to buy Friday and Saturday that year and I had those bought already when I applied for Crew. I had to wait the queue for buying tickets for around 30 minutes. But the most important reason for applying for Crew was to (hopefully) gain a paid job and connections, something I desperately needed to be able to work on providing for my own and take the necessary steps to move out on my own and pay for myself.

I had to do TONS of paperwork to be able to qualify to work there. Like the previous con I talked about here, I had to update more of my documents. I had to send papers back and forth. I even needed help from family to figure out how to fill out tax exemptions. There was more papers than the previous con I worked for.

I also was trying to meet up with connections as well. Connections that could possibly help me with employment. And they were going to be available in the area around New York Comic-Con. But only the days leading to NYCC they would be locally available to me. So I had to work diligently to find when I can meet with them at their earliest convenience. Many of the days (around 2 weeks) leading up to NYCC (which took place October 4th to 7th) were already claimed by the middle of September by either NYCC (October 4th to 7th and the 3rd for the orientation); meeting connections I contacted (September 25th – October 2nd) or something else I will be talking about now.

The Super NES Classic was also launching around that time as well. September 29th to be exact. I first learned about it in the live stream I watched in that summer I mentioned last chapter. Hearing about these news: I checked Google and got the confirmation. I was very excited for these news and I needed to get one for myself. I grew up with the real Super NES and had very strong fond memories with it when I was very young. I felt that I needed to get it when it comes out, not just because of the excitement, but also because of the availability issues of the predecessor, the NES Classic.

The NES Classic was initially released in November 11th and it was sold out very quickly when it came out. Scalpers started capitalizing on this and purchased as many as possible to resell for at least double the price for profit. And due to scalpers, the NES Classic kept getting sold out each time it restocked. For some reason Nintendo decided to discontinue the NES Classic for unknown confirmed reasons. This set the tone for the Super NES Classic and many people including myself have worried that the same scenario would play out for the Super NES Classic and that the only way I would be able to get one after day one, would be to pay scalper prices for them. I initially even wanted to buy the NES Classic, but because of unforeseen budget problems, I had to pass on it in favor for Pokemon Sun/Moon. And I was shocked to see the NES Classic get discontinued. This is why I felt I had to take care of this potential problem, so I can have my Super NES Classic without having the same situation with the NES Classic.

Even though, both the NES Classic and Super NES Classic are currently well in stock today; there is no way to know that would happen during September 2017.

I would also point out that NYCC tickets were also scalped, too. Mainly multiday and all non Thursday passes were often scalped right after being sold out.

In many places, especially popular cities like New York City: there is a culture of getting early in line to capitalize in events. This happens all the time, especially in NYC. I’ve seen it many times, in NYCC and even in Rockefeller Center. And getting there early is very crucial to do to make sure you get in an event, get a signing form a celebrity, any item that is distributed for free or anything else like that. There have been times where even getting in on time for the event is not enough. One day, I’ve arrived for Charles Martinet (voice actor of Mario) autograph signing when wristbands for that were about to be scheduled for distribution and not only did I not get a wristband because they ran out; but the event ended and I was the 5th person after the last person and had to see it end in front of me. This is why I had to arrive as early as possible to buy the Super NES Classic.

As the days for the scheduled days got nearer; news of the Super NES Classic release got even more intersting. The Nintendo New York Store release of the Super NES Classic had its own party. I often get Nintendo games (if I can) on launch day in this store, because they often have the best purchase bonuses. And the NES Classic also had its own party as well. But unlike the NES Classic Party where the first 250 people can get in; the Super NES Classic Party was limited to 150 people! And all 250 wristbands ran out in about 45 minutes.

This put a ton of stress on my mind. Not only did I have to deal with the stress of dealing with the upcoming NYCC job along with connection meetups; but also trying make sure I can attend this party to secure my Super NES Classic. I had to cancel a connection meetup to make room for this. Specifically September 28th. If it took around 45 minutes for 250 wristbands to be claimed, then 150 would be gone in less than 30 minutes easily. I had to be among the first 150. I could not take any chances here. I needed secure the console I wanted. So I needed to camp out early if I wanted to succeed.

For refrence I created a seperate tumblr post to show an entire timeline in the form of a list of links in regards to the NES and Super NES Classic sellouts that happened. All of this for the context that supports the importance of the Super NES Classic. Click and scroll to see what kind of supply issue we had to deal with as consumers and what we had to expect.

To summarize this is what was going on the background of my life:

I was hired to work New York Comic-Con 2017 as Crew and had to fill out extensive paperwork. I had to attend an orientation and work for 4 days after that. (October 4th-8th)

I had to take initiative and seek employment opportunities to better my life and that took up many days around the above. (24th-27th of September, September 30th- October 3rd)

I had to secure the Super NES Classic before it sold out and in the face of a potential discontinue at the time. Which meant even more days occupied. (September 28th-29th)

All of this happened in the 2 weeks timespan. And in this timeframe is when I had to deal with the following inicident regarding CancerChaser; which is the most egregious of all.

{8} One day during this period of time CancerChaser told me that his roommate was gone and asked if I could come to his house. I told him that I cannot because I was busy with work. On September 26th, I was on my way to buy cardboard. He found me outright in person and asked me again if I could come to his house or if he could come to mine. I replied once again that I cannot because of work, but he interrupted me before I could elaborate. He then talks over me and asks this:

“So you don’t like me anymore? Is that it?”

