ooc ; no one asked for ganlink bad ending, but you get it anyways.

the name of the door

‘Every move I send out begins with the same word: You. When I first wrote most of them, so long ago now that it’s incredible to think of it, I had in my mind only a single player, and of course he looked almost exactly like me: not me as I am now, but as I was before the accident. Young and fresh and frightened, and in need of refuge from the world. I was building myself a home on an imaginary planet. I hadn’t considered, then, how big the world was; how many people lived there, how different their lives were from mine. The infinite number of planets spinning in space. I have since traveled great distances, and my sense of the vast oceans of people down here on the Earth, how they drift, is keener. But you, back then, was a singular noun for me, or, at best, a theoretical plural awaiting proof.’

Wolf in White Van is a difficult novel to summarise. I knew next to nothing about its author, John Darnielle, before I began reading. I was aware that he’s a fairly popular musician, but I don’t think I’ve ever heard one of his songs. Being a famous songwriter can cover all kinds of sins in novelistic terms. But by the time I finished the book I felt as though I had been through one of the most solipsistic and forbidding novels I’d read in some time. I don’t mean ‘forbidding’ in the sense of difficulty: the language is mostly quite plain, and the plot is not complicated. I mean that there is something about this novel which looms large over the imagination. It is haunting in its implications.

The book is written from the perspective of Sean, a middle-aged man who suffers from a severe facial deformity that has him living a reclusive life. It will be some time before we learn the cause of his injury. Sean makes his living by running a play-by-mail game of his own invention called Trace Italian. (The name comes from ‘trace italienne’, a certain kind of renaissance fort intended to resist cannon fire. There is much else that seems fortress-like about Sean.) This game takes place in a post-apocalyptic version of America; players write to Sean describing their moves, much like in any other role-playing game, and he writes back with the results. Somehow the player subscriptions pay well enough to keep him going. 

Trace Italian isn’t improvised: every ‘move’ in the game has been charted in advance, meticulously documented in a series of filing cabinets. It is effectively a labyrinthine concept novel, through which players move over the course of days, months, years. Nobody can ever see it all except Sean, and in this respect it is unlike any other book, any other game. For as long as he lives it is inviolable; a perfect private universe where every threat can be contained, every secret can be secured. There are places in it only Sean knows about:

‘…Charts and notebooks lie open around the corpse in a constellation; if you marked its points and drew a line connecting them, you’d have a shape that would later help open a door deep within the Trace, but nobody will ever notice this, or learn the name of the door, which you have to say when you open it or you end up in a blind corridor that traps you for at least four turns, which would probably outrage any players who made it that far. But who knows. What it would be like to make it that far is sheer conjecture…’

The most appealing part of the novel is its detailed portrait of fandom in the pre-internet era. We see how the young Sean was captivated by the genre science fiction and fantasy of the times. Mainstream references like Star Trek and Star Wars take a back seat here — it is all about Friz Leiber, the Gor novels, and weird VHS-era movies like Krull. It’s about finding inspiration in the album art for obscure prog-metal bands, and writing to adverts in magazines to order a cassette tape of music inspired by the Conan books by Robert E. Howard. 

Some of this is the same tone that Stranger Things leant on — kids playing Dungeons and Dragons in the era of the Satanic Panic — but there is something altogether more obscure and threatening going on here. Stranger Things is exciting because of the sense of togetherness engendered by D&D, whereas Sean’s hobbies only serve to lead him further into himself. He never falls in with a gang of like-minded kids, so he becomes a Dungeon Master unto himself. Eventually, under his influence, a young couple go on an adventure through the Trace Italian. They think they are on the trail of something important, much like those kids in the Netflix series. But it doesn’t end well for them. 

