#long story short i'm having a diagnostic medical procedure in a few weeks that i will need to be sedated for and driven home from | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

slippery-minghus · 6 months

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there's some thoughts to be had about being vulnerable, having very little personal community and being okay with that, and needing to ask for support—and being lucky enough that teeny community can pull off that support but.... feeling the dearth of impersonal community.

havent had the brain space to think about all this yet and too sleepy to do it now but.

like so many others have said in better words than me: we need institutions of support. personal communities can't do it all. we need people who's jobs it is to care for others—and the deep social framework to accommodate that. because as much as the shitty asshole guy who doesn't have a personal community because he's a shitty asshole deserves and needs support, so do the people like me who, for one reason or another, choose not to have a personal community. either not a robust one or entirely one at all.

we need impersonal community support because personal community should not be a requirement.

#something something amatonormativity but for interpersonal relationships in general #i want to stop fighting the idea that i must correct my deep desire not to interact with other people #not wanting interpersonal relationships is not something i need to carve out of myself like a tumor.#how i feel about that want is what's preventing me from being happy. not the want itself.#personal #long story short i'm having a diagnostic medical procedure in a few weeks that i will need to be sedated for and driven home from #and. i have to be driven home by a friend or family member #or - and it took some pressing to even be told this option - by paid (expensive) medical transportation #just the. the entire lack of - societally - comprehension/realization that someone just may not. have a friend to drive them home #it doesn't even occur to people #that someone may be almost entirely alone #and - even more bizarre - that they might be okay with that and not actively working to change it #(and that not having a support system is not evidence of... bad methods. like the idea that fat people are fat #bc we're not trying hard enough)#i want to formulate my thoughts on this #and bring some coherent stuff to the shrink on saturday

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