At that point, I had enough of his selfishness and lost all patience with him. I just told him something like “alright fine!” and stormed off. In all of the time I spent bonding with him, I gave him multiple chances hoping things would get better. I had hope for him. I thought despite our differences, he could be amazing to me, but after disregarding EMPLOYMENT; I could not take it anymore. CC was getting in the way of me making money, solely for the sake of his own pleasure and had no regard for my needs. I cannot have people like him as a friend because I felt he was activately trying to prevent me from what I needed to do. I could not take anymore of him and had to cut him off for good. He is no friend if he acts this way when I need to do actual work and he cannot accept that. Friends do not prevent friends from working real legit paid jobs. CC crossed the line by attempting to pressure me out of it. It was either going forward for my professional oppurtunities for employment to better my life among other things without CC or keeping a useless friend at the cost of important matters. CC or jobs. I chose jobs. I never regreted this decision, even after what happens next chapter. Yes, he actually does things afterwards. Pretty awful. Specifically bullying and harassing me.

After I got home, I typed out some angry texts at him telling him what I really thought of him and once again cutting ties with him, this time permanently. And I meant it more than ever. This is what I sent him.

His reply what was some stupid crap about me needing professional help. Professional help does cost money. And I need to work for it. Work is what CancerChaser was preventing me to do because his convenient time was already claimed well ahead of time and he only cared for himself and never considered what I had to do. How delusional can he be?

This “man” is in fact, near Quadragenarian in age. He appears to look as if he has children of his own or at least has many jobs under his belt. Nobody in their right mind would think he is minor. He is older than not just me, but my eldest sibling.

HOW DOES HE NOT KNOW THE IMPORTANCE OF A PAID JOB!?

And yes, he has worked. He told me he had a job when he was lambasting me over a smartphone. And I can confirm he has a LinkedIn page with at least one job where he worked for many years. He should know better. This is what I had to deal with. I reiterate; I am younger than him, to the extent that I entered his age range as he is exiting it. And even I know the importance of paid employement while this much older man is acting like a child using antics I grew out of as a teenager. Ironically, him angrily asking him if I did not like him anymore, made me finally stop liking him the moment he said that.

I could have tried to compromise and agreed on a day to see him. If he was a little more understanding and less abrasive, I could have picked out a day for him. I would have tried to accomodate him. One of the days cancelled the day after CC’s boisterous selfish actions (September 30th), so I would have set aside a day to see him. But of course, he was being audacious and inconsiderate. How can you have an agreement with someone who is this emotional when he is not getting what he wants? Talking over me, being abusive, and not wanting to hear any truth that hurts him. He wanted me and he never cared if I had any obligations. And also I did him multiple favors and came through for him up until that day; yet he hardly did any favors I asked for him. I asked him multiple times to play games with me. That is all I wanted from him and he only did it once out of multiple asks, and he did not even finish that (and it was one of the most easiest games ever). I had reached out to him and he was hardly considerate to me. He does next to nothing for me, but I always come through for him very often when possible.But the moment that I cannot; this is how I get treated. And also, I could have shown him emails of my job for proof. All he had to do was ask. He wasn’t even bothered to do that.

I had to turn him down and get rid of him. I had no other choice. There no way I would chose to waste oppurtunites on him. And he often wanted me very badly, but I did not really need him all that much aside from a second player, which I just gave up on him after he kept using excuses to get out of it. I was more useful to him than he was to me. But when an oppurtunity came to me that was very useful to me, it is logical I chose the beneficial option over a useless leech of person who asks endlessly and gives very little back. And when he could not handle that, it became much more obvious that he was being a manipulative user and abuserIt is from the situation that I finally truly learned saw CancerChaser for what he truly was. I had faith in him until he revealed himself as an immensely the selfish narcissist expoitive monster.

Not to mention, I owed him NOTHING. I don’t work for him or under no contract from him. And finally he does not live with me or pays my bills or anything. I am under no obligation from him.

And finally, I am going to provide proof to show that I actually did work NYCC and actually was part of the Super NES Classic launch line.

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Anybody who tries to manipulate others out of money has no right to call themselves a friend. CancerChaser is a straight up ENEMY!

CancerChaser - Chapter 8

Chapter 8 ~ Harassment and the Reveal of True Colors

Trigger Warnings: Harassment, Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Manipulation, Narcissism, Suicide Mention, Suicidal Ideation

Before I get into the harassment that CancerChaser committed after I cut him off for good, I need to mention the conclusions of the Super NES launch party and New York Comic-Con 2017, the events surrounding the incident where CC was trying to get me to leave my job for the purposes of getting me into his home without trying to compromise or ask for proof. Proof which I provided at the end of the Chapter.

The Super NES launch turned out good for me. I left the night before the wristband distribution to secure my place in line. I was around ~50-60 place in line. I actually tried to sleep in the line but failed. Had a bunch of naps but I actually got insomnia. 2:00 EST the store put out a tweet that the wristbands were going to distributed early, 2:15 EST to be exact. When I saw this tweet, someone in front of me got went away and I had to message him to come back ASAP. He did return fortunately. Both us did get wristbands, but around 5 people behind us, they were people cutting the line there.Wristbands were abruptly ended there. The store put out a tweet that they “ran out”. The commotion over the wristbands was very huge to the point that police was called. I was told by the people from the store to leave the area for safety concerns. I went to the nearby Starbucks.

The situation did resolve itself. Everything about the situation with the wristbands is covered here.

The rest of the night went well. I had fun at the party and I was able to purchase my Super NES Classic at midnight. Played for 30 minutes and home and fell asleep after 30 minutes.

As for the connections. It did not amount to very much initially, I did get some help with some more volunteer employment and a short paid gig. I did get invited to some Facebook groups. The meetups were ok. A few seminars, one of which was in regards to selling on Amazon. I worked at a TVFestival that I received a Job Opportunity at one of those connection meetups. Even though I did came up empty handed, I did get a few more jobs in my resume. And given that I got hired very recently, I think those meetups were very handy. So in the long run, it was worth it.