There aren’t many characters in this novel outside of Sean. The inside of his head is a bleak, violent place, surreal and unpredictable and paranoid compared to the controlled world of the Trace:

‘There was a small, strange moment during which I had this feeling that someone was filming me, which was ridiculous, but it was that specific—“there’s a camera on me”—and then some hard ancient pushed-down thing, a thing I’d felt or thought or feared a long time ago, something I’d since managed to sheathe in an imaginary scabbard inside myself, erupted through its casing like a bursting cyst. I had to really struggle to recover. Something was dislodging itself, as from a cavern inside my body or brain, and this situation seemed so divorced from waking reality that my own dimensions lost their power to persuade. I craned my great head and saw all that yellow-brown plastic catch the light, little pills glinting like ammunition, and then my brain went to work, juggling and generating several internal voices at once: someone’s filming this; this isn’t real; whoever Sean is, it’s not who I think he is; all the details I think I know about things are lies; somebody is trying to see what I’ll do when I run across these bottles; this is a test but there won’t be any grade later; the tape is rolling but I’m never going to see the tape. It is a terrible thing to feel trapped within a movie whose plot twists are senseless.’ 

Like the players of his game, the reader only exists in the world Sean has created for us. The effect is compelling, and claustrophobic. Sean’s narrative is intense and evocative. He is specific and articulate in his writing, but almost silent in his social life. His thoughts are frantic, anxious, self-perpetuating machinations; we are given very little idea of how he is perceived by society at large. There are moments of contempt and of friendship, but they’re only brief islands of contact in a sea of loneliness.   

It is some time before it becomes evident what Wolf in White Van is really about. The story pivots around two big questions: what happened to Sean’s face? And what happened to that couple on their adventure? But even when the reader is told the facts of those matters, they may not understand the implications. Certainly Sean has no answers for us. There is something forlorn about his world. He writes beautifully, and the reader will likely think him a good person because they can see into his heart and his mind; but there’s a sense that he is somehow beyond help — not because of his disfigurement, but because of his isolation. He is a prisoner inside a game of his own making. And as the pages go on it seems increasingly clear that he will never get out. 

We are accustomed, in novels and films like this, to another party breaking through to the narrator. Something will happen to shake them through their desperation so that their evident state of insecurity doesn’t become all-consuming. They might fall in love. Perhaps there will be a reconciliation, or an epiphany. But that never happens here. The only connections made in Sean’s world are brief and incidental, but the pain from discord resonates below all that. By the end it feels as though the world around the narrator has grown smaller and smaller, draped in a perpetual shroud, while his inner life has expanded out of all knowable proportions; the effect is mesmeric, and terrifying.  

‘…I remember my anger at hearing my real dreams spoken out loud by someone else’s uncomprehending voice. “Number five, sonic hearing,” she said. “Number four, marauder. Number three, power of flight. Number two, money lender. Number one, true vision.” Some of the other kids shot laughing looks at one another. It was horrible. People talk sometimes about standing up for what they believe in, but when I hear people talk like that, it seems like they might as well be talking about time travel, or shape-changing at will. I felt righteousness clotting in my throat, hot acid: the other kids were suppressing laughter and exchanging glances; the whole thing was so funny to them they had to punch their thighs to keep from cackling out loud. None of them had actually made a true list like mine, I thought, though this was conjecture…I remember this scene because it was embarrassing to live through it, and because remembering it is a way of knowing that I am half-true to my beliefs when the time comes. I sit silently defending them and I don’t sell them out, but I put on a face that lets people think I’m on the winning team, that I’m laughing along with them instead of just standing among them. I save the best parts for myself and savor them in silence. Number three, power of flight. Number four, marauder. Enough vision to really see something. A stack of gold coins and a ledger. People want all kinds of things out of life, I knew early on. People with certain sorts of ambitions are safe in the Trace.’

What is Truth?

John 18:38 “Pilate saith unto him, What is truth? And when he had said this, he went out again unto the Jews,..”

