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unproduciblesmackdown · 2 years

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also like only getting to interact with family / being stuck unable to go anywhere in a suburban or otherwise car requisite environment / otherwise isolated is obviously not good but when people are like “going to school = developing normal correct social skills for kids” like as though even if [normal correct social skills] was a concept reflected in reality that the actual overall experiences people have in school totally taught them how to successfully interact with others. while it’s also like the “i hope kids are socializing the way they need to as much as they need to through school b/c that’s the only guaranteed avenue for it” = “adults better have all their social needs fulfilled through work =)” and like if people thought school was perfectly fine for them & surely everyone else & everything that happened socially was Healthy & Okay & turns around saying like well if a weird kid isn’t sent to school how can the crucible of their peers’ meritous reaction to their interaction efforts possibly forge them into a more normal person it’s like a “well My parents [used an abusive disciplinary tactic i’m asserting is okay for kids] & i turned out fine” situation when nt people by virtue of at least still being nt can claim that like yeah the bullying & fact that no actual socializing "teaching” goes on & is really abstract when it does & the ubiquity of concepts like “wow all the untouchable popular people who were assholes” etc etc like. again being isolated at home isn’t Good even if the home life is good, even if you Also go to school, but. same old same old concepts i guess like nd people can must should & will learn to be nt through the organic aba that is peers’ (&/or also teachers’) rejection of w/e ways they exist at school

#not even Actually directly abt homeschooling here just the type of like taken for granted notion that can come up if say #an autistic person was homeschooled like Alas that just made them Worse(tm) / so they never learned Social Skills(tm)...uh huh #you've presumably thus BEEN to school right....are you kidding #kids wherever doing whatever are gonna learn abt Socializing / Interacting one way or another from ages like four to eighteen or w/e #but then again idk what's more like Neurotypicality Idea than that well if you stick hundreds of kids in the same building and let them do #whatever then how can they Not figure out Socializing. it's just What You Do.#wherein really the most that adults are gonna do to Guide these things is like. stop talking / getting distracted during lessons #my doing the most Genuine Social Connecting With A Peer/s was stuff we weren't ''supposed'' to be doing. i.e. being Distracted or w/e #the friend i made organically where i don't think we even talked so to interact we had to be looking at each other/mirrored each other lots #so that was even more ''distraction'' and the teacher went sicko mode punishing that we weren't like solemnly following along during not #even a lesson at the time like wow thanks; this is all on a normal one then....that Was successful socializing; newsflash #it just wasn't ''correct'' for school b/c idk the inherent autistacity; being that i was involved at least; is like oh even more clearly out #of line than idk if we'd been sitting there talking but while duly unmoving or w/e #then like yep when i went to the isolated suburban home you have to Drive to leave i'd have no opportunities for interactions beyond the fam #like yes that also sucks. but the notion that simply existing at school / throughout it was a Normal Guide To Interacting for everyone like.#lmfao. but when some facet of your existence is more ''normal'' / ''correct'' of course you're Effortlessly having a more Successful time...#must be because you learned how to exist more Rightly than everyone else. the classic Learning involving no instruction / conscious effort

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