I attended the Crew orientation of NYCC 2017 and received shirts and my badge. There was traffic and I checked my phone and found that CancerChaser called me earlier but I did not received the call because I blocked him shortly after I cut ties with him. Here a screencap of it. Notice that there is a Blue “No symbol” next to it, compared to the others that have none. This is one instance of the harassment after our most recent falling out. It will get worse later.

New York Comic-Con 2017 was amazing for me. Met some new friends and many cosplayers that were amazing. I only had some hours to enjoy the convention but they were good. Most of my time was spent working. I was able to meet a celebrity who played a character I loved as child. His photo was expensive and it took days for me to think it over but I went with it because I felt he was worth. I think it took so long because I did not know his price. Once did, it took the next day for me get the selfie.

First day of working was great, but I was immensely nervous. I managed a room filled with parents with their kids. The next day I looked over another room with fellow co-workers. The next 2 days I did Photo-Ops. I scanned photo-ops of attendees so they can get their digital versions of the photos they took with their respective celebrities. I found this con to be very enjoyable overall. But my anxiety stayed consistently high.

However, hours after the convention was over, my phone kept shutting down randomly. The battery was inconsistent. A few days later, it would jump from charging at 50% to sudden 100%. Then drop to 67% a minute later. Another instance is when I had a portable charger charging and I actually saw the battery decrease in real time by the second. Eventually, my phone stopped working effectively. It would turn off right after a full charge and display 0 or 50%. It was that inconsistent, unstable, and unusable.

So my phone broke again. This time it was different. When I broke my phone last time, it was due to impact damage. After that, I took better care of my phone, learning from last time. The way it was broken this time was completely different. Next day after my phone kept going on and off, I took it for repairs. They could not do anything about it because it the battery has “expanded”. Th heat from the phone being used/charged cause the battery to expand. And apparently the battery liquids have spread over the phone. So it was time to get a new one.

Around the next week, I got a new phone to replace my now broken one. Going forward, I would turn the phone off more often and not leave it charged overnight anymore. So I made the phone account transfer process after I got my new phone.

Shortly after the phone transfer was completed, I got a phone call from a number I did not recognize completely immediately. I picked up the phone and it was CancerChaser. Apparently, CC’s number got unblocked when my new phone details got transferred. There is no way, I would even think about unblocking him at all. Especially after CC got in the way of my livelihood for his selfish pleasure. He called in through sheer luck and timing.

{9} CancerChaser in a aggressive, hostile tone said “Yeah” and asked if I really thought that he only thinks for himself. I was caught on the spot and not being prepared to deal with stupid nonsense from invasive harassers like CC; I was trying to move on with my life and focus on important matters. CC is the one who called my number to harass me after I told him that I wish to never speak to him again. This is an invasion of my life from CC. In my unguarded state of mind, I replied “Yes”. He told me the following quote and hung up.

“Go F*** Yourself.”

This is clear cut harassment. CC called my number for the sake of giving verbal abuse. Is there is any indication that I did not truly mean what I said when he was selfish? This was weeks later. I did not call him at all afterwards, nor did I sent him any texts to that number. I wanted nothing to do with him. I filter what I say very often and never called him selfish until he finally made me chose between him or my job. His self awareness is almost non existant. There is no way in any time period after the texts I sent him that I would change my mind about him only caring for himself.

Even though, I was unprepared, I did mean what I said through text and what I reiterated over the phone; and it has never changed nor will it ever. What kind of person starts asking emotional manipulating questions when they are told that the other person has a job and cannot help at that time? How many forwarding emails have I ever done for him? How many times has he returned the favor for me, when i asked for gaming companionship? I should have shouted at him over the phone, hung up, then blocked the number.

Now going back to the time he tried to call me on October 4th and his call got blocked. Notice the 7th symbol on the top left corner of the screenshot. It is a “No SIM card” sign. It came from the source phone of the transfer. So not only is this evidence that CC tried calling me for harassment, but also proof that a phone transfer did indeed happen. Not to mention, the calls on the log, which shows usage, proving the transfer further. So it is not a convenient excuse to why I “suddenly unblocked him”, that has to be done manually on the same phone and highly unlikely accident.

Here is a clearer example of the “No SIM card” sign.

Rather than trying to call him back for his leisure of talking over me and hanging up, I sent him an email to give him one last warning to try to get him out of my life.

This is the email and his reply to it.

“Contact me again in any way again and I will alert the authorities. Leave me alone. I don’t ever want to see or talk to you again. Stop calling my number or the police will respond.”

I need emphasize that this email was the last time I have ever tried to contact him. I have never sent him any messages to him after this. No email, phone calls, text messages, or anything like that. Nothing. I never ever said a word to him in real life after I cut him off, either. To this date I made sure to never talk to him ever again on my end.

“And I will do the same!”

Very interesting reply. Stating that he would alert the authorities, if I spoke to him in any way. As if I was harassing him. Except I am not the one who has done some invasive atrocities such as:

Evading the block using another number and asking to unblock original number.

Calling me randomly and being able to reach me because of technical repair situations.

Sending me hateful emails or phone calls following the times I wanted nothing to do with him.

That is all his doing. I have no reason to ever speak to him at all. He was manipulating me and abusing me for almost 2 years of our friendship which only ended because he got in the way of a job. Any notion of me harassing him is laughable. Does he have any good proof that I harass him? I stated many times I wanted him gone. Why would I tell him anything? The email was because he called me, hence a response.