I don’t remember much from my high-school English classes but something that has been stuck in my mind for over 60 years is an essay by Charles Lamb (“Elia” for all you crossword crazies) on truth which began with these words: “What is truth? said Pilate, and would not wait for an answer?” It has always intrigued me as to why Pilate didn’t wait for the answer because if he had, he would have discovered that truth is not a subject for discussion but the very Person he was talking to—Jesus Christ, the way, the truth and the life.  Lately, the one word in the English language that is being bludgeoned to an unrecognizable mush of its former self is the word “truth”.  What is truth in today’s woke world and how does it relate to our sharing of the Gospel of Jesus Christ with others?

An article recently appeared in the National Post written by Bruce Pardy, professor of law at Queen’s University, titled “Apocalyptic Science”.  As a scientist myself, I was curious to know what kind of science he was referring to that warranted the description as “apocalyptic”, a biblical term referring to the cataclysmic chaos that will occur at the end of the world.  Was it the science behind atomic weapons or biological weapons or man-made viruses or nerve agents like the one that almost killed the Russian dissident recently?  Surely, these could be described as apocalyptic science but unfortunately it was something even worse, something that alone explains the madness of our present, confused culture, something that has been given the very harmless-sounding name of “Critical Theory” which most of us have never heard of.  Pardy writes, “Few people are familiar with Critical Theory and its related doctrines, yet these ideas today drive government policies and shape public attitudes...The most serious threat to the West is not China or Russia but its visceral disgust with itself.  A growing proportion of people—in universities, the media, politics and corporate structures now reject the premises on which their own thriving societies are built.”  The doctrine behind Critical Theory “is to condemn cultural norms, tear down existing orders and transform society”.  Now, doesn’t that sound awfully similar to the doctrine of the Christian Church whose aim, as some might describe it, is to condemn cultural (worldly) traditions, tear down Satanic strongholds and transform society from its evil ways with the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ.  On that basis, Critical Theory doesn’t sound all that bad and may even be good so we Christians shouldn’t be concerned, right? The opposite is true!  At the top of the list in Critical Theory is the doctrine that there is no absolute truth, that all truth is both subjective and relative, especially when your truth disagrees with my truth because my truth is the real truth and it says your truth is based on your outdated cultural norms and scientific experiments which themselves are corrupted by the biases you inherited from the corrupt society you were raised in.  These biases include your inherent racial predjudices that have made you the racist you are and so you must repent and make amends to those you have unwittingly wronged and you must join the rest of us woke folk in our mission to tear down these cultural norms and replace them with social justice for all.  

Does this sound familiar to you as you watch the rioters tearing down everything in sight?  Does it explain the insanity of the black lives matter  movement and the defund the police movement?  Does it explain why governments around the world have decreed the Church as non-essential while “taking a knee” in support of perceived racial injustice and turning a blind eye to the quarantine-defying, property-burning protests occurring in many major cities?  Are you getting the picture that Critical Theory is all about destroying the society we grew up in, a society based on the Judeo-Christian understanding of good and evil and one that supports the scientific method of enquiry where theory guides and experiment decides what is true?  More importantly, are you aware of how pervasive these ideas now are in government, in academia, in institutions and in large corporations?  

Magormissabib

Magormissabib is the name God gave to Passhur the priest who had imprisoned Jeremiah the prophet for using what today would be called “hate speech” against all the other prophets (Jeremiah 20:3).  Jeremiah’s truth from God was that Israel would be defeated and go into captivity in Babylon but all the other prophets-for-hire were saying the opposite, that Israel would win the battle against her enemies.  The name Passhur means “liberty by tearing down restrictions” while magormissabib means “abject terror all around”.  God’s warning to Passhur applies to all today who have embraced the doctrines of Critical Theory which is failing miserably to produce the liberty and social justice it intends and instead is creating a society terrified by the very things it has sought to amend whether climate change, viruses, political correctness, governments, financial security, or any number of other issues such as sexuality, gender identity, marriage definition, etc.  If you want evidence of this outcome just ask yourself what words and topics you grew up with as normal discourse among friends that you are now afraid to speak of openly for fear of being branded a bigot or even fined and imprisoned under hate-speech laws.  So many words have had their meanings corrupted from something good to something evil, it has left us hesitant to even mention them.  Freddie Flintstone may have had a “gay old time” but in today’s culture a gay old time carries a whole new meaning which must be accepted and approved of under threat of law if we speak out against the practice of it.  Being brought to meet someone’s “husband” does not guarantee you will be meeting a man and even if it is a man, you must first check to ensure he presents himself as a man and not a woman. In this port-modern age, one little word that has been wiped from memory and from much of the Church is the word “sin”, perhaps because Critical Theory is so afraid of its power to convict that it must pretend the word does not exist and therefore must be scrubbed from all discourse but the bible has a great deal to say about sin and more so, about its one and only remedy.

