lmfao im just thinking about that 16 year old who reblogeed my "sorry bisexuals but if you feel bad for liking the opposite sex get the fuck off the internet lol" to be like how would YOU FEEL if people made fun of you for liking MEN???? WOULDN'T YOU FEEL BAD. Like no actually i wouldnt because it is very silly of me tbqh but that is just my lot in life lol. No, people making fun of men or bisexual women being attracted to men is literally of no concern or importance to me because i have a life outside of the internet discourse and validation machine! If people are a little mean to me online i hit up one of my irl friends and chat them up and come up with a plan to hang out like....... fuck am i gonna care if someone says i'm a loser for being sexually attracted to men lmfaoooo BITCH!!!!! Be for real!!

i hate how some ppl bring up ace discourse like some 'haha funny to dunk on asexuals' thing like omg shut up its 2021. its just the same bully circle now except theyve changed asexual to some other thing whether it be pansexuality or neopronouns. like ppl still mock qprs and shit its just :/ god. i just hate internet discoursers in general tbh just stop being mean and calling that discourse

the shit that bothers me the most about aspec “””discourse””” in particular that i really only noticed after i started IDing as aro is that one of the most common talking points was “aspec people and lgbt people have different goals so aspec people need to make their own community and resources” but then when aspec people do stuff like make terms for our experiences (amatonormativity, qpp’s, aspec microlabels like aplatonic) we’re ceaselessly mocked and ridiculed and made into a fucking laughing stock

thats a primary reason why i stopped engaging with that kind of shit. like the fifth fucking time i tried to earnestly explain qpp’s to some chucklefuck with the url aphobic-bakugou or something so we could get back to the actual issue of what does and doesnt protect lgbt people and lgbt spaces i realized these people arent in it to solve problems. or maybe they were at one point but they lost that thread in favor of funny tumblr cyberbullying.

its the exact same cycle every time theres some new hot topic issue, theres like an actual concern (although usually in the grand scheme of things it doesnt actually matter that much) and then a bunch of 15-20 year olds who find camaraderie in bullying the same people descend into sharing their funny sassy posts among their discourse circle for two years until they either grow out of it or find something else to sap validation and a feeling of moral superiority out of like a starving fucking leech

like @ people who still do this shit did you protect lgbt spaces from cishets when you made that asexual bill clinton moodboard? did you educate people about the misconceptions surrounding bisexuality when you made a panphobe pride flag and put your favorite danganronpa characters over it? get offline and go to a gay bar or something you fucking clowns

is it wrong to read yaoi/yuri bc so many ppl say it’s wrong (fetizashion??!)

yaoi and yuri aren’t even used in japan. not even in korea. they use BL and GL. those words are out dated. and i’m saying this from sourcing actual native japanese speakers who talked about this. and the “so many people” are literally always white people or minors lmfao. ive noticed and I ain’t letting some white tell me a poc muslim lesbian on how I should be represented in gay media.

reading is reading. the stupid little kids that have nothing better to do but act fake woke while there’s real matters to worry about read a cheap made up urban dictionary definition of what fetishizing means and ran with it.

fetishizing means to have an irrational sexual obsession. reading means... you’re reading you know how dumb it sounds when you’re reading something gay and people wanna play fake woke with their colonizer white washed bullshit ideas and call it “fetishizers!!” like... no. i’m reading. so people who go to libraries and like books,,, they’re fetishizing books? they wanna fuck a book? lmfao no.

as long as you don’t push these fictional ideologies on real people, objectify human beings, actually support the lgbt community and demonstrate us as equals. etc. then you’re just reading well for the sake of reading. idk why it’s so hard for them to understand instead of faking some sob story shit cause some stranger decides to read gay themed content. as if we ain’t made to read/ watch straight shit in everything we see around us.

no one says this dumb shit when it’s straight crap. so why do people pull this for gay/lesbian themed fictional content? people are so heteronormative that they really think they did something by slapping “it’s fetishizing” nah. people are reading.

if you’re reading a genre and it’s your preference, then it’s a preference it’s your interest. I like horror movies, I watch a lot of horror. does that mean I fetishize horror? no lmfao.

people need to learn more about what the word means. it’s so embarrassing when it’s the new generation of dumb asses that never paid attention in class pulling this “it’s fetishizing” bullshit.

native japanese mlm have spoken so many times on this and it’s always the weird whites that act xenophobic and don’t wanna listen to japanese men and their pleas to stop spreading such misinformation about a sub genre they pretty much own. like it’s from japan. I trust listening to japanese people instead of some white about bl/gl.

also once again. yaoi and yuri are outdated terms. they use BL and GL. when you read on official sites haven’t you noticed they use only BL/GL tags?

also,,, fighting over fictional shit and who reads what isn’t saving the lgbt. I swear people talk all this shit on the internet but haven’t helped actual lgbt people. ranting about fictional shit because it’s their personal problem and they can’t ignore/educate themselves on what words mean is their own problem. I have more things to worry about then someone acting like they know me/ how I read just cause of the type of genre. it’s even more annoying when people suddenly wanna start discourse if the content is anywhere gay. performative activism type of bullshit.

I read well to read. to laugh, to criticize. cause ... manga/ written format. it’s all just fictional material to consume and read as you would with anything else. I have more worries about whether i’ll be alive the next day cause of how bad the virus is in my area rather than to be lectured by some kid on how to read and what to read lmao

I discovered your tumblr and am so very happy about it. As a tea lover I just have to ask. You mentioned Benny Boy sleeping around and som 20yo models. Can you maybe talk a bit more about it because I never heard of it before. So thanks for the tea and the laugh I had from the exorcism vid.

Disclaimer first. It is gossip as well but far more supported at times. Still gossip!!! and please don’t eat me for this shit, it's been a while since the NY.

I will also not use their names cuz clearly tumblr is wild and there are some ppl in Benny Boy fan circles who apparently used to harass one of the girls. Ye I know I’ve been bringing it up a lot cuz I’m a bitch and now im like, hii let's not go into details. The stink is still here though that's what matters. Move to Hollywood only if you don't mind men in their 40s doing coke with 20 yo girls…

So back in the day, Ben used to turn around some low tier models in New York (that's also seemingly the story behind D’Elias ‘I’m jealous of you Benny Boy’ post). Like this is such a typical occurrence in the entertainment industry that no one gives a shit. Leo does it all the time. There were two girls in particular that are known by name, both were in their early 20s then (it was between 2016 and early 2018 when that happened I think. NY - Punisher - doing the math now). Nope, no one famous you heard of. There's also a lot of talk that he tends to ghost the girls he taps but who knows? But he was still liking their pics on instagram for weeks after the apparent break ups (from the finsta too). Anyways. There were some pics of one of them and Ben on IG, posted by her friends, but then they mysteriously disappeared. Like I don’t say that the pics were made up, no. When people got interested and noticed, boom they were gone. And there is talk about some more pics and shit but it all comes from one person and said person never showed anything to prove their claims ;c the internet is a wild place, isn't it?

💗 from one tea lover to another 💗 the gossiping and sleuthing on Ben was minimal/nonexistent or focused on gay rumors up to… you guessed it! The time he decided to get his ass involved with the fairy queen! It just blew the fuck up early last year with ppl being mostly at home and bored. So maybe he was tellin the truth in the latest interview. He really does open up about his private life now.