I warned him about the police because clearly he is the one trying to override boundaries. I do not work for or with him. He is not family. He is not my landlord. He is not part of any city/state/federal government or law enforcement. Most important of all, he is not my boyfriend. And I never gave any consent to be his boyfriend or was even aware at all of any relationship with me and him. Even if I was his boyfriend and he tried to get in the way of my job, I would have cut the relationship off and be clear about it to him. I also have no legally bindind contracts with him either. He called my number to insult me weeks after I told him and I quote “Please never talk to ne (me) again.“ Very first line of the texts. Also, Keep in mind, he lives a few blocks away from me. It is CancerChaser who has problems ignoring me, thus justifying the need for law enforcement.

Something tells that he at the very least he knows he is doing wrong himself and using that in an interesting way. That will also play out again.

Afterwards, I was feeling scared for my life. CC injected himself into my life and now that he knows he cannot have me, he might go and possibly kill me. What else was the purpose of his verbal abuse? I had nightmares, night terrors, sleepless nights, panic and anxiety attacks; all kinds of symptoms of fear from this man. After all, he called me during an unguarded moment when I was busy carrying on with my life moving on; I had no knowledge that his number got unblocked and only answering a number I did not recognize. His location of where he lived alongside the fact that he used a different number to call me before to evade my blocking does not help either.

Eventually, I told some of my closest friends about CC’s actions. One person who I will dub AA, decided to speak out about this. Seeing the context of what happened and how I was feeling, he tried to spread info about this situation on several groups as far as I know. I only know about the posts that was posted on groups. Going to be honest, I did not like how he handled to situation. He was very hasty when posted about it. But, AA had good intentions, just needed a bit of guidance on how to handle these situations. I was able to get the post he put about this situation

Here is the post with the redaction of [CC] replacing his real name:

"I honestly did not want to post this but this is a serious problem.

[CC] needs to stop stalking a specific person that I need to keep private. He was told never to talk him again September 27th and yet he kept calling back at at least twice. He has 2 numbers and he used them to stalk his prey. If he keeps trying to stalk this person again, police will be called. I need to bring this up because [CC] is persistent stalker and his actions caused panic attacks and loss of sleep for his target,”

The quoted post was in the opinion of the individual I dubbed as AA.

CC found this message. But did he contact AA? No. He blocked AA with no word to him. Instead he sent me an email about it. He harassed me again. Keep in mind, I did not post that message. I also did not send him anything. No contact from me. CC sent me an email over a message about his harassment of me and how he needs to stop that.

This email is one of the most vile, yet revealing emails I have ever received. Here is a link to it, but I will save covering it until the ending part of this Chapter. Let’s just say there is a reason most of the previous Chapters and this one have instances curly brackets ({}) appearing during specific crucial moments of CC’s actions. It is leading to this email.

Moving on, I took the emails and the texts and brought them to the police. I told of the context and they told me to go to a different office. I went to that office the next day because it was closed by the time I went to the police. The next day I was simply given papers and told to fill them out and come back the next day to present them. I talked to my family about this situation and they told to not pursue him over this because it was too expensive and time consuming to handle a potential court case regarding CC’s harassment. I had to let the reporting go.

One of the things CC likes to brag about is how he was there for me when I was possibly going to be kicked out of my home and how I threw myself on the floor. I did the same thing when I went to see another friend in her home. Only this time CC was the problem. He truly sees himself as invaluable, even though other friends did the same as what he did only without the abuse, manipulation, harassment, trying to get in the way of a job, and the claims he made in the latest email he sent. My friend simply told me to ignore CC and try to forget about it.

Now it is time expose CancerChaser for everything he did to me and to prove what kind of a person CC truly is.

The Email Link (again)

“Tell your friends or whoever to stop posting s*** about me on FB.”

Coming from someone who called my number after I cut contact with him, told him I want nothing to do with him, and then blocked him. He reaps what he sows. If he did not want this, then he should have not tried to call my number to abuse me. Have pent up aggression? Take it somewhere else. Vent. I NEVER wanted to hear from him about ANYTHING he had to say, he forced himself on me with the phone call I never wanted. A call that was blocked until a transfer did not transfer over the blocked number list. What gives him any rights for him to do this?

“I do NOT try to contact you, nor do I have two numbers.”

Wrong and Wrong. Here is the most relevant definition of Contact in regards to this context.

communication with someone, or with a group or organization:

And here is Communication

the process by which messages or information is sent from one place or person to another, or the message itself:

Calling my number is contacting me. And he knows it is my number. That is definitively a “try”. And the October 4th attempt was also that, too.

And it does not help that he sent me an email, which also is contacting as well. In regards to a post about something he did, by someone else. As stated before he did not speak to AA. He went directly to me.

So yes, he did contact me and did it again. Since this is after I told him never to talk to me again, that is harassment. And he did it twice over.

And about the 2 numbers. According to this, which was found by searching for CC’s real name; CC apparently does have 2 numbers.

Even if he did not have 2 numbers, it does not change the fact that he used a second number to evade my block and stalk me. Using a second number to evade a block would logically conjure the assumption that CC would have 2 numbers. He indeed used them to speak to me, especially in an invasive context, asking to unblock his first number.

“I’m going to call the authorities if this garbage continues.”

If that is directed at me, then it is an empty threat. What does he have to press charges at me? I did not post that message. Does he have the means to pay his lawyer to sue me and go to court?

If it’s for AA, then CC should be sending him the messages, not conducting harassment at me. I sent CC nothing after the email where I told him to leave me alone.

If he went through this toothless endeavor I don’t think it would go far.