Ultimately, any theory that says there is no absolute truth is really saying there is no God.  To admit that our governments, institutions, schools and universities have swallowed the lies of Critical Theory is to admit that truth—and the God who is Truth—has been rejected by the post-modern world we now live in.  What must be our response as believers in Jesus Christ?  Jesus told us “You will know the truth and the truth will make you free” (John 8:32) and we know the truth because we know Him who has given us the “Spirit of truth” (John 14:17) so that we will not be deceived.  Therefore, firstly, we needn’t worry about the effects of Critical Theory on us because “the anointing which you have received from Him abides in you, and you do not need that anyone teach you; but as the same anointing teaches you concerning all things, and is true, and is not a lie, and just as it has taught you, you will abide in Him” (1 John 2:27).  However, its effects on others who do not know the Lord and on those within the Church who are asleep is already being manifested in the major leaps we are seeing in violent crime, abortions, suicides, drug addiction, divorces and family breakdowns and I believe the Lord is warning His Church to waken up and ensure we have sufficient oil on hand to keep our lamps burning through the days that lie before us.  This morning I read through chapter 4 of the book of Amos and it is definitely not one of my favorite chapters because it describes what happens when God’s people refuse to be corrected and turn from their wicked ways and it is not a pretty picture.  We are entering a time when God is shaking His Church from its slumber to meet head on the devastation created by this backslide into materialism, humanism, hedonism and all the other ‘isms’ out there that replace God with some made-up human counterfeit with a nice-sounding name.  It is a time to seek the Lord for wisdom in how to live through the times that lie ahead and get ready for the end-times harvest He is preparing us to gather.  

Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

About Eleanor Health – Durham

Our mission at Eleanor Health is to help people struggling with addiction live amazing lives. As an integrated, multidisciplinary team, we’re focused on delivering whole-person, comprehensive care. We are passionate about transforming the quality, delivery, and accessibility of addiction treatment. Every member of our team works together integrating care and coordinating services to improve our members’ quality of life.

Contact Eleanor Health – Durham

3711 University Drive Durham NC 27707 United States

919-752-4028

Website: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/locations/north-carolina/durham

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Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

About Eleanor Health – Durham

Our mission at Eleanor Health is to help people struggling with addiction live amazing lives. As an integrated, multidisciplinary team, we’re focused on delivering whole-person, comprehensive care. We are passionate about transforming the quality, delivery, and accessibility of addiction treatment. Every member of our team works together integrating care and coordinating services to improve our members’ quality of life.

Contact Eleanor Health – Durham

3711 University Drive Durham NC 27707 United States

919-752-4028

Website: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/locations/north-carolina/durham

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Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

About Eleanor Health – Durham

Our mission at Eleanor Health is to help people struggling with addiction live amazing lives. As an integrated, multidisciplinary team, we’re focused on delivering whole-person, comprehensive care. We are passionate about transforming the quality, delivery, and accessibility of addiction treatment. Every member of our team works together integrating care and coordinating services to improve our members’ quality of life.

Contact Eleanor Health – Durham

3711 University Drive Durham NC 27707 United States

919-752-4028

Website: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/locations/north-carolina/durham

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Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

About Eleanor Health – Durham

Our mission at Eleanor Health is to help people struggling with addiction live amazing lives. As an integrated, multidisciplinary team, we’re focused on delivering whole-person, comprehensive care. We are passionate about transforming the quality, delivery, and accessibility of addiction treatment. Every member of our team works together integrating care and coordinating services to improve our members’ quality of life.

