4 for the aro asks

:o fsdlkfj I never get asks for those things, thank you!!

4) What moments make you think, “Well, I’m definitely aro”

basically any time I encounter relationship talk, whether it's shipping in fandom space or irl ppl talking about their romantic life. and like. the concept of being romantically dedicated to one person (if you're monogamous) and the feeling of "belonging together" and ??? I do NOT understand relationships lmao.

I've read fics where they detailed how a certain character ~feels~ about another character and just... man I've never related to that in my life lmao. I used to think that was just a fiction/fantasy type thing until I listened to friends and family gush about how much better they feel around their partner and how they want to spend all of their time w them, and how it's ~such a special feeling~ that they desperately miss it when they're single. it's just such an alien concept to me tbh.

I'll occasionally see romantic posts about ppl thinking about their crushes or how they miss their SO/ex/idk someone, and idk man. I'm definitely aro lmao.

ALSO? ALSO?? I once saw a post asking when your first kiss was, and the age of some ppl?? blew my mind. yall getting crushes and kissing in like elementary school?? voluntarily?????? I mean. I knew ppl were regularly dating in middle/high school, but I always thought they were the weird ones sjdlkfjdsf. for the record I'm well into adulthood (nearing 30 aahh) and I've never once wanted to kiss or date someone. that's a thing ppl do?? want to kiss someone??? why??? allos are wild. one time a guy friend asked me out in middle school and I told him I'd have to ask my parents, and next day told him no without having asked them lmao. my understanding of "dating" in middle school was literally just going out to dinners and movies, and who has time and money for that at 14yo with a busy school schedule?? it took me a very long time to realize wanting to date someone was based on attraction(??)+genuinely wanting to spend special time w them moreso than you would w a normal friend.

anyways. yeah. relationships are an alien concept and shipping/fluff in fiction means absolutely nothing to me lmao.

[for the record I'm also ace and autistic, so things like attraction, ~feelings~, finding the line between romantic/sexual/sensual/platonic etc is Very muddled to me and I do not understand any of it :'D I'm Very aro tho!!!]