Now for the final line that truly exposes CC for what he truly is.

“I was a good friend to you, but you were NOT to me!”

This is what he has to say to me after nearly 2 years of knowing each other. That he was at his “good” level of conduct and I never even came close to making him feel good at all. Either that or he effectively erased all positive things I ever did for him and rendered them as null and void while pretending he did exceptional things.

Now to recap the actual context and the reality of our relationship.

What he did for me:

He initially reached out to me, not the other way around.

{1} After 4 months of what I understood was a friendship, suddenly insinuating that we were in a relationship without my knowledge of this status. Being unclear about it until right at that moment.

{2} Started lashing out at me harshly through text just because I suggested a phone if he could afford it. Thinking I am insulting his wealth, when actually speaking from a poor perspective and not knowing anything about his financial situation.

{3} Threw a fit at me in public just because I did not have disposable time for him. Then made me nervous enough to have nervous laughter and he took it as me laughing at him for his feelings. He also asked me for $30 as a response to me asking if I can make him feel better.

{4} When asked about his teeth, he responded angrily about it.

Did not back off after I told him that I was taken. Kept the interest going knowing this.

{5} Became jealous when I treated a friend who I knew much longer than him with less anxiety and thought the way I treated him was exclusive to him.

{6} Initially reluctant, I talked him into playing a 10 minute game with me just to leave halfway through.

Tried asking him again but with no avail.

{7} Called me with another phone fully knowing that I blocked him and asking me to unblock him. This comes after a fallout between us involving messages and emails. Used emotional manipulation of my loneliness to coax me into unblocking him.

{8} Got in the way of my job by trying to take scheduled time away from it just for his own pleasure and with no regard of the importance of my employment. Trying to use emotional manipulation with implying that I don’t like him anymore. {2.1} And he has told me that he works.

{9} Called my number at precise time for the sole purpose of throwing profane insults at me. Many days after I told him to never speak to me again.

To be generous here are the good things he did:

-He gave emotional support sometimes throughout our friendship. -He never stole from me.

What I did for him:

Came to see him at his home when he wanted prior to {8}.

{ɑ}Gave him a birthday present complete with a card. {$}Did it again next year.

{β}Relayed TONS of emails of pictures that he asked for. That he went out of his way to call me for that, too.

{%} Gave him a lanyard that he simply abandoned in my home.

Now I turn to my followers and everyone reading this post. Considering the context above, I will leave you with one open ended question:

WAS CANCERCHASER TRULY A GOOD FRIEND TO ME AS HE INSISTED?

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That is one EPIC destruction of CancerChaser!

CancerChaser Chapter 9

Chapter 9 ~ My Final Thoughts

Trigger Warnings: Harassment, Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Manipulation, Narcissism, Suicide Mention, Suicidal Ideation

First of all I would like to thank everyone who has liked, reblogged, and supported all the previous chapters throughout the entire story so far. You were amazing and I loved how you decided to read all of those long posts I put out there. I have no idea how much was read, but I am grateful I have some audience. I need to be grateful to have some people willing hear me out. And to see that many people have responded so passionately in regards to my question of CancerChaser claiming to be good in the context of everything he did or did not do, made me feel very good inside. All of you who responded made are the highlight of the year for me. From the bottom of my heart:

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!

All of the responses have no real preference to me because I don’t wish to cause infighting or jealousy. I think everyone’s responses equally important. I will pick the most memorable point of the responses to the CancerChaser question. From lettucegarlicbacontomato:

“This CancerChaser guy is doing something called projection. He is taking his own faults and placing them on you. It is clear, with evidence on your side, that CC is the one who never did any good for you and hindered you while you did so much for him that could do himself;”

It is obvious that CC was projecting. He was projecting in his email where he tried to make an empty or poorly aimed threat at me just like he was projecting when he tried to say that he would do the same in regards to me getting the authorities involved. This man clearly cannot handle anything critical coming his way. He takes what negative things he says and throws it back thinking it would hurt them. But it does not apply to me because I certainly do not try to talk to people who cause me trouble especially getting in the way of my job. And if he had anything on me, he would just go to the cops. I warned him simply because I was tired of having to hear from forced interactions by him to me. I thought if I told him that I am going to start getting law enforcement involved, he would back off. He did not; so I tried getting them only to be convinced to drop it.

I looked up the second number CC used to harass me. It led to a shop I am going to have to keep confidential because I do not wish to try to get them in trouble for whatever CC did with one of their phones. I told the person who seems to run the place about CC’s use of their phone. What I got in response was the man suggesting that I should take CC to court over this if he broke the law. Again, I do not have a war chest to do take legal action like this. Hopefully one day I can get enough money for a war chest to respond to CC if he tries anything after the fact or anyone else who is this intrusive like him.

As I stated before, I have never given CancerChaser any interaction whatsoever after responding to his harassing phone call he got through the phone transfer. And months after his projecting email, he went again on Facebook using a different account to send me a message, as I have blocked both of his accounts that bear his real name. I know it is him because the person’s account he used on me has the same surname and through searching CC’s real name would also give you info of relatives and that relative name also appears. I will not disclose details for privacy reasons. Have no idea why the relative would send me any messages to me as I never met the person either, which means it was CC using that person’s account.

