my hot take is that "girldinner" was funny and cute on it's own as a singular passing joke that should have run its course and died, but the moment people took a silly joke relating one very specific thing to girl culture (which is a real thing, people who share an identity often share experiences and build a culture on that and making silly inside jokes about it is generally a positive reinforcement of community) and changed it until it was basically gender essentialism, it lost all novelty and became just another mark on the list of things we can't have because of radical feminism