Scrolling through your asoiaf tag and you have such good and correct opinions like how can anyone love just Dany or just Sansa or just Arya like how can anyone not see the parallels between Dany and Sansa it makes me feel so crazy like why are there so few people who love all the girlies?? I genuinely love every single female POV character and can’t imagine hating any of them. I mean sure yeah Cersei is a villain but you’re telling me her tragedy doesn’t touch your heart? Watching this woman desperately try to avoid her prophecy as it unfolds before you doesn’t have you in a death grip? Or like are you unmoved by Sansa telling an annoying snotty little boy how brave he is because she wants him to feel better? Dany comforting Missandei when her brother dies? Arya getting to the house of the black and white and immediately thinning to being a man a cup of water (or at least what she thought was water)? How about Sansa telling Joffrey she hopes Robb cuts his head off? Dany sassing the man who wants to open the fighting pits? Arya telling Jaquen to kill himself? Like please come on. All three girls are obviously different but they share so many very endearing traits. I am fiercely holding tight to my delusion that Dany and Sansa will bond over stories and songs and Arya will teach Dany about all the flowers in Westeros and then Sansa will show them how to make flower crowns and embroider little emblems on Arya’s clothes

First of all tysm!!!!

The whole arya vs sansa vs dany fandom fight frustrates me to no end, mainly because all parties involved seem to have little to no empathy to the characters whose stans they oppose. It's all maliciously extrapolating some parts of the text to make them see worse than what they are (ex: daenerys' "if i look back i am lost" getting twisted from "dany knows that dwelling on what ifs and turning your back after you have taken a commitment will only damage you in the long term" in "dany doesn't want to reflect on her past mistakes and will go mad and get stabbed to death" or sansa getting frustrated at sweetrobin being a sign of her being ableist and classist while it's. Just a normal reaction of a stressed and traumatized 13 yo who is otherwise very sweet to her cousin)

For loving the female characters same! Even those who commit outwardly villainous acts do get lots of humanizing moments, Cersei, as awful as she is, is simply a product of the hyper misogynistic society she lives in plus years of parental and spousal abuse (and the doomed by prophecy vibes) and. I genuinely don't get how people can look at the walk of shame and say it's a fitting punishment to her crimes

Overall all the hate for female characters that are more complex or more driven or more morally ambiguous than what most female characters are presented as in other media in a fandom who (supposedly) prides itself in liking morally ambiguous characters is.. frustrating, really. I blame both fandom misogyny but also the GoT series, as it's outright changes in female character's actions and stories to make them look better or worse than what they originally were skewered the visions of almost everyone in the fandom (arya is an egregious victim of this. Scenes such as her caring for Weasel or her befriending sex workers in braavos don't exist and they added that "all girls are idiot" scene that i hate and they removed all her plan to free the northmen from harrenal and she got turned from traumatized child to hashtag no one super cool assassin and her character got straight up murdered in the tv series.)

Oh and also for kickstarting the whole jonsa vs jonerys thing which i'm pretty sure is the origin of the stupid dany vs sansa wars

And yes!! Dany Sansa and Arya should get to meet and reunite! While i do think that there will be some slight tensions between Sansa and Arya because they left on Not So Well terms, they have also matured a lot, so i do think they would have an heartfelt reunion. Meanwhile Dany and Arya could bond because of both their connection to Braavos and Arya's admiration for those who free slaves, and Dany would empathize (and feel a common ground) with Sansa for her being a child who had all her family die and got married extremely young while beeing creeped on by older men, while Sansa, who is shown to admire women like Margaery or Myranda, who are shown to be very keen regarding politics or social issues, something that Dany is

In the end, i genuinely hope that all three of these traumatized little girls get their happy ending and none of them dies, they all are interesting and complex characters that share parallels with each other, and it sucks that because of stupid ship wars or discussions on who would get the throne they get pitted against each other. THEY WOULD BE FRIENDS Y'ALL

Hey, I’m a huge fan of your blog! I’ve been thinking of starting a khr blog for awhile now but part of me is concerned that the fandom is dead and I’d have no one to interact with aha. Do you have any advice?