Contact Eleanor Health – Durham

3711 University Drive Durham NC 27707 United States

919-752-4028

Website: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/locations/north-carolina/durham

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Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

About Eleanor Health – Durham

Our mission at Eleanor Health is to help people struggling with addiction live amazing lives. As an integrated, multidisciplinary team, we’re focused on delivering whole-person, comprehensive care. We are passionate about transforming the quality, delivery, and accessibility of addiction treatment. Every member of our team works together integrating care and coordinating services to improve our members’ quality of life.

Contact Eleanor Health – Durham

3711 University Drive Durham NC 27707 United States

919-752-4028

Website: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/locations/north-carolina/durham

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Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

About Eleanor Health – Durham

Our mission at Eleanor Health is to help people struggling with addiction live amazing lives. As an integrated, multidisciplinary team, we’re focused on delivering whole-person, comprehensive care. We are passionate about transforming the quality, delivery, and accessibility of addiction treatment. Every member of our team works together integrating care and coordinating services to improve our members’ quality of life.

Contact Eleanor Health – Durham

3711 University Drive Durham NC 27707 United States

919-752-4028

Website: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/locations/north-carolina/durham

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Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

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Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

Originally posted on Eleanor Health

Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

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Britons Back Impounding a Vote on May’s Brexit Deal By Alex Morales @AlexJFMorales More narrations by Alex Morales U.K.’s EU departure’ not a done deal, ’ does Labour peer Adonis May tops to Sweden, Denmark; Corbyn starts electoral campaign li > ul > A majority of Britons support harbouring a vote on the final Brexit deal secured by Prime Minister Theresa May, according to a YouGov poll conducted for the pro-remain group Best for Britain. Those remarking the public should have the final say on whether to accept the Brexit deal or remain in the European union exceeded antagonists by 8 percentage points, in agreement with the referendum develops released on Monday by the group, whose funders include billionaire investor George Soros. Respondents said they would opt to remain in the federation if given a second referendum. The survey causes constitute a dilemma for May, who in December was forced into acknowledging a vote on her Brexit deal to lawmakers following a rebellion by members of her own Conservative Party. But after previous canvas evidenced “there werent” craving for two seconds referendum on Brexit, she’s been able to fend off demands for a brand-new election amid ticklish divorce talks with her EU equivalents that still leave questions around the Irish territory to resolve. ” The potential of Brexit is sharping the British public’s minds, and now there is a decisive majority in favor of a final say for the person or persons of our country on the terms of Brexit ,” did Best for Britain Chief Executive Officer Eloise Todd. ‘Turning Point’ ” This tally is a turning point moment. The only democratic manner to finish this process is to make sure the person or persons of this country , not MPs across Europe, have the final say, uttering them an informed choice on the two options available to them: the slew the governmental forces fetches back and our current words ,” Todd said. Some 44 percent of 813 adults polled on April 5 and 6 by YouGov said there should be a vote on May’s Brexit expressions. That compares with 36 percentage who said there shouldn’t be one, and it roughly overrules the proportions from a similar tally in January. In the latest questionnaire, 44 percent of respondents also said they’d elect to remain in the EU in the event of a second referendum, with 41 percent opting to leave. No boundary of misstep was given. It’s the first time YouGov has reverted a result in support of a poll exclusively between approving the divorce terms and remaining in the EU. An ICM poll for the Guardian in January experienced those in favour of two seconds EU referendum outweighed those who scorned reopening the question by 16 percentage points. No Fait Accompli May hopes to finalise a divorce addressed in the EU in the autumn, though exclusively the outline of the brand-new post-Brexit trading relationship is likely to be agreed upon before leaving daylight next March, when a 21 -month transition period is due to begin. While May and opposition Labour Party Leader Jeremy Corbyn both say they intend to implement the 2016 referendum answer, there are still lawmakers on both sides of the political partition who’d like to reverse Brexit. On Sunday, Labour peer Andrew Adonis — May’s onetime infrastructure czar — said it isn’t yet a fait accompli. ” It is absolutely not a done deal at the moment ,” Adonis said in a Sky News interview.” Parliament will take the final word; it is feasible to, if it chooses to do so, direct it to the people .” May on Monday will see her equivalents in Sweden and Denmark to discuss issues including Russian aggressivenes, transaction, asset and progress toward a Brexit deal, her bureau said last week. Meanwhile, International Trade Secretary Liam Fox embarks a week-long trip to the U.S. and Canada. He’s looking to beat up trade and investment opportunities with friends Britain’s relying on for post-Brexit commerce considers. Fox will meet with companionships including Amazon.com Inc ., Starbucks Corp . and Warner Bros. Entertainment Inc ., according to his office. Zombie Knives With Parliament in recess, Brexit has slipped into the background for the past 2 week and domestic topics have come to the fore, including a surge in violent crime. Home Secretary Amber Rudd on Monday will produce the government’s serious cruelty policy, which aims to path 40 million pounds ($ 56 million) into programmes designed to control young person away from misdemeanour and undertake violent mobs and drug dealers. It follows her edict on Sunday that she’ll legislate to ban the sale of rapid-fire rifles and hump capitals that facilitate shooting, veto brass knuckles and zombie knives, and make it international crimes to possess battery-acid in a public neighbourhood without good reason. While Rudd wrote in the Sunday Telegraph that attest doesn’t assistance denouncing police gashes for the increase in misdemeanour, the Guardian on Monday quoth a leaked Home Office document as replying reductions in the number of officers had” likely lent” to a rise in serious violent crime. ‘Reckless Failure’ Corbyn, for his part, will call the Conservative preserve on policing and violation one of” reckless downfall” as he kick-starts Labour’s campaign for next month’s congres referendums at a revival in the capital city alongside London Mayor Sadiq Khan. ” You cannot protect local communities when you cut funded to local councils to such a limited extent they are unable to provide the essential points adolescent assistance assistance that stops many young person from being described into violent crimes ,” Corbyn will say, according to its term of office. ” Over the last eight years the Conservative Government has decimated neighbourhood business, the core services that are an essential part of harbouring our communities together .” Read more: https :// www.bloomberg.com/ word/ sections/ 2018 -0 4-08/ britons-back-vote-between-may-s-brexit-deal-and-staying-in-eu http://dailybuzznetwork.com/index.php/2018/05/31/britons-back-holding-a-vote-on-mays-brexit-deal/