After CancerChaser sent me that very atrocious projection email, I started to consider making this tumblr blog to write this story. But I waited until I got 100 followers so people would know what was going on. I got much more. A few paragraphs in the introduction was my progress when CC messaged me. And from there I knew I HAD to write and post this. There was A LOT of interruptions that happened behind the scenes that were unrelated to CC or the writing of the story that got this delayed constantly. I initially had a goal of finishing this by end of June or July but when I covered Chapters, it took a huge amount of time for me to finish each Chapter and I learned the real nature of the process the more and more I started working on them. I had to format, check spelling, think, double check details, cross reference, review drafts, look at files in relation, search my emails, and tons of other things. All of this on computers I used on a library and computer labs. I also had many interruptions take place, family related, as well as staying on top of Pokemon Go. Each month Niantic had a Community Day where certain Pokemon to catch showed up in mass with a shiny version possibility. As well many other Pokemon Go events such as Raid Days for Legendary Birds. I also had busy things to do, such as working volunteering in conventions and scheduled meetups. And finally when I went to the library in October, there was a hiring event for me to get a job and I applied. I did not expect to get hired because I applied to many jobs and got no followups and to my surprise I got hired. So the job I received had taken a ton of my time so that caused Chapters to pushed even further and I was working on the 7th one when it happened. I even lost my flash drive containing my files, but luckily I had posted many Chapters and still had access to the emails and other similar evidence.

All of this is why it took the entire year for me to post all of the story by now. I wish I could have finished it earlier, but again, I used borrowed computers to type this up. It seems to be old news by now, but given the limited time to use computers to write this in a competent manner combined with interruptions there was no way I could have posted everything before without doing costly measures.

I know this may be an old issue by now and it may true that CC has not interacted with me since the Facebook message, but that does not exonerate him. What he did was wrong and immoral. No amount of time can change the fact that his harassment was very uncomfortable and it was very vile of him to get in the way of my job and then start harassing me with hateful messages and willingly sending me very derogatory and hurtful emails. All of what he did is very reprehensible and he needs to be held accountable for it. And also consider 2 facts: First that he lives near where I live and knows my location, which makes his harassment much scary in context; Second, he waited months between the email and Facebook message. Do I need to mention how he called with another number? The man has proven that he lacks restraint. For all I know he has a plan to hurt me even more. I think he is playing into the waiting game very well and is trying to wait longer times so he can use the time as an excuse to keep harassing me and I truly believe that. Just because it happened a long time ago does not make it correct and justified. Especially when I could not be able to post this entire story in its full context in a week.

Would racial slurs and death threats be completely invalidated if they were reported later with actual evidence? Where was Hulk Hogan’s “it happened a long time ago” card? It did not work for him when the WWE scrubbed him off their records for a while over his racist candid comments. Also some of the incidents that occurred that were reported later in the NotSoAwesome document of #ChangeTheChannel are in fact up to 8 years old when the document was compiled. Not to mention none of this kind of waiting a long period of time rhetoric has been properly defined despite its strong enforcement. When is the grace period I can properly report incidents? I would love to know so I properly dedicate all of my life to post the exposure and set ALL OTHER IMPORTANT MATTERS aside so I can make sure this issue is resolved, just like how I made sure to redact CC’s identifying details, and telling the truth as I remember it. I even had the “happened a long time ago” excuse used on me when an incident was 2 weeks old. Not to mention I still have nothing but resentment towards CancerChaser because of all the harassment, exploitation, bullying, and everything else has said and done or did not do to me and I still feel none of what he did is justifiable. He literally asked me for endless favors and then told me all of that meant nothing to him because it was never good enough and I proved that with evidence last Chapter.

I have seen CC several other times after he told me how much a worthless scum I always was to him. But I made sure to never even interact with him. Anytime I see him in person, I either run away and take refuge hidden somewhere, or stay inside until he is far away from me. I have seen 5 times this way and the latest is November 7th. I even avoid even approaching the surrounding area where he lives and get off the bus many blocks away to minimize encounters of him. I consider his area of where he lives to be a danger zone.

I will continue to refrain from ever contacting CC ever again. I seriously do not care for him trying to get the cops on me because I have nothing to fear. If they did not care too much about my evidence filled case then CC would have a lesser time. I am posting about him because I need to bring public attention to this horrendous situation as a precaution of disturbing and suspicious creepers such as CC and what to do with disturbing situations like this. These henious actions need exposure as a precaution for people to consider if they get targeted by these kind of creepers. Chasers that are intrusive are very potentially harmful and CC definately proved that. And if that is not enough. I recent found this story of youtube channel illymation who described her story about her creepy abusive boyfriend who lived in California. Watching her story was touching because her recounting her bully gave me flashbacks of CancerChaser. I feel very sympathetic of Ilyssa and her coming with what she went through. I will leave links to the 2 current parts of her story.

“How I Met My Abusive (ex) Boyfriend” by illymation

“How I Left My Abusive (ex) Boyfriend” by illymation

Like Harris, CancerChaser has caused some serious problems for me and certainly is a menace around my local area to me. Here is a list of problems caused by him and his other potential problems:

This man’s location as stated many times is very close to mine, making him less avoidable. This makes seeing him much more likely. We kept seeing each other frequently when we were on better terms and after his most horrendous actions meant I needed to make sure to avoid him. Even though I do avoid his street, I have seen him close my home this year; but also seen passing past the library, seen him passing past the pizza place I was in, saw him coming out a gym, and finally I managed to find him when I was buying envelopes. And all of those times I tried actively to avoid him. Him being located this close is hazardous for me. I already know how he abused my phone number and email. God knows what else he can do to me beyond that.

I also have mistaken several people who have a similar body or look for him, which caused me to be scared until I noticed that it was not him by looking at the person long enough or hearing them speak. This complicates the problem. A problem that would not exist if CC did not abuse me as he did.

I also need to take people like him into account when I meet new friends. Before CC, I would have love people reaching out to me and be my friend, but after that, I now have to suspect such people.

