#like if ur transfem then sorry but you have kinda self-sorted into the being expected to care about how people perceive you category | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

loki-zen · 9 months

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so. thing.

while on the one hand i absolutely respect and get behind the reasoning for wanting to like encourage people to feel free to explore and experiment with their gender presentation, and it’s great if and when younger generations feel freer to think about that more and make decisions on it instead of being restricted by a category assigned at birth, etc…

on the other hand, ‘thinking about your gender presentation’ is literally a subcategory of ‘thinking about how you are perceived by other people’ and most teenagers & many other people do an unhealthy amount of that already.

not sure how to reconcile these.

#in particular it feels like a transmasc trap?#like if ur transfem then sorry but you have kinda self-sorted into the being expected to care about how people perceive you category #(but like ur 100% welcomed by me into the fight against that being the case)#but mentally positioning myself as ‘male’ or ‘not a woman’ is just such a good cognitive trick for freeing my mind from stuff like that #and i feel like a lot of transmasc-spec people out there (esp younger than me) are instead sinking into this more of like..#female-socialised amounts of obsessing about how you look but it’s about looking masc enough instead #which to *me personally* is antithetical to the whole concept #(that is ofc a Me Thing; Dapper gents/butches/bears for example exist and are valid and i’m dating one

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