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Interview: Writer/Director Christopher Smith on His Provocative Film ‘Detour’

Harper (Tye Sheridan), a young law student, obsesses over the idea that his shifty stepfather (Stephen Moyer) was involved in the devastating car crash that left his mother hospitalized and comatose. He drowns his suspicions in whiskey until he finds himself suddenly engrossed in conversation with volatile grifter Johnny (Emory Cohen) and his stripper companion, Cherry (Bel Powley). As daylight breaks and the haziness of promises made becomes clearer, how will Harper handle the repercussions (not to mention the violent duo—on his doorstep)? Employing a split-narrative structure to tell this tale of deception and murder, writer/director Christopher Smith takes his audience on a thrill ride full of hairpin turns, where it’s never quite clear what or who can be trusted. I sat down with him in Los Angeles to talk about his suspenseful new thriller.

Danny Miller: As a huge classic movie fan, I loved all of the moments in the film that were homages to some of my favorite movies — even the names of your three main characters: Harper, Johnny Ray, and Cherry, and, of course, the 1945 noir also called Detour. I love that we see a clip from that in this movie.

Christopher Smith: I’m obsessed with that film, I’m so glad you noticed that. In addition to Detour, the film that was the biggest influence on me for this story was another noir, The Woman in the Window by Fritz Lang with Edgar G. Robinson, Joan Bennett, and Raymond Massey.

I’m ashamed to say that I’ve never seen that one!