His manipulation tactics are another hazard. I have later seen these gambits used again on me from beggar con artists in NYC. I literally had to deal with someone asking for a handout from me and tried using word for word that CC used where he ironically got me to stop liking him forever. Which ties into the previous point. What if I make a new friend and he/she acts manipulative to me in a shady leechy way? I already have a good idea of what to expect from them. He used me and I feel very exploited by what he did. How many other people will never appreciate what I ever do for them? I try to give credit when its due when I am able to. Not only did CC never gave me any credit; he also outright told me I was a worthless. Want to read that last line of the email again?

This last one actually does not apply to me, but would apply to anybody who are unfamiliar with gay people. CancerChaser’s actions as whole are a monumental disgrace to all homosexuals everywhere and can potentially set the LGBT movement far back. I am fortunate can identify CC as an outlier and can separate him from homosexuality, because I have met some wonderful gay people who are leagues superior to even CC at his best. One of them treated me with generosity and I told him how very grateful I was to him and I will never forget what he did. Another was nice to me, hosted a wonderful event I participated in, and gave me a drawstring bag. So I know not to judge LGBT community just by CancerChaser’s terrible actions. I can separate him from his sexuality and not judge any gay person from this just because they have the same sexual preference. But imagine if CC was the very first gay person someone has ever met and he gave them the same abuse and forcing that I received from him. Now add in all the negative stereotypes, prejudice, stigma, and all the homophobia in regards to being gay: CC’s abusive and manipulative behavior can make people homophobic and this is just very wrong. CC is the worst kind of person to meet if you are neutral or biased against homosexuals. The LGBT community has enough problems as it is, they need to never be characterized as harassing bullies, selfish leeches, or unrestrained creepers, that is the last thing they need. All of the struggles to come out of the closet are hard enough. CC brings nothing but dishonor to men who love other men. In my subjective opinion, he is by far the worst homosexual man I have ever met in my entire life.

I need to now answer another question he asked. Specifically his response to when I was nervous around him in the beginning of 2017:

“Who I am? Count Dracula.”

No. CancerChaser is not Count Dracula. Count Dracula is a fictional character created by Bram Stoker. He may be a predator who drinks blood of his victims, but he is not a real human being and he incapable of hurting real people. CancerChaser is a real person who I consider a real terror. From his persistence of harassment, to his overgrown petulant behavoir, his blatant disregard for responsibility, his parasidic behavior, and lack of self awareness; I feel he is a dangerous person who hurts people in real life. Unlike Count Dracula, CancerChaser is not a character in popular media, he is a real legitimate person I have actually had experienced. And I find him to be miles scarier than the Dracula character can possibly be.

CancerChaser does a massive disservice to homosexuals everywhere. He is to gay people as Osama Bin Laden is to Muslims. As far as I’m concerned, he is the Momokun of the LGBT community. CC is pretty much the Bear equivalent to the likes of video games such as: Action 52, ET, Sonic the Hedgehog 2006, Sonic Boom Rise of Lyric, Superman N64, Zelda the Wand of Gamelon, and Big Rigs.

He managed to outdo every person who had wronged me throughout the time we knew each other and every person who hurt me in the past since 2008. J. The junkie beggar. The abusive paramedic. That one psycho I had to deal a year before I met CC. Hell, I was treated better by people on the streets who wanted to beat me up than how CC treated me. I got better courtesy from people yelling profanities at me in person and pressuring me out of my money. And at least J, the abusive paramedic, or everyone else I listed in this paragraph never abused my phone number or email, something CC definitely did on both fronts.

He was hardly any good to me. Friends I already have and have met later already outrank him. The reason I wanted him to play games with me is because everyone was and still is very busy in their respective lives and now I am, too. Complete strangers have done much better than what CC has done at his best. When one of the most positive things about him is that he is not a theif, that is just sad. But even if he was better to me, his attempts to get me to leave my job is still very immoral. I have people in my local area who play Pokemon Go and we help each other all the time. The people in the local raid group give me rides to the raid areas when they can and I find them to be valuable. If I treated them like how CC treated me, with such reckless selfishness; I would be excommunicated. I would recieve much less help from them and my experience would suffer.

I need to reiterate that one girl who I claimed was my girlfriend to CC in vain attempt to get him out of my life. She was a girl I wanted to love and I met her in college. She rejected me and unfirended me on Facebook. After that I left her alone. I never spoke to her again. If I treated her the same way CC treated me, with that kind of selfish lust and controlling demand, I would get restraining orders and might get in serious trouble with the college.

I would rather live out in the cold in negative farenheit degree weather than to ever even approach his home. He is just that toxic. I have never had to deal with someone this horrendous in my adult life ever.

That is pretty much the end. I have nothing else to say about CancerChaser. So I will end this Chapter and story with this paraphrased and modified quote from UrinatingTree, Because the tone template fits my feelings of CC and all what he did to me these past 2 years.

“Congratulations to CancerChaser. He has acted so horrendous that every other offender that I had to deal with this decade can walk with their heads held high as they didn’t conduct themselves in such putrid selfishness. His terrible behavior convinces people to hate everything pertaining to homosexuality to the point of 1860’s era bigotry. This man is better off shunned from any LGBT community. People may think he represents the worst of chubby chasers, but I call him a travesty upon the human race who just happens to fetishize overweight men, He has hurt too many people and should be ashamed for it.“

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bring this asshole down!

CancerChaser Masterpost

I’ve been dealing with an abusive local creeper and I need to come out with this story now. Rather than identifying his real name, I gave him the name CancerChaser for legal reasons.

This Masterpost is an abridged recollection that gets to the point. Each of the 9 Chapters and the intro have links that go into depth of what happened in their respective posts. All of this story is real and non fiction.

