#personally? i dont choose my friends based on which minority category they belong to. | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

snekdood · 5 months

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saw a post yesterday that was like "if you dont have trans women as friends u gotta think about why that is" and i really had to restrain myself from saying "it goes both ways my friend!". if you dont have any trans men as friends, ya gotta think about why that is also!

#personally? i dont choose my friends based on which minority category they belong to.#also im not out here going to 'trans group meetings' or whatever tf either. whoevers my friend is ppl who actually come into my life #who i actually get the chance to see and meet. consider: i havent actually met that many trans women irl at all.#i havent even met that many trans ppl irl at all in general- most of the trans ppl i DO happen across are NB #and i dont like making close friends online esp tumblr bc i dont trust none a yall #there are like two trans women i know that i met through someone else and 1 of them i literally just met and the other.......... based on #my interactions with her- i dont think we'd make great close friends.#acquaintances? sure. im mean thats kinda unavoidable at this point anyways.#the biggest issue is i havent met any trans women i think i'd actually click with- but thats a little unfair bc its hard to find friends #to begin with anyways let alone a trans woman specifically- if you think i gotta be out here hunting for trans women to be friends with to #fulfill your woke quota you got a weird fuckin world view on how friendships and the world in general works.#i dont make friends based on their transness or whatever tf thats fuckin weird.#theres a lot of trans women i follow online that i think i'd make great friends with- but the fact there aren't that many trans women #in general and the only ones i think i'd actually click with are ppl ill likely never meet irl? yeah i dont rly think its my #fault bud its kinda just the circumstance of life in general- there's just not a lot of trans people out there.#and no im not going to trans meetings bc that shit is usually toxic as hell anyways bye #new dating type of app but for looking for trans friends to make tumblr user buttfaceass happy about my choices #maybe if i lived in cali w my gay uncle i'd meet more but alas i live in missoura' and i dont blame trans women for wanting to hide #more here. shit i mean i do.#in total? irl? ive only met like 4 trans women. one of which im p sure is actually transfem and doesnt even live in my state #she and another one were part of a toxic abusive ass friend group and i really dont think im missing out on much.#so yeah what- you want me to try to befriend them again? bc im p sure my abuser filled their brains w bullshit about me so.#kinda not waiting on them to come around ever.#like im not exactly sure what that post wants me to do besides idk. act like the op of it?#go to toxic ass irl trans group meetings and befriend random ppl online who have no concept of friendship loyalty? yeah ill pass bud #actually actuall wait scratch that- i did know another trans woman--- she mightve been transfem too- but we met on discord #and primarily interacted there bc it was like a friendgroup discord and i think we were good enough friends we just never got super close #mostly bc im weary of queer friend groups that are predominately white and also i felt like that friendgroup only kept me around #to make fun of me. i dont think she was like that but.... the other ppl in it...... yeaaahhh...#so naturally we kinda stopped talking all together when i left the discord and stopped interacting w that friend group

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