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homonculos · 2 months

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sorry to longpost complain. aita at my workplace (i kno im not im j mad)

my boss is so fucking annoying.... i had an informal performance review with him yesterday and here's how it went:

boss: how do you think youre doing?

me: um ok i think? im still getting my feet under me but im enjoying it so far [been abt 2 months since i started]

boss: yea youre doing a great job. so uh what happened w the car break in? [company property was stolen in the process]

[i explain the story; expressly indicate that i want to make it right, including fulfilling a clause in the equipment policy that says the $ to buy new equipment can be taken out of my next paycheck. boss is incredulous; says that is likely not necessary. im relieved.]

boss: so it seems like youre having trouble with [z], so i sent you some ideas.

me: i saw that email, looks great. ill take a look at those in the coming weeks. also, here's a long list of ideas that i got from a different meeting this morning.

boss: oh, looks great. ok. any other questions for me?

me: um not really. i guess i'd ask, do you want me to focus more on X or Y? [the long list of ideas i brought to meeting are all X-related]

boss: uh well i guess both when you can. we haven't had much X lately since i started running this operation, so that's welcome. feel free to work on things i cover as well [his stuff is mostly Y].

me: ok, ill start looking into Y and X things as they come around. another question, is 3 projects/week still an ok productivity level for you?

boss: uh i dont know where you got that idea. 5/week is what we all aim for. that shouldnt be a problem for you since you did 3 projects/day at your last job.

me: oh ok, ill start doing more.

boss: yea i dont know where you got that idea. i help out where i can [meaning he writes a couple 6 sentence paragraphs/week and calls those complete projects] but everyone does 5/week. that shouldnt be a problem for you.

me: its not a problem! i just didnt know. ill start aiming for that.

EPILOGUE

i turned in a project later that afternoon. the project in question follows a very contentious, months-long event that has disrupted the community our org works with and resulted in two major leadership changes. no response from boss when i notify him.

at 7pm boss replies to me:

[paraphrasing] "i appreciate you researching this and handing in a complete project, but it could have just been a 6 sentence paragraph." [end paraphrase]"

8:45 am this morning, unprompted: (direct quote, excluding brackets for privacy)

"not sure where you heard 3 [projects] a week. Even [colleague 1] does that many and he edits 2 days a week. He sometimes does 5. [colleague 2] and [colleague 3] both do 5-10 [projects] a week. Anyway, since you did 3 [projects] a day at your last job I don't think that should be a problem for you. It's really easy to do a project in 8 hours. In fact most [projects] we do should take half that time. Even long and complicated [projects] shouldn't take longer than 2-3 days."

is it just me or was this not a problem until I BROUGHT IT UP.... like u have every right to be mad at me if i wasnt doing something u wanted me to do. but you have to TELL ME TO DO IT FIRST!!!!

also we already talked about this in person??? why are you repeating yourself and chastising me???

fucking boomers man. this guy retires at the end of the year fortunately but its really annoying to deal with him. it's been problems ever since the beginning too.

and as an addendum, i have a friend who is fighting for their dreams to get into grad school right now, and im so proud and so so so jealous. and they love their job right now too! its renewing their interest in our shared field! im so happy for them but im so bitter that i made a life-changing choice a year ago and its turning out like this. i should journal! i need to journal ack

#please dont report me thanks

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athanatosora · 4 years

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can you,, share some tips for someone who's about to enter college soon? do you think that i could survive the terms w/o befriending a lot of peeps (or do i still have to fear for the group works, bec i'd rather work alone most of the time :') )?

OK SORRY FOR THE RLY LATE REPLY I DIDNT SEE THIS.....

this can be dependent on your major, but for the most part:

check your university email, often

participate in school events

INTERNSHIPS (one of the biggest reasons for checking email and doing events)

talk to your academic advisor (research) abt finding on-campus resources for preparing for w/e you want your future job to be

if you don’t know what you want to do, go to your university’s equivalent of career/future prospects planning, and schedule an appointment to talk abt that

communicate with your professors

(specifically the professors that actually help. if they suck then don’t bother, they probably won’t be of any help lol)

i didn’t really go into uni thinking “i’m gonna befriend lots of ppl” bc i’m a low-energy introvert with like 89605946 health issues. but i did utilize the resources my uni gave me, and stumbled on a handful of opportunities that helped.

like, definitely make friends if u want/can, but the friends are less for school/work reasons and more just… to make friends?? university enrichment so u aren’t just living/breathing academia?? for ur future goals and w/e, it’s more about the above bullet points

when you get into upper-division courses (degree requirements), group work isn’t a “oh great mandatory teamwork” worry. probably depends on your major, but of the groups i talked to, no one rly complained abt group work. but for some classes it gets to a point where the teacher doesn’t assign group work but you want to work with your classmates anyway bc it’s easier. i say this as someone who hated group work for the entirety of high school.

(group work in university isn’t so bad, especially in UD courses. probably bc we’re all neck-deep in debt and we’re feeling that crunch to not waste money LOL… after a certain point, everyone i worked with was on top of things, and actually knew what the hell was going on in the classes bc they were reading the material, which was nice.)

anyway. don’t worry abt it too much; the change will seem rly overwhelming as w any major transition, but i was slow to be active myself. i just started w trying to check my email as often as possible, which led to me actually checking out events i was notified of, choosing a couple groups that interested me, talking to ppl with my end goal in mind. friendships will probably come pretty naturally as you participate in things; it’s a matter of trying to find opportunities oriented towards your career.

i hope this rly long and rambly ask can help u if even only a little bit. good luck! i’m sure you’ll do fine. get out there and show college who’s boss.

#show college who's boss bc why the hell else do we all throw hundreds of thousands of dollars its way if not to benefit from it.#anyway in terms of finding opportunities that would help...#for me it was probably easier than usual bc i was like #(into a megaphone at literally any interaction) HEY DO U KNOW WHERE SOMEONE CAN GET INVOLVED IN LEGAL SHIT. and learn legal shit.#there was......... no finesse in my methods but like. if it works??#Anonymous #Ask

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