Okay, so thank you first off, anon dear! I’m so glad that you enjoy my blog! I’m afraid I’m going to do such a horrible job of answering this request because I am sort of rushing it - I want to get it out to you tonight before I go to bed because I know how hard it is to ask these sorts of questions and put yourself out there like that and then have to wait for answers! (I suffered waiting a week for a response from my very favourite blog for the very first blog I made and was a nervous wreck the whole time but hey, maybe that’s just me and you’re a much cooler person!)

Anyways, before getting into any actual advice on starting the blog, let me just say that for all it’s crappy sides (there are a few people in fandom that can be dicks at time), this fandom is, while small, incredibly supportive of the people who create for it. There is absolutely no reason for you to worry that you won’t have people to interact with - there aren’t a lot of active KHR blogs anymore and people tend to like being able to request from multiple people. I’ll definitely not only promo your blog if you make it and send people your way to request things but will request from you myself! (The horror of being one of the few active KHR blogs is that I don’t really get to request stuff that I would love to see for my favourite characters...though don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t give up my blog for a trillion dollars, I do love writing on here!) KHR has a really diverse fandom in terms of what people like too so you’re liable to find people who will one hundred percent prefer your blog over the other active KHR blogs and who will request from you and make friends with you!

Onto actually opening the blog! I don’t know if you really wanted advice on that too but I’m going to give it because I feel there are some things that everyone would be best off knowing when they go to start a blog:

Let’s start with the saddest thing about running an imagines blog - fandom has a habit of treating its writers horribly and imagine blog owner’s even more so because there’s a significant amount of people who don’t see what we do as actual writing. There will be replies and posts that you will spend hours on and will think you did an amazing job of that will get next to no notes. You will get tons of likes and next to no reblogs, no feedback. You will sometimes feel like you’re writing into the void, like there’s really no reason to still be writing, like you’re simply being looked at as a magical story-fulfilling machine instead of an actual person. I’m not trying to sound mean or discourage you - it’s simply the truth of the matter. Ask any imagines blog that has been around for a while and they’ve probably felt like that at some point. Tag posts that have complimented you so they’re easy to find - I browse my thank you tag whenever I’m sad about lack of feedback or feeling down on my writing for any reason. Do a fun little activity with your followers - I find talking to my followers always makes me feel inspired to come back and create for them, makes me feel loved and passionate about fandom again. If all else fails, reach out to someone else who runs a blog and tell them how you’ve been feeling - I find most imagines blog owners are ready to make friends quickly with each other and are great support for when requests or lack of feedback get you down (or even when you’re simply pissed off because you can’t come up with that perfect word to use and you can’t use blue again because dammit, you’ve used it five or six times already!)

Second - know that you’re not going to love every request. I hate to say it but it’s the truth. Even if you make your blog super specific to only the characters you like and only the genres you want to write, you’ll still have an ask come in that you just aren’t excited to write for. There’s been quite a few requests come in that I really would rather not have answered. I, personally, try to make myself answer them anyway. They might take longer than other requests to come out as they are the last thing I’ll write, but I try because I know someone is waiting anxiously to read my reply. However, if you simply can’t bring yourself to answer it, do not force yourself to write it. If an ask ever makes you uncomfortable, do not write it. You are writing for free - you are never required to do anything on your blog that you do not want to.

Thirdly and most importantly, and in the biggest case of do as I say and not as I do - take breaks and give yourself time away from your blog. Yes, there might be people waiting for you to answer their requests but if you don’t feel like writing or just want to play video games, let yourself do that! Do not beat yourself up for not being active all the time. There have been days on this blog where I’d set alarms super early just to make sure I got requests off in between the million other things I had to do and skip a meal or sleep to answer more - that is super unhealthy and please do not do that. None of the people waiting for their requests want you to do that. Running a blog is a fun hobby, not a job, always remember that!

And there it is, my incoherent, stupid, rambly, and incomplete advice on running a fandom imagine blog! I’m sorry if it’s more than you wanted, anon, or doesn’t really help you feel better but I tried my best! I really hope you make your blog!