Oh, you have to! When I was 22, I finally made the decision to quit my crap job and go back to university to study film. Where I grew up in England, that just wasn’t done — movies were made in Hollywood, it wasn’t something anyone I knew ever aspired to. When I’d say that I want to make movies, people would just say, “What the hell are you talking about?” Anyway, I went back to school and the first film we watched in my first film studies class was The Woman in the Window. I was completely affected by that film. It’s also about a murder and I remember so wanting the character to get away with it! In the opening scene, Robinson is a lecturer in criminology and on the blackboard in his classroom you see he’s written, “The man who chooses to kill should not be punished the same as the man who kills in self-defense.” So much of my movie comes from there.

Fascinating. And there seems to be a real nod to the classic American road movies. I guess Detour falls into that category as well.

Yes, absolutely. Being from England, I always romanticized American road movies all out of proportion!

The split-screen techniques you use in this film also seem like a tribute to these films. I was so fascinated by those here because I ultimately came to have a much different understanding about what they were showing than I did at the beginning.

Oh, good. If you watch the film again you’ll see that all the information you need to figure out what’s going on there exists in those split-screen images, but it’s almost impossible to figure out at first. As a filmmaker, I certainly want people to enjoy the story even though I’m messing with your heads by not giving you everything in the right sequence. My hope is that audiences find any frustration they feel in not seeing the full picture at first worth it in the end.

Such an interesting technique — and it adds this whole other layer of complexity. I also love how Tye’s character’s feelings about his stepfather are not just based in solid fact, but that thing that many of us with divorced parents do regarding our parents’ new relationships.

Yes, absolutely! I was trying to show that without always making it completely clear what the stepfather’s role was in the mother’s situation. The idea of this film in its most simple form is that you have a long flashback in the middle of the film that you don’t realize is a flashback until you get to that point again when he opens the door to Johnny Ray and Cherry. And then, at the end of the film, we do the exact same trick again — you assume one thing has happened between Harper and Cherry, but then you see it in a different sequence and get the big picture. I think it’s interesting that people fall for the same trick twice.

But differently. When I realized the first twist, I was like, “Oh wow, that’s so interesting,” but with the second one, I was like, “Holy shit!” Of course, the risk you take in this kind of structure is that some people are going to misinterpret what’s happening. I’ve read some reviews that, in my opinion, get the story completely wrong.

It’s true. And partly why I don’t read too many of the reviews! It does make me a Iittle nuts when people miss something that I find pretty clear. On the other hand, I wanted the film to have an emotional resonance even if you don’t always understand what’s happening. I know you can’t please everybody, and I’m fine with that. With critics I can understand if someone doesn’t like the film, that’s fine, but when they start offering explanations that just don’t make any sense, that can be frustrating.

I love the slow reveal of these characters — there were revelations about each one of them that changed my initial impressions of them by the end of the film. Were there things about their characters that you shot but didn’t use such as scenes with the mother before she went into the coma?

The only scene that we shot that I ended up cutting was a scene in the hospital when Harper comes in and defends Cherry who was there to treat that cut on her face. They just bump into each other so when they meet later with Johnny Ray, he already had met her and there was that look of recognition. I decided they shouldn’t meet before then and now that look he gives her can be interpreted in a different way.

Which reminds of how much I loved that scene in the diner. That waitress has a very small part but it’s so well done.

She was great. I was trying to kind a kind of David Lynch feel for that scene — I love everything about it!

Detour is currently available in theaters, OnDemand, on Amazon Video, and iTunes.

Alcoholism: A Family Disease – How Alcohol Addiction Affects Families

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Alcohol use disorder (AUD), commonly called alcoholism, is often called a “family disease” because it impacts more people than just the individual with alcohol addiction. Addiction happens in all types of families, and its emotional side effects are felt by spouses, children, and other loved ones. Their lives, behaviors, and attitudes can change forever as a result of the disease. They can even experience anxiety, depression, and shame as a result of alcohol addiction. Living in a home with AUD can lead to disruptive behavior, tension, and strained relationships—all of which can cause significant stress on the family unit.