Intro Introduction to me and CancerChaser, my perpetrator.

Chapter 1 CancerChaser reached out to me be for us to become friends, or at least that is what I thought at the time. We bond for a few months.

Chapter 2 CancerChaser reveals that we are in a relationship after months of never telling me outright about it. Then he became abusive to me when I politely suggest him a smartphone.

Chapter 3 After we reconciled, he would later lash out at me in public and claim that I was laughing at his feelings. He also asked for money from me after I asked if there was anything I could do for him.

Chapter 4 I made the mistake of giving him another chance, only for him to get jealous of treating a closer friend with less anxiety. I still make the mistake of accepting him anyway. I would eventually learn how costly that mistake was.

Chapter 5 I started doing many favors for him. He often asked if he could send me pictures from his phone to his email. When I ask him for favors, he never is in the mood and when he does do one favor, he left halfway through it. He then harasses me through email.

Chapter 6 After the last falling out, he calls me with another number and uses manipulation to coax me to unblocking his number. Another mistake I regret doing

Chapter 7 CANCERCHASER GETS IN THE WAY OF MY JOB! He demands that I take time that was already booked in advance for my job to come see him and puts the pressure on me by asking if I don’t like him anymore. This was the final straw, I had enough of his heinous attitude and cut him off for good.

Chapter 8 CANCERCHASER SENDS ME HARASSMENT I NEVER WANTED! After a phone repair and transfer, he calls me right after to give me hateful abusive harassment. Some time later he sent me an email telling me how much he never appreciated anything I ever did for him while claiming to be a good friend. I end the chapter with a question to ask if he was truly a good friend or not.

Chapter 9 My final thoughts on this situation.

Initially drafted June 21st 2018

Here a mirror a friend of mine posted. It even has the color coded incidents on the chapters like I originally wanted.

His thought on the matter.

3/5/2019: CancerChaser’s newest harassing email - He thinks I am subscribed to his YouTube Channel and makes the same threats as before.

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“Stop Subscribing to me on YouTube?” You CANNOT be serious! This guy sounds mentally handicapped.

It is 2019 and I am still getting harassment from CancerChaser

On February 11th of this year, I was walking home from a job interview. I saw CancerChaser pass by a block, so I turned away and backtracked to walk away to make sure to let him pass first so I can get home safely. I turned around and I saw that he was gone. I took a look at a corner to see if he nearby and I saw him talking to someone. As soon as I saw him I started running home. I never followed him.

3 days later (February 14th), I was at a local park. There was a Palkia raid in Pokemon Go that took place at the park. The park in question is a few blocks away from both my location and CC’s, it is also on the opposite direction of CC. The raid in question started around 6:26 PM and I went in with my local raid group around that time. I have logs of the group chat to corroborate this, in fact. After we have finished the raid, I noticed CC on the street side of the park while I was sitting on the bench around 20 feet away from him. Right after that I put my head down and focused on catching Palkia. After catching Palkia, I noticed CC was gone and I left further in the park away from the street.

February 19th CC sent me this harassing email. Only noticed it now (March 5th) because I periodically check if CC sends me emails in case he happens to do so. I never respond only keep the emails to document.

CancerChaser’s latest email

“Stop subscribing to me on Youtube you nasty, FAT ASS WHALE “

I am not subscribed to him on YouTube. If I am, which account is it? Why would I subscribe to someone who exploits me, harasses me, and sends me bullying messages like this unprovoked? I have him blocked everywhere. Why would I subscribe to a local stalker like him? Especially if he tells me I was never good to him.

Calling me a nasty fat whale in Caps. What a strong moral character. No way toxic at all. Gotta love the fat ass shaming, despite 2 years ago wanting said butt.

“You are a deranged stalker, “

You cannot have a CancerChaser moment without projection. That is like a modern Nintendo platform without a Mario game. I never sent any messages to him since 2017. Yet calls me a stalker. Again, I have not sent messages to him calling him a “nasty, FAT ASS WHALE” or “ I was a good friend to you, but you were NOT to me!” or calling his phone to tell him “ Go F*** Yourself.” . The only solid lead he has is that he has seen me on the streets, but that is highly probable because we live several blocks from each other. I make sure to avoid his street at all costs. If the bus I board passes by his home, I make sure I am 4-5 blocks away when I stop and go further away from his street on my way home. I know where he lives, so if I was really stalking him, he would likely catch me there. Never closer to where I live or anywhere else.

“I saved all of the threats that your “friends” sent me on Facebook and I will be contacting the police if it persists.”

Very interested in those “threats” received on Facebook. Interesting choice of words. Also gotta love the quotes around friends implying I have none despite meeting one of mine IRL.

“I know people in the [redacted] Police Department, so you had better watch yourself you pathetic ass wannabe b****!”

As you can probably tell, this is a poorly done intimidation tactic. Seriously, the email he sent me was pointless. If he was actually serious, he would send me nothing. He would go straight to the police. He knows my info so he can get the cops if he has strong proof to warrant my arrest. If he really knows people in the local police department and he brings up his side of the story of me “harassing” him, they would tell him that to not engage with me and to not divulge information about this, like what he is doing on the email. The insults at the end also do not help his cause, either. Making threats like that is shooting himself in the foot.

This creep will never stop. I doubt he knows about this blog yet. Nothing that points to it is referenced at all. Again, I never have interacted with him after the last email in 2017. Very odd that he said absolutely nothing after April 2018 but suddenly get an email in February 2019. I suspect that he was waiting long periods of time to get at me over and over and here it is. As stated in Chapter 9. I totally called it.

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