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aroacecatto · 9 months

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i've been watching heartstopper, haven't finished yet but i wanted to say-

MAN. those scenes, those shots, depicting nick's genuine confusion and struggle with his identity & figuring out his sexual orientation? god man i am aroace, not bi, but that hits so close to home.

him realising he likes a dude as well sends him into a confusion about his hetero identity. and my confusion was around if i have even experienced a crush before, confusing aesthetic and platonic attraction and being genuinely confused!

and i didn't really know what asexual meant, so i spent some time half knowing i wasn't straight but not knowing what i was then. i had a moment thinking i was bi or pan cuz i felt equally the same to everyone

either way, heteronormativity, amatonormativity and all that has instilled expectations in all of us to the point that when something diverges from the norms. it's confusion time- like how can something i've grown up believing not be true? but identity is so much more fluid than that and those norms harms everyone

you gotta accept and love yourself no matter what, you gotta back yourself up or who else will? gotta remember that it's okay to have these feelings.

just figuring out and navigating and accepting your feelings... a whole 'nother journey

#that confusion is so real #queer confusion #i wish lgbtqia+ education and knowledge was more widespread so people dont feel alone or confused #and having a whole identity crisis without having that knowledge #like heck i still have a buncho identity crises when i experience platonic attraction and im like whoa #am i not full aro am i experiencing a crush what?? oh wait wait wait ok yeah nah this is platonic i just wanna spend time and chat with the #that's it

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