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

It’s common for many couples to drink together. According to the University of Buffalo’s Clinical and Research Institute on Addiction, both husbands and wives regularly drink alcohol in roughly half of all couples. Moderate alcohol use may have few consequences, but heavier drinking that leads to AUD disrupts relationships in many ways, including:

Lower satisfaction and unhappiness with the relationship

Infidelity

Worsening any existing stressors, like financial troubles or childcare responsibilities

Domestic violence through physical or sexual force

Emotional or psychological abuse, such as making insulting comments, threatening abuse, humiliating actions, intimidation, and manipulation

Separation and divorce

ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most people who abuse alcohol don’t abuse their partners, but a large proportion of people who abuse their partners also abuse alcohol. One of alcohol’s side effects is that it increases the likelihood of misunderstanding other people’s behavior or motives. As a result, it can cause some people to feel that their violence is a justifiable response. It’s important to remember that being intoxicated or having AUD does not absolve a person from their negative actions and violence is never excusable.

HOW ALCOHOL ADDICTION IMPACTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT

Growing up in a household with AUD has complicated, lifelong effects on children. It changes their perceptions of themselves, as well as their relationships with their family and others. Children raised by a parent or caregiver with an alcohol addiction may experience complicated and conflicting emotions, including:

Guilt: Blaming themselves as a cause of the addiction

Depression: Feeling lonely and hopeless about the situation at home

Anxiety: Constantly worrying that the person with the addiction may become sick, injured, or violent

Embarrassment: Believing that alcohol addiction is an embarrassing secret to keep and being ashamed to invite friends home or ask for help

Anger: Feeling agitated and irritated by the parent with the addiction, as well as the parent who may be enabling the addiction

Distrust: Having a sense that they cannot rely on anyone, based on previous disappointing experiences with their parent or caregiver as a result of alcohol

Detachment: Feeling emotionally numb or dissociative as a way to cope with anxiety and stress

Confusion: Lacking stability in a home environment that is inconsistent and unpredictable

Beyond the emotional distress, there are other signs that can indicate a child is experiencing a stressful situation at home due to AUD. Relatives, teachers, and other adults or friends may notice behavior or personality changes, such as:

Trouble at school: Failing classes, being disruptive, or missing school

Isolation: Withdrawing from classmates and friends

Approval-seeking: Constantly asking for attention and praise

Low self-esteem: Feeling inadequate and sensitive to criticism

Fear of abandonment: Showing extreme dependency on others

Risk-taking or impulsive behaviors: Stealing, fighting, or experimenting with alcohol or drugs

Distrust of authority figures: Having suspicions about the intentions of teachers, counselors, law enforcement officers, or other adults

For many children, they have difficulty expressing their emotions about how addiction impacts their lives. As a result, they learn to cope in a variety of ways. They may take on more responsibility, acting as a parental figure with their siblings and friends. They may become “overachievers” in school and extracurriculars. For some, the unresolved feelings from childhood may end up manifesting as an adult.

SUPPORT FOR FAMILIES LIVING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION

As much as you may want your family member to seek treatment, ultimately, it’s up to the person with alcohol addiction to take the first step towards recovery. But that doesn’t mean families have to wait to start the healing process. There are special support groups, designed specifically for families living with alcohol addiction, that connect you with other families experiencing the same situation and struggles. Together, you’ll address your own mental health needs and learn how to best support your loved one throughout their recovery.

Al-Anon and Alateen support groups

SMART Recovery Family & Friends

We The Village

Once your family member is in treatment for their alcohol addiction, some programs may involve family members in your loved one’s therapy. Together, the family unit learns how to better communicate with each other, while rebuilding bonds of trust and stability. Some programs may even provide community-based resources for families, such as housing, employment, childcare, healthcare, and legal services.

If you are seeking help with your loved one’s addiction, contact us today to speak with an addiction treatment specialist.

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