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allboutheyaoi · 1 year

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oh that ask reminded me of a manga i read forever ago that im having trouble fully remembering- are there some other flower shop bl manga u know of? bc all i can remember was one of the characters was working in a flower shop, the other was either a new employee at the shop or a new customer. im having trouble recalling any of it so if theres a few possible ones u know of that would be helpful!

anon-san, that's like the base plot for almost any flower shop-themed BL manga you can find (ㄒoㄒ) aight, I do have a florist recs in the masterlist but you see, the list is pretty damn outdated and I'm honestly not satisfied with it. So here's a real proper FLORIST/FLOWER SHOP (MANGA) recs from ya gurl! Happy yaoi-ing!

The Wolf in the flower shop by Nako

Takane no Hana wa Chirasaretai by Sakyo Aya

Chotto Matte yo Hanaya-san by Machiya Hatoko

Naked Color by Amamiya

Florist no Koi wa Saku by Yoshi

Hana no Mizo Shiru by Takarai Rihito

Hanaya no Nikai de by Sugano Akira, Ninomiya Etsumi (part of a family series)

Kimiiro Eden by Aomoto Sari

Koi made Hyakurin by Amagakure Gido

By my side by Natsume Kazuki

Mankai Darling by Yamamoto Kotetsuko

Tsubanakasu Haru by Migino Yagi

Hana Tokidoki Kuma by Sumiya Kei

Kawaisa Amatte Nanika ga Hyakubai by Enzou (Chapter 1-3)

Koisuru Barairo Tenchou by Mochimeko

Engrave My Love by Sousuke Haiba

Okubyoumono ni Hanataba wo by Inomiya Miya

#obviously it's not everything out there #this time I'm much more picky and curate the ones WORTH reading #hope you'll able to find the manga you're looking for!#flower shop #florist #recommendation #anonymous #answered

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not-poignant · 5 years

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how exactly do you cope with or respond to fandoms that just seem overall incredibly unsupportive/close minded? like there's certain works that I'm into, but sometimes, the fandom just isn't my cup of tea and I don't know what to do

I’ve been in like...a couple of toxic fandoms in the past. One became toxic over a period of time, for a short period of time, due to specific BNFs in the fandom (that would be Rise of the Guardians about 6 years ago - it’s not like that anymore and hasn’t been for a long time, I wouldn’t have been able to write TGATNW otherwise I think), and the other was Dragon Age. I mean there are other fandoms I’m in like Steven Universe and Voltron that are obviously famous for being super toxic, but aside from looking at fanart and the occasional fic, I’m not very involved and so it’s easy to avoid.

Honestly, re: the ‘how do you cope’ I just ignore it? Like, the Detroit: Become Human fandom has been really bizarre. Not toxic just...WEIRD. Lmao. But I didn’t start writing for those people, I started writing the story for myself and like the one or two people I thought would like the story. And when certain types of comments started getting me down, I then began ignoring the fandom actively in favour of thinking about those people instead.

Like, I get to choose how much I interact with a fandom. Even with products I really love, like Dragon Age, I follow only about two or three dedicated DA posters who I feel curate their feeds pretty well. I don’t compromise by thinking ‘oh well even though they post things that make me uncomfortable / anti stuff the fanart they post is worth it.’ It’s NOT worth it, if it exposes me to those kinds of attitudes on a regular basis. The occasional post from a mutual I can generally ignore (unless it’s an anti post), but I’m not going to pick up people to follow who are 50% good content and 50% ‘oh god.’ Because you’re not going to end up enjoying the good content very much in that scenario.

So some fandoms I read a lot of fics very actively, interact with authors etc. I think that’s more typical of me in Black Butler/Kuroshitsuji, especially among Ciel/Sebastian shippers. Ditto Thorki shippers in Marvel. Sometimes you see me posting more fanart for that stuff over at @capillata not because I actually care about those fandoms more than other ones, but because I can afford to follow more people because the fandoms overall are less toxic etc.

The other thing to keep in mind is that say, for example, Steven Universe, I would consider myself a part of that fandom because I reblog fanart, I watch the show pretty religiously, I know all the words to the songs, etc. But I’m not the gross, wanky, anti part of it. I’m still a part of fandom just because I’m not like, in the section it’s most famous for. I daresay most members of the Steven Universe fandom are just like me. They’re just quieter and less loud and are more likely to walk away from stupid arguments! So anon, generally speaking, if you are interacting with the fanworks of a fandom, you are part of the fandom too! Just...in a different way to what you’re seeing. Chances are, unless the fandom is literally only four people, you’re not alone. :D It can take time to find the quieter, less drama-focused members of fandom precisely because they are quieter and less drama-focused. They won’t be tagging all their posts into the main tags, their Twitters may be hard to find, etc.

It also helps to be in more than one fandom. Like, that way you sort of have refuges from where the drama is likely to explode.

Problematic pockets of fandom are getting larger these days due to the validation of antis in the mainstream. So it becomes more important than ever to develop your own tools which look like:

* Not developing absolutist thinking. It’s easy to go ‘this fandom is toxic’ but the reality is it’s usually only a pocket of the fandom who are the loudest and most disruptive. Even in the most famously shitty fandoms (Voltron), there are reasonable, fair-minded, ‘ship what you like you’re valid’ people. It’s true, I know them and I am one. Absolutist thinking will lock you away from those people before you even have a chance to find or meet them.

* Curate your feeds! Be fussy/picky about what you follow. If you can, use things like Saviour or New X-Kit on Tumblr to blacklist trigger or squick words. Don’t be afraid to block antis or similar on Twitter. Don’t worry about what you’ll ‘miss out on’ in the process. Be gently ruthless with what you keep around you.

* If the fandom isn’t great because it’s quiet, encourage it along if you have the voice/energy for it. Put positive energy into the fandom.

* Remember that you are a part of the fandom too if you’re engaging in it and want to be.

* Encourage the works that you think are what you’re looking for in the fandom. Say you’re in an anti-dominated fandom and someone writes a ‘controversial’ work that you LOVE, see about taking the time to comment or send an ask to the author saying you enjoyed it. Send it on anon if you have to, but consider the ways you can support the parts of fandom you actively enjoy. It’s the best way to see more of it (this is obviously energy dependent lol).

* Remember you can peace out from the fandom. There is nothing to stop you from just reading fanworks forever, and never engaging in the fandom at all. Tbh this was me for the majority of my time re: fanfiction. I may have written Misfits fanfiction, but I’m not active in the fandom. The same can be said for Rise of the Guardians and even now Detroit: Become Human. (Though the latter is because the areas of fandom I was in kind of died lmao). There’s no litmus test saying that you’re only valid if you’re in the fandom, that’s some bullshit.

Anyway, tl;dr - I cope by avoiding the bad shit, and carefully curating my Tumblr feeds (or any place where I see fandom stuff, like Twitter as well), and by remembering that I’m also a part of the fandom, and that if I can be in it and not be a shouty anti while I’m in it, there will be other people like me in that fandom who are the same. Good luck, anon!

(The super short answer is: ‘If it isn’t your cup of tea then just read the fics friendo, no one’s stopping you’)

#asks and answers #personal #pia on fandom #pia on fanfiction #can’t write a short post to save my goddamn life #